- This episode may be inappropriate for younger listeners due to the nature of the subject.
Yes - we really do talk about sex and sober sex in this episode. Sarah Olsen is a fellow coach who believes it is important to open up this conversation about what happens in the bedroom when we stop drinking. Like all areas of our lives, when we make a change around alcohol, how we view sex and how we have sex may change. Relationships evolve, priorities shift and many times we also find a shift in how we are showing up sexually.
We might have bought into the ‘story’ that alcohol is a ‘sexual lubricant’ that helps us loosen up. Or, we might actually have a partner who expresses “you were more fun when you were drinking”. We might feel completely in our head and find it hard to connect with our body in a way that makes sex feel natural and fulfilling.
Sarah helps us explore communication as the number one tool to better sex; how to reframe losing our virginity all over again; and why you should focus on what draws you to your partner vs. what you find sexually attractive.
This conversation touches on many important parts of this subject:
- What is my partner thinking?
- The physical affects of alcohol on our bodies and the sex act
- Why the brain is an important part of intimacy
- How to respond when someone says “you were more fun when you were drinking”.