How to Cope During a Pandemic with Dr. Bruce Perry
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On this timely episode, Dr. Bruce Perry joins the podcast to explore how we can limit the long-term impact of stressful events, and heal from past traumatic experiences. 

About Our Guest:  Dr. Bruce Perry is one of the world’s leading experts on childhood trauma, and his clinical research and practice focuses on examining the long-term effects of trauma in children, adolescents, and adults. He is the Senior Fellow of The ChildTrauma Academy, and the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog.

Key Topics:

1:15: Pandemic fatigue. 

4:45: Experiencing acute stressors alongside chronic stress. 

7:20: Practices to help yourself de-stress. 

11:30: The impact of stress on our ability to regulate ourselves.

13:30: How to limit the long-term impact of stressful events.

18:40: How we can explore traumatic material without re-traumatizing ourselves.

23:30: Avoiding helplessness, and experiencing control and agency. 

25:30: Dissociation as a coping response.

31:00: Disruptions of attunement. 

36:00: Caregiver fatigue, and caring for ourselves. 

41:30: The pandemic’s impact on people who have been previously traumatized.

44:00: A wish for the future. 

46:00: Recap

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The One You Feed
Eric Zimmer|Wondery
376: Adrienne Bankert on How to Choose Kindness
Adrienne Bankert is an Emmy award-winning national news correspondent for ABC News, covering some of the most historic headlines of the past decade. She calls herself a “tour guide” – coaching and mentoring, teaching and speaking across the U.S. Her new book is called, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone.  In this episode, Eric and Adrienne talk about what it means to be kind – how to practice it, cultivate it within yourself, and how it can serve as your beacon and guide no matter the circumstances that come your way. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Adrienne Bankert and I discuss How to Choose Kindness and… * Her book, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone * How helping others discover their purpose can also help you discover your own * That kindness helps us turn away from self-focus and towards a focus on the needs of others  * The way kindness can be at the core of our identity * Choosing kindness even when you don’t feel it * How to grow in kindness * Ways to respond kindly to people who are unkind to you * Her favorite stories of kindness * That kindness can be an anchor to us when we’re struggling or lost * Practical ways to practice kindness Adrienne Bankert Links: Instagram Twitter Facebook Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership. FitTrack Dara Smart Scale: It accurately measures 17 vital health metrics including body composition, hydration levels, and so much more. Stop measuring weight and start measuring health with FitTrack. Go to www.getfittrack.com/wolf to get 50% off your order – plus! for a limited time, you’ll save an additional 30% with code BUILD30 at checkout!  Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   If you enjoyed this conversation with Adrienne Bankert on How to Choose Kindness, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Donna Cameron on Kindness Shauna Shapiro
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Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
David Burns, MD
230: Secrets of Self-Esteem—What is it? How do I get it? How can I get rid of it once I’ve got it? And more, on Ask David!
* Ask David: Questions on self-esteem, recovery from PTSD, dating people with Borderline Personality Disorder, recovery on your own, and more! Jay asks: * Is psychotherapy homework still required if you’ve recovered completely from depression in a single, extended therapy session? * Is Ten Days to Self-Esteem better than the single chapter on this topic in Feeling Good? * Are people who were abused emotionally when growing up more likely to get involved with narcissistic or borderline individuals later in life because the relationship is “familiar?” * Many patients can read your books and do the exercises and recover on their own. Is a teacher or coach sometimes needed to speed things up? * Is it possible for a person to become happy WITHOUT needing anyone else if they have had depression in past and/or PTSD? * Also, how would Team-CBT address treating PTSD? PTSD can involve a person having multiple traumas. * * * * Is psychotherapy homework still required if you’ve recovered completely from depression in a single, extended therapy session? Thanks, Jay, I will make this an Ask david, if that is okay, but here is my quick response. Although many folks now show dramatic changes in a single, two-hour therapy session, they will still have to do homework to cement those gains, including: * Listening to or watching the recording of the session * Finish on paper any Daily Mood Log that was done primarily in role-playing during the session. In other words, write the Positive thoughts, rate the belief, and re-rate the belief