Fight For Love
Fight For Love
Nov 24, 2020
48. In The Trenches With Tanya
Play • 35 min

Today we bring you the second of our 'In the Trenches' series with Tanya's inspirational walk of faith through the pain and rejection of a porn affected marriage.  

Awesome Marriage Podcast
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
3 Essential Ways to Connect with Your Kids and Create Positive Lasting Memories: Interview with Larry Hagner | Ep. 451
Today Dr. Kim talks to Larry Hagner of the Good Dad Project about how to really connect well with your kids. Larry developed the project out of his desire to better himself and become a better dad to his kids. The Good Dad Project empowers men to become the happiest, healthiest, and best version of themselves, and provides community with other men on the journey. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: * Check out The Good Dad Project for podcasts, resources, community and more. * Buy Larry’s book, The Dad’s Edge: 9 Simple Ways to Have: Unlimited Patience, Improved Relationships, and Positive Lasting Memories. * Whether this year was rocky or rose-tinted, use our Annual Marriage Check Up Guide to reflect on the year and prepare well for the next. It’s yours with a donation of any amount to the ministry of Awesome Marriage! * The Online Marriage Retreat is still available. Be intentional to grow your marriage by taking time to retreat and learn together. As a bonus for our listeners, we are offering 10% off with the code AWESOMEMARRIAGE10! * Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! * Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email or text here!
47 min
Taste for Truth - Weight Loss Encouragement
Taste for Truth - Weight Loss Encouragement
Barb Raveling
How to Stop Overeating in the Afternoon - 7 Tips
When I ask women what time of day they most often break their boundaries, I usually get one of two answers: either mid-afternoon or evening. Since I've already done a couple of podcast episodes on how to end evening eating, today I'd like to talk about how to stop overeating in the afternoon. Let's begin by looking at why this is a tempting time of day. Who struggles with afternoon eating? While anyone can struggle with overeating in the afternoon, here are the most common groups of people: * Stay-at-home moms * Homeschool moms * Retired people * People who work from home: entrepreneurs, writers, etc. * Homemakers I think the reason these groups struggle the most is because we're actually at home in the afternoon! Chances are good that people who work outside the home would love to start eating at 3:00 in the afternoon but their jobs prevent them from eating at that time. Although if you often pop down to the vending machine at work or in your college dorm around 3:00 in the afternoon, you know the struggle to stop overeating in the afternoon. Why do we feel like breaking boundaries in the afternoon? If we want to stop overeating in the afternoon, we need to first find out why we're tempted to eat in the afternoon. This will be different for everyone, and also different on each day of the week. You may find that you eat for all of the following reasons. Let's take a look at some of the reasons we're inclined to overeat in the afternoon. * We've already used up all our willpower for the day. In my interview with Drew Dyck on how to increase self-control on the Christian Habits Podcast, Drew said that we each have a limited supply of willpower. Towards the end of the day, that willpower starts to dwindle--so what we could have said no to in the morning, we may not have the strength to say no to in the afternoon. * We're bored. Often we've been busy all morning working or spending time with the kids and by mid-afternoon we're bored. We want some excitement in our lives! * We're physically tired. We may also be plain old tired and in need of a nap! The problem is that we're often either not in a situation where we can take a nap, or we're in a situation where we can take a nap but for whatever reason we don't do it. When that happens we feel like eating because we think a snack will perk us up. * We're tired of working. Sometimes we're not physically tired, we're just tired of working. Tired of always being on task and always responsible. If we don't feel like we can justify taking a break, we'll be tempted eat in rebellion. * We're emotional. If something happened earlier in the day to upset us and we didn't take the time to process our emotions, those emotions will keep getting bigger and bigger throughout the day. Soon they'll be so big, they'll spill out and cry, "Let's get something to eat! WE NEED A TREAT!!!!" That often happens around 3:00--and sometimes earlier! * We're procrastinating. Another reason we eat in the afternoon is because we've been procrastinating some terrible job all day and one of our best coping techniques for procrastination is to eat. Until we actually do that job, we'll probably feel like breaking our boundaries and eating. * We're beating ourselves up for what we didn't get done that morning. Often when we procrastinate, we have a tendency to beat ourselves up. We say, "You got nothing done today, you lazy oaf!!" This just makes us want to open the fridge and eat everything in sight to drown out the sound of our failures. How do we stop overeating in the afternoon? Now that we've seen the reasons for afternoon eating, let's look at some solutions that will help us stop overeating. * Try not to have treats in the house. (Depleted Willpower) If we don't have treats in the house, we'll be far less likely to break our boundaries at 3:00 when our willpower is depleted. We could still drive out and get those treats, but often we're so tired we're unwilling to make the effort to drive anywhere. Another option is to ask your spouse or roommate to hide the treats from you until they get