Let's Talk Soon
Tricia Lott Williford & Rob A. Lott
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Tricia & Rob discuss what they're reading about, writing about, thinking about, and speaking up about.
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Aug 8, 2022
179: "No" Is Not A Behavior
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Aug 1, 2022
178: Canadian Crosses And Introducing Huck & Molly
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Jul 25, 2022
177: Two Hundred Tuesdays
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Jul 11, 2022
176: Upstreaming & New Vocabulary Words
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Jun 27, 2022
175: True Fans Pay Full Price
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Jun 6, 2022
174: More Dirty Than Quick
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May 30, 2022
173: Cluster Of Carnations
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May 23, 2022
172: When We Feel Wronged
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May 16, 2022
171: When Life Is Good
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May 9, 2022
170: Eating The Sandwich
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May 2, 2022
169: When Life Is Good
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Apr 25, 2022
168: Rob's Social Media Policy
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Apr 18, 2022
167: Rob Has News!
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Apr 11, 2022
166: When The Heart Is Open
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Apr 4, 2022
165: Tricia Got Demoted
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Mar 28, 2022
164: When We Fall Short
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Mar 21, 2022
163: Places We Go With Others
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Mar 14, 2022
162: When Things Aren't What They Seem Take 2
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Mar 7, 2022
161: When Things Aren't What They Seem...Just Kidding
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Feb 28, 2022
160: When It's Beyond Us
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Feb 21, 2022
159: When Things Don't Go As Planned
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Feb 14, 2022
158: When We Compare
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Feb 7, 2022
157: When Things Are Uncertain Or Too Much
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Jan 31, 2022
156: Heart Is Sea
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Jan 26, 2022
155: The One With Tyler
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Jan 17, 2022
154: Into The New Year!
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Jan 10, 2022
153: More Free Advice & No Anonymous Feedback
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Dec 20, 2021
152: Band Kids Do What Band Kids Do
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Dec 15, 2021
151: Prompts & Author Equality
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Dec 13, 2021
150: A Bit Of Free Advice
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Dec 6, 2021
149: The Zeigarnik Effect
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Nov 29, 2021
148: Opening The Vault
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Nov 15, 2021
147: No Time Is Wasted Time & Tips For Living With Bigfoot
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Nov 10, 2021
146: Words To Stop Using Part II
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Nov 3, 2021
145: Words To Stop Using
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Oct 27, 2021
144: With You
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Oct 25, 2021
143: Compelling Characters Don't Do This
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Oct 13, 2021
142: Mr. C. Finitude, Dog Walker
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Oct 11, 2021
141: Staying Power
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Oct 6, 2021
140: Love The Clay & BHAGs
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Oct 4, 2021
139: Shadow Work
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Sep 29, 2021
138: Collaboration & Early Morning Flights
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Sep 22, 2021
137: Overwhelm And What To Do With It
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Sep 20, 2021
136: Live Show - Q&A
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Sep 6, 2021
135: The First LIVE Show!
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Aug 25, 2021
134: Forty-Six Years!
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Aug 23, 2021
133: Healthy Teeth & Boring Talks
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Aug 11, 2021
132: What's Your Story?
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Aug 9, 2021
131: What's Your Name? Where' You From?
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Aug 4, 2021
130: Not Just A Truck Driver
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Aug 2, 2021
129: Excuse Me, No.
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Jul 28, 2021
128: She Said Yes!
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Jul 26, 2021
127: And We're Back!
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Jun 21, 2021
126: Margarita Blossoms & Morning Champagne
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Jun 9, 2021
125: Last Thing Underlined, And...Go!
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Jun 7, 2021
124: Correct, And...Also Correct
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Jun 2, 2021
123: S'Bux Love
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May 31, 2021
122: (Not So) Quick & (Quite) Dirty
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May 26, 2021
121: I'm Here If You Need Me, But...
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May 24, 2021
120: Order of Operations
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May 19, 2021
119: Quick & Dirty
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May 17, 2021
118: Rob Buried The Lead!
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May 12, 2021
117: Give It Away
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May 10, 2021
116: D'mandy & D'light, Together Again
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May 5, 2021
115: A Conversation With The Tupperware Ladies
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May 3, 2021
114: Smile First
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Apr 28, 2021
113: An Experience To Give Away
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Apr 26, 2021
112: Bring The Audience Into Your Reality
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Apr 21, 2021
111: Renting, Leasing, Or Owning
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Apr 19, 2021
110: Begin With Believing
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Apr 14, 2021
109: She Used The Word!
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Apr 12, 2021
108: Surprises & Signatures
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Apr 7, 2021
107: Rob's Seven Questions
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Apr 5, 2021
106: If You're Not Having Fun & Everything Feels The Same
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Mar 31, 2021
105: April Fool's Day Prep
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Mar 29, 2021
104: The Practice Of Practice
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Mar 24, 2021
103: It's The Muppet Show!
