264: Premature Ejaculation - How to Last Longer
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Premature ejaculation is very common, but also very treatable. It can be caused by a number of things such as performance anxiety, biological factors, early experiences with sexuality, or relationship issues. Sometimes it is related to the way that boys learned to masturbate "quickly" in their teenage years. Both men and women tend to have control over masturbating, but the body can be triggered too early with excitement or fear during intercourse.

Things like pornography set up unrealistic expectations for sex and how long it lasts. When in reality, the average intercourse is about 8 minutes! Premature ejaculation averages about 1 minute. This can create certain expectations that men have for themselves which results in pressure and anxiety. This anxiety is often the reason for early climax. With sex, there can too much focus on orgasm, and not enough on intimacy! Being present and focusing on a deeper connection can help.

In this week's episode, we'll talk about ways to overcome this problem!

Sexology
Sexology
Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
EP218 - Why is Sex Important in a Relationship? with August McLaughlin
Welcome to episode 218 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode August speaks with me about sexual connections in long term relationships, accessing your sexual power and ways in which we can discover our sexual values. August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist, media personality, author of Girl Boner and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which has been compared to “Sex in the City” meets NPR’s “Fresh Air.” Her articles and expertise have been featured in a range of publications including Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape and Bustle. Known for melding personal passion, artistry and activism, August uses her skills as a journalist and podcaster to encourage others to embrace their bodies, sexuality and selves, making way for fuller, more authentic lives. In this episode, you will hear: * How important is sexual connection a long-term relationship? * Understanding the good sex can take effort & planning * Ways in which we can discover our sexual values * Overcoming issues of resentment * Looking at issues of rejection * Learning to access your sexual power * How we can deal with things like negative body image * Sex frequency – Quality over quantity! * Exploring masturbation * How honest and open communication with your partner will improve your sex life * Why lube can be a great way to improve your sex life * Developing a mutual sexual plan that works for you and your partner Find August McLaughlin https://girlboner.org Be part of our sexual health research survey Take this survey so we can find out what topics you’d like us to cover in the future: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/L993Z2M Find Dr. Moali online http://www.sexologypodcast.com Find me on social media https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care 25 Ways to Increase Desire https://oasis2care.com/opt-in If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio
37 min
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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56 min
Eat. Play. Sex.
Eat. Play. Sex.
Dr. Cat Meyer
Episode 94: Radical Authenticity in Dating, Lessons in Play, + Online Dating Profiles as Self-Marketing with Connell Barrett
Could your dating profile be the reason you aren’t scoring dates? Or maybe you’re under the impression that you have to present as “alpha” or “extraverted” in order to be desirable. Connell Barrett breaks our social programming with why radical authenticity is more attractive + successful in creating the love life you want. He gives us tips on how we can step into a more playful attitude + improve our confidence, even if there’s fear. In this episode you will hear: * Why your online dating profile sucks + how to step it up through a marketing perspective * How authenticity can be a powerful tool for “scoring the date” (and why we believe it won’t) * Strategies for getting out of the “not enough” trap + rebuilding your self-confidence * Overcoming the fear of rejection + how changing your relationship to rejection can make you more invincible * Stepping into “playfulness” for greater attraction + changing the game of dating * Mental hacks to keep you SANE in the dating world * The myth of the “alpha male” + how this belief is hurting our outcome in dating * What Dr Cat believes is the HOTTEST statement one could make * Connell’s personal experiences around dating + why taking a risk to be bold + “just going for what you want” is the sexiest Connell Barrett even answers some of our audience questions: * Tips on upgrading your experience on the dating apps + even meeting people outside of them * Get out of the FRIENDZONE THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Dating coach Connell Barrett has one mission: help men defeat loneliness and attract their soulmates, as their most authentic, confident selves. The founder of Dating Transformation and a coach with The League dating app, Connell spent years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts. Connell’s next project? Showing men a new way to date with his forthcoming book, _Dating Sucks But You Don’t_, the complete dating guide for men in the #MeToo era, to be published in May by Simon & Schuster. Find out more about him here: _https://datingtransformation.com_ Follow Connell on instagram @datingtransformation or join his facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtobeyourbestself/ Links from the show: Uberlube: Use code EPS10 for 10% off my favorite silky lube. Get a free sampler pack of LMNT electrolyte drink packets: _drinklmnt.com/DRCAT_ Join us February 21st 2021 for my workshop with Adam Roa: Creating Chemistry Get your ticket here: _https://thecreatecommunity.com/collections/event-tickets/products/creating-chemistry_ Want more? Connect with your body + access your inner sex kitten: _https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/skf_ Check out SexLoveYoga.com and EatPlaySex.com for more juicy articles, guides, erotic audio stories, + more! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/eatplaysex/message
