The One You Feed
The One You Feed
Dec 1, 2020
364: Paria Hassouri on Parenting a Transgender Child
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Paria Hassouri is a pediatrician, writer, transgender rights activist, wife and mother of three children. Her personal essays have been published in the New York Times, Washington Post, LA Times, Huffington Post, and many more.

In this episode, Eric and Paria talk about her book, Found In Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change. Her story of understanding, accepting, and ultimately supporting her daughter as a transgender girl is so honest and beautiful and inspiring. 

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In This Interview, Paria Hassouri and I Discuss Parenting a Transgender Child and…

  • Her book, Found In Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change
  • The question, “Am I acting out of love or am I acting out of fear?”
  • The story of her middle child coming out as a trans girl
  • The process she went through of educating herself about transgender children and teenagers
  • The factors that ultimately guided her towards supporting her child’s transition
  • The change that shifted her outlook and her child’s outlook for the future
  • Her journey through denial, anger, acceptance, support, and ultimately celebration about her child’s transition
  • Her internal struggle about her child’s transition
  • The power of finding people who have been through what you’re going through
  • The stories we make up about our identities – and how they can change

Paria Hassouri Links:

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Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
David Burns, MD
225: The Self-Centered Podcast Featuring Special Guest, Dr. Jill Levitt!
At the start of today’s podcast, we got an update on the Feeling Great app from Jeremy Karmel. We are looking for one or more programmers who might like to join our project. Our goal is to create the first electronic tool that can outperform human therapists, and some super promising preliminary data suggests we may be on the right path to make this happen. We are looking for talented engineers and designers who would share our passion for this incredible dream. If you are interested, contact Jeremy@FeelingGreatapp.com Today we are joined by our beloved and brilliant colleague, Dr. Jill Levitt to ask two questions: * Can the “self” be judged? * Does the “self” exist? We got quite a bit of positive feedback to a recent Ask David Podcast that included a question about Buddhism, but people said they wanted more on the topic of the “great death” of the self. Bottom line was this: * You can judge your own or someone else’s specific thoughts and actions, but you cannot judge your (or somebody else’s) “self.” * The question, “does the ‘self’ exist,” is meaningless. * The goal of therapy is not to get promoted from the “worthless” to the “worthwhile” category, but to reject these categories as having no meaning. David argues that it is impossible to feel depressed without the distortions of Overgeneralization and Labeling—that where you jump from a specific flaw or problem, like getting rejected by your boyfriend to some abstract label or judgment, like thinking you are “unloveable.” We also used the real-life example of David responding to criticisms that he was too harsh with Steven Hayes on Episode 220. We show how TEAM therapy works, and illustrate several techniques for crushing the Negative Thoughts that lead to the painful negative thoughts that including Overgeneralization and Labeling, including: * Empathy * Positive Reframing * Externalization of Voices * Be Specific * Acceptance Paradox * Feared Fantasy We also focused on the concept of “laughing enlightenment,” a key Buddhist concept, along with the “great death” of the self. When you lose your “self,” you actually lose nothing, because there was nothing there in the first place. This is a kind of cosmic joke. But you inherit the world and gain liberation from your suffering, along with great joy, and of course, sadness as well. We also summarized the thinking of Ludwig Wittgenstein, arguably the greatest philosopher of all time, and how his sudden insight when a soccer ball hit him in the head transformed the history of philosophy. He was an extremely lonely man who had numerous episodes of depression, and never attempted to publish anything when he was alive, because only a handful of students and colleagues could understand what he was trying to say. This was intensely frustrating to him, because his message was so simple, clear, and basic—and yet the great philosophers could not grasp it. The Buddha had the same problem. The book, Philosophical Investigations was published in 1950, right after his death. It is just a series of numbered paragraphs, or brief comments, on different everyday themes, like bricklayers, string, games, and so forth. It is was based on a metal box they found under his bed, which contained notes from his weekly seminars at Cambridge. Many people, including myself, consider it as the greatest book in the history of philosophy, and think of Wittgenstein as the man who killed, or ended, philosophy. According to Wikipedia, the famed British philosopher, Bertrand Russell, described Wittgenstein as "perhaps the most perfect example I have ever known of genius as traditionally conceived; passionate, profound, intense, and dominating." Although Wittgenstein did not focus emotional problems, his solution to all the problems of philosophy is very similar to cognitive therapy. Here is the parallel: You don’t try to solve the classic “free will” problem. Instead, you see through it and give it up as nonsensical, as language that's "out of gear," so to speak. Once you “see this,” and understand why it is true, it is incredibly liberating. But it can be a lonely experience, because you suddenly “see” something super-obvious that seems to be invisible to 99.9% of humans. It's as if you had a "third eye," and could see something incredible that people with only two eyes cannot see. By the same token, when you suddenly “see” that the idea that you have a “self” which could be “superior” or “inferior” is nonsensical, it is also incredibly liberating. This, in fact, is the cognitive therapy version of spiritual “enlightenment.” And that's also one of the goals of the TEAM-CBT that my collegues and I have created. Jill, Rhonda, and David
