Building Relationships That Last with Dr. Stan Tatkin
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Relationships are hard, and making them last is even harder. Today we’re exploring how we can be happier and healthier in all of our relationships with a wonderful clinician, teacher, and researcher: Dr. Stan Tatkin.

About our Guest: Dr. Stan Tatkin is an expert on human behavior, and particularly the unique dynamics found in couples relationships. He’s the creator of PACT: the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, and the author of six bestselling books, including Wired for Love and We Do.

Key Topics:

1:45: The importance of attachment. 

5:30: What happens when children are neglected?

9:00: Finding safety in our relationships.

13:30: How to build safety through physical cues. 

19:10: Apology, and building a culture in our relationships.

23:00: Finding common principles. 

31:00: Dealbreakers, and entering relationships intentionally.

37:00: Fairness in our relationships. 

45:30: Being and staying interested.

49:15: Trusting your partner’s experience. 

54:50: The most important characteristics in a life partner.

57:00: What’s the most important thing you do each day for your own well-being?

58:30: A message to your younger self.

1:00:00: Recap


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