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Mar 22, 2021
102: It Never Goes Away
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Mar 17, 2021
101: Balancing Grace And Accountability
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Mar 15, 2021
100: Episode 100!
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Mar 5, 2021
99: Strange And Interesting Facts
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Mar 3, 2021
98: Not All Time Is Equal
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Mar 1, 2021
97: Top 10 Turn Ons
Episode 97 Top Ten Turn Ons
Show Notes
In a recent episode, Tricia had referred to a question that she wasn’t sure about asking her brother: “what turns you on?” But recently she found an article entitled “Top Ten Every-day Objects that People Get Turned On By!”
Together they decided to perhaps “generalize” that topic a bit by asking instead, “What gets you going?” Or in Rob’s words, “What gets your toe a-tappin?”
Thus, this episode became a Top Ten list, starting as top ten lists do, with #10 and working ‘up’ to #1! (Listen to the podcast to hear all ten!)
Quotes
“Rob! You’ve turned into our Dad!” – Tricia
“Your streets in heaven might be paved with gold; mine are going to be paved with cheesecake!” – Lynne Rumsey, family friend
“I have never left a bookstore because I was done. I just leave because…it’s time.” – Tricia
“Technically, I do have to say that I would pause… … …for Jimmy Fallon.” – Tricia
“Some p…
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Feb 26, 2021
96: Bohyped Stories
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Feb 24, 2021
95: Top 10 Words To Leave In 2020
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Feb 22, 2021
94: Tricia's Theory of Miracles
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Feb 19, 2021
93: Wrong Numbers, Wrong Names, And What Turns You On
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Feb 17, 2021
92: Core Values
Show Notes
Upon realizing that they’ve never really talked about core values, it was definitely time for that topic in today’s episode. Rob’s definition of core values: (1) something that is so innate in you, you don’t have a choice but to do any other thing; and (2) you are willing to be punished for it. These are different from aspirational values—the things you want and hope to do, but you may not get it 100% right.
What are the values of Let’s Talk Soon? Both agree that their core values intentionally relate to what we are “thinking about, reading about, writing about, and speaking up about.”
Together they talk about how their lifelong relationship as brother and sister—who set out to also be friends—has been a long journey of choosing, knowing, and living by core values.
(And even in a serious conversation about core values, laughter shows up.)
Quotes
“Of course, ‘fun’ is one of the values of my company, Blue Trumpet Creative, because…well, it…
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Feb 15, 2021
91: Everyone Deserves Kindness
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Feb 10, 2021
90: Intellectual Amplitude
Episode 90 Intellectual Amplitude
Show Notes
For reasons unknown, Tricia’s name on Rob’s screen shows up as “Intellectual Amplitude!” He does not know why, and yet—there it is. They decide to look up the definition, and Tricia is not very impressed to learn that the definition is “the state or quality of being…ample!” Rob tries his best to ease the situation by reminding her that perhaps her “intellect” is the only part of her that is…well, ample!
This episode is being recorded the day after the SuperBowl, when many on social media are giving their opinions on the quality of the halftime show entertainment. Rob has some thoughts to share about the challenges of creating art, knowing that it may be widely acclaimed—or perhaps sharply criticized. Tricia is equally prepared to talk about the food at SuperBowl parties!
The topic eventually changes to the topic of manipulation. Perfect example? The song, The Christmas Shoes!
Also, this episode ends with…
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Feb 8, 2021
89: Why Everyone Should Have A Podcast
Episode 89 Why Everyone Should Have a Podcast
Show Notes
Tricia is eager to begin this conversation by telling Rob about her recent dream in which Rob told her that she is talking too much on the podcast! He was quick to clarify that this was a dream on her part, and he is not guilty of any remarks he has made “in conversations that did not happen!” But while they were in ‘clarifying’ mode, Rob also needs to correct Tricia in this episode about a comment she made in the last episode in which she said that “Dad may have brought a bat or a golf club to conquer the squirrel.” Rob’s correction: “Did a bat or a golf club EVER cross the threshold of our house?”
In this podcast, Tricia and Rob talk about the benefits of having a podcast—and why everyone should have a podcast—or write a book or have a Youtube channel or write a blog, simply because it is an incredible way to catalog and save memories and insights, to document our own lives. They suggest that…
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Feb 3, 2021
88: A Special Visitor In The House
Episode 88 A Special Visitor in the House
Show Notes
In this episode, Tricia and Rob relate a growing-up memory that happened when they were about 14 and 12, respectively: The Time A Squirrel Got into the House at 4am and We All Got Involved in Getting it OUT!
Together they talk about the night in the early 1990’s when our mom heard ‘something’ downstairs and, as moms will generally do, woke up our dad to go find out what that noise was. Sure enough, there was definitely “something” in the house—and it was alive and moving!”
And Tricia jumped onto the dining room table, and Rob grabbed the colander….and the rest, as they say, is…Lott family history.
