EP. 7: Friendable
23 min

Show Summary:

How would you describe the perfect friend? Have you ever thought to ask yourself, “Am I friendable?” In this week’s episode of God Hears Her, Elisa and Eryn share tips and experiences that can help us find, and become, better friends. 

Notes and Quotes: 

  • Regarding friendship: “I think instead of looking for that 24-7, I think we need to learn to be it. I call that being friendable—that I am open to a friend by being a friend to others.”
  • Friend tip: You have to know your own story.
  • Asking other people their story. Use the elevator analogy when asking someone their story. Get in the elevator, but allow them to choose what floor they are going to. Instead of pushing and probing, let it be open-ended and allow the person you asked to decide what floor, or level, they would like to get off at.
  • Let the vulnerability lay in the lap of the person you are trying to befriend.
  • Kill the competition. Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you can be happy and confident in what God is doing in your life instead of comparing your life to what He’s doing in the lives of others. 
  • Be open to finding friends in unexpected places. 
  • “We are wired for connection and friendship; and I think that God listens, and He wants to provide us friends that can meet us there.”
  • Don’t be afraid to ask God, “Hey, will you bring me a friend?” or “Hey, will you make me more friendable?”
  • “I think there is something different that God has provided for us by providing Jesus. It is a kind of a friendship—it’s a spiritual friendship—but it’s a companion.”
  • Leaning into God (in the areas we look for fulfillment from a friend) can protect our friendships and in turn make us closer friends with God.



Jesus Calling: Stories of Faith
Jesus Calling: Stories of Faith
Sarah Young
Painful Endings and New Beginnings: Zim Flores & Kayla Stoecklein
Have you ever experienced the pain of reaching the end of something you loved—a relationship, a job, a phase of life? Looking back, how was God able to lead you from that loss into a new chapter? Entrepreneur and author Zim Flores is familiar with the pain of letting go. A few years ago, she gave up her highly successful company, Travel Noire, because she felt God calling her to move to a new place. Looking back, Zim can see how God worked all things together for her good, which she talks about in her new book called Dare to Bloom. Mental health advocate Kayla Stoecklein experienced the tragic loss of her young husband to suicide, just as he was hitting his stride as the lead pastor of a large church in California. Reeling from her new life as a widow with three young boys, Kayla began to reexamine the way she thought about mental health, and God helped Kayla use her story to begin helpful and healing conversations around this issue. Links, Products, and Resources Mentioned: Jesus Calling Podcast Jesus Calling book Other Interview of Interest: Brett Swayn Upcoming interview: Mike Weaver of Big Daddy Weave Zim Flores New book: Dare to Bloom Travel Noire Biafran War Mayo Clinic Bangalore John 15 Kayla Stoecklein New book: Fear Gone Wild Vanguard University Inland Hills Church Godsgotthis.com National Suicide Prevention Interview Quotes: “I don't think that it should be something that is a rarity for women and men of God to talk about God in a way that inspires people to think a little bit differently about God in their own lives.” - Zim Flores “I would say that my time in India being away from everything that I knew, everybody that I knew, speaking a different language completely, that was where my faith in God was strengthened.” - Zim Flores “Your sacrifice unto God is not for naught. He will honor that sacrifice, whether it is tomorrow, whether it's next month, whether it's five months or a year from now. God always makes good on His promises.” - Zim Flores “I am an open vessel. I think the best thing that we can be for God is available.” - Zim Flores “I believed with enough prayer that God would intervene, that God would save [Andrew]. I was willing to do whatever it took to beg God for that miracle, and we didn't get that miracle.” - Kayla Stoecklein “Oftentimes there's so much shame and stigma with that word suicide. I think oftentimes the family that's left in the shrapnel is afraid to say that word, is afraid to admit that it was a suicide and tries to hide it up or tries to cover it or thinks it's their fault. And I knew right away that it wasn't anybody's fault.” - Kayla Stoecklein “God was on the move and He handed me this microphone, and I couldn't look away. And so I kept sharing and I really, truly felt the presence of God like I had never felt in my entire life.” - Kayla Stoecklein “We serve a God that can squeeze so much purpose out of our pain and that can turn really horrible, horrific, ugly things into beautiful redemption stories for others.” - Kayla Stoecklein ________________________ Enjoy watching these additional videos from Jesus Calling YouTube channel: Audio Playlist: https://bit.ly/2PrbuwH Video Playlist: https://bit.ly/2PsmEkJ What’s Good? Playlist: https://bit.ly/3i7VUlZ ________________________ Connect with Jesus Calling Instagram Facebook Twitter Pinterest YouTube Jesus Calling Website
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