Polyamory Weekly
Polyamory Weekly
Mar 23, 2020
587 Love in the time of coronavirus
Play episode · 30 min

How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation?

0:00 Introduction and host chat
  • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
  • Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes!
  • We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome!
3:00 Poly in the news 10:45 Contact us

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11:25 Topic: should we move my metamour in with us while we socially isolate?

If you’re considering cohabitation that you wouldn’t have considered due to coronavirus social isolation requirements, some advice:

  • As always, make sure your existing relationships are relatively healthy first.
  • Ask everyone involved what they need to be happy and healthy in a communal space. Consider personal space, alone time, sexual, and physical needs.
  • Discuss how finances will work in terms of rent, groceries, and other bills.
  • Discuss expectations for chores and other responsibilities.
  • Ask your kids how they feel about your metamour moving in.
  • Have the pets been introduced? Is there a danger that they might attack each other?
  • Set up regular check-ins after the move-in. These provide opportunities to bring up what it working well, what isn’t, to express gratitude and appreciations, and to bring up issues before they become bigger.
  • Take a break from news coverage if it increases anxiety or feelings of depression.
17:00 Join the conversation

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17: 05 Feedback
  • S from the Boston area calls in to share a personal neologism, “schmeeling.”
  • Phenom calls in to ask how to get her partner to date more and make sure everything is OK. She keeps encouraging him to date, but he’s not getting out as much as her.
    • There is no issue here except that maybe you feel guilty. Deal with your own guilt and stop pressuring him to date!
24:45 Pervy bird throuple

Oops! Accidentally skipped this one: Perverted Illinois bald eagle threesome threatens sanctity of marriage. What’s next, hawk orgies?

26:00 Happy poly moment

Finding unexpected commonalities with your metamour!

28:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

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