Selena Gomez ON: Befriending Your Inner-Critic & How to Speak to Yourself With More Compassion
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Today, I am talking to a good friend and celebrity, Selena Gomez. Selena is a globally and culturally celebrated artist, actor, producer, entrepreneur, and philanthropist of her generation. As a recording artist, Selena has sold more than 210 million singles worldwide and has over 45 billion global streams. Her upcoming biographical documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me, is out right now. In 2019, she launched her beauty line, Rare Beauty, exclusively with Sephora. As part of the partnership, Selena announced the Rare Impact Fund pledging to raise $100M for mental health services for individuals in underserved communities. Philanthropy and activism have been key pillars of her career and she's used her platform to advocate for many important causes. Selena has raised millions of dollars for charity including Global Citizen and Lupus Research Alliance.   

Selena bravely tells her story about her long battle with mental health and how this led to her life mission to help spread mental health awareness around the world and provide mental health services for the less privileged. I get to deeply understand her inner thoughts on topics such as dealing with pressure of being a celebrity and the gossip that comes with it, finding self healing, embracing change, being one with your inner self, and living day by day being content, kind, and full of love to share. 

Life isn’t a simple journey, but despite the complications, challenges, and struggles, we can always find it in our hearts to tap into our inner good and be compassionate, especially to ourselves.   

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00:00 Intro
  • 00:04:21 Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary
  • 00:06:59 Sharing our darkest secrets with others
  • 00:10:04 Befriending your own inner critic
  • 00:13:39 Learning to be more compassionate towards yourself and others
  • 00:18:59 Taking control of your own story
  • 00:26:04 Getting asked frustrating questions
  • 00:24:39 No one is perfect, even celebrities
  • 00:27:40 How do you deal with imperfections?
  • 00:33:03 Areas in your life that made you who you are
  • 00:35:07 Embracing change
  • 00:39:36 Mental health awareness
  • 00:43:59 You have to be aware of people
  • 00:48:10 How do you deal with fears?
  • 00:51:23 What is your intention?
  • 00:56:13 Sometimes parents project perfection around their children
  • 00:59:57 Pain, suffering, growth
  • 01:06:09 Wondermind - mental fitness
  • 01:09:30 You’ll figure it out, keep going
  • 01:12:18 Missteps parents may have taken
  • 01:23:07 Producing the series 13 Reasons Why
  • 01:27:50 Selena and Mandy on Final Five

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