The One You Feed
The One You Feed
Jan 19, 2021
371: Maggie Smith on Writing for Healing
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Maggie Smith is a poet whose work has been widely published, anthologized, and has appeared in Best American Poetry, the New York Times, The New Yorker and elsewhere.  Her latest book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change, a collection of essays and quotes, is a national bestseller. 

In this episode, Maggie and Eric discuss this new book and how for her, writing poetry is having a conversation with herself, problem solving, and healing on paper. 

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In This Interview, Maggie Smith and I discuss Writing for Healing and…

  • Her book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change
  • The dark time in her life that gave birth to her growth
  • How hope is imaginative and necessary if you’re to come out of difficulty
  • The role of endurance in healing
  • Gratitude as a practice even in the darkest times
  • That big life changes are often identity issues that cause us to ask “who am I now?”
  • Another meaning to the phrase “it’s always something!”
  • The reality that we pave the path of the future one step at a time
  • Her experience as a recovering pessimist
  • The difference between her poetry and her essays
  • The role of setting in her poetry
  • How it never feels good in the long run to have done the wrong thing
  • Post Traumatic Growth

Maggie Smith Links:

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