TIV (Tendency of Interpersonal Victimhood) is an "enduring feeling that the self is a victim across different kinds of interpersonal relationships." This constant perception of victimhood forces a person into a position of prolonged helplessness, never being held responsible for their own circumstances. It encourages inward focus on problems, fostering grudges and desire for vindication, and blinding a person to possible solutions.
This mindset is incredibly harmful and destructive and is the opposite of how God wants us to see ourselves! Even true victims can call on God's strength to re-frame their situation. The world is a sinful and destructive place, but the Bible tells us that NOTHING can separate us from God!!
How can we help our kids take ownership of their life, learn to empathize with those around them, and ultimately fight the lie of victimhood with the truth of our victory in Christ?
Scripture mentioned in this episode:
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
The tendency for interpersonal victimhood: The personality construct and its consequences
by Rahav Gabay and Boaz Hameiri
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Remember, there are two kinds of fire in the world: One that burns and consumes and one that burns and empowers. May God's word and God's love burn brightly in you, giving you the strength to face any fire. Until next time, little embers!
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