The Brain Language Podcast
Susan Stageman, Morgan Jobe, James Lusk, and others
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Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a system for understanding the patterns of human success and helps people acquire those patterns. The Purpose of The Brain Language Podcast is to introduce NLP concepts that will enhance and enrich your business and personal life. Regardless of where you are in your journey, you can acquire and access the knowledge that will help to get you from where you are to where you want to be. We seek to deliver golden nuggets of NLP knowledge that you can use to get to the next level. You can get the best and most useful tools that NLP has to offer in bite-size pieces from our show!
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May 21, 2023
EP #71 Using NLP as a System for Weight Loss (or other goal)
NLP contains many powerful concepts and techniques that can be transformative on their own, but when utilized as an entire system, NLP can make change almost effortless and sustainable. When we try to change something about ourselves or our actions simply through willpower, we often find it difficult to create and maintain motivation, develop and follow a successful strategy, overcome setbacks and obstacles, align our beliefs, values, identity, and thinking processes with the change we want, and tap into resources we already have that will help us to make and maintain the desired change. Using NLP as a system gives us the ability to do those things and create a desired change more easily, quickly, and sustainably.
Key Discussion Concepts:
*Intention *(I think of this as well-formed "outcome light," because it hits the main points of a well-formed outcome.
*VAK Sensory Experience*
*Threshold*
*Bandura Curve*
*Identity*
*Beliefs*
*Meta Programs (Towards/Away, Procedures, Criteria)*
*SCORE (Possibly)*
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Apr 20, 2023
EP #70 The Truth About Lying With Stan B. Walters
This is a real treat! Stan B. Walters is our guest on this episode. Stan is known as “The Lie Guy®” and has appeared on ABC, CBS, CNN, Fox News, NBC, France Channel One, and Australia Today. He was the host / technical adviser on National Geographic's “The Science of Interrogation.” He is a Certified Speaking Professional by the National Speakers Association. He has authored *Principles of Kinesic Interview and Interrogation: 2nd Edition* which has worldwide sales. He has authored and co-authored numerous training materials, audio tapes, and pocket guides on Practical Kinesic Interview & Interrogation®. His book *The Truth About Lying: How To Spot A Lie and Protect Yourself From Deception* is now being translated into 7 foreign languages and is now in it’s its 7th printing. He has served as Subject Matter Expert on Interviews & Interrogation at Johns Hopkins University. He has also participated as one of two primary researchers in deception research that were conducted at John Jay College. The results of this study were presented at two American Psychological Association Conventions and have been published in scientific
https://thelieguy.com/stan-b-walters/stan-b-walters-the-lie-guy/
With 35 years of experience, his results speak for themselves:
• He prepares government, Intelligence & Military analysts, counter-terrorism specialists, and Special Forces for the task of getting accurate information that will save lives.
• Local law enforcement agencies use his principles to assist crime victims and reduce false confessions.
• Private corporations use him to educate their employees on proper interviewing techniques because bottom line – there is a cost to not knowing the truth.
Investigators become proficient at conducting professional and ethical interviews. Use methods that: Insure Ensure justice for victims, Protect the offenders’ rights, and deliver critical intelligence information that can save hundreds of lives!
What Stan does dovetails nicely into NLP calibration skills.
Here are some of the questions he answered:
1. How good are we a spotting deception?
2. Is body language really reliable for spotting deception?
3. What are some of the biggest myths about reliable signs of deception?
4. Are criminal investigators as good as they think they are at spotting liars?
5. I understand you have been in 38 prisons. What is that all about?!
6. Who are some of the types of clients and agencies you have trained?
7. How long have you been doing training, research, and consulting?Support the show
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Mar 28, 2023
Ep #69 When You Feel More Like a Firefighter than a Business Owner
Sometimes we have so much to do that the more we 'try' to get done, the less we actually do. We stop planning and jump from crisis to crisis, putting out fires, and never seem to accomplish anything. The feeling of overwhelm sets in and if left to itself will insure that the system will go into chaos. It is a very stressful place to be. You never seem to get ahead. Life becomes a decathlon, running and gunning, in an effort to beat the clock. Your aim becomes sloppy, you don’t hit as many targets, and you get tired. It is distressful. It is no longer fun.
James and Susan explore effective strategies to help gain control of life and business and get back on track.
