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Leaning Toward Wisdom
modern tales of an ancient pursuit
1 day ago
When I Die, While I’m Alive
I launched my webcam, put on headphones and sat behind the microphone to record "An Oral History." Parts 1 and 2 were recorded on March 11, 2011. Part 3 was recorded on January 16, 2017. Part 4 was recorded on June 23, 2022. I gave my children copies of Parts 1, 2 and 3. I haven't yet shared Part 4. Fifteen to twenty years ago I first crafted a document I named, "When I Die." In it, I outlined, in some details, what I most wanted to happen when I die. I would regularly change and edit the document, often driven by the death of somebody. The deaths of close friends would spark greater editing. Life events then began to dramatically impact the document. As my life changed I'd edit the document. I changed the document drastically in the fall of 2018 when I went through some dark times. Since then I've changed it more slightly - tweaking it. I just finished making minor refinements to it this morning, sparked mostly because of the death of "the last man standing." I made this post on Facebook on July 10, 2023... The Last Man Standing He was among a select group of older men who helped shape, influence and challenge me to become better. Always better. Johnny Elmore, Ronny Wade, Barney Owens and Don King were the giants in my life. Trusted advisors I could call about anything. Everything. And I did call them. I leaned on them because they were stalwart men I could count on. The Lord's work was always their top priority. My spiritual best was unquestioned. For wise counsel, caring challenges, or correction, I found none better than this group of men. They knew God's Word and how to apply it to our lives. They hopefully saw me at my best, but most importantly, they helped when things were at their worst. Loving the Lord and His Church was THE common bond, but all four shared a wit, wisdom and humor that resonated with me since I was very young. They were fun. Funny. And it mattered. Men who could laugh at themselves, and others. Men who were slow to "should" me ("you should do this or that"). Instead, they were men open to question. To question the answers we may have thought we already knew. To answer the questions we may have not yet dared to ask. Truth seekers, each one of them. Truth tellers, all of them. I loved them all very much. For their knowledge, experience, insights, wisdom and candor. Don was the last man standing in my small, but vital circle of influence. At Ronny's passing I told him so. We talked about how as life rolls along we lose our mentors. I told him I may have to "get younger at that position." But there's no getting younger at that position. There's only the acknowledgement and gratitude that I had them for as long as I did. And I tried to make the most of it without being too intrusive. I came of age under the tutelage of these men. They were watchful protectors over every significant event and decision I made. In just a matter of months three of them were gone. Barney. Johnny. Ronny. I told Don I hoped we'd have many more years together in the journey. I said, "I'm unprepared to go it alone without at least one old man in my life...tag you're it!" We chuckled...unaware of how little time we had. But in spite of his health challenges in recent years as his outward man began to perish, I was confident that Don's inner man was being renewed day by day. That's a confidence I had in all four of the old men in my life. It's why I was always anxious to hear their wisdom, listen to their counsel and make my decisions accordingly. I'm thankful to have sat in the presence of these four giants who each helped me stand when I might have crumbled. Men whose influence is sure to outlive them. I loved them all. And felt loved back by each of them. The following audio was recorded in my house on Friday afternoon, April 19, 2013 when Don and I recorded a conversation about building a good Christian home - a recording I made for a handful of young men I was hoping to serve at the time.
6 days ago
Daring To Be Gratefully Optimistic
"Thank you" is not just a complete sentence, but it's a complete prayer. Not comprehensive, but complete. Today's special, unscheduled episode addresses the fear mongering, the pessimism, the mayhem, the poor (pathetic) behavior worldwide and why we ought to intentionally exercise gratitude, optimism and fight! Something or somebody will have dominion over you. You get to decide. Sadly, many are allowing media, culture, government or opinions of others to rule their lives. Jerry Van Amerongen, my all-time favorite cartoonist, created this humorous approach to dominion. But it's a serious matter, deciding whom you'll serve. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Sep 14, 2023
How Do You Know It’s Time To Move On?
Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers only played this song 60 times. Tom played it by himself just once. I guess after writing the song Tom figured it really was time to move on. At certain points in life, a song like this could serve as a theme. We reach a point where we need a change. Or where we want one. Sometimes, a change is kinda sorta forced on us by circumstances. We need to leave something behind and start something different. Something new, hopefully, better. The older we get the more we encounter the need to move on. Sometimes it's a physical need. It's always psychological. Emotional (that just means we have feelings about it - it doesn't mean we're necessarily dramatic about it). Our lives are largely defined by routines. Okay, sometimes our routines become ruts, but mostly our routines serve us. They keep us sane and on track. They prevent us from having to add a million little unnecessary decisions, giving us the opportunity to do many things on auto-pilot without much thought. They help us combat anxiety. Routines are wise tools. Until they no longer serve us. Or until they're detrimental. A routine can be different than the morning rituals you may be thinking about. A routine can be the current state of your life. The ways things are - and the way they have been for a while. There's no time limit required to qualify something as "routine." Nothing lasts forever. Well, to be more accurate - most things don't. That includes the circumstances of our life, which are part of our routines. It's the current state of things in our life. Current is a description that would indicate the present, which implies there's a past and a future. Things change. Sometimes we move on. Or we should. How can we know when it's time to move on? Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Sep 7, 2023
Cutting Our Monsters Down To Size
Be a buffalo. It's an old tale, which happens to be true. It was also a podcast episode here. Courage is hard. Fear is easy. We're all afraid, but that's no excuse to avoid fending off our monsters...and cutting them down to size. Or pulling them up by the roots! Let's lean harder toward wisdom and away from our foolishness...and our fears. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Sep 4, 2023
Happy Labor Day 2023 From The Yellow Studio
Wishing you well on this first Monday in September. I'm hoping to finish 2023 strong. You? Thank you. All of you. For your time and attention. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Aug 31, 2023
Extraneous Details Kill Attention
It's continuous improvement. That's the objective. The thing being improved? Storytelling. It really boils down to all communication. I wrote down the title of today's show in a little notebook years ago. I was thinking about this podcast and the craft of podcasting. I've purchased and read many books on storytelling. Exceptional storytellers are rare. Most people are guilty of today's title - filling their story with unnecessary (extraneous) details that don't contribute to the story at all. Let's wrestle with this idea a bit and see if we can learn to lean more toward wisdom. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Aug 29, 2023
You Can Ask Me Anything, But That Doesn’t Mean I’ll Answer
A special episode. Answering a few questions, sharing some insights and updating you on the goings on inside The Yellow Studio. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Aug 24, 2023
Are You Ready To Put A Moratorium On Something?
mor·a·to·ri·um noun: a temporary prohibition of an activity I caught myself wanting to put a temporary prohibition on something. Frankly, I want to put a moratorium on a few things. You? Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Aug 17, 2023
Ten Years From Now Will We See How Optimistic and Opportunistic You Were In 2023?
Today's show was provoked, in some part, by this article entitled, Why 'No One Wants to Work Anymore': Pandemic Market Boom Let Millions Retire. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Aug 10, 2023
How Rich Are You?
Luke chapter 12 13 And one out of the multitude said unto him, Teacher, bid my brother divide the inheritance with me. 14 But he said unto him, Man, who made me a judge or a divider over you? 15 And he said unto them, Take heed, and keep yourselves from all covetousness: for a man’s life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth. 16 And he spake a parable unto them, saying, The ground of a certain rich man brought forth plentifully: 17 and he reasoned within himself, saying, What shall I do, because I have not where to bestow my fruits? 18 And he said, This will I do: I will pull down my barns, and build greater; and there will I bestow all my grain and my goods. 19 And I will say to my soul, Soul, thou hast much goods laid up for many years; take thine ease, eat, drink, be merry. 20 But God said unto him, Thou foolish one, this night is thy soul required of thee; and the things which thou hast prepared, whose shall they be? 21 So is he that layeth up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God. 2023 has been an angst filled year for almost everybody I've encountered. Is that because I'm old? Is it because more of us are about to turn 65 than ever before? Experts who track such things say that in 2024 more Americans will turn 65 than ever before. Maybe that's got something to do with it. Daily conversations seem focused on income, saving, investing, spending, and acquiring. Some are focused on preparing for a better relationship, but with a focus on financially being in a better place that may foster more success with that relationship. All with some goal in mind. For some, it's a quest for a more grand lifestyle, but for most, it's something more...different. It's a desire move. To start a new, different career. To find or deepen a relationship. Little doubt that income, saving, investing and spending are big, big topics for all of us. For some, they're all encompassing because of the importance placed on them. For others, they're important and assume a prominent place because of the impact they seem to have on just about everything in our lives. For some, they're more practical. These are matters are a means to an end. But even then, they can sometimes bubble to the top of the food chain because our world is so focused on them. How rich are you? How do you define rich? Health. Does that factor into the equation? Are you doing anything to give yourself an advantage with your health? Love. Is that part of the math? How do you measure it? Who is the object of your love? What are you doing to be more lovable? What you doing to give more love? God. Is He part of the formula? Is He an overthought? Is He even a thought at all? Suppose to live to be 100, then you die. What do you think happens next? Do you think that's it, that's all. It's over? Or do you think you will continue to live in another realm, a new dimension you've not yet experienced? Compared to eternity a single century isn't even a blip on a radar. It's a single grain on sand on every beach on earth. But in this moment, it seems as though it's all that matters. That's how the rich farmer viewed life in that parable. He was wrong. Wrong for being too focused on accumulating weath. Wrong for thinking he had enough time to relax and enjoy himself. Deadly wrong in leaving God out of his plans for becoming rich. We don't want to make that same mistake. Click the images below if you care to hear more about God's Word. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate Sweetwater Gift Certificates (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Aug 3, 2023
Figuring Ourselves Out, Making Sense Of It All (or some part of it)
Figuring it out. That's the point of today's show. Come to think of it...that's the point of every episode. What are you most curious about? What would you most like to understand? Let's scatter shoot and consider some things. We'll see where it takes us. Here are just a few things we'll talk about. My favorite shirts are made by Duluth Trading. Click Image My favorite action pants are made by Union Bay. Click Image Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate B&H Photo E-Gift Cards (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
1 hr 18 min
Jul 27, 2023
How Do You Stack Up Financially?
