266: Anxiety is a Sex Killer - Gain Confidence with Playfulness
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Have you lost your confidence in bed? Anxiety is a sex killer. Whether it’s anxiety over your performance, being vulnerable, being naked, expectations of yourself, or of what sex is supposed to be like… any of these might interfere with pleasure, communication, self-esteem, and connection.  

This week, EFTers, Trainer Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D. and Supervisor Michael Moran, LCSW, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, CST join George and Laurie to talk about how playfulness is the antidote to anxiety when making love!

Join us, as four sex therapists&couples counselors share how to start with a light, playful mood to shift the energy. Breathe and be powerful in overcoming any root of anxiety in bed. Can’t beat the fun or experience present in this episode as these two experts teach and tell their stories about helping couples change their sexperience from fear to confidence.

Sexology
Sexology
Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
EP218 - Why is Sex Important in a Relationship? with August McLaughlin
Welcome to episode 218 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode August speaks with me about sexual connections in long term relationships, accessing your sexual power and ways in which we can discover our sexual values. August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist, media personality, author of Girl Boner and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which has been compared to “Sex in the City” meets NPR’s “Fresh Air.” Her articles and expertise have been featured in a range of publications including Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape and Bustle. Known for melding personal passion, artistry and activism, August uses her skills as a journalist and podcaster to encourage others to embrace their bodies, sexuality and selves, making way for fuller, more authentic lives. In this episode, you will hear: * How important is sexual connection a long-term relationship? * Understanding the good sex can take effort & planning * Ways in which we can discover our sexual values * Overcoming issues of resentment * Looking at issues of rejection * Learning to access your sexual power * How we can deal with things like negative body image * Sex frequency – Quality over quantity! * Exploring masturbation * How honest and open communication with your partner will improve your sex life * Why lube can be a great way to improve your sex life * Developing a mutual sexual plan that works for you and your partner Find August McLaughlin https://girlboner.org Be part of our sexual health research survey Take this survey so we can find out what topics you’d like us to cover in the future: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/L993Z2M Find Dr. Moali online http://www.sexologypodcast.com Find me on social media https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care 25 Ways to Increase Desire https://oasis2care.com/opt-in If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio
37 min
Good Girls Talk About Sex
Good Girls Talk About Sex
Leah Carey
I think I had a crush on a woman - Coaching Caitlin
Leah shares a coaching session with client Caitlin to give us an in-depth experience of what coaching looks and feels like. Caitlin is divorced and currently in a friends-with-benefits heterosexual relationship. She and Leah had discussed fantasies and BDSM in previous private sessions; here they focus on Caitlin’s new (or perhaps not new?) sexual attraction to women, and how she might begin to explore that in real life. Bookmark moments: * 2:15 - Leah explains what coaching does—and doesn’t—involve. She introduces Caitlin, the coach-ee! * 4:44 - Caitlin catches Leah up on a big realization she’s had since their last coaching sessions: she’s sexually curious about women too. * 10:21 - Leah helps Caitlin hone in on whether her attraction to women is a leftover effect of our hyper-sexualized-female-form-loving culture, or a deeper sexual attraction. * 14:40 - The conversation turns to fantasies; they’re a great way to safely explore new thoughts and desires. Erotica is another. * 16:51 - What “pansexual” means. * 19:31 - Dating women can feel new to women. Leah assures Caitlin that the rules are basically the same: “Don’t be an asshole.” Also, exploring sex with a new-to-you gender can feel like a second puberty. * 23:34 - When navigating COVID risks with dating apps, be clear up front about your risk tolerance and boundaries. * 26:55 - There are some sensitivities to know about for women who are new to dating women. Leah talks about bi vs lesbian. Also, there’s a difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction. * 33:40 - Threesomes can be a fun way to try sex with a woman, if approached with sensitivity. Leah recommends more resources. * 36:39 - They talk about how to find someone who wants to explore with you on the dating apps. * 40:30 - Leah talks more about what coaching looks and feels like, in solo and group options. Resources mentioned: * Erotica collections – I recommend the collections edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel * Literotica – A site featuring erotica submitted by primarily amateur writers. I love it because no matter what your interest or fetish is, someone is writing about it here. Because it’s all amateur, though, you may have to wade through a bunch of stories that are terribly written before you hit on one that tickles your fancy! Start by searching the tags for topics that interest you - https://tags.literotica.com (be aware that this site does show ads from porn sites so it is NSFW, but the pictures are generally not X-rated) Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE! They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person! Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak
45 min
Shameless Sex
Shameless Sex
Amy Baldwin and April Lampert| Pleasure Podcasts
#212 Penis Shame: Size, Look and Performance - With Soleiman Bolour
Why do so many people feel shame about the size or look of their cock? What is the truth when it comes to penis size and pleasure during penetrative sex? And what are some important tools for overcoming shame and embarrassment about penis size? We also answer a sex question about herpes. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18. About our guest: Soleiman Bolour is a Men’s Neo Tantra and Mindset coach. Soleiman weaves his studies of sacred sexuality, psychology, and NLP to bring transformation to the men he coaches. He help’s men bring back purpose and possibility into their lives so that they can live the life of their dreams. To learn more visit ecstaticfreedom.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off delicious, organic, ready to eat meals with code SHAMELESS at sakara.com/shameless Get 15% off of some of our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast
55 min
Eat. Play. Sex.