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Mar 28, 2023
Brain Language Podcast Short: Stress Hormones Ride Again
This is a 10-minute "short" on the possible reason some people snack unconsciously while stressing, concentrating, or creating something new.
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Feb 28, 2023
EP #68 But is there evidence?
Watching my favorite genre of TV series, the detective show, I am reminded about the importance of evidence. The seasoned detective uses a lot of intuition because they have seen it all before and they develop tacit knowledge of criminal patterns that play over and over again. But when it comes to charging and convicting a criminal for a crime, evidence is the name of the game.
One of the keys to NLP and developing achievable outcomes is the “evidence procedure.”
1. So what is evidence procedure in NLP? The observable evidence that a person uses to define whether or not a goal has been successfully achieved. What will be happening when you achieve your goal or outcome? This is demonstrated in sensory language: what will I see, hear and feel when I have what I want? It also indicates the Evidence Frame. All outcomes and goals need evidence. Evidence helps you know where you are in the process.
2. What is important about evidence? Without it, you have no idea if you are even going in the right direction. Evidence represents the path. It will determine the truth or validity of something, beliefs included. Is something worthy of attention. In fact, all beliefs are validated through evidence.
3. In terms of the NLP outcome frame…. Other than assigning a value or purpose to your outcome, evidence is most important in guiding your way. It is one thing to set an outcome frame for something you want, it is another to pay attention to the evidence as you move toward your goal.
4. What do you ask yourself? Am I getting closer to my outcome or farther away? The only thing that will tell you is evidence. It comes down to “if what you are doing isn’t working, do something else.” When someone is so focused on the goal, they fail to pay attention to the evidence around them that tells them to change tracks. Then they wonder why they hit a wall.
5. Here is a checklist of things to do when you are in the process of getting something you want.
1. Make sure your goals are well formed and demonstrated in sensory words (see, hear, feel).
2. Have a clear evidence procedure of what is going to happen in sensory evidence that will indicate you are on the right track.
3. Keep records (written preferred) of your progress
4. Step back into the observer position to get a look overall at the landscape of your progress. (or through time). do consistently and often.
5. It is ok to look at what could go wrong. Having both move away and move toward evidence covers both bases. Just don’t focus on the ‘what could go wrong.’
6. If something does go off the rails, look at it objectively. Can this ultimately lead you to where you want to go or do you need to adjust your methodology?
Obstacles can actually be useful in the right frame. That is how post-its came into being.
7. Make sure you are aiming for the right target. Doing your research is critical in achieving what you want – John Noe’s story of the indy 500 track.
8. Time: sometimes our time frames are off. Even though goals are time specific, it is ok if you give yourself a little more time.
9. Get feedback. And use an expert to help you. Parents and friends are well-meaning but not necessarily your best guides.
Sometimes people get so focused on something that they wear blinders to what else is going on and never get the outcome because there was evidence that things weren’t working but ignored it or discounted it. Evidence and feedback are critical components of achieving your ideal life.
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Jan 19, 2023
EP #67 NLP Presuppositions as Life-guiding Principles
Although the end-of-year holidays have passed, it is always a good reminder the review how the NLP Presuppositions can make interactions with others easier.
Presuppositions, in general, act as guiding principles that are assumed as true for any model. NLP, Neuro-Linguistics Programming is no exception. To understand and engage the model of NLP, those 22 or so presuppositions must be accepted to make the model work.
This episode addresses, What are Presuppositions? Where did they come from (the history of NLP presuppositions)? Epistemology, behavior presuppositions, choice presuppositions, and communication presuppositions. The episode includes a short exercise.
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Dec 5, 2022
Ep #66 Belief Installation Procedure using a Time Line
Episode addresses:
1. What is difficult about making changes
2. How are beliefs important to making changes
3. What are some of the important tools for facilitating a change? Verbal affirmations, Mentors, Systems, Timeline, Beliefs to support
4. What is the timeline installation belief procedure and how does it work?
When we have a desired outcome or goal, we need a system of beliefs that will support us in getting it. positive beliefs and affirmations support motivation and confidence to achieve our goals. Beliefs create self-fulfilling prophecies because they are self-organizing. Beliefs, therefore, support our goals and make them possible or not. It is necessary to have supporting beliefs to attain goals and outcomes.