Finances are a big deal. The smaller your income, the bigger the deal. ;) Let's talk about a few important things: • The 3 steps to financial "know-how" = 1) know where you are, 2) know where you want to go and 3) figure out how to get there • The power of comparing ourselves against one another (it's a negative power) • A heavy dose of commentary along the way (and humor, too) Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Help Me Reach My $1,000 Goal I plan to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. The scenery will make for a great backdrop. Plus, there are many places I'd like you to see. To help, click the link (or the image below) to donate B&H Photo E-Gift Cards (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Jul 20, 2023
What Is Your Stuff Costing You?
Matt D'Avella is a minimalist. He's also a photographer and film maker. He directed the documentary, MINIMALISM featuring The Minimalists, described in Wikipedia as "The Minimalists are American authors, podcasters, filmmakers, and public speakers Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, who promote a minimalist lifestyle." My first exposure to this notion of minimalism was reading a blog by Leo Babauta, Zen Habits. I was reading Leo's stuff about productivity. He was living in Guam with wife and kids and life didn't seem all that ideal, but somewhere along the way Leo started questioning his lifestyle, including smoking. He began to shift his content into taking better care of himself. That included reducing clutter and things in his life that no longer made sense to him. Prior to his writing, I'd never heard the term "minimalism." The lifelong best friends - The Minimalists - took the lifestyle to a whole new level with their content. Somewhere along the way entered a guy named J…
Jul 13, 2023
Spending, Saving & Investing: The Tale of Two Houses
Back in May I published a podcast episode entitled Spending Control: How's That Working Out For You? A recent move required all kinds of seemingly extraneous spending. Okay, maybe not extraneous, but aggravatingly excessive from what I wanted. There's moving, truck rentals, fuel, boxes, landscaping, appliances, window coverings, blah, blah, blah. Well, I'm currently embarking on getting The Yellow Studio version 4.0 assembled. And with two residences there are just some costs that can't be helped, along with a few that could be helped...but we're trying to be strategic about it. For instance, we've got some furniture at place A and some furniture at place B. When family visits place B we need some things - like a place to sleep for one or more kids - that we may not need when place A and place B morph more into a singular place. Even though we're going to keep a place A and a place B they're not forever going to look like they do now. We knew for a year or so we'd kinda sorta be scra…
1 hr 7 min
Jul 6, 2023
The Time To Repair The Roof Is When The Sun Is Shining
“The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining.” – John F. Kennedy Any fool can wish, but the wise plan. “It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.” – Eleanor Roosevelt “Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.” – Peter F. Drucker “Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.” – Warren Buffett Today's show was sparked by yet another online article about retirement 'cause I get inundated with them. But in reality, the subject is planning for the future - something every wise person pursues. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Wanna help me get a video setup? I'm planning to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. If you'd like to help, click the image below to donate a B&H Photo E-Gift Card (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Jun 29, 2023
A View Of Fatherhood From A Generation Away
Geoffrey (my dad) and me I wrote down the title of today's episode on November 22, 2014 at 11:31pm. But that was then, this is now. It's getting hot here in Dallas. About a week away from Thanksgiving in 2014. The beginning of the holiday season. Here in America the annual "holiday season" kicks off, literally on Thanksgiving week. Families will gather around big tables filled with all the usual high-calorie foods, including one appropriately named, "stuffing." And we will stuff. Here in Dallas, we've got a little football game that has been a tradition since 1966. Every year the Dallas Cowboys host a Thanksgiving Day game. Now college teams are getting in on the action. It's a post-meal tradition that results in a bigger game beyond the one played in the stadium --- seeing who can stay awake to actually watch football. The day is a celebration. The actual giving of thanks is likely more subtle in most homes. People who may not think of praying to thank God for the food might do…
Jun 15, 2023
Before I Go Into Dry Dock (notes on podcasting)
I'm going to take a few weeks off from LTW, but first...let's talk about a few things, including podcasting, podcasting stats and the future (and the past). Thank you for giving me a chunk of your time and attention. Links: Ask The Podcast Coach (Dave Jackson) The Average Guy TV (Jim Collison) Earthworks ETHOS mic RodeCaster Pro 2 My other podcasts are GrowGreat.com and HotSpringsVillageInsideOut.com Some favorite YouTube channels include... Peter Santenello Soft White Underbelly Frank Watkinson Rick Beato Real Stories Tim Pierce Guitar Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me Wanna help me get a video setup? I'm planning to start vlogging from Hot Springs Village, Arkansas because the place is spectacular. If you'd like to help, click the image below to donate a B&H Photo E-Gift Card (use RandyCantrell@gmail.com). Thank you!
Jun 10, 2023
People You Helped Become Better (A Special Episode)
Clayton M. Christensen died back in 2020. He was a 67-year-old Harvard Business School professor and management guru. He authored books, “The Innovator’s Dilemma” and “How Will You Measure Your Life?" Clayton had leukemia. The title of today's show was taken from a Wall Street Journal article about him. He was a man of faith, a Morman. While attending Oxford University, where he also played basketball, he refused to play in a championship basketball game (he was 6' 8"). Wrote Clayton, “Had I crossed the line that one time, I would have done it over and over in the years that followed." Professor Christensen observed that in the next life God wouldn't likely ask him about being a Harvard professor, but would instead inquire, Can we just talk about the individual people you helped become better people? His 2012 book, "How Will You Measure Your Life?" bespoke how he was driven by faith...not just business. Evidently, he believed helping others was a large component of living…
Jun 8, 2023
Does Anybody Do What They Say?
I'm biased. In favor of superior customer service. I'm fanatical about it. Always have been. I've spent my professional life operating retailing companies so delivering extraordinary customer experiences has been a top priority for me. And I know a secret - it's not that hard once you make up your mind to deliver it. The problem is very few companies or professionals have made up their mind that they'll excel at it. Today's world isn't much different than when i started selling stereo gear back in the 70s. Doing what you'll say is still a major advantage. So why don't more people do it? Because it's a commitment to something most aren't committed to. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Jun 1, 2023
Making People Feel Something
I cry every day. I laugh out loud every day. Until or unless we feel something...nothing changes. Feelings can drive our actions and behaviors. I've never known a person embark on growth or self-improvement until they first felt something that compelled a change. What are you trying to help people feel? What feelings do you hope you're provoking others to have toward you? Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
May 25, 2023
Spending Control: How’s That Working Out For You?
PNC.com has these 10 recommendations in a post entitled, How To Stop Spending Money. Create a budget. Visualize what you're saving for. Always shop with a list. Nix the brand names. Master meal prep. Consider cash for in-store shopping. Remove temptation. Hit "pause." Think reusable. Keep at it! There are probably millions of lists like this. Some are just as profound as this one. ;) I intentionally used the phrase "spending control." It's impossible to stop spending money unless you're dead. But it's very possible to get a better grip on our spending if we want to. Why This...Why Now? In early March we sold our house of 25 years and moved. Clearly, it had been 25 years since we'd done it so we weren't exactly in game shape. Lots of things have changed since the late 90s. Our age tops the list. The economy is right up there, too. Our life circumstances, too. Back then we were a family of 4 with two high schoolers. Now we're an older couple with almost 20 years…
1 hr 1 min
May 18, 2023
Self-Control: The Road To Ruin? Or The Road To Happiness?
I'm blitzed with online articles about health, wellness, retirement, insurance and other things befitting an old guy. After all, I AM an old guy. Some days ago I saw an article that prompted today's show. It was yet another article about retiring happy. A man working to prepare for his eventual retirement asked his financial planner for examples of people who were happy in retirement. At the crux of the matter is self-discipline. Retirement success is largely about how well people can deprive themselves of spending more than they earn - and who have the ability to save more than they may want to. And there it is - the elephant in the room - our willingness to sacrifice, to avoid rewarding ourselves with the very thing we may want most - especially when that thing isn't the best thing. The flip side is our willingness to do those things we might otherwise not want to do, but we know it's the wise thing to do. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook…
May 11, 2023
What Will People Remember When You’re Gone?