Eat. Play. Sex.
Dr. Cat Meyer
Episode 94: Radical Authenticity in Dating, Lessons in Play, + Online Dating Profiles as Self-Marketing with Connell Barrett
Could your dating profile be the reason you aren’t scoring dates? Or maybe you’re under the impression that you have to present as “alpha” or “extraverted” in order to be desirable. Connell Barrett breaks our social programming with why radical authenticity is more attractive + successful in creating the love life you want. He gives us tips on how we can step into a more playful attitude + improve our confidence, even if there’s fear. In this episode you will hear: * Why your online dating profile sucks + how to step it up through a marketing perspective * How authenticity can be a powerful tool for “scoring the date” (and why we believe it won’t) * Strategies for getting out of the “not enough” trap + rebuilding your self-confidence * Overcoming the fear of rejection + how changing your relationship to rejection can make you more invincible * Stepping into “playfulness” for greater attraction + changing the game of dating * Mental hacks to keep you SANE in the dating world * The myth of the “alpha male” + how this belief is hurting our outcome in dating * What Dr Cat believes is the HOTTEST statement one could make * Connell’s personal experiences around dating + why taking a risk to be bold + “just going for what you want” is the sexiest Connell Barrett even answers some of our audience questions: * Tips on upgrading your experience on the dating apps + even meeting people outside of them * Get out of the FRIENDZONE THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Dating coach Connell Barrett has one mission: help men defeat loneliness and attract their soulmates, as their most authentic, confident selves. The founder of Dating Transformation and a coach with The League dating app, Connell spent years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts. Connell’s next project? Showing men a new way to date with his forthcoming book, _Dating Sucks But You Don’t_, the complete dating guide for men in the #MeToo era, to be published in May by Simon & Schuster. Find out more about him here: _https://datingtransformation.com_ Follow Connell on instagram @datingtransformation or join his facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtobeyourbestself/ Links from the show: Uberlube: Use code EPS10 for 10% off my favorite silky lube. Get a free sampler pack of LMNT electrolyte drink packets: _drinklmnt.com/DRCAT_ Join us February 21st 2021 for my workshop with Adam Roa: Creating Chemistry Get your ticket here: _https://thecreatecommunity.com/collections/event-tickets/products/creating-chemistry_ Want more? Connect with your body + access your inner sex kitten: _https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/skf_ Check out SexLoveYoga.com and EatPlaySex.com for more juicy articles, guides, erotic audio stories, + more! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/eatplaysex/message
57 min
American Sex Podcast
American Sex Podcast
Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg | Pleasure Podcasts
Non-Monogamy & Therapy w/Dr. Liz Powell & Kevin Patterson - Ep 153
On ep 153 of American Sex Podcast, Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell talk about the complexities of both finding a therapist knowledgeable about non-normative lifestyles/identities and becoming a therapist who is. Learn why non-monogamous people shy away from therapy, questions to ask practitioners when searching, and how to handle a judgmental or uneducated health professional or coach. Find out if vanilla therapists can ever be a good fit for clients in alt lifestyles, why many therapists don’t divulge their personal experience with non-monogamy, if there’s professional credentialing to indicate a provider can work effectively with clients in these communities, and why censorship is making it more difficult for people to find polyamory and kink-friendly therapists. ____________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com --To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 153 Links * Unfuck Your Polyamory Courses for both clinicians and individuals https://unfuckyourpolyamory.com/?wpam_id=5 (professional weekend intensive coming up 2/20/21) * Dr. Liz Powell Twitter http://twitter.com/drlizpowell * Dr. Liz Powell Instagram http://instagram.com/drlizpowell * Dr. Liz Powell Website https://drlizpowell.com/ * Building Open Relationships http://buildingopenrelationsips * Kevin Patterson Twitter http://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels * Kevin Patterson Instagram http://instagram.com/PolyRoleModels * Poly Role Models https://polyrolemodels.tumblr.com/ * Love’s Not Color Blind Book Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/1944934464/ref=cm_sw_r_fa_dp_t2_DiNUzbMDAA9EW * Kink & Poly Aware Professional List from NCFS https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ * Polyamory Friendly Professionals List https://www.polyfriendly.org/ * Healthy Erotic Humiliation Class 2/24/21 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sanctuarys-the-course-hot-and-healthy-humiliation-by-sunny-megatron-tickets-138121642551 * American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp * American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast * American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 153 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info * $25 off and free shipping when you spend $100 or more at http://brooklinen.com with promo code SUNNY * Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com * 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts * Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation * Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html * 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) * 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY * 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY * 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout * At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01 * 15% off most items from Stockroom http://bit.ly/sunnystockroom with code SUNNY
1 hr 9 min
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Emma Austin