1 hr 18 min
Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson
How to Cope During a Pandemic with Dr. Bruce Perry
On this timely episode, Dr. Bruce Perry joins the podcast to explore how we can limit the long-term impact of stressful events, and heal from past traumatic experiences. About Our Guest: Dr. Bruce Perry is one of the world’s leading experts on childhood trauma, and his clinical research and practice focuses on examining the long-term effects of trauma in children, adolescents, and adults. He is the Senior Fellow of The ChildTrauma Academy, and the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of _The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog._ Key Topics: 1:15: Pandemic fatigue. 4:45: Experiencing acute stressors alongside chronic stress. 7:20: Practices to help yourself de-stress. 11:30: The impact of stress on our ability to regulate ourselves. 13:30: How to limit the long-term impact of stressful events. 18:40: How we can explore traumatic material without re-traumatizing ourselves. 23:30: Avoiding helplessness, and experiencing control and agency. 25:30: Dissociation as a coping response. 31:00: Disruptions of attunement. 36:00: Caregiver fatigue, and caring for ourselves. 41:30: The pandemic’s impact on people who have been previously traumatized. 44:00: A wish for the future. 46:00: Recap _Sponsors:_ Explore your creativity at Skillshare.com/BEINGWELL and get a free trial of their Premium Membership. Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: * Follow us on Instagram * Follow Rick on Facebook * Follow Forrest on Facebook * Subscribe on iTunes
52 min
Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit
Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit
Dhru Purohit
#189: How to Live on Purpose with Antonio Neves
Do you ever find yourself just going along on autopilot, not stopping to think what you’re doing or why you’re doing it? Do you ever forget why you agreed to a meeting or project, or wonder how you got to where you are in life right now?  On today’s Broken Brain Podcast, our host Dhru talks to Antonio Neves, an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author, and award-winning journalist. He is the author of three books, and his latest book, Stop Living On Autopilot: Take Responsibility for Your Life and Rediscover a Bolder, Happier You, was just released. On his podcast The Best Thing, Antonio talks with leaders about the best thing to happen to them that would never appear on a resume. Antonio’s speaking audiences over the years have included: Google, Amazon, Starwood Hotels & Resorts Worldwide, The American Society of Health-System Pharmacists, Booking.com, Credit Union National Association (CUNA), Stanford University, and more. For over 10 years, Antonio worked as a correspondent in New York City with top television networks including NBC, PBS, and BET Networks. Antonio is a graduate of Western Michigan University and holds a master’s degree from Columbia University.    In this episode, Dhru and Antonio talk about how to own your past and accept where you are today so you can move forward. They discuss the importance of getting the right advice from friends, and why statements like “Don’t worry, it’s never too late,” or “Maybe it wasn’t meant to be,” can be harmful. They also talk about how to be an active player in your own life and start living on your own terms and why what you do when no one is watching will determine your success or failure in life.    In this episode, we dive into:   -What living on autopilot looks like (2:26)  -Antonio’s personal transformation journey (4:39) -Why we must believe the best is ahead, and that the “best thing” hasn’t happened yet (15:15)  -Taking inventory of the last 30 days of your life (26:26) -How to get clear on what you want (38:59) -Why your dreams have an expiration (49:20) -The value of having honest friendships in your life (57:02) -The importance of not just committing, but recommitting everyday to what is most important to you (1:05:45) -Why people give up on their dreams (1:11:56) -The stories we have yet to accept in our lives (1:17:04)  For more on Antonio Neves you can follow him on Instagram @TheAntonioNeves, on Facebook @TheAntonioNeves, on Twitter @TheAntonioNeves, on YouTube @TheAntonioNeves, and through his website https://theantonioneves.com/. Get his book, Stop Living on Autopilot: Take Responsibility for Your Life and Rediscover a Bolder, Happier You at https://theantonioneves.com/stop-living-on-autopilot-book/.  Also mentioned in this episode: -Stop Living on Autopilot book bonuses - https://theantonioneves.com/order-stop-living-on-autopilot-antonio-neves-bonus/ -The Best Thing Podcast - https://theantonioneves.com/the-best-thing-podcast-with-antonio-neves/ For more on Dhru Purohit, be sure to follow him on Instagram @dhrupurohit, on Facebook @dhruxpurohit, on Twitter @dhrupurohit, and on YouTube @dhrupurohit. You can also text Dhru at (302) 200-5643 or click here https://my.community.com/dhrupurohit. Interested in joining Dhru’s Broken Brain Podcast Facebook Community? Submit your request to join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2819627591487473/. This episode of Broken Brain is brought to you by Bioptimizers. My new favorite magnesium is from a company called Bioptimizers—their Magnesium Breakthrough formula contains 7 different forms which all have different functions in the body. There is truly nothing like it on the market. Right now you can try Bioptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough for 10% off, just go to www.bioptimizers.com/brain and use the code BRAIN10 at checkout. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
1 hr 29 min