Will people mourn? Or throw a party? Will we have regrets about how we spent our time with others...when they're gone? Stanley was my lifelong best friend. He died on Sunday May 12, 2013. It'll be 10 years tomorrow. Ten years that I've been on the planet without him. I remember him fondly. If I had died first, I'm certain he'd be missing me, too. And I know he'd have remembered me fondly. Not all relationships work that way though. Sadly. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
May 4, 2023
Being Open To Opportunities (The Metaphor That Is The Yellow Studio)
1989. I was being courted by a business owner looking for new, fresh leadership. The business was located where Rhonda and I most wanted to be, Dallas/Ft. Worth, Texas. The kids were in elementary school. Early elementary school. Life had been hectic for the previous 3 years. Situations had changed that were beyond our control - things that we didn't feel were favorable for training and raising our children. So, we took our aim for Texas - DFW. It was Rhonda's home and we were familiar with it. Among our reasons - and in this order - church. Spiritual reasons were at the very top of our list. Next, the kids. Where did we feel we could give them the best advantages spiritually, educationally, personally (future spouses), and careerwise? DFW checked all the boxes for us when we began to strategize ways to accomplish this goal. That was somewhere around 1987. It took me a few years to pull it all together. By the end of 1989 I had started the process. By the end of the school year, May 1…
Apr 27, 2023
Does Your Printer Have Paper? (and other urgent questions for the digital age)
It's a digital age and I fully embrace it. But I still need paper in my printer. Let's ruminate on these and other urgent analog matters facing us in the digital age. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Apr 20, 2023
Turning Over A New Leaf Won’t Help If It’s Poison Ivy
Jo Marsh is the dreamer and a scribbler character in Louisa May Alcott's novel, Little Women. Here's an observation about her life in the book. “I keep turning over new leaves, and spoiling them, as I used to spoil my copybooks; and I make so many beginnings there never will be an end.” It means making a change. Improving. Doing something differently. Doing different things. Our unwillingness to make a change is detrimental to our life and everybody else influenced by us. It's rebellion. And selfish. My willingness is high. I wouldn't describe myself as stubborn, but I do know I'm resolved about some things - mostly things in which I believe deeply. Beyond religious truths, there aren't very many things that qualify because I have lived long enough to experience getting it wrong. Getting eternal things right is important because the stakes are so high. Eternity changes everything. Let's consider what it means to avoid poison ivy and to turn over a new leaf. Please tell a…
Apr 13, 2023
How’s Your Clock Speed?
Computers have a clock speed. The clock speed measures the number of cycles your CPU executes per second, measured in GHz (gigahertz). A “cycle” is technically a pulse synchronized by an internal oscillator, but for our purposes, they're a basic unit that helps understand a CPU's speed. The higher the clock speed, the faster the computer. There are other factors, but depending on your computing - gaming, graphics, CAD, video rendering, and other intensive tasks - you'll want the highest clock speed CPU you can afford. Humans also have a clock speed. I'm not a neuroscientist so I have no idea if it can be measured, but you know it when you see it. We talk about how fast or slow somebody is. Some of us are fast at some things and slow at other things. Some of us are fast most of the time while others are slow most of the time. Clock speed is evident in our walking pace, communication, handling adversity, facing opportunities, navigating new or strange situations, and just about ev…
Apr 6, 2023
Always Improving (A.I.)
There are about 9.84 BILLION search results for A.I. - which we mostly think stands for "artificial intelligence." ChatGPT is the latest, greatest, coolest, trickest A.I. It is pretty spectacular. For mere mortals like me, I don't know how A.I. improvement could even be measured, but I do know there's a data gap that is a constraint. A.I. needs high-integrity data. I'm intrigued by artificial intelligence, but I'm far more obsessed with a different A.I. Always Improving “Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.” ― William Faulkner We all have default behaviors driven by default viewpoints or approaches to life. One of my major default behaviors spawns from a default viewpoint that things can always be better. Not in some, "let's give it time and it'll sort itself out" kind of a way - but in a "what can we do to improve this?" kind of a way. It's how I s…
Mar 31, 2023
The Yellow Studio version 3.0 Is Now Live (kinda sorta)
It's happened. The Yellow Studio is in a new iteration. Let's catch up a little bit and talk about whatever version of your life you may be working on. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Mar 4, 2023
Growth Comes By Ending Something So You Can Begin Something New
“You only grow by coming to the end of something and by beginning something else.” ― John Irving, The World According to Garp It's time to say goodbye! Only to The Yellow Studio 2.0. It's officially over. Done. Next week I'll be getting The Yellow Studio 3.0 set up. Version 3.0 will be a transition studio that I hope will take me through the end of 2023. After that, I'm planning to settle into The Yellow Studio 4.0. Around 1999 The Yellow Studio 1.0 was born, dubbed with that name because I wanted the walls painted this yellow color. Bright. Sunshiney. Cheerful. That was the goal. And it worked. Especially after I invested in four Ballard Street prints. They worked well with a yellow background. Truth is, everything worked well with the yellow walls as a background. Over more than 2 decades every "podcast" episode - save those done from the field - was produced right here from inside this yellow room. Except for the first audio files that I uploaded to the Internet, 100% of…
Feb 23, 2023
Learning Optimism: You Find What You’re Looking For
The story may date back earlier than 1917. President Reagan made it famous because it was among his favorite jokes. That's likely where I first heard it. A couple had twin boys who were six years old. Worried that the boys had developed extreme personalities – one was a total pessimist, the other a total optimist – their parents took them to a psychiatrist. First, the psychiatrist treated the pessimist. Trying to brighten his outlook, the psychiatrist took him to a room piled to the ceiling with brand-new toys. But instead of yelping with delight, the little boy burst into tears. “What’s the matter?” the psychiatrist asked, baffled. “Don’t you want to play with any of the toys?” “Yes,” the little boy bawled, “but if I did I’d only break them.” Next, the psychiatrist treated the optimist. Trying to dampen his outlook, the psychiatrist took him to a room piled to the ceiling with horse manure. But instead of wrinkling his nose in disgust, the optimist emitted…
Feb 16, 2023
Why Do You Want What You Want?
We're closing in on saying goodbye to The Yellow Studio version 2.0. It's where every podcast episode I've ever produced (other than a few field recordings) was recorded. But I'm looking forward to the next chapter, The Yellow Studio version 3.0. Lots of people want more money, but they don't necessarily have any specific thing they want to do with it. They just think having more of it will make them happy. Or maybe they do know what they want - or think they do. A nicer house. A new car. Exotic vacations. Fancier restaurants to frequent. Many people want more recognition, but they don't know why. They envy famous people. They imagine what life might be like hearing applause or being chased for an autograph. Everybody wants something. Everybody wants many somethings. We all want a lot of things. Does that speak to our lack or our lack of gratitude? Or neither? Maybe it just speaks to our discontentment with whatever the status quo is. Warren Buffett is worth $87 billion, but he's…
Feb 9, 2023
Conversations, Podcasts & A Focus On Others
I leave a client's office after a normal, but intense 2-hour conversation. These are common conversations for me. Twice, during the course of a few hours, the client grows visibly emotional. I love these moments because it means we're speaking to issues of the heart. These are the things that really matter. As I walk to my car, leaving the client's office building, I'm thinking about podcasting, co-hosts, having guests and engaging in conversations. But mostly, I'm thinking about two words: compassion and leadership. Both of which are defined in my mind (at least in part) as "a focus on others." Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Feb 2, 2023
The Ask-Me-Anything Episode
Let's do some scatter-shooting today. Today's show covers a few subjects: Our 45th wedding anniversary (me and Rhonda, not me and you) ;) My hyper-local podcast, HotSpringsVillageInsideOut.com Spammers and scammers Personal pain Your ideal outcome / my ideal outcome - plan A may give way to plan M, O, or Z The Starfish Parable I'm an INFJ-Introvert, Intuitive, Feeler, Judger The VIA Survey, click here to take it (free) - this is a character strength assessment Our (me and Rhonda) encore chapter (just a teaser) “What You Do Makes A Difference, And You Have To Decide What Kind Of Difference You Want To Make.” -Jane Goodall Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Jan 26, 2023
Will You Allow Your Failures To Pole Vault You To Success?