in the corresponding negative thought. * Use the Daily Mood Log in the future whenever you get upset and start to have negative thoughts again. * I also do Relapse Prevention Training following the initial dramatic recovery, and this takes about 30 minutes. I advise the patient that relapse, which I define as one minute or more of feeling crappy, is 100% certain, and that no human being can be happy all the time. We all hit bumps in the road from time to time. When they do relapse, their original negative thoughts will return, and they will need to use the same technique again that worked for them the first time they recovered. In addition, they will have certain predictable thoughts when they relapse, like “this proves that the therapy didn’t rally work,” or “this shows that I really am a hopeless case,” or worthless, etc. I have them record a role-play challenging these thoughts with the Externalization of Voices, and do not discharge them until they can knock all these thoughts out of the park. I tell them to save the recording, and play it if they need it when they relapse. I also tell them that if they can’t handle the relapse, I’ll be glad to give them a tune up any time they need it. I rarely hear from them again, which is sad, actually, since I have developed a fondness for nearly all the patients I’ve ever treated. But I’d rather lose them quickly to recovery, than work with them endlessly because they’re not making progress! People with Relationship Problems recover more slowly than individuals with depression or anxiety for at least three reasons, and can rarely or never be treated effectively in a single two-hour session: * The outcome and process resistance to change in people with troubled relationships is typically way more intense. * It takes tremendous commitment and practice to get good at the five secrets of effective communication, in the same way that learning to play piano beautifully takes much commitment and practice. * Resolving relationship conflicts usually requires the death of the “self” or “ego,” and that can be painful. That’s why the Disarming Technique can be so hard for most people to learn, and many don’t even want to learn it, thinking that self-defense and arguing and fighting back is the best road to travel! * * * * Is Ten Days to Self-Esteem better than the single chapter on this topic in Feeling Good? Yes, Ten Days to Self-Esteem would likely be a deeper dive into the topic of Self-Esteem. It is a ten-step program that can be used in groups or individually in therapy, or as a self-help tool. There is a Leader’s Manual, too, for those who want to develop groups based on it. * * * * Are people who were abused emotionally when growing up more likely to get involved with narcissistic or borderline individuals later in life because the relationship is “familiar?” I was involved with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder, and it was exhausting! Why was I attracted to her? Thank you for the question, Jay. 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I do quite a lot of data analysis using a sophisticated statistical modeling program called AMOS (the Analysis of Moment Structures) created by Dr. James Arbuckle from Temple University in Philadelphia, someone I admire tremendously. This program does something called structural equation modeling. In the typical analysis, the program tells you that your theory cannot possibly be true, based on your data. If you are brave, this can lead to radical changes in how you think and see things, especially if you are not “stuck” in your favored theories. But this type of analysis is not for the faint of heart. All the best, David Here is Jay’s follow-up email: HI Dr. Burns, As you know A LOT of people attribute their present problems (depression / anxiety / relationship conflicts / addictions) to their "abusive" or "toxic" relationship with their parents. 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I examined the causal relationships between depression on the one hand and troubled vs happy relationships with loved ones on the other hand in several hundred patients during the first 12 weeks of treatment at my clinical in Philadelphia, and published it in top psychology journal for clinical research. (will include link) That was because there were at the time two warring camps—those who said that a lack of loving and satisfying relationships causes depression, and those who said it was the other way around, that depression leads to troubled relationships. And the third group said it worked both ways. My study indicated that although troubled relationships were correlated with depression, there were NO causal links in either direction. Instead, the statistical models strongly hinted that an unobs…
47 min
Inside Mental Health: A Psych Central Podcast
Inside Mental Health: A Psych Central Podcast
Healthline Media
What Are Boundaries and Why Do They Matter?