Remember the logical levels in NLP: beliefs are necessary to mobilize and trigger capabilities and behaviors. Limiting beliefs can stop us from using our capabilities and stop us from taking the required steps to reach our goals.
Timelines are useful in establishing an outcome. It provides a physical path from where you are to where you want to go, assessing doubts and interferences.
Using the BIP timeline can help you reach any goal by helping you draw from successes of your past to form the beliefs necessary to reach your goal.Support the show
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Oct 6, 2022
EP #65 NLP: A business Must-Have featuring James Lusk
James and I talk about how he using his NLP skills in his new business.
He uses many more than three things, but here are his top three;
Told from his point of view!
1. Rapport skills
* I am intensely dialed into whom I am speaking with in my driver roster and configure my interactions with them to match and pace the conversation.
* When addressing groups I am careful to cover all modalities with regard to using visual, auditory, and kinesthetic as well as move-away from and move-toward language patterns.
2. The LAB Profile
* I have been using the LAB profile anywhere from hiring drivers and executive staff to working with my customers and vendors.
* I build a mental profile of that person and use it in my arsenal when maintaining and building rapport
3. State Management Skill
* Maybe the most impactful skill I've utilized. In terms of managing my own emotional responses to situations. Focusing on what variables I do know and are actual rather than "imagined outcomes."
* Being more aware of when I lose state and the ability to return to a more effective state rather than remaining in an ineffective one.
* Not allowing negative emotional states to envelope me based on unknown information about a situation or person
4. Honorable mention; The NLP Presuppositions.
Thank you, James!
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Aug 18, 2022
EP #64 ACHOO! A Sneeze at Allergies!
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Aug 10, 2022
EP #63 Tips and Tricks To Make Changes Using NLP
Kinesthetic anchoring, reframing, and conflict resolution are some of the NLP processes people can use for mental and emotional changes. There are many more but these are processes that people can learn how to use themselves and are simple change techniques.
It is most important to develop a wellformed outcome before using any process to resolve an issue. An outcome is necessary for any change. The brain is directional. Tell the brain where you are going and what you want. It minimizes confusion.
The previously mentioned processes do different things and produce different types of change:
a. Anchoring – feeling changes – how do you want to feel
b. Reframing – working with a part to change a behavior
c. Conflict resolution – visual squash – used to reduce or eliminate a conflict at any logical level
Another important consideration is at what logical level the change needs to take place. There are natural hierarchies of classification of change according to Gregory Bateson. There is often confusion about the logical levels when considering a change. Rules that apply at one level don't necessarily apply to another. Changing something on a lower level could affect a higher level but changing something on a higher level will often change the lower levels to support the higher level change.
Here are some examples of how the logical levels get confused when changing something.
Anchoring – feeling change – when someone feels upset about something and they want to feel curious, resourceful, etc. a collapsed reality will give them choices in how to feel. BUT say a person doesn’t like something someone is doing. Carefully choosing the resource is important. If they feel bad and they want to feel good. They may be feeling good about something where that feeling is inappropriate or even less resourceful than the original feeling. Ice cream versus broccoli is an example of this. Negative anchoring – attaching a bad feeling to something . Sometimes this works and sometimes it backfires.
Reframing – for behaviors – reframe the part that is doing the behavior you *want to change.
*Conflict resolution – make sure that both sides are on the same logical level: environment, behavior, capability, belief, identity, and spirit.
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Jul 9, 2022
EP #62 Using NLP with Illness
This is an inspirational story of a Master Practitioner of NLP who used NLP processes while undergoing cancer treatments. He mentions some of the processes in NLP he used, such as the Outcome Frame (sensory-based), anchoring, submodalities (pain management), the structure of questions, presuppositions, and beliefs (his and others). Other topics include
1. Beliefs and the Bandura curve – a. Belief in treatment, b. Belief in a practitioner, c. Rapport and trust.
2. Mental emotional vs. physical
3. Presuppositions engaged
4. Flexibility and attending to evidence – the medical model
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May 26, 2022
Ep #61 Rapport Isn't Just About What You Do -- Visual Rapport
Julie Thurburn, as guest host, and Susan Stageman discuss visual rapport -- What are you wearing for the conversation you want to have? Julie is a Certified Image Consultant. In a slightly different format, they talk about rapport from a different angle: how our appearance can make or break rapport from the outside to the internal feelings we have.