During the MLB playoff telecast of the NLCS between Philadelphia and San Diego, game 2, Fox analyst and Hall of Fame pitcher John Smoltz made an observation about failures. He remarked how nobody wants to be that guy who has a mishap or failure during a game...but if you allow it to pole vault you to success it can be a positive thing in your career. I've seen good athletic coaches approach players who just experienced a disaster and convey the same sermon. "You can let that failure define you as a failure, or you can step up, learn from it and let it define your comeback to success!" So what's it going to be? Life is filled with examples where people failed under pressure. Many of them - like a major league baseball player - in a public way. I'm not much of a baseball fan, but you can go read a list of the top 10 major league baseball blunders of all time. These aren't necessarily sustained failures, but moments of time where a player bungled a play. That's important for our conver…
Jan 19, 2023
Getting It Right In Realtime May Mean Changing Your Mind
“In a good bookroom, you feel in some mysterious way that you are absorbing the wisdom contained in all the books through your skin, without even opening them.” ― Mark Twain Twain was right. I know the feeling well, having surrounded myself with books for most of my adult life. Only recently did I rid myself of the vast array of books that surrounded me. But it was time and I have no regrets. Hopefully, somebody else is benefiting from the thousands of books I donated not long ago to a local library. Absorbing wisdom is an interesting phrase used by Twain in that quote. He didn't say knowledge. There's a difference. “Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” ― Albert Einstein Here at LTW I've long given my personal definition of wisdom as the model from which each podcast episode is cast - getting it right in realtime. I stand by that definition, but that doesn't mean it's the only kind of wisdom. Sometimes we learn wisdom because we got it wrong - the first time.…
Jan 12, 2023
Age, Broken Hearts & The Getting of Wisdom
Some time ago I ran across this verse and in short order I wrote the title of today's show: age, broken hearts and the getting of wisdom. I don't agree with every sentiment expressed, but I found it interesting. What do you think about it? What does it feel like to be old? The other day, a young person asked me: - What did it feel like to be old? I was very surprised by the question, since she did not consider me old. When he saw my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question. And after reflection, I concluded that getting old is a gift. Sometimes I am surprised at the person who lives in my mirror. But I don't worry about those things for long. I wouldn't trade everything I have for a few less gray hairs and a flat stomach. I don't scold myself for not making the bed, or for eating a few extra "little things." I am within my rights to be a little messy, to be extravagant, and to spend hours staring at my flowers. I have seen some…
Jan 5, 2023
Ambition Has No Expiration Date
“Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.” – Mark Twain People under 40 tend to think that as you get older your ambitions wane. I was once 40 and I thought the same thing. Until I grew older and hit 50. Then I hit 60. And my ambitions changed, but if anything, they intensified. Then I hit 65 and the intensity had grown even more intense. Compared to my younger ambitions, while very different, my current ambitions are much more focused. My resolve is far deeper than it was when I was younger. There are many reasons for that, I suppose. Not the least of which is the realization that time is moving quickly through the hourglass of life. "If not now, when?" is a question rolling around in many older, gray (or bald) heads. “Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work, one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it.” – Ralph Waldo…
Dec 31, 2022
Two Women, One Dream & Plan M
Happy New Years! This is a bonus episode. I wasn't sure if I'd release it or not, but why not? I hope it serves to inspire you to dream your own dreams. And better yet, to pursue them so you can make them your reality. Thank you for listening. -Randy I've already introduced you to one woman, Re, my maternal grandmother. The second woman I've not yet talked about, is Nelda, my mother-in-law. Nelda passed away from breast cancer when she was only 42. Rhonda and I were in our first year of marriage so my exposure to Nelda was limited to the few years I dated Rhonda and that single year of our married life. Rhonda was Nelda's firstborn. Five more would follow. At the time of her death, there were still children at home. My perspective of Nelda, while limited, now consists of being the husband to her daughter. I suspect Rhonda has qualities like her mom. For starters, her mother always seemed strong and resilient. Her daughter, my wife, is. Nelda's spiritual fortitude heavily influence…
Dec 29, 2022
If I’d Known I’d Live This Long, I’d Have Tried A Bit Harder
So long 2022. I hated much of my time with you! ;) “I can’t believe it’s been a year since I didn’t become a better person.” —Anonymous My hatred for this year - okay, that's an exaggeration, but only a minor one - is coupled with my love for the challenges that came with it. Challenges provide growth. I wish it weren't so. I'd much rather learn from calm, tranquil success. Today's headline is pure snark because few years have received the effort put forth to make 2022 a decent year. I was never aiming for more. Maybe there's a lesson for me. I should have aimed higher and expected more. But I didn't. And the year didn't measure up. It couldn't even hit the decent mark...so it felt like a bit of success to have avoided aiming for anything higher. 2022 was a great year for some of you. An awful year for others of you. For me, it was just so-so. Another take-it-or leave-it year. Mostly, a leave it year. ;) But that sounds too depressing and too negative. Besides, I'm leani…
Dec 22, 2022
Are You Putting Off Choosing?
“A man who procrastinates in his choosing will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance.” ― Hunter S. Thompson, The Proud Highway: Saga of a Desperate Southern Gentleman, 1955-1967 Reinvention. It seems an odd word when applied to us, to our lives - to who we are or who we hope to become. He tells me he'd like to reinvent himself. Oh, okay. I wonder what he means so I ask a few questions hoping to understand. "Into what?" I ask. We laugh, but it's a serious question, even if the tone is lighthearted. He pauses and I continue the snarkiness with, "Something better I hope!" More chuckles. "Really, tell me what you're thinking," I ask. For the next few minutes, all I hear is about the past with a bit of the present sprinkled in. Mostly things I already know. But they've got a familiar ring to them. They sound like...excuses. They sound like a front, a cover story. Being the Hunter S. Thompson fan that I am, I thought of that line Hunter wrote long ago. "A man wh…
Dec 15, 2022
Subject To Change
A fanatic is one who can't change his mind and won't change the subject. -Winston Churchill I must not be a fanatic. ;) Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. -George Bernard Shaw I grew up mostly thinking that change meant the potential for improvement and growth. Sometimes I was disappointed, but not always. Turns out life sometimes disappoints, but not always. So change isn't that unique. Some people take a stand against change declaring how much they hate it. They prefer sameness and predictability. It's comforting. Then some love change because they're quickly bored with sameness. They prefer spontaneity, and like things to be more unpredictable. I don't feel like I fit into either category because there must be shades of grey between these two extremes. For starters, I rather object to change for the sake of change - except when it comes to moving furniture around. I kinda prefer to have a reason behind the chan…
Dec 8, 2022
Are Your Muses Too Unreliable?
“Inspiration is the windfall from hard work and focus. Muses are too unreliable to keep on the payroll.” ― Helen Hanson A muse is a person or personified force who is the source of inspiration for a creative artist. I'd modify that definition slightly by saying a muse is any source of inspiration for creativity. Do you have a muse? Have you ever? Through the years of Leaning Toward Wisdom, I've talked about two that have occupied The Yellow Studio from the beginning - for over 22 years. Books. A guitar. Back in July, I started The Great Purge. Around 1,500 books exited The Yellow Studio, donated to the local library where I suspect the majority were sold in an annual sale to raise money for said library. The few I decided to keep - well under 100 titles - were boxed up and safely stored away for the next chapter of The Yellow Studio. By mid-August, whatever muse the books served was gone. Or was it? The books were gone, but any muse - source of inspiration - was far from g…
Dec 1, 2022
Looking Forward Toward The Present
Pearl Jam's 1996 song, Present Tense (from their No Code album), is a fitting theme for today's show. To live in the present tense. But first, as I am wont to do, let me give you the impetus for today's show. I’m watching some house hunting kind of show on HGTV, the kind I normally don't watch - I much prefer the renovation shows. A couple is going through a few houses and in each house one or both exclaim how they could see themselves doing this or that in the space. Says the husband about a basement, "I could see myself enjoying watching games on a big TV down here." Says the wife of the bathroom, "I could see myself relaxing in that soaker tub." Watch any episode of any such show and I guarantee you'll hear people say similar things. People put themselves into these homes as though they already own them. It's exactly what sellers and realtors want people to do. Imagine. It's a uniquely human capacity - to project ourselves into a future that hasn't yet happened. My longtime fa…
Nov 24, 2022
Refusing To Leave A Friend Behind
My first recall of such a thing was likely from watching stories about war. Combat was a popular TV show when I was a kid. It was a show about World War II and aired from 1962 to 1967. Men would be injured in combat and their buddies would tell them, "Don't worry. We're not leaving you behind." The U.S. Marines have been known for never leaving anybody behind, even fallen comrades. Vic Morrow, as the sergeant in Combat! was awesome as Sergeant Chip Saunders. In 1982 Morrow and two children were tragically and gruesomely killed when a helicopter crashed on top of them during the filming of The Twilight Zone. They were on the ground acting out an escape from Viet Nam. When I heard the news I remembered all the times I was glued to the TV watching Combat! In 1966 I was nine. I bought my first record - at least the first one I can remember. It was by a Green Beret sergeant, Barry Sadler. Known for never leaving a man behind, I was fascinated with the Green Berets, likely because the new…
Nov 17, 2022
Stories We Tell Ourselves
Romans 12:2 "And be not fashioned according to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God." Mind transformation isn't just a religious thing, it's a human thing because God created us in His image. Genesis 1:27 "And God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them." The fascinating thing about this is not that we're god-like because we're not. But we are. We're created in the image of God and I don't fully understand everything that means, but I can grasp major chunks of what it means. For starters, the entire Creation event shows us the power of God to think in advance. To first see it in our mind. God created the Universe and the Earth by thinking it into existence. We don't have God's power so we're unable to do that physically, but because we're in His image we can pre-think something before it becomes reality. In January 2017 The…
Nov 10, 2022
“It’s not a crime to lose all your money. It’s just stupid.”