Psychologists Off The Clock
Psychologists Off The Clock
Diana Hill, Debbie Sorensen, Yael Schonbrun & Jill Stoddard
#181 Stop Avoiding Stuff with Matt Boone
Show notes: In today’s world, it’s easy to stay on-the-go. Sometimes, on-the-go behaviors are necessary and functional. But often we engage in these behaviors to avoid discomfort. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill and Matt Boone, co-author of Stop Avoiding Stuff, discuss avoidant behavior and how to address it with skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Make a committed action and join us in this episode to learn more about what you might be avoiding and how to respond instead! Listen and Learn: Jill and Debbie’s personal encounters with “doom scrolling” and other behaviors that feel good in the moment but cost us in the long-run Matt’s breakdown of what his book, Stop Avoiding Stuff, is about and how you can benefit from it Why Matt decided to write about avoidance in a digestible (bathroom-book) format About Matt’s professional understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy  Other places where Matt can train you in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy How to effectively use your understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to practice the skills in Matt's book  Why Matt’s accessible explanations of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are particularly useful right now The inside-scoop on what’s inside Matt's book   Practical advice on how to identify and become more mindful of your own avoidant behaviors  Exercises for practicing awareness and willingness right now!  How Matt came to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and what role it plays in his personal life Resources: Matt’s book, Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work  Jill’s books, Be Mighty and The Big Book of ACT Metaphors  Matt’s webinar on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy  Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Matt Boone: Matt Boone is a social worker, psychotherapist, and public speaker who specializes in translating mental health concepts for the general public. He is the co-author, with Jennifer Gregg and Lisa Coyne, of Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work. He is the director of programming and outreach at the student mental health services of the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, where he’s an instructor in psychiatry.  At Lyra Health, a mental health tech startup, he led the clinical development of Lyra’s mental health coaching program and gave talks on subjects like stress and stigma to audiences at Facebook, Uber, and Genentech. At Cornell University, he oversaw the development of Let's Talk, an outreach program to underserved students that has since been replicated at nearly 100 colleges and universities.   He is an Association of Contextual Behavioral Science peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and a former consultant for the VA ACT for Depression training rollout. He regularly provides ACT trainings for professionals and the general public.  He lives in Little Rock with his wife, cat, and guitars, and he loves talking about mental health with people who think psychotherapy and self-help are a bit cringy. Find out more about Matt on his website, matthewsboone.com.    Related Episodes: Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff Episode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Episode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune Episode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes      Episode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran
56 min
Good Life Project
Good Life Project
Jonathan Fields / Wondery
Live Life Colorfully | Jason Naylor
I first learned about today’s guest, Jason Naylor, through his art, which at that point, started appearing on walls and buildings all over New York City, and now is featured all over the world and on products, shows, in fashion and beyond. Jason is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah, where he grew up in a Mormon community and eventually felt called to step away and define his own path. After getting his BFA in graphic design from Brigham Young, he moved to New York City where he began his career in MAC Cosmetics’ Creative Department as a designer, but the whole time, he was creating his own work and starting to paint these hyper-vivid murals on walls around the city, often featuring inspirational words and quotes on the side. His style just kind of exploded with energy and kindness and playfulness.  As his work caught on, leading to more and bigger commissions and collaborations with companies like Coach, Sephora, and Pepsi, he left his full-time gig and went all-in on his own art, now running his own brand, Jason Naylor Studio, where he continues to share his positivity through murals, graphic pieces, and collaborations with New York City communities, as well as popular brands. Much of his work and his philosophy of life and creativity appears in his new book, Live Life Colorfully (https://tinyurl.com/yy4mopvp). You can find Jason Naylor at: Website : https://jasonnaylor.nyc/ Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/jasonnaylor/ Check out our offerings & partners:  Air Doctor: Professional quality, medical-grade UltraHEPA air filter that's 100X more effective than ordinary air purifiers. Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code GOODLIFE and you’ll receive a 35% discount. NuCalm: Patented neuroscience technology clinically proven to reduce stress & improve sleep. Quickly and easily balance your autonomic nervous system, every time, without drugs. Go to GoodLifeNuCalm.com and get 50% off your 30-day subscription of NuCalm and their money-back guarantee. Care/of: Get vitamins and supplements for your health goals and diet, made from the best ingredients, shipped to you each month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code GOODLIFE50.
1 hr 5 min
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