After Julie discusses why she got into Image Consulting and the greatest challenges she solves for her clients, they discuss
1. Personal Style is about you – what works best for you. That’s colors, designs, garment details, etc. Being Trendy is about what others want you to wear. They choose the colors for you to buy that season, etc.
2. Trendy is a very expensive wardrobe because you’re stuck in a cycle of pleasing people you don’t even know – and who don’t know you. It’s not a personal look, it’s just buying clothes which must be replaced often (expensive) or prevent you from representing your best self (limiting your op…
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May 2, 2022
EP #59 The Kid Approach and NLP
Many parents ask me about NLP training or help with their child’s self-esteem.
This episode includes
* The important stages of Childhood development Sense of self around age 2
* The approach a parent should take if they think a child would benefit from NLP
* Teaching the child the NLP presuppositions and helping them apply them to life situations will help them understand how to deal with situations. Children are going to model you anyway. Teaching them the basic concepts of NLP will help them grow up gracefully.
* Perceptual positions are a useful tool for kids to learn. Communication skills could backfire.
* Anchoring and eye-repatterning can help a child be more resourceful.
* Self-esteem and self-confidence are two things to consider when introducing NLP to your children.
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May 2, 2022
Ep #60 What is the Score?
The Score is an approach to solving problems and getting outcomes developed by Robert Dilts and Todd Epstein in 1987 to describe the process they were intuitively using to define problems and design interventions. They realized through teaching a series of seminars that they were systemically organizing the way they approach a problem differently than the advanced NLP students.
The SCORE stands for symptom, causes, outcomes, resources, and effect. These are the minimum amount of information needed to be addressed by any process of change or healing.
Basic S.C.O.R.E. Questions:
1. What is the ‘symptom’ of this problem?
2. What is the ‘cause’ of the symptom of this problem?
3. What is the desired ‘outcome’ or goal?
4. What would be the longer-term ‘effect’ of reaching that goal?
5. What ‘resource’ would help address the cause?
6. What ‘resource would help achieve the outcome?
The Score can be used in changework and coaching.
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Mar 21, 2022
Ep #58 What's True or What's False: Decisions and The Psychology of Doubling Down
Decision-making is a complex process – some processes are more complex than others.
How you arrive at a decision is a process of taking in information both externally and internally and then taking action.
To double down is to *take a further risk in a situation* or passionately re-commit one's efforts to a cause or course of action.
Summary
* Decision-making is a complex process that is affected by our past and what authorities we choose to use.
* Doubling down will follow decision-making in an attempt to correct course or to strengthen a position. Sometimes like digging a hole deeper in an attempt to get out of the hole.
* It takes years for ‘science’ to catch up to its theories, which are not always accurate even though they seem to make sense.
* Our biases and our authorities corrupt the information we are receiving.
* Beliefs and meta-programs act like biases in choosing a course of action
* Use your history of good decisions and base your decision on struc…
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Feb 15, 2022
Ep #56 Talking to Two Minds - Permissive Language
In this episode, we talk about Permissive or Indirect Language or The Milton Model. Indirect language or permissive language it is called sometimes is vaguely worded communication designed to bypass the conscious mind and speak to the unconscious.
Phrases of permissive language or the Milton Model are often used to soften communication. Instead of using direct, authoritarian language, such as, "Do this report by Monday," the speaker might say, "Would it be possible to have this report to me by Monday." The advantage of this type of communication is that is it more likely to maintain rapport, form symmetrical relationships rather than authoritarian ones, and lessen resistance on the part of the listener.
The discussion includes:
*1. What is permissive or indirect suggestions? *
*2. What is the difference between permissive language and direct language? *
*3. How do you use permissive suggestions? *
*4. Is permissive language manipulative?*
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Feb 8, 2022
EP #57 Don't let your inner critic get the best of you - there is another way!
Guest host, Brad Costanzo, and Susan Stageman talk about the Disney Strategy. The brilliance of Disney comes out in this strategy he used to build an entertainment empire during the depression. We talk about what it is, how to use it. Your inner critic has a job to do. Give it the right job. When you organize your planning around the Dream, the Plan, and the Critic, your goals are so much easier to reach. Brad talks about how he has used this with his clients
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Nov 17, 2021
EP #55 To Ask or Not to Ask: That is the Question? Having fun with Guest Host James Lusk and the Meta Model
Susan and Guest Host, James Lusk, explore the Meta Model, Process-Oriented Questions.