Ebb Dawson Ebb Dawson, that deep-thinking philosopher character on the old TV series, Green Acres, is the person who uttered today's profound title. I've loved that line since I first heard it. I have no idea how long ago that was. I was a kid who watched The Andy Griffith Show, Green Acres, F Troop, I Dream of Jeannie, Bewitched, and McHale's Navy. An online article entitled - 6 Signs You Can't Afford Your Lifestyle - prompted me to think about what Ebb said. Let's see if we agree with the list of signs you can't afford your lifestyle...because you're losing (blowing) all your money. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Nov 3, 2022
How Do You Value Books?
I ran across an older online article entitled, "The value of owning more books than you can read." Well, that grabbed my attention. So I clicked and began reading, realizing I'd heard some of these ideas before in The Black Swan by Nassim Nicholas Taleb. Having just rid myself of over 1,500 books, it's a worthwhile conversation I think - to consider if we value books and how. I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Oct 27, 2022
Let’s Just Worry About What’s In Front Of Us
My beloved OU Sooner football team has experienced a season of challenge that we hope morphs into major growth and improvement. Coach Brent Venables is such a terrific personality and he seems like a good human. He's a man who has experienced serious adversity from his childhood through his adult years. We can focus on a multi-million dollar college football coach, but he's not defined by his income any more than I am. He's worth the money as a football coach at a major university. As a man, how he lives determines his value and worth. Same for us. Yesterday, I saw this article about the team entitled, With destiny out of Oklahoma's control, winning the next game is all that matters. I guarantee Brent Venables isn’t telling his players, “ok guys, we just need to win two more games to make it to a bowl game.” He’s not saying that. He’s not wired that way. He wants to win football games, and there are five more to go. In the words of the late Al Davis, “Just win, baby.” T…
1 hr 9 min
Oct 20, 2022
The Cavalry Ain’t Coming: Where Are You Pinning Your Hopes?
I see this headline: In U.S., Poor Life Ratings Reach Record High. That got my attention. For starters, I had no idea what the Poor Life Rating was. Turns out Gallup has an index. That's kinda sorta the business they're in. And we mostly trust the surveys and research Gallup produces. Sometime earlier I had seen another online article about how Americans felt about the future. Turns out, according to the article, 75% of Americans felt like our best days were behind us. It sparked an immediate question, "Where are people pinning their hopes? Are people really thinking Joe Biden is going to save them - or destroy them?" Let's wrestle this down a little bit.
Oct 13, 2022
A Strong Man Goes The Second Mile (an episode about marriage)
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche It's a lack of a lot of things. And a big shortage of other things. But today we're going to focus on men and husbands. Most divorces are initiated by wives. Attorneys, psychologists, sociologists and other folks smarter than me attribute much of that to the skill women have to sense danger. It seems logical, especially if children are involved, that a woman craves safety for herself and her children. Other research indicates women divorce because they feel held back in the relationship. Maybe the husband doesn't do enough work in the relationship and the wife grows increasingly discontented. Ironically, many experts that I read claim women generally forgive infidelity, but they continue to forgive emotional neglect or abuse. I'm not an expert on such things, but I do know that men and women are different, but the same. Men crave respect. Women crave love. Both battle unhap…
1 hr 13 min
Oct 10, 2022
Too Good To Be True
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses.” ― Alphonse Karr, A Tour Round My Garden Season 1, episode 18 of Everybody Loves Raymond was entitled, "Recovering Pessimist." Debra, Ray's wife, urges him to be more positive after he remains sour post winning Sportswriter of the Year. He enters their bedroom with an enormous trophy that accompanied the award and utters the line, "It has to be too good to be true." Reluctantly, Ray tries to change his natural negative outlook, but his family, ever the Negative Nellies, influence him with their usual lackluster enthusiasm for life. Always at the ready to throw cold water on any good news, Ray's parents thrive on constantly putting people down, including each other! The newspaper where Ray works promote him after the award. He's working hard to become an optimist, but it just doesn't seem to be working until he returns home to the news that his boss wants him to cover the Iditarod in Alaska.…
Oct 7, 2022
Get Up, Stand Up: Answering Some Questions
Inside The Yellow Studio 2.0 I've been threatening to do this for a few weeks now. Thursday morning I had some time so I figured now was as good a time as any. Let's dive into answering some questions. Please tell a friend about the podcast! • Join our private Facebook group • Email me
Oct 6, 2022
Who Is Happier, The Brave Or The Cowardly?
Today's episode is out of the ordinary 'cause I felt like being out of the ordinary. It's a focus on life in general and the urge some seem to have to not participate in life. Some, thanks to COVID, are terrified of what life might be like if they were to resume normal living. Others seem to struggle with mental health for a variety of reasons.
Oct 3, 2022
Amnesia: Convenient or Productive
"I remember it the way it should have been." - An old man once told me whilst reminiscing about the past A truthful admission. Confession is good for the soul. But accurate recall is also good. And right! Remembering the right thing requires that we first do the right thing. The only way to remember it the way it should have been is to have done what should have been done. It's like telling the truth versus telling lies. Tell the truth and stop worrying. Because it's the truth. Tell lies and you have to become a master juggler or be found out a liar. It begins with doing the right thing. Telling the truth. Making the right decision. Doing what's right. That's how we can prevent the need for convenient amnesia. An NFL quarterback throws a pick-six (an intercepted ball the opposing team runs back for a touchdown). The announcer remark, "He has to put that behind him and forget about it." Within minutes when the quarterback gets the ball back, we find out whether or not he can for…
Sep 29, 2022
I Don’t Know If I Can, But I’m Gonna Try
Let me start by acknowledging my dad's 99th birthday today. Born on September 29, 1923, he's seen quite a lot in his lifetime. Geoffrey "Jeff" Cantrell celebrates his 99th birthday today I grew up hearing, "You never until you try." I wish I could say that trying was always easy. My biggest fears as a kid involved girls. Go figure. Logically, I was bold. Practically, I was a coward. My best friend had a girlfriend, but no car. I had a car, but no girlfriend. He wanted to go out on a double date so he began pressuring me to ask out somebody. Anybody. I had a friend - she was in our social circle and we shared many classes - who I liked. She was attractive and popular. We were at his house mulling over a strategy and I mentioned I'd like to ask her out. He was less than encouraging telling me that she'd never go out with me. Stupid on his part since he had no car and was wanting me to ask out somebody. Oh well. We were 16 and not terribly savvy about such things. I pushed back ask…
Sep 26, 2022
Love, Laughter and Levity
"You boys, settle down." "Stop that foolishness." "Behave." Whenever Stanley and I were together those were common refrains from the adults observing us. It happens. When you're kids. We didn't feel foolish. In fact, we felt quite smart. And wondered if cutting up and laughing out loud was foolish, then wisdom wasn't likely going to play any part in our future. Today I don't ascribe the same meaning to those phrases. I’m very settled. Down. And hopefully, I've stopped most of my foolishness. Truth is, I never did feel very foolish because I was mostly a sober-minded kid. That last admonition is one I've delivered more than any other. "Behave," can mean a variety of things depending on the situation. That's why I love it so much. It's universally applicable. I loved laughter and levity as a kid. Still do. I confess I don't engage in either one as much as when I was a kid, but the innocence of childhood helps. The burdens of adulthood don't. Making people laugh used to be an ong…
Sep 22, 2022
Pursuing A More Modest Lifestyle
My life began, like all humans, as a simpleton. I was a child. Then a kid. It was all pretty simple (a good thing since I was a simpleton) until junior high, but that was a million miles away when I was a child. Junior high was only complicated because of relationships - and girls. ;) Things didn't complicate it so much because as long as I didn't stick out like a sore thumb among my peers, I was pretty good. Besides, we were middle-class and so were most of the kids I knew. I didn't grow up really making a distinction between the economic prowess of somebody's parents. In grade school my best friend, Terry lived right across the street from the school in a very modest little frame house. I knew his family wasn't as well off as mine, but it had no impact on my relationship with him, or how I viewed him. It never crossed my mind that my family was somehow better, smarter, more clever, or anything else. But let's not start with the past...let's jump to the present. My son recently turn…
Sep 19, 2022
The Death of a Queen
1 Timothy 2:1-2 First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. I just watched the funeral of Queen Elizabeth II. Regal. Formal. Spectacular. Historical. As many have observed, she wasn't part of history, she was history. 70 years and 214 days. The longest reign of any British monarch. From February 2, 1952, until her death on September 8, 2022. From Winston Churchill forward, she ruled 15 Prime Ministers. Dignity. Composure. Poise. Such a death compels millions to consider simultaneously consider death. So it goes with the death of the extraordinarily famous. It helps when they're as beloved as the Queen. Hundreds of thousands lined the streets in London and all along the procession which carried the Queen to her burial place in Windsor at St. George's Chapel. The Queen architected the…
Sep 19, 2022
Cash Flowing Life: The Encore Chapter
It's an impromptu special episode. A few bullet points may be helpful. We've always cash flowed our life, or tried to. Two pivotal milestones impact every American's encore chapter: a) Medicare (when you reach 65) and b) Social Security (when you reach 62 or full-retirement or age 70). Retirement means different things to us than "not working" or "not earning income." We want to continue to earn income and continue to live within our means. Modest living is a goal. Not austere living, but modest living. Frugality is a way of life, unapologetically. We're living our lives for ourselves (and each other). God remains THE priority, but when the encore chapter days arrive, you realize - if you're married - that your lives together are now what remains. And it's great if you put in the work! I'm putting in the work - or trying to. My wife is the most important person in my life. It doesn't mean I don't love kids, grandkids, and the rest of my family, but it means I know I'm not th…
Sep 15, 2022
What To Do When Enthusiasm Wanes
Success is the ability to move from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm. Often attributed to Winston Churchill or Abraham Lincoln although there's no evidence either man said or wrote it. Both men did speak and write about resilience, persistence, and never giving up. No matter who said it, it's wise because experience tells us it's mostly accurate. Of course, it depends on how we define "enthusiasm." If we mean exuberance, maybe not so much if our focus is on the cheerfulness part of it. I'll take a shot and give you my definition of enthusiasm, as it relates to that quote. The ability to persist, to push through, regardless of the adversity You can interpret it differently, but that feels right to me because success requires each of us to do things we may not want to do, or things we don't enjoy doing because we're pursuing something we think will be worth the sacrifice and effort. Today, let's wrestle a little bit with this universal challenge - a loss of enthusiasm.