Most people think they have good boundaries. But when pressed, they can’t often explain what their boundaries are — let alone maintain positive ones. Today’s guest, Nancy Kalina Gomez, explains that boundaries aren’t about being defensive or hostile. Healthy boundaries strengthen our ability to honor our needs and wants, showing the world how we expect to be treated. Gomez also discusses how to communicate those boundaries without offending our loved ones. Listen Now! Guest Information for 'What Are Boundaries' Podcast Episode Nancy Kalina Gomez is a bilingual professional with 25+ years of experience as a clinician. She earned a master's degree in clinical and counseling psychology from Teacher's College, Columbia University. Prior to that, she specialized in clinical psychology with adults/adolescents at The George Washington University where she completed the required academic coursework toward a PsyD. During her career, Nancy has worked in both programming and direct clinical services. She has treated clients from all over the world for issues surrounding abandonment, anxiety or panic, bipolar disorder, depression (clinical and situational), dual diagnosis, family conflicts, life transitions, personality disorders, and more. Nancy has created several webinars on various topics for Psych Central and World of Psychology. She currently helps clients through her website, CouchIssues. About the Inside Mental Health Podcast Host Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations, available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. To learn more about Gabe, please visit his website, gabehoward.com.
21 min
Anxiety Slayer™ with Shann and Ananga
Anxiety Slayer™ with Shann and Ananga
Shann Vander Leek & Ananga Sivyer
Anxiety does not discriminate with Glen Tanner
#529: Today Shann is speaking with Clinical Psychologist, Glen Tanner from Sydney Australia. Glen is the host of the Mindcog podcast where he interviews experts in the fields of psychology, neuroscience, wellbeing, and high performance to break down the science behind your mind, brain, and behavior. Glen is passionate about psychology, and it's his mission to help people reconnect with their values, achieve their goals, unlock their potential, and live more rich, meaningful and fulfilling lives. Glen has first-hand experience with Mental Health - having lived with anxiety most of his life. Unfortunately, anxiety does not discriminate. It cuts a swathe through every level and facet of our society: men, women, children, old, young, rich, poor, black, white, and all levels of physical and educational ability - Not even psychologists are immune. Show Notes: “The shoe that fits one person pinches the other, there is no recipe for living that suits all cases.” - Carl Jung Glen suffered from anxiety is entire life. Glen shares the story of his transition from a winemaker to a psychologist Why there is no quick- fix for an anxiety problem. It takes time and a combination of methods and lifestyle changes. -How Glen cared for himself after losing both his mother and father to lung cancer while he was completing his Psychology degree. Glen believes that therapists are not and do not need to be immune to mental illness. Listen to the Mindcog Podcast at www.themindcogpodcast.com/
30 min
Your Anxiety Toolkit
Your Anxiety Toolkit
Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT
Ep. 177: Does this Behavior Bring Me Closer to My Long Term Goals?
Welcome back to another episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast. Today I want to talk about a concept that is really important to long-term recovery or just life in general, which is this question: Does this bring me closer to my long term goals? Now, human beings are very reactionary. When there is an event, we quickly do a little data check in our brain. Is it safe? Can we proceed? Should we run away? Should we freeze? Should we just freak out? We have the whole process that happens in a millisecond, and then we respond. Now the fight-flight-freeze system of the brain keeps us alive. It’s a reaction we have to danger. So if there is a lion, we know to either freeze, run away or fight it. For those with an anxiety disorder, we often go into the fight-flight-freeze when there isn’t any real danger. The more we react, the more we enforce our fears and the more that we get stuck in a cycle of reaction. One of the most helpful things in life for me has been to step back and look at the cycle, look at the trends and ask myself, does this behavior, does this reaction bring me closer to my long term goals? If you can, just practice slowing down and pausing and saying to yourself “Wait a second. Is there a trend in my reaction?” I often say to my clients that my job is pretty simple. My job is to help you find the trends, find the patterns. If there is a pattern of reaction, that is where I intervene. I want you to be able to look at the patterns and the trends, and then decide for yourself what is good for you. We cannot live just in reaction because that is when we get stuck. So I want you to try asking yourself "Does this behavior bring me closer to my long term goals?" Remember to be gentle with yourselves and give yourselves a huge amount of self-compassion. If you get a moment, please go over to wherever you listen to