What is the Meta Model? We review the Meta Model and its categories: deletions, generalizations, and distortions. How do the language patterns of the Meta Model relate to our mental maps? Finally, James talks about some of his outstanding applications of the Meta Model and its importance in communication.
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Nov 17, 2021
EP #54 What is the meaning of what you are asking for? Leadership 101
Many people think they know what they want but haven’t taken the time to discover what they are asking for. It is easy to say, I want to be a great leader or business person or salesperson or wife, husband, chef, manager, etc. but do not have criteria or even what values or beliefs or behaviors a leader, etc. would have or what they would demonstrate to be a good leader, etc. Here is a shortlist of 10 things that are necessary to be effective at a leadership level.
1. Be an excellent communicator – which means ask for clarification, command respect, add value to people
2. Know the rules and have clear boundaries – avoid bad-mouthing people you know. Have a clear idea of how to be and how to do it.
3. Readers – in other words, read, read, read. A lot of great ideas come from books written by people who have blazed a trail. You still have the ability to make what you learn to fit your style.
4. Problem solvers – problems are challenges to learn and grow. Using creativity and i…
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Oct 4, 2021
Ep# 53 Tongue Fu - Sleight of Mouth Part 2
Part 1 of Sleight of Mouth Patterns is Episode #51.
*In episode # 51 we did SOM patterns REDEFINE, COUNTER EXAMPLE, HIERARCHY OF CRITERIA, AND INTENTION.*
In this episode we are going to try to finish the patterns.
CHUNK DOWN, CHUNK UP, APPLY TO SELF, REALITY STRATEGY, MODEL OF THE WORLD, ANOTHER OUTCOME, CHANGE FRAME SIZE
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Sep 9, 2021
EP #52 Time is On Our Side: Getting Things done
Time is an elusive concept. Yes, Time is a concept. It doesn't exist the way we think it does. We can keep track of time on a clock. Because of that people tend to quantify time, having too much time on their hands or too little time. We have dozens of linguistic metaphors around time, i.e. Time flies or Time is money or you are running out of time or he is living on borrowed time. From an NLP point of view, the concept of time is in our heads. How we organized time in our head determines how much we get done, how we organize tasks, how we perceive events. In this podcast, we explore how the organization of time can affect how much we get done. If you want "more time", listen up! By the way, there is no such thing as Time Management. It is more accurately termed Activity Management.
[Note: the completion of Sleight of Mouth Patterns will be in Episode #53]Support the show
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Aug 27, 2021
Ep #51 Tongue Fu or Black Belt of Tongue: Sleight of Mouth
In 1980, Robert Dilts modeled the patterns of such esteemed communicators as Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Milton Erickson, Plato, and Socrates (to name a few.) These individuals were superb at influencing belief systems and effectively persuading with these quick verbal reframes. Dilts called these language patterns Sleight of Mouth, named after sleight of hand from artful and crafty card magicians. These patterns have a magical quality when used and can produce dramatic shifts in perception.
*Sleight of Mouth* is a system of language patterns for persuasion and conversational belief change. They set off a chain reaction to unravel beliefs and help the listener shift perspectives. They are verbal reframes that influence beliefs and the mental maps they come from. There are approximately 14 patterns.
For the NLP student, *Purpose of Sleight of Mouth Patterns:*
Shift or reframe the various elements of a belief which make up the meaning or *Cause-Effect* of the beliefs to widen and enric…
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Jul 15, 2021
EP #50 Forgive the Unforgivable
Forgiveness is an often misunderstood concept. You can use NLP to help yourself truly let go of things that you cannot change.
In the first segment, we talk about what is misunderstood about forgiveness. People oftentimes think that forgiving someone for what they did is condoning it. It is not.
Learn what the difference is between condoning and letting go of our expectations.
NLP has several forgiveness processes that can help a person free themselves from the binds of resentment and anger that come from not forgiving someone. This frees up energy to be spent on experiences that you can change.
Learn how one of these processes works and be free from someone or something renting space in your mind.
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Jun 8, 2021
EP #49 Relationships 101
Significant Patterns in NLP for harmonious relationships:
Unless you happen to find your soul mate (what is that mean anyway?) you are probably going to have ups and downs in your relationships. And even soul mates aren’t perfect.