57 min
Shameless Sex
Shameless Sex
Amy Baldwin and April Lampert| Pleasure Podcasts
#212 Penis Shame: Size, Look and Performance - With Soleiman Bolour
Why do so many people feel shame about the size or look of their cock? What is the truth when it comes to penis size and pleasure during penetrative sex? And what are some important tools for overcoming shame and embarrassment about penis size? We also answer a sex question about herpes. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18. About our guest: Soleiman Bolour is a Men’s Neo Tantra and Mindset coach. Soleiman weaves his studies of sacred sexuality, psychology, and NLP to bring transformation to the men he coaches. He help’s men bring back purpose and possibility into their lives so that they can live the life of their dreams. To learn more visit ecstaticfreedom.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off delicious, organic, ready to eat meals with code SHAMELESS at sakara.com/shameless Get 15% off of some of our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast
55 min
Good Girls Talk About Sex
Good Girls Talk About Sex
Leah Carey
I thought my vagina was broken - Stephanie
Stephanie shares how childhood shame about feeling good in her body led to an eating disorder. She talks about how the eating disorder affected her ability to relate with sexual partners, including her now-husband. Healing the eating disorder has allowed her to begin relating in a new way with her body and her husband. Bookmark moments: 2:37 - Stephanie shares her first memory of sexual play at age 5 or 6, accidentally discovering that rubbing her genitals felt good. The adults around her shamed her, leading her to believe masturbation was a terrible secret. 8:20 - Shame compounds to feeling that her vagina is broken. 11:45 - Stephanie describes a “good girl” upbringing, and being behind her peers in sexual experimentation. 14:55 - An eating disorder manifests in her life. 19:57 - What trauma, even/especially when we don’t label it as such, can look like. 24:31 - Stephanie hits a rock bottom with her eating disorder in college, and rebounds into a new willingness to try sex finally. 28:53 - She meets her husband, who makes her feel safe enough to begin to be present in her body during sex. She experiences her first real pleasure. 35:55 - Stephanie elaborates the myriad ways her eating disorder impacts their sexual relationship. 44:19 - PJ Parties for Grownups! 47:06 - While the sex is great in her marriage, Stephanie questions the kissing, and she and Leah go on a deep-dive about embodiment. The Lowdown (54:08) Have you ever felt a sexual urge that confused you? The Patreon extras for this episode are: This week at Patreon we have an extra THIRTY MINUTES of conversation with Stephanie! She talks about how food stood in as a replacement for physical touch earlier in her life, and how having kids has changed her relationship with her body and her sexuality. And also how having kids pushed her to address her eating disorder in a new way. And, of course, there’s the extended Lowdown Q&A. As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE! They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person! Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak
58 min
The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice
The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice
Sean Jameson
#47 How To Have Sex Every Day with Caitlin & Michael Doemner
Today on the podcast we welcome Caitlin and Michael Doemner, authors of Sex Every Day, who are sharing with us some hands-on tips for enjoying sexual intimacy on a daily basis, regardless of busy schedules, kids and periods.   They talk about their three-step strategy for practicing frequent intimacy, including how you can communicate your sexual desires in a fun way and what you can do to ensure that both you and your partner are always satisfied. Before you think all of this is unattainable for you as a parent of young kids, hang on a minute! They have four kids of their own and advise you on overcoming the logistics of having regular sex with a house full of small children.   Key Points From This Episode   * The interesting story of how Caitlin and Michael got together. * Why sleeping naked is such a natural and effective way to restore intimacy in a relationship. * How the menu metaphor can be used to communicate and express sexual needs. * The importance of being open to both give and receive. * What you can do to maintain intimacy with your partner throughout the day. * A quick review of the five love languages and what they each entail. * Why it is important for couples to prioritize a woman’s pleasure. * What couples with kids can practically do to preserve their intimacy and privacy. * Why a period should not be stopping you from giving and receiving uninterrupted pleasure. * And much more!   Tweetables   “It's really hard to be angry with somebody when you're laying full body contact naked with them and in bed.” [0:04:49]   “The intimacy and the passion, it doesn’t have to be intercourse …there's a lot of different ways that we can please our partners.” [0:19:45]   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode   Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter Sex Every Day: How to Prioritize Pleasure in your Marriage — http://www.lulu.com/shop/michael-and-caitlin-doemner/sex-every-day-how-to-prioritize-pleasure-in-your-marriage/hardcover/product-23974387.html The Five Love Languages on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X Pussy: A Reclamation on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Pussy-Reclamation-Regena-Thomashauer/dp/1401950264/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=pussy%3A+a+reclamation&qid=1555401985&s=books&sr=1-1-fkmrnull Sex Every Day Website — https://www.sexeverydaybook.com/homepage25989259 Sex Every Day on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/QuotidianCoitus/
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