home from work. If you do that, though, don't get mad at them if they don't tell you where they are when you call to ask! The minute you do that, they won't want to hide them anymore. They could also take them to work with them if you're the type of person who searches for the treats until you find them. * Take a break and do something fun. (Boredom) This doesn't have to be a major fun event. It could be as simple as turning on some great music and dancing to one of the songs, bundling up the kids and going on a walk, calling a friend for a visit, or reading a few pages or a chapter in a non-addictive book. If you have more freedom, you could have a bath or run out and do errands (if you enjoy errands). Anything you can do to give yourself a change of pace from normal life will help you avoid eating due to boredom. Another thing that helps is to change your expectations - life is not a vacation! The more we learn to enjoy regular life and work, the happier we'll be. For more on how to overcome boredom eating, listen to this podcast episode: How to Stop Boredom Eating. * Take a nap or do some exercise. (Tired) So often we think food will perk us up, but it will only perk us up if our body needs food. If our body doesn't need food--or if we're feeding it unhealthy food--it just makes us more tired. One of my friends used to go to our local coffee kiosk to get a beanaccino (a white chocolate frappe) for a little pick me up in the afternoon. After a week or so, he discovered that every time he did that, he was energized for about 30 minutes and then had a big crash. So while the 30 minutes was nice, it wasn't worth the rest of the afternoon of being tired. Taking a nap or getting a little exercise will do wonders to give you the energy you need to get through the day. For more help to stop overeating because you're tired, click here: 8 Questions to Help with Tired Eating * Take a mandatory break. (Tired of working) People who work in an office take breaks throughout the day. They talk to co-workers, take phone calls, and even check their emails. They also have a lunch break and some of them take two other 15-minute breaks. Yet those of us at home sometimes think we need to keep working ALL day. That's crazy! Not only is it stressful, it's also unproductive because we don't get the reset that a good break gives us. To remedy that situation, take mandatory breaks--even if you feel like you can't. Those breaks may look different for the stay-at-home mom than the empty-nest entrepreneur (not quite as cushy with kids afoot), but they can still be wonderful and refreshing. If you work at home, consider having a hard cutoff time for the day's work, then celebrate being done and go do something else. If you're not trying to force yourself to work when you shouldn't be, you'll be less likely to break your boundaries because you'll no longer need to eat in rebellion! An added advantage is that it gives you the fresh start that Drew Dyck talked about in my interview with him on how to have self-control. If you take a mandatory lunch break for example and a little time with God at that point, that could do wonders toward giving yourself a fresh start and replenishing your willpower for the afternoon, which will help you stop overeating. * Renew your mind. (Negative emotions) If something has happened to upset you during the day, the sooner you renew your mind the better. Take some time to truth journal, go for a prayer walk, or do the questions from I Deserve a Donut or the Renewing of the Mind Project so you can get rid of those negative emotions. If you get rid of the emotions that make you feel like eating, it will be much easier to follow your boundaries during the afternoon. * Break dreaded jobs into a series of small tasks and start on the first task. (Procrastination) If you're tempted to eat because of procrastin…
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Dear Young Married Couple
Dear Young Married Couple
Adam & Karissa King
DISCONNECTION's Powerful INVITATION w/ George Faller, LMFT and 9/11 Firefighter
"But when you turn off your emotions to the people you love, all it does is create distance. Especially us, as men. We tend to turn off all emotion, even when we don’t need to. That used to be me, but it all changed after I found myself on Ground Zero as a firefighter during 9/11.⁠♥️⁠The NYC fire department lost 343 firefighters. Being there on that day was like being on another planet. I saw so many people I knew just... vanish. But it was the months afterwards that were incredibly stressful.⁠♥️⁠We firefighters don’t get a lot of help with learning to talk about stressful events. We learn to separate our work from our home and that’s about it. The problem was that my wife was stressed out too. She felt like she couldn’t talk to me because she didn’t want to make me feel worse. Then, I couldn’t talk to her because I didn’t want to bring work home. What do you think started happening to my marriage?⁠♥️⁠There was no oxygen to give life to my marriage, so the distance crept in. So much of what I teach now is what I learned to do back then. It's called Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). I never thought I’d be traveling around the world talking about emotions. It’s all about flexibility. If we’re okay getting help to turn it off, we should all be okay getting help to turn it back on.” — George Faller, MS, LMFT You can reach George Faller at: * www.georgefaller.com * www.successandvulnerability.com - for therapists * New York Center for EFT George recommended: * Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz * Sacred Stress by George Faller * Created for Connection by Sue Johnson Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Join us for the next Monthly Live Date Night where we dig into some of these topics with you LIVE for 90 minutes this month!