NLP offers effective processes for keeping you and your partner or family member, boss, employee, etc. on the right track.
What are some of the processes in NLP that help people navigate the ups and downs of relationships?
* Outcomes
* Rapport – especially breathing
* Sensory acuity
* Calibration
* Anchoring
* Conflict resolution
* Align Perceptual Positions – boundaries and 2nd position
* Aligning neurological levels
* Understanding LAB profile patterns – especially convincers, internal/external, away/toward/criteria
* Forgiveness process
* Counterexample process
* Role of language: using verbs instead of nouns: relationships to relating; work to working; communication to communicating
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May 3, 2021
EP #48 How Come I'm Not Doing the Things I Want to Do - Part 2
In EP 42 we talk about – *How come I am not doing the things I really want to do?*
In that episode we talked about some things that stop us:
1. Modal operators: must, have to, want, need, should
2. Submodality maps
3. Don't know how or missing information
4. Lateral or mismatched criteria
5. Values
6. Confusion with goals and tasks
In today’s episode, we are going to continue adding to the list and then talk about how to use a basic swish to change triggers.
*What are triggers (anchors)? *
We see, hear or feel something that triggers us into behavior or feeling. We see a dog or cat and we have warm feelings, or a loved one’s face, or cop sitting on the side of the road. Our reaction to these things and many others is automatic. Or we hear something – a song, or jingle, and we remember someone, a certain time in our life or a product. We hear train whistles or boat horns, ocean waves and we are transported to another time and place. Or a siren, etc. Or we feel velvet…
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Apr 19, 2021
EP #47 - If You Want Confidence, You May Be Asking For the Wrong Thing!
When many people start out doing something new, they ask for confidence to do it. They are wanting to motivate themselves to do something new. What makes people think they can be confident doing something they have never done or done enough to get good at it. The episode discusses the Bandura Curve (the study of performance versus expectation) and how we often compare our performance to our expectations rather than where we started.
We learn how to do something and get good at it through practice and learning. Competence comes from practice. Then confidence builds from that. NLP has numerous processes that can help us with self-assurance when learning how to do something. Self-assurance is what we need to ask for!
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Mar 18, 2021
EP #46 Transforming Negative Parts into Super Allies
A part is a metaphor that can be thought of as a collection of beliefs, ideas, abilities, and states that have less connection with other states. You could think of them as subsystems that operate in people more or less independently of the whole or other subsystems. For example, a person may think of themselves as confident but in one area have a part of them that is doubtful of their abilities. A part usually represents a behavior, idea, or belief that can be separated out from the whole, as in …” a part of me wants…” Satir used ‘parts to describe various aspects of self. Parts often make themselves present when we have a conflict. This concept is used in reframing and gestalt therapy.
We become aware of parts when they behave or think in a way that is adversarial or in opposition to what we want. I’ve heard people refer to these parts as ‘negative’. By giving parts new choices and allowing them to continue their jobs, parts can be transforming from being “against…
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Feb 23, 2021
EP #44 Could I Ask A Better Question
*Why do people ask questions?* To get information. Have you ever left a situation thinking, I wished I had asked more questions? Questions are a valuable part of conversations and communication in general. Yet, most training will focus on using the right words and listening rather than asking good questions. The conversation, meeting, or presentation direction depends on the questions asked and the information gleaned from those questions. Ask questions to get high-quality information or useless information. It depends on the asker and the structure of the questions.*
What do questions do for us? To Set a direction.*
Questions are tools that chunk information into smaller or bigger pieces.
* Can get a person to reinforce a problem because people set up filters to sample only the things that confirm what they already know or decided
* Or can open up new frontiers of knowledge and possibilities
* It can help people to process and reorganize information in a new way.
* Are defi…
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Dec 30, 2020
EP #44 The Power of Flow
Flow is a powerful concept for aligning yourself, life, and values to create serendipity. Serendipity is the process by which things happen - synchronistic events where things come together as if by magic. This concept was originally put forth by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book, Flow: the psychology of optimal experience. NLP helps a person to enter a state of flow more easily by aligning their thoughts, beliefs, outcomes, and values with what they want.