Five Finger Death Punch (Going Deep Into Fisting)
You'd honestly be surprised how much you can fit in there. This week on Pillow Talk, we go wrist deep into the world of fisting! Jake reveals his fist-fucking misconceptions and my less than ideal experiences being on the receiving end of it. We bust loose pussy myths, what it would take for me to fall in love with getting fisted, and we also bring up teabagging and tentacle dildos because why not? And we share a story about us having remote control sex (but not the fun Lovense kind). If you want to get some girth in your life, try out King Cock Dildos. They look and feel highly realistic and come in some very massive sizes. Get them from Betty's Toy Box and use the code LOVEEMMA to save 10% on your entire order! And if you want to watch some lesbian fisting in action, check out Fister Twister on Adult Time! LOVEEMMA saves you 20% on a 30 day membership! *Relevant links: * * Proxy Paige & Lexi Donna (Fister Twister Trailer) * My massive King Cock Dildo (15 inches long, 9 inches in girth!) * Insatiable Emily Willis Wants Dick AND Balls in Her Teen Ass (PervCity trailer) *** *Want to become one of our Friends With Benefits? *Check out the Pillow Talk Patreon for bonus episodes and exclusive updates! *** *If listening to this inspired you to get sexy, check out some of my affiliate links*. These are sites and services that I've used and personally recommend.  If you click on one and sign up or make a purchase, I earn a small commission (at no additional cost to you) and you will be supporting the podcast: * Lovense (for the right kind of remote control sex!) * Fleshlight (for top-notch strokers that will take jerking off to the next level) * Nubiles Porn (for tons of high-quality playful, cheeky, silly porn) *** * I write about sex and relationships here: https://medium.com/@emma.austin.writer * And on my personal blog: https://www.loveemmaaustin.com/  * Follow me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/EmmaAus27418832  * Check me out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveemmaaustin/ * Subscribe to my newsletter for updates and free access to my Medium posts: https://emmaaustin.substack.com/p/welcome-to-my-newsletter * Follow Mr. Austin on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MisterAustin1 * Business or other inquiries: mister.j.austin@gmail.com ***  Music from https://filmmusic.io "Deadly Roulette" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Support the show (https://www.loveemmaaustin.com/support-my-work)
46 min
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Episode 23: Chemical Romance - How Drugs Can Help Us Fall In Love And Move On After Breakup
Imagine there was a drug you could take to enhance your relationship or deepen your connection with your partner. Or a drug that could get rid of romantic jealousy. Or a drug that could help you move on faster after a traumatic breakup. This isn’t science fiction—these drugs are out there, and they just might be the future of falling in and out of love. For this episode, I interviewed Brian Earp, who is the Associate Director of the Yale-Hastings Program in Ethics and Health Policy at Yale University and The Hastings Center. He is also a Research Fellow in the Uehiro Centre for Practical Ethics at the University of Oxford and author of the book Love Drugs: The Chemical Future of Relationships. Questions we answer include: What is love? And what is the biochemical basis for it? How can MDMA (the active ingredient in ecstasy) help struggling partners? Could it (and should it) play a role in couple’s therapy? What does jealousy have in common with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)? And can common OCD treatments help people to get rid of pathological jealousy in relationships? How do you maintain your authentic self if you’re using drugs to facilitate connections with a partner? How can drugs help us to get over bad breakups? What are the implications of numbing ourselves to relationship trauma? Can drugs help people who are in love with an abusive partner to break the bond and exit a toxic situation? Should drugs be used to regulate “deviant” sexual desires and “hypersexual” behavior? Will drugs be used to impose a certain sexual or relationship morality on people? What are the ethical implications of all of this? To learn more about Brian and his work, follow him on Twitter @briandavidearp Follow Dr. Lehmiller on Twitter @JustinLehmiller or Instagram @JustinJLehmiller. To stay up-to-date on the latest sex research and tips, check out https://sexandpsychology.com
57 min
Strictly Anonymous
Strictly Anonymous
The Laugh Button
376 - Jim's Wife Hooks Up with her Booty Call and Jay is No Longer a Sex Addict
Bonus Double episode! Jim calls in to talk all about his wife's recent hook up with her long term boyfriend/booty call. Where exactly did they meet up? What exactly did they do together? And how did the experience make Jim feel? Tune in to find out plus hear all about why shaving his wife's p***y is one of his favorite forms of foreplay, the other crazy s-e-x experiences she has had with her "boyfriend," how she "punished" him for being late, the toy she brought along with her and why she brought it, how he loves being a cuckold, what cuckolding actually means, the "big" toy she brought along and a whole lot more. PLUS Jay the sex addict calls in to talk all about how he stopped his addiction. What exactly did he do when he was a sex addict? How did he quit his addiction? How has being "sober" changed his life? Tune in to find out plus hear all about who he used to sleep with behind his wife's back, how his sex life with his wife was before he stopped cheating and how it is now, how caving in and finding a therapist really changed his life plus a whole lot more.  For extra content and early access to the show, become a Patreon member at https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClVFROTaiguy_FSB1L_v8hw Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@strictlyanonymousconfess?lang=en Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/strictlyanonymouspodcast/ Website http://strictlyanonymouspodcast.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1 hr 44 min
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