47 min
Delight Your Marriage | Sexual Intimacy, Relationship Advice, & Christianity
Delight Your Marriage | Sexual Intimacy, Relationship Advice, & Christianity
Belah Rose | Author, Podcaster, & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast
274-For 28 years It Was a Duty...Then a Miracle. Interview with Darcy
Darcy is a busy business owner, mother, and grandmother--married 28 years. She loves God and has had a better than average marriage all that time. A friend of hers invited her to listen to the podcast--saying it had brought them to tears. And when she listened, she too was brought to tears with a very different understanding of intimacy than she had ever realized. God did an utter miracle in her heart and her marriage. For days she had a voracious appetite for intimacy with her husband. She says it gave her insight into how a man feels all the time. And she feels a oneness with him she's never felt previously. Her husband changed! His low-grade depression disappeared! He is becoming a better father and man of faith. He is thriving before her eyes. Their daughter even asked: "Mom, what happened to dad??" If you're a wife, I encourage you to listen with an open heart. God may want to speak to you through Darcy's story of love for Jesus. Which fueled a change of heart towards her husband. I encourage you, if you know someone who may need to hear this story, send this to them. That's how Darcy's life changed. Someone had the courage to share it with her! God bless you, Belah PS - I have MANY free resources! I would love to invite you to check them out: delightyourmarriage.com/free
43 min
Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker
Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg Meeker
Dr. Meg Meeker
#125: Living In Awe (with guest John O'Leary)
Life is busy, very busy. In the hustle and bustle of the daily grind, you can lose sight of what’s important. Engagement in extracurricular activities is at an all-time high, and burnout seems to rise daily. There was a time when we danced through our days with childlike wonder, in awe of the experience of the moment and excited for the promise of tomorrow. In his new book IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning and Joy, John O’Leary invites readers to return to the joy of navigating life like a child and identify the five senses that children innately possess. In this episode, Dr. Meg talks with John about his book and what exactly those “five senses” are and how you can return to them. John is a survivor of a fire that burned 100% of his body, and he was given only a 1% chance of surviving. He has turned this story into the foundation of his first book On Fire: The 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life, and he also speaks at conferences and events around the country. His emotional story-telling, unexpected humor and authenticity make each of his talks truly transformational. This is a great conversation that you will want to pay close attention to as they talk through living in awe! Do you have a question for Dr. Meeker? If so, email them to askmeg@megmeekermd.com and listen to future episodes to see if your question is featured!   WELCOME Dr. Meg starts this episode by introducing her guest, John O’Leary, author of the new book IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning and Joy. She also teases her points to ponder that you can start using right away. Dr. Meeker also introduces her free webinar, When No Stops Working that you can find at meekerparenting.com!   A CONVERSATION WITH JOHN O’LEARY (PART 1) In today’s episode, Dr. Meeker talks with John O’Leary, author of the new book IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning and Joy. Their conversation centers around recapturing the childlike awe that you can have in the experience of the moments you’re given each day.   BREAK   A CONVERSATION WITH JOHN O’LEARY (PART 2) In today’s episode, Dr. Meeker talks with John O’Leary, author of the new book IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning and Joy. Their conversation centers around recapturing the childlike awe that you can have in the experience of the moments you’re given each day.     PARENT PEP RALLY   FROM THE PRODUCER Thanks for listening to Episode 125, Living In Awe and for helping Dr. Meg’s parenting revolution reach over FIVE MILLION downloads! Subscribe, rate, and leave a review for us on iTunes!   Get Social with Dr. Meg on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram @MegMeekerMD   Have a parenting question? Write Dr. Meg at askmeg@megmeekermd.com and she could answer your question during the show or you can let us know what you’d like to hear about in a future episode!   Dr. Meg’s parenting resources and tools are available at MeekerParenting.com/resources. Subscribe, rate, and leave a review for us on iTunes! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
43 min
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE
Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
Should We Hide Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma From Our Kids?
It's hard enough navigating through porn/sex addiction and betrayal trauma as adults! But what happens when we're raising kids at the same time? *What should we disclose to our kids, if anything at all?* And if we do disclose—how, when and how much should we share? And how can we create an environment where we don't pass on the same dysfunctional behaviors to our children? *How do we help them to grow up and be sexually and relationally healthy? * In this episode, Mark talks raw and real about his experience as a dad in addiction and his wife in betrayal trauma as they tried to raise 6 kids! Steve plays the "therapist" in asking Mark questions about those "dark days" and *what we can all learn as parents or future parents. * Find out more about Steve Moore at:  *Ascension Counseling* Learn more about Mark Kastleman at:  *Reclaim Counseling Services** *Here's an article about healing Betrayal Trauma—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/healing-betrayal-trauma-video Want to learn more about HOW to break free from porn?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/overcome-porn-sex-addiction* *Wondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/can-marriage-survive-porn How can you "heal" your marriage relationship?—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/how-to-mend-your-marriage
37 min
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