podcasts, whether that be Apple Podcast, Stitcher, Spotify, Podbean, and leave an honest review. Tell me how you feel about it, whether it's helping you, what you'd like to see. We are going to give away a pair of Beats headphones of your choice of color once we hit a thousand reviews! ERP School, BFRB School and Mindfulness School for OCD are open for purchase. Click here for more information. Coming in March ERP School will be available with bonus material! Additional exciting news! ERP School is now CEU approved which means that it is an accredited course for therapists and mental health professionals to take towards their continuing education credit hours. Please click here for more information. Transcript Ep. 177 Welcome to Your Anxiety Toolkit. I’m your host, Kimberley Quinlan. This podcast is fueled by three main goals. The first goal is to provide you with some extra tools to help you manage your anxiety. Second goal, to inspire you. Anxiety doesn’t get to decide how you live your life. And number three, and I leave the best for last, is to provide you with one big, fat virtual hug, because experiencing anxiety ain’t easy. If that sounds good to you, let’s go. Welcome back, friends. I am so happy to have you with me. How are you doing? How are you all? Sending you so much love. Checking in with you. Hey, how are you doing friend? Number one, thank you for being my friends. It really, really is wonderful. Up to this point, let me just reflect on something really quick. When I first started creating the podcast, I would look at the microphone and just talk into the abyss. Just talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, say what I want to say, and get done. The cool thing is I was just reflecting on this before. Now that I have met quite a few of you at either conferences or events or on social media or on the Facebook group, which is CBT School Campus, you can go to it’s a private group, and I know your faces, now I have this wonderful experience where I can look into the microphone and actually see your faces. It’s been so fun to actually meet you guys and just be like, “Oh great.” I know I have another face. Hello, welcome. Thank you for being here. I know your time is so precious and I’m so grateful that I get to spend this time of yours together. Let’s get straight to the episode. In the last few episodes, these are building on each other. We talked about self-compassion. Last week, I talked about the lies we tell ourselves which, PS, was a really hard conversation. Ain’t going to lie. I hope that was a safe, healthy conversation. If you didn’t hear it, go back because it was me sharing my own experience of telling lies to myself and to my family, and really just breaking down the judgment around that. So, go back and listen. And me sharing with my family and with you guys about how I’m going to change. Now today, I want to talk about a concept that is really, really important to long-term recovery in or just life in general, which is this question: Does this bring me closer to my long-term goals? Now, human beings are very reactionary. This is why we have survived for millions of years. When there is an event, we quickly do a little data check in our brain. Is it safe? Can we proceed? Should we run away? Should we freeze? Should we just freak out? We have the whole process that happens in a millisecond, and then we respond. Now the fight-flight-freeze system of the brain, we call it the FFF response, is a part that keeps us alive. It’s a reaction we have to danger. So if there is a lion, we know to either freeze, run away or fight it. We instinctively know this. But what happens is, if we have an anxiety disorder or little glitchy in the brain, often what we do is we go into the fight-flight-freeze when there isn’t danger and we’re in reaction. And the more we’re in reaction, the more we enforce that fear and the more that we get stuck in a cycle of reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction, reaction. Now, one of the most helpful things in life for me has been to step back and look at the cycle, look at the trends and ask myself, does this behavior, does this reaction bring me closer to my long-term goals? There’s this moment where if we can, we can just practice slowing down and pausing. This will be really important for you, folks, who do compulsions on autopilot. Slow down and pause and zoom out and go, “Wait a second. Is there a trend in my reaction?” I often say to my clients and patients, “My job is pretty simple. My job is for you to tell me how you’re doing, for you to explain to me what’s going. My job is to find the trends, find the patterns. If there is a pattern of reaction, that’s where I intervene. If the reactor action is problematic, that’s where we intervene. If the reaction is really helpful and productive and brings you long-term joy and quality of life, I have no business messing up with that. I’m here to look at disorder.” That’s what disorder means, is to look at where there is a problem in the order of your life, to look at the trends. The question here I want you to do is, take a