Flow means to create harmony. It comes from having your outcomes aligned with your values and integrity. When life gets too hard and things don't seem to happen, often it is because we are trying to make something work that is misaligned or not clearly thought through. Sometimes a person is fighting against events in their environment that they cannot control. Sometimes stress gets the better of a person and they look at things negatively.
Flow is a valuable concept for any NLP student.
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Nov 9, 2020
EP #43 What do you when you cannot decide
Indecisiveness is something that seems to plague a lot of people. It can be appreciated because it has a positive intent. I say this because being indecisive is a strategy unto itself. How do you decide to be indecisive? Well, you have to decide not to decide. It’s the same as no response is a response. You are making a decision not to make a decision.
This episode explores strategies for deciding when indecision takes over. What causes indecisiveness? What are some of the problems it causes? What stops us from making decisions. What are some steps to getting to a good decision? What are four things you need to make good decisions, and what is the formula for making good decisions? What is the role of intuition?
All of it involves clarity at each level.
*VISION*
Your highest level is Vision – What is your overall vision for your life? How do you see yourself spending your days? In other words, what do you value; teaching, working with people, working with machines, travel, expl…
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Oct 16, 2020
EP-#42 How come I am not doing the things I really want to do?
*What are some of the things we put off doing, don’t do, think about doing but don’t do even though we know how to do them?*
It can be as simple as reading a book, fixing something in your house, taking a class, returning that shirt. or changing the oil in your car. This isn’t even taking into consideration big things: moving, changing jobs, changing careers, starting a business.
It is frustrating when we have ideas and tasks we want to do but don’t seem to make yourself do them. It seems so simple. What stops us?
1. Modal operators: must, have to, want, need, should
2. Submodality maps
3. Don't know how or missing information
4. Lateral or mismatched criteria
5. Values
6. Confusion with goals and tasks
7. Viewed as not fun or significant
This episode discusses strategies to get yourself going and where to start.
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Sep 9, 2020
EP #41 Words, Words, Words. Which One Do I Use?
We live in a world with words surrounding us like we are fish in the water. We are aware of words but not necessarily conscious of their meaning or how they affect others. This episode is about the power of language. Words inform, and they also influence. The study of NLP is about how language affects our emotions and, therefore, our nervous system. Words subtly influence how to think about something without us ever knowing that it does. When we listen to a description of an experience or person and find ourselves having an emotional response, it is usually due to the words to make that description. This episode explores the nature of language and how we are manipulated into thinking a certain way about something by the adjectives and adverbs used to describe it. If you like to do your own thinking, you will enjoy exploring the topic in this episode.
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Aug 4, 2020
EP #40 Meta Programs: Working Organization, Self/Other, Rule Structure, Convincer
In our 40th episode, we discuss for each pattern, what it means to exhibit a certain pattern, how to determine a pattern and the influencing language for each pattern. We repeat working organization, the patterns of how people sort their world - people, place, thing, activity, or information. At work, if a person is a high people-sort, yet they are in a job that centers mostly around processes and information, they will not be productive. Every job has a profile, having the right person to fit the profile will ensure that work gets completed and the person is happy in the job. The same goes for Self/Other, and Rule Structure. Self/Other is a pattern that helps people determine where a person puts their attention - on themselves or on themselves. This pattern distinguishes between those people who give and respond to feedback that lets them know how the conversation is going. The Rule Structure pattern has 4 categories: my/my, my/./ no/my, and my/your. Helps determine what rule structur…
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Jul 16, 2020
EP #39 Meta Programs: Working Organization (Primary Focus repeat) and Working Scope
We visit Working Organization (primary focus) again (People, Place, Activity, Thing, Information; see EP #38) and Working Scope: General or Specific. Since Working Organization is explained in EP #38, we go to General or Specific. General or Specific whether a person likes the big picture or overall design of something or if they want the details. This pattern is important when it comes to communication in general. A "general person" likes summaries and overviews but does not like to get mired in details. The "specific person" likes details and finds the general communication random and hard to understand. A "general" can understand 'general' or 'specific'. The "specific" understands specific only. The General pattern is the absence of the Specific pattern. The hallmark of the Specific pattern is use of proper names, adjectives, adverbs, sequences, and modifiers. There is a pattern that features both General and Specific. This person can see the vision for the whole project and attend…
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Jul 16, 2020
EP #38 Working Style