Sep 9, 2022
The Blurry Lines of Life
Happy Birthday to my sister, Lexie. She is my only sibling. Six years older than me. When I was a kid growing up, folks reached 65 and it was considered the age at which people stopped working. Companies seemed to ordain that once you were 65 you were done. Finished. Now that I'm 65 it feels so wrong. And incongruent with how the world works today. I look at old photos of my grandparents when they were still in their 50s and they seemed so old to me at the time. Even through the lens of my 65-year-old eyes today, those old photos depict people much older than my current age. Never mind that they were a full decade younger than I now am - they looked old. They acted old. But they lived in a world where their peers looked and acted in a similar fashion. I'm not sure how to properly define the lines of life, but mine seem to fall into a few different categories: spiritual, mental, relational, professional, and financial. There's nothing absolute about these, but I can use them to il…
Sep 8, 2022
Be A Buffalo: Stop Hiding From Your Problems
Maybe I heard it because I was born in Oklahoma, a state with quite a bit of native American history and heritage. As a boy, I remember being fascinated whenever we’d find an arrowhead. The story likely came from that Indian culture I was around as a kid. I can’t be sure. Either that or it may have been because Oklahoma is also smack dab in the middle of tornado alley. Thunderstorms are a way of life around these parts (Oklahoma and north Texas). The illustration is powerful. It deals with buffalo and thunderstorms. For those who may not know, thunderstorms travel from west to east. Cattle and buffalo react when the dark clouds start rolling in, signifying a coming storm. The cattle run east, away from the storm. The buffalo run west, directly in the path of the storm. Question: Which animal is in the storm the longest? Answer: The cattle…because they’re traveling with the storm. The moral of the story is to behave more like a buffalo. Lean into your problems. Run into the…
Sep 1, 2022
Coasting On Memories
"A girl I became friends with on a school trip in high school fell asleep on my shoulders on the ride back." "I'm still coasting on that memory." Crimson and Clover and Crystal Blue Persuasion were on the same album. I was 11. It was one of my first and biggest music memories of "my" music...and perhaps it was the first record I wore out. Literally. Listening to Top 40 radio was a constant in the car. At home, the biggest memory and influence was my dad's 1962 Ray Charles' record, Modern Sounds of Country and Western Music. Side one 1. "Bye Bye Love" 2. "You Don't Know Me" 3. "Half as Much" 4. "I Love You So Much It Hurts" 5. "Just a Little Lovin' (Will Go a Long Way)" 6. "Born to Lose" Side two 1. "Worried Mind" 2. "It Makes No Difference Now" 3. "You Win Again" 4. "Careless Love" 5. "I Can't Stop Loving You" 6. "Hey, Good Lookin'" My early music experiences consisted of great rhythm and harmonies. My sister loved The Lettermen and later on, The Carpenters. For me,…
Aug 29, 2022
The Courage To Take A Swing
Last season I'm watching one of the grandkids play ball. My granddaughter plays softball and both of her little brothers play baseball. I can't remember which kid was playing, but I noticed a few players who would approach the plate refusing to swing. By the time I'd see these players come up to bat the second time around, it was evident they were hoping they'd get a walk. Stand in the batter's box, bat perched on their shoulder and the pitch didn't matter. Low, high, or right down the middle. They weren't going to swing. The most quoted quote about such things has to be this one... You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. - Wayne Gretzky At least in baseball and softball, you have the chance of being walked. ;) No such luck in hockey! I've long been fascinated - puzzled may be a better word for it - by kids who play sports, but are obviously afraid. Watching a 7-year-old step into the batter's box fully committed to keeping that bat on his shoulder makes me won…
Aug 25, 2022
Re’s Retreat, The Yellow Studio Version 3.0 & Our Encore Chapter
Marie: My Maternal Grandmother Oatmeal Cookie Recipe By Re Bessie Marie Burns was born April 8, 1906, near Sulphur, Oklahoma. She died on February 2, 1982, in Ada, Oklahoma. She despised her first name. Everybody called her Marie, but anybody who really knew her called her, "Re." I just registered ResRetreat.com - there'd be an apostrophe if the Internet allowed them. It's Re's Retreat. I've been dreaming, conniving, and planning for almost 3 years. I'm still working the controls as deftly as possible to land the plane, but I see the airport. The tower hasn't yet instructed me to land. I don't yet have an assigned runway, but I'm optimistic. And hoping I can land before I run out of fuel. About 4 years ago we booked an Airbnb reservation to a place we had never been. It looked like our kind of place. Lots of trees, mountainous, walking trails, wildlife, serene, quiet. Woods. I love woods. Best of all, it was just one state away, a 5-hour drive. Now, four years later, and multipl…
Aug 18, 2022
You Are Not A Tree
In 1975 Lindsey Buckingham and Stevie Nicks broke up. Well, according to the lore, Stevie broke up with him. In his broken-hearted angst, he wrote the song, Go Your Own Way. But I'm listening to the song the other day and it sparked a different idea - one I've long thought. Rather than a breakup song where we're telling the girl she can go her own way...what if it were a song where we were admonishing ourselves to go the way we most want to go. "You've gotta find what works for you." It's a common statement, but I've found not that many people actually do it. This is why when I heard Lindsey's song this time - the millionth time or so - I wasn't thinking of the context he was thinking when he wrote it. I was thinking of how we're mostly busy comparing ourselves to others and attempting to reverse engineer everything. Much is written and said about how to do something. We're busy trying to replicate the success of others. "Hey, look at what they're doing. Let's do that." Then when it…
Aug 17, 2022
When Your Son Has Become A Better Man Than You (Happy 42nd Birthday To My Son)
When A Son Becomes A Husband and Father He was born early on Sunday morning, August 17, 1980. In this part of the world, the summer of 1980 still remains historical for record-setting heat. His mom had a miserable summer. Our first child, like all firstborns, was highly anticipated. There was no gender reveal celebration in 1980. It was a better world. ;) As a first-time dad, I only had two concerns: for my wife and this new child to both emerge healthy and well. In 1980 there was a popular skit on Saturday Night Live, The Coneheads. When I first saw him I knew he had to be the offspring of Beldar (Dan Aykroyd) and Prymaat (Jane Curtin) - not us. The doctor assured me in time his head would appear more normal. Along with his color. He was a red conehead, but I was so thankful he was according to the doctor "normal." Turns out the doctor was incorrect. This kid wasn't normal by any stretch. He was extraordinary. He was full of energy, the kid who never had a bad day. He was more soci…
Aug 11, 2022
Leaning Toward Less
From 30 feet away a shotgun blast will disperse many dozens of pellets over a broad area. The greater the distance, the wider the spread of pellets. A rifle on the other hand is a single projectile. It only creates one hole in the target, but it's able to do it from a much greater distance. The energy behind a shotgun propels dozens of BB-like projectiles toward the target while the rifle focuses all that energy on a single bullet. Focusing on less is rifle-like. Multi-tasking like a madman is more shotgun-like. Years ago while working with a client who was easily distracted because everywhere he looked he saw opportunities, I created a diagram to show him the power of focusing on fewer opportunities. Sometime later I created a 1:21-minute video (without sound) to replicate what I did in front of the client that day. I drew a circle with a dot in the center. That center dot represented the starting point for any business pursuits my client might engage in. The outer circle represen…
1 hr 16 min
Aug 4, 2022
Goodbye To The Yellow Studio Version 2.0
The first real studio tour I did Inside The Yellow Studio was more than a decade in. It was 2015. At that point, I'd been laying down audio tracks online for years. Then when you guys helped me get the new (at the time) Rode Rodecaster Pro in 2019, I did a new tour. Click here to see and listen to that. I won't rehash history because you can go back and dive as deeply as you'd like. Or not all at. The broadcast workflow has always been how I've rolled. That is, I prepare in advance, then I hit RECORD, and mostly, I'm done. It's finished. My editing is pre-recording editing. It's a broadcast workflow because that's how live broadcasts work. There are no do-overs. It's out and done. Foibles and all. That workflow was the genesis of The Yellow Studio version 1.0. It consisted of a sizable rack of gear, which I loved. It wasn't cheap, but my sound was consistently great - whether I was on a Skype call or recording an audio or video. Because all the sound was produced in real-time throug…
Aug 1, 2022
People Love Hearing How Right They Are
It's a line from the TV series, The Americans. In season 3, episode 3 FBI agent Stan Beeman is asked about his past undercover work where he infiltrated a white supremacist group. The colleague asks him how he was able to succeed in that assignment. Stan tells him you just keep on telling them what they want to hear, over and over and over again. Then he utters the great line, "People love hearing how right they are." Years of coaching people -mostly high performers 'cause they're the ones most focused on getting better - have shown me how true it is. I've had a few non-high performers who resisted the process of coaching because they mostly wanted to hear how good they already are. Well, they thought they did until I challenged them to look more closely in the mirror and stop making excuses. When we hear how right we are, we can avoid thinking about how wrong we might be. So I get it. The urge to constantly feel good about ourselves is real. It sure beats feeling bad about ourselves…
Jul 28, 2022
How Many Cigarettes A Day Is Your Loneliness?