step back, look at the trends in your life and see what is and isn’t working, and ask yourself: Does this behavior bring me closer to my long-term goals or to my values? Last week, I shared about the lie that I told myself and my family about, “Oh, I have to work. I don’t have a choice. I have to work this hard.” And then I was like, “Wait a second. That’s a lie. I don’t have to work this hard. I make myself work this hard. I pushed myself to work this hard. I allow myself to work this hard.” I have to look and stop and go, “Okay, it’s cool. It’s fun. I get a lot done. I get a lot of fulfillment from it.” But if I step back and go, “Wait a second, does this bring me closer to my long-term goals?” some of it does. Yes, it helps me feel more fulfilled in my work. It gives me more success in my work. It makes me write a good book. But it doesn’t fulfill the long-term goal of me wanting to be a present parent, a good wife, have a c…
13 min
The Trauma Therapist
The Trauma Therapist
Guy Macpherson, PhD
Episode 508: Rick Boone, PhD. Healing The Hearts of Warriors
Dr. Rick Boone is the Warriors Heart Clinical Director a licensed Psychologist, who currently leads the clinical team at the first and ONLY private and accredited residential treatment center in the U.S. exclusively for "warriors", which includes active-duty military, veterans, first responders and EMTs/Paramedics. His team helps our frontline protectors overcome drug and alcohol addiction, PTSD, mild TBI, trauma, anxiety, depression and other co-occurring issues. Earlier in his career, Dr. Boone served for nearly 9 years in the US Navy/Army, where he had two deployments as an Army combat operational stress psychologist to Iraq, and later to Afghanistan. In 2009, he was employed by the Department of Defense as a Social Scientist with the Human Terrain Teams in the Kandahar and Logar provinces of Afghanistan. Dr. Boone completed his Ph.D. in a program that specialized in the integration of psychological science and Judeo-Christian theology at Biola University in California. Dr. Boone was born and raised in Gallipolis, OH in the southeastern Ohio River Valley, is an avid reader, and has four children ranging in ages from 11 to 37. *In This Episode* * Dr. Boone’s Website ( https://www.warriorsheart.com/about-us/staff/#clinical-team ) * The Gifts of Imperfection ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593133587/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=0593133587&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=780bea4c869aab6c5f4fdc1e4b8beb41&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) , Brene Brown Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
31 min
Therapy Chat
Therapy Chat
Laura Reagan, LCSW-C
265: Energy Healing, Psychospiritual Work + Somatic Psychology with Dr Andy Hahn
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45 min
Psychologists Off The Clock
Psychologists Off The Clock
Diana Hill, Debbie Sorensen, Yael Schonbrun & Jill Stoddard
186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab
Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, whether it is with someone you love or someone you dislike. Sticking with your boundaries once you set them, is also difficult. Relationship expert Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, has the insight and tools you need to set boundaries so that you can thrive. In this episode, Diana and Nedra discuss strategies to overcome barriers to boundary setting so that you can set boundaries and find peace today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Jill’s take on the importance of boundary setting Nedra’s expert definition of boundaries and explanation of how they impact mental healthThe science behind how setting healthy boundaries can provide peace and freedom from anxietyPractical advice on how to set boundaries with toxic individuals, narcissists, your parents, your in-laws, your children, and yourself!Barriers that might be affecting your ability to set a healthy boundaryWhat to do with the feeling of guilt when it shows up during the boundary-setting processNedra’s practical advice on how to be a clear communicator and set effective boundaries in particularly toxic dynamicsThe differences between a soft boundary and a rigid boundary (and when to be flexible with them!)What clear boundaries sound likeThe subtle differences between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and passivityNedra’s take on setting ultimatums (and why they aren’t always a bad thing)Why it’s important to set boundaries with your kids and how to teach them to set their own Nedra’s personal experience with boundaries and how setting them has changed her life Resources: Nedra’s book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Nedra’s website which has TONS of FREE resources including worksheets, a relationship quiz, a boundaries quiz, and Nedra's book recommendationsCheck out co-host Diana’s workshop, An Introduction to ACT: Growing Psychological Flexibility through Acceptance, Caring, and Tiny Daily Practices on February 28th from 2pm to 5pm Pacific Standard Time  About Nedra Tawwab: NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do the Thing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. Connect with Nedra Tawwab on Instagram @nedratawwab. Find out more about her book, here.  Related Episodes: Episode 98. Narcissism with Dr. Avigail Lev and Dr. Robyn Walser Episode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-LevinEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine
