ADHD vs. Anxiety Couples
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We're back for 2021, guys! As everyone knows, Penn has ADHD. Basically it’s his superpower. My superpower? Constant worry and dread thanks to anxiety. So how can we learn to work better together being so opposite?


Marcy M. Caldwell, Psy.D, a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in the treatment and assessment of adult ADHD, joins us to help tackle our different brains instead of each other.


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About the Holderness Family
: Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke fun of themselves and celebrate the absurdity in circumstances most families face in their day to day life. They published "Christmas Jammies" in December 2013 and life hasn't been the same. Since then, their popular parodies, "All About That Baste", "Baby Got Class," and original music "Snow Day" have received national news coverage. Penn, the Dad, took a chance and left his job as a news anchor to join his wife Kim, the Mom, at their video production and digital marketing company, Greenroom Communications, LLC. Lola and Penn Charles are always happy, respectful and eat all of their vegetables (that last sentence is a lie). 


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