Quotes
“Polly? Get up—you need to see this. And we need to wake the kids…” – Doyle, at 4am
“If I’m going to help you with homework, we will have to make it FUN.” – Doyle, anytime
“There is nothing more optimistic than setting things on the stairs and hoping someone will carry t…
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Feb 1, 2021
87: That Time Tricia Saved Rob's Life
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Jan 29, 2021
86: Radical Self-Care
Radical Self-care
Show Notes
In this “serious” episode, Tricia tells about having recently “hit a wall” emotionally. She talks frankly about her decade of weekly visits with her therapist, and how essential that is for her emotional and mental well-being. In the most recent visit, Tricia was near burn-out: unable to sleep, nauseous, physically depleted from the weight of her various responsibilities and commitments. Her wise therapist required that she “go home, cancel everything for a minimum of the next 48 to 72 hours, and go straight to bed.” She talks frankly about the sense of failure that goes with an assignment like this one, though she had to agree that her therapist was right. In this episode, Tricia talks of the lessons and truths she discovered through this “required time-out.” A healthy discussion ensues about all that we take on, even in the midst of COVID, using all our technology and time-saving devices to actually fill up our time with more “stuf…
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Jan 27, 2021
85: Tricia's Been Invited On A Cross-Country Road Trip
Episode 85 Tricia’s Been Invited on a Cross-Country Road Trip
Show Notes
“If you were about to go on a cross-country road trip with a new friend whom you know little about and they know little about you, and if we wanted to learn a little about each other in advance, what would be ‘required’ reading, viewing, or listening in advance of our road trip?” Rob stumped Tricia with this question for just a couple of minutes, but she quickly recovered…well, reasonably quickly! Together they share quotes from many sources—books, TV series, podcasts, friends—in answer to this question.
Quotes
How to enjoy the West Wing TV series (Rob’s very favorite) if you missed it in its prime? “First, pay attention to the rate and pace of the dialogue…a lot of people try to emulate that style! And pay attention to the’ clean line’ delivery. There is no stutter or stammer unless it is scripted.” – Rob
“For us non-governmental people, we don’t don’t work in government…
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Jan 25, 2021
84: Redefining The Goal
Episode 84 Redefining the Goal
Show Notes
In this episode, Tricia returns to the book they discussed last time, Burnout: the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Authors Emily and Amelia Nagoski talk in their book about the value of redefining “winning.” Apparently, our brains are constantly reassessing the task we are attempting, whether it is possible—and/or worth it. Sometimes, our brains realize that it’s going to be necessary to redefine the win to make the goal attainable, or to match the new direction we’ve chosen to go instead. Rob has had plenty of experience with this principle in his acting and recording roles, in which recording can be a tedious process.
Sometimes, to be successful and “win” at a difficult process, the authors suggest that you “redefine winning.” Tricia and Rob engage in a lively discussion of experiences from their own lives that further illustrate what it means to ‘redefine the win,” particularly as it is demonstrated in the per…
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Jan 20, 2021
83: Human Being Vs. Human Giver
Episode 83 Human Being vs. Human Giver
Show Notes
Tricia and Rob’s discussion on this podcast was prompted by a recent interview Tricia heard on Brene’ Brown’s podcast series, Unlocking Us, that featured a discussion on the book, Burnout, the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski. In her book, Nagoski specifically focuses on burnout and what it looks like, especially among women. One of the emotions Nagoski describes is called Human Giver Syndrome (initially described in Down Girl: the Logic of Misogyny): when one class of people, the human givers, are expected to offer their time, attention, affection and bodies, willingly and placidly to the other class of people, the human beings. Generally speaking, in our society, women are the Givers. In this episode, Tricia discusses the stressors that Givers can feel and how to release the stress that will get your body breathing deeply again. Rob and Tricia discuss several practical ways to relieve stress, based on ad…
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Jan 18, 2021
82: Calling Out Vs. Calling In
Episode 82 Calling Out vs Calling In
Show Notes
In this episode, Tricia and Rob begin with a lively discussion about Jerry Seinfeld’s latest book, Is This Anything?
Rob brings this question to today’s discussion: When do you think it is important to be public in your calling out of poor behavior, versus when it is important to be private about it? Is it best to always be private about calling someone out, or should the size of the audience who witnessed or heard the offense match the calling-out response?
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”Peter knows coffee and bacon like other people know brain surgery!” –Tricia
“If we knew there were just thousand of appetites just lined up, one right behind the other, why would we be so careful to not spoil this one? There are millions of appetites lined up right behind this one, just waiting for me to use them!” – Tricia and Rob, loosely quoting Jerry Seinfeld
“I don’t want to make anyone feel bad about who they are, least of all my kids…
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Jan 15, 2021
81: Abolish "Little" (And What Is Blue Trumpet Creative?)
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Jan 13, 2021
80: The Core Four
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