54 min
Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit
Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit
Dhru Purohit
#195: 5 Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Stress, and Toxic Thinking with Dr. Caroline Leaf
Toxic thoughts, depression, anxiety—our mental mess is frequently aggravated by a chaotic world and sustained by an inability to manage our runaway thoughts. While we can’t control the events and circumstances of life, we can learn to control our reactions, which help us deal with and manage the many challenges we face and will face in our life. So, how exactly do we do that? On today’s Broken Brain Podcast, our host Dhru talks to Dr. Caroline Leaf, a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist with a master’s and PhD in Communication Pathology, and a BSc in Logopedics, specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s, she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change with directed mind input. Dr. Leaf has helped hundreds of thousands of students and adults learn how to use their minds to detox and grow their brains to succeed in every area of their lives, including school, university, and the workplace through her theory called the Geodesic Information Processing Theory of how we think, build memory, and learn. Dr. Leaf’s podcast, Cleaning Up The Mental Mess, YouTube videos, and TV appearances have reached millions globally. She has been featured on Elle, TED, Bustle, Medium, Huffington Post, The O Magazine, Thrive Global, Something You Should Know, Getting Curious, and many other TV, radio, podcast, and print outlets.   In this episode, Dhru and Dr. Leaf talk about her five-step mind-management process, called Neurocycle, and how it helps to find and eliminate the root of anxiety, depression, and intrusive thoughts. They discuss how to apply mind-management to unwire toxic habits and trauma. They  also talk about how the way we manage our mind and our emotional state impacts our telomeres.    In this episode, we dive into:   -The power of vulnerability and authenticity (5:58) -Dr. Leaf’s family member’s suicide attempt (8:28)  -The 5-step Neurocycle mind-management system (12:02) -How to put boundaries around your true intentions (14:41) -How to cultivate awareness (16:05) -The main driving source of our longevity (29:06)  -The reconceptualization process (48:33)  -How to use the 5-step Neurocycle process during a disagreement (52:42)  -The 10-second pause exercise (58:18)  -Brain building and why it matters for our mental health (1:18:34)  -Dr. Leaf’s eating disorder and her recovery process (1:21:58) For more on Dr. Caroline you can follow her on Instagram @DrCarolineLeaf, Facebook @DrLeaf, on Twitter @DrCarolineLeaf, on YouTube @DrCarolineLeaf, and through her website https://drleaf.com/. Get her book, Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess: 5 Simple, Scientifically Proven Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Stress, and Toxic Thinking at https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com. Also mentioned in this episode: -Cleaning Up The Mental  Mess Podcast - http://podcast.drleaf.com/   -Switch App - https://theswitch.app/   -Free Neurocycle Workshop, February 27th from 12 - 1:30pm EST - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/neurocycle-workshop-with-dr-caroline-leaf-tickets-137609456589 For more on Dhru Purohit, be sure to follow him on Instagram @dhrupurohit, on Facebook @dhruxpurohit, on Twitter @dhrupurohit, and on YouTube @dhrupurohit. You can also text Dhru at (302) 200-5643 or click here https://my.community.com/dhrupurohit. Interested in joining Dhru’s Broken Brain Podcast Facebook Community? Submit your request to join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2819627591487473/. This episode is brought to you by the Pegan Shake. How you start your morning sets the tone for the day. I’m a huge fan of morning routines because I think they can transform your ability to focus, sleep well, and get the most out of your day, especially in this busy, modern world.  What I’ve found is that the best way to begin your day is to feed your body the right information or the right nutrients. That’s why Dhru and I created the Pegan Shake. It’s a nutritionally packed morning blend designed to support healthy blood sugar, energy, and brainpower.   It contains some of my most favorite brain-boosting foods like MCT and avocado. It also features acacia fiber for healthy gut function and collagen, pumpkin, and pea protein to support muscle synthesis. Check it out at getfarmacy.com/peganshake. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
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