Psychology Today says this about loneliness... Loneliness is the state of distress or discomfort that results when one perceives a gap between one's desires for social connection and actual experiences of it. First off, I'm not a psychologist. I'm a lifelong student in human behavior and psychology, but that hardly makes me an expert. But I notice things. I notice people. I notice my own behavior. I'm in good touch with my feelings, even though I don't always love how I'm feeling - or know how to go about altering them as quickly as I'd like. Like now. Did you know that according to one BYU researcher, extreme social isolation can have the same negative impact on health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day? If that's extreme isolation, then I wonder what moderate isolation - or moderate loneliness - produces. The equivalent of smoking how many cigarettes a day? Do you suppose we could equate our degree of loneliness - feeling isolated - with a specific number of cigarettes smoked in a day…
Jul 21, 2022
Turning Life Upside Down Is Good, When One Side Is Done
Our soon-to-be 42-year-old son created this book when he was in grade school Someday. Too often we declare we'll do things "someday." Well, somebody is here. The little boy who wrote this book is now a grown man, husband, father of 3, and business owner. Let's talk about turning life upside down intentionally because we know that one side of life - our existing life - is done!
Jul 17, 2022
Purge, Simplify & Persist: The High Value of Sacrifice
Inside Info: As I'm recording today's episode, it's July 17, 2022 (Sunday), and day 5 of COVID. “Dreams do come true, if only we wish hard enough. You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.” ― J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan “Sacrifice is a part of life. It's supposed to be. It's not something to regret. It's something to aspire to.” ― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven Sacrifice, in the context of what's happening in my life at the moment, is simply surrendering a possession. Sacrifice isn't throwing something away. Discarding is unburdening yourself from something. Willfully, maybe even joyfully, separating yourself from something. That's not sacrificing. That's easy. Sacrifice is hard. The physical purge isn't the bodily kind, but it is physical. Specifically for us (me and my wife), it's about our house and our stuff. It's about over 4 decades of accumulation, gathering, storing, and collecting. “Simplicity is the ult…
Jul 14, 2022
Old Men, Old Love & Old Life
I will never be an old man. To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am. - Francis Bacon It's a common viewpoint. We're surrounded by people younger and older. Never mind those younger folks. Concentrate on the older ones and you realize, "I'm not so old." What you fail to understand is that you may be deluded. ;) One of my favorite quotes about age is by E.W. (Edgar Watson) Howe, a journalist, writer, and novelist. In 1919 he published Ventures in Common Sense, so you know he was our kind of guy. A young man is a theory, an old man is a fact. - E. W. Howe Neil Young was in his mid-20s when he wrote and recorded the song, Old Man. Now, he's 76 and officially old. He's likely far older than the old man who was the caretaker on the ranch he bought back in the early 1970s. "24 and there's so much more." But you never know. Plenty of musicians - and others - have never made it to old age. Another great song about old folks is by Five For Fighting. Father's Day…
Jul 7, 2022
Are You Prepared For Luck?
I will prepare, and one day my time will come. - Abraham Lincoln Case in point Camille Vasquez, the breakout attorney who represented Johnny Depp in his defamation trial against Amber Heard. She's 37 and according to the collective legal community, she was given some unprecedented opportunities during the trial to cross-exam witnesses and make closing arguments. Those responsibilities are typically given to partners. A week after the trial concluded, Vasquez became a partner. Some speculate it was to retain her because others were attempting to lure her to their firm. So it goes when you do well with a high visibility opportunity! What we've not seen are the hours of pursuing the opportunities. Law school. Study groups. Bar exam. Research. More research. Grunt work. More grunt work. Wondering if your time will ever come. Doubt. Fear. More time spent wondering if this will ever be what you dreamed it would be. And then it happens. Maybe out of the blue. Maybe not. But your time…
Jun 30, 2022
57 Things To Sell When You’re Ready To Retire/Declutter/Simplify/Something Else
Today's show was sparked by a headline. No, it wasn't 57 things, but it was 25...or some weird number of things you should think about selling if you're preparing to retire. I found the list a bit odd and decided to hash it out with you. No, you don't have to be preparing to retire. Maybe you just want to shake things up, improve things, declutter or simplify your life - or something else. There are bound to be lessons here to fit whatever situation you're in.
1 hr 2 min
Jun 27, 2022
Capitalism, Not Consumption
I've got more episodes "in the can" than ever before. It's unprecedented for me here at LTW. Today's show was recorded in the wee hours of the morning. Today. So I decided to hit the publish button. It seemed fitting for a week before our nation celebrates independence and freedom - two things I’m thankful for. Thanks for clicking that play button. Capitalism - an economic and political system in which a country's trade and industry are controlled by private owners for profit, rather than by the state Practitioners and supporters of capitalism are capitalists. I've long declared myself a capitalist. Supporting industry controlled by private owners rather than the government is the foundation of why I'm a capitalist. Capitalism is also based on fair (high integrity) competition and merit. High integrity is often absent, but it's also absent in socialism, communism, and all other isms - many based on philosophies opposed to competition and merit. Don't confuse capitalism with consumpt…
Jun 23, 2022
Hooking Up With Our Dreams
“I’m sick of following my dreams, man. I’m just going to ask where they’re going and hook up with ’em later.” —Mitch Hedberg Mitch was witty. “Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way when you criticize them, you are a mile away from them and you have their shoes.” —Jack Handey Jack Handey is a real person. A Texan. A funny guy. “Insomnia sharpens your math skills because you spend all night calculating how much sleep you’ll get if you’re able to ‘fall asleep right now.’” —Anonymous I can attest that this is true. “I’m at a place in my life when errands are starting to count as going out.” —Anonymous Proof that Anonymous is the most clever of all people. Besides, I've told you that Anonymous gave us my all-time favorite quote... "Everything is hard until it's easy!" Age. Experience. Wisdom. The trio of brilliance. Or something. “You know you’re getting old when you stoop to tie yo…
Jun 19, 2022
Cash Flowing Life & Taking Some Chips Off The Table
An unplanned episode, but it's how I roll. Well, it's how I'm flowing these days. Speaking of flowing, let's talk about cash-flowing life. No matter how old or young we are we can all benefit from a bit of sober thought about our lifestyle, our incomes, our investments, our expenses, and our financial welfare.
Jun 16, 2022
What’s Your Relationship With Money?
The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it. – Henry David Thoreau How did you grow up viewing money? Making it and spending it? I suppose all of us have a relationship with money based largely on how we grew up. I don't pretend to be a financial expert, but I do have a view - and a relationship with MONEY.
1 hr 6 min
Jun 9, 2022
How To Watch More Parades
What are you pursuing? What would you like to pursue, but maybe you're afraid? Me? One item I'm pursuing is an upgrade for The Yellow Studio - the new Rode Rodecaster Pro II. Isn't it gorgeous? :D Today's show is about pursuing dreams, chasing ambitions, and achieving our ideal outcome. But it's mostly about the role we play in serving others as they pursue their ideal outcome! Some folks enjoy raining on other people's parades. Others of us rather enjoy a good parade. The last thing we want to do is diminish the frequency or power of a good parade.
Jun 2, 2022
How Many Ways Can You Waste Money?
The headline was clearly meant to tempt me to click it. So I did. But I didn't read it...until I hit the record button. 29 Careless Ways Retirees Waste Money Let's see how well this list was curated. I also give a shout-out to a golfer in today's show. Shocking, since I don't golf. But I love rather love golf courses. Especially the ones inside Hot Springs Village.
May 26, 2022
Your Ideal Outcome: It’s Okay To Change Your Mind
“The wise adapt themselves to circumstances, as water molds itself to the pitcher.” – Chinese Proverb Things change. Sometimes quickly. A phone call wakes you. Middle-of-the-night phone calls are never good. Dream jobs aren't offered at 3 am. Sweepstakes winners aren't awakened with the news. Suddenly your life is different. How different depends on the news at the other end of the phone. There was a pre-phone call ideal outcome. Now there's a post-phone call ideal outcome. They don't likely resemble each other. “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George Bernard Shaw Other changes - even sudden ones - may not be as dramatic. Or devastating. But they can still prompt a change in direction. A change in motivation. A change in our ideal outcome. Have you ever wanted something so badly it consumed you? You thought of it often. You planned. Strategized. Committed yourself to figure it out. Then something changed. A circumstance. A new situation.…
May 23, 2022
Nothing Is For Free In This World
Archie Karas appeared on the YouTube channel, Soft White Underbelly. The two sound clips from Archie's appearance on that web show provoke today's conversation about two words: expectation and desire. Today's show is a special - unplanned - episode. I hope you enjoy it.
May 19, 2022
The Quirkiness Of Old Age
Today's show was provoked by watching Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger conduct the 2022 Berkshire Hathaway stockholders' meeting. Well, that and getting older. There's a good reason why "Hey, get off my lawn" is attributed to old guys. ;)
May 16, 2022
What’s Next? What Do You Most Need To Do Right Now?
Today's show is about YOU. Helping you through whatever you're going through right now. Whether you're in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s or 60s --- or whether you're younger or older than that...you're going through something right now. Probably a number of things! Recorded in the early morning hours of Monday, May 16, 2022, today's show has just one aim: to help you figure out what's next. Just the very next step. It's about making a decision, then acting on that decision. I hope this episode is helpful.
May 12, 2022
When’s The Last Time You Were Scared?
Daily news is scary. Really scary. Real estate news. Tax news. Gas prices news. Inflation. Short supplies. Healthcare. Moral decay. Cancel culture. Deep fakes. Personal finance. Career. Scary is everywhere! Everywhere. As a little kid one particular movie on TV scared me, Bunny Lake Is Missing. Encore.org is an organization I've been aware of for about 10 years now, thanks to an author who wrote a book I'm fond of - Marci Alboher. The book, published in 2007, was before Ms. Alboher was involved in Encore. I'm a fan of the book: One Person / Multiple Careers: The New Model For Work/Life Success. Here's an explanation from the Encore website: Encore.org was founded on the belief that the aging of America isn’t so much a problem to be solved as it is an opportunity to be seized. For 20 years, we’ve worked to change cultural expectations for the years beyond 50 and spark a movement around second acts for the greater good. In our own second act, we bring older and younger…
May 5, 2022
What Are You Doing To Better Understand Yourself & Others?
There are many personality assessments - and other kinds of "tests" that can help us better understand ourselves. Hubspot has a nice list of them. Maybe our differences aren't so much the issue. Maybe there's something else that needs our attention.
Apr 28, 2022
April 28, 2022 – Exclusive Episode For The Facebook Group
This week I'm busier than a one-armed paper hanger so rather than take the week off I fired up the webcam and recorded a show exclusively for the folks in our little Facebook group. If you'd like to see it, then go here and answer an easy question and I'll likely let you inside. It's a 36-minute episode that's mostly about regret!
Apr 21, 2022
Zooming Out: The Process Of Figuring It Out
I registered the domain - ZoomingOut.com - on May 22, 2004. It had nothing to do with photography - or my video conferencing platform of choice. Instead, it was focused on our attempt to see a bigger picture as a means of seeing the finer details. There never was a website at that address. I still own the domain, although it's been for sale at a fairly high price for a while. I'm not anxious to sell it or get rid of it, but a person can only actually use so many domains and I already have too many (even though I've gone through one major purge about 2 years ago). I suppose I'm due another purging. Zooming Out was a phrase I first wrote down in early 2004 for reasons I don't remember. My best recall is people were likely talking about narrowing in on things and that whole inability to see the forest for the trees was something I've battled in others all my life. While I'm very detail-oriented, I've mostly been frustrated by folks who can get intensely focused on the bark on a tree that…
Apr 14, 2022
Reaching Your Enough-Is-Enough Moment
We were young adults, maybe 20 or so, when it became a common refrain among us. "I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired." We'd chuckle, but it was true. Sadly, it was mostly just a humorous comment and not some moment of newly found determination. We never attempted to improve our circumstances. Rather, we just chuckled at poking fun at how our lives were going. It wasn't that we didn't want to improve, but we didn't do much in the way of affecting change. Talk is cheap. And we were really cheap! I've been down. I've been out. And I've discovered that when you hit bottom you're not necessarily done. There are always new lows you knew nothing about standing ready to show you firsthand, "Here we are!" The myth is persuasive. Wrong, but persuasive. Like all the deep fakes that infiltrate our brain daily (if not hourly). We see stories and believe them to be true. Never mind that it's an illusion propped up behind some insecure, fear-filled idiot behind a keyboard who has less of a…
Apr 7, 2022
Giving Sorrow A Time Limit
As much as I'd love to be completely transparent, there's just so much that would be improper about it. So I'll give you the broad brush of it. There hasn't been a physical death, but the carnage is deep and vast. It's personal. It's family. And it's been going on a long, long time. A slide. An erosion. Lots of pain. Lots of suffering. Lots of preoccupation with the loss. But no control because we can't (nor should we) control other people. I rounded the corner of closing out February 2022, realizing that sorrow and grief have preoccupied me for going on four years. Fact is, I've been grieving for many, many months, but something happened (I don't know what) and one day I decided to draw the proverbial line in the sand. "April is going to be the month I fully devote to my grief, then I'm going to emerge with a new - albeit less whole - normal." Well, life gets in the way. Even of planned grieving. Sorrow and grief are odd things. They impact us in unique ways to us. Processing emot…
Apr 6, 2022
Should We Intentionally Remain Naive?
Wednesday, April 6, 2022. An update sparked by recent random thoughts. Consider this a bonus/special episode 'cause it was completely unplanned...until I watched a YouTube live stream of a governing body meeting where people seemed largely driven by...well, I'm not sure what drove them. Suffice to say, the behavior wasn't exactly exemplary. ;) Enjoy!
Mar 31, 2022
How Much Do You Care About What Others Think?
Do you worry about impressing people? How much do you worry about it? There's a balance, don't you think? A healthy balance seems necessary. Too far in one direction and you're self-absorbed. Too far in the other direction and you're fearful to do anything. Let's talk about it and think about how we may be able to lean more into wisdom...and further away from our own foolishness. Thank you for listening.
Mar 28, 2022
Story & Inner Narrative (Pursuing A Better Outcome)
Monday, March 28, 2022. I don't feel well. At all. But sometimes you just have to talk through some things. So welcome to my efforts to talk through it today. I didn't plan this as a special episode, but here it is - a show released on Monday. Don't get accustomed to it.
Mar 24, 2022
4 Ways To Wreck (or weaken) Your Marriage
When I began working as a teenager, I quickly realized most of my learning was going to be in reverse. I learned how not to do things by seeing them done poorly. The tyrannical boss taught me what not to do if I wanted to pursue high performance. It would be many years later, mostly by books at first, then by using life as my own laboratory before I'd learn things in a more positive fashion. This formula works effectively in lots of areas. For instance, you can ask somebody what they want and deal with lots of hesitation as they attempt to figure it out. Or, you ask them what they don't want and instantly get a lengthy answer. Turns out we can more easily identify what we don't want. Or things we hate. Or things we know won't work. That's why I decided to craft today's show by looking at the negative. By looking at marriage in reverse rather than leaning into a more positive approach. I suspect we'll all be able to flip the script during the episode and figure out how we might be abl…
Mar 17, 2022
The High Price Of Tyranny
“If ye love wealth better than liberty, the tranquility of servitude better than the animating contest of freedom, go home from us in peace. We ask not your counsels or arms. Crouch down and lick the hands which feed you. May your chains set lightly upon you, and may posterity forget that ye were our countrymen.” ― Samuel Adams Tyranny costs everybody, including the tyrant. Let's talk about it. The video I refer to is around the 20-minute mark in the overall video above. Here's the link to the playlist I mention: In Thy Paths
Mar 10, 2022
Distractions Are The Enemy Of Greatness
Simplicity helps. Let's define "greatness" as success. You can establish that for yourself, and define it however you'd like. For me, it's about being extraordinary, remarkable, and dazzling. And as far as enemies go...well, it'd be nice if there were only one - distractions - but there are many. No sooner do we overcome one, than like a hydra - 8 more pop up, but distractions encompass a ton of them. Complacency encompasses a ton more and I might be able to argue that complacency is a distraction, too. Everybody wants to change the world, but nobody thinks about changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy I'd make a small edit to that. Everybody wants to change their world - their outcome - but they may not be willing to change themselves. In short, most of us want a different outcome without having to alter anything we do. We'd prefer to keep doing what we're most comfortable doing hoping our outcomes will magically improve. They won't. They don't. You know me, I'm a phrase guy. A word…
Mar 3, 2022
Thinking Of Yourself As An Old Man (some questions you ask)
Psalm 37:25 "I have been young, and now am old; Yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, Nor his seed begging bread." I wrote it down in 2014. I'm not going to do it justice today, but it's what's on my mind. Kinda sorta. Mostly, I'm gonna scatter-shoot a bit by sharing the kinds of questions I continue to get. Hint: they've not changed much through the past 20 plus years that I've been doing this podcast. I think I'll have to revisit this title and do a much better job later! P.S. I found the page that does have some affiliate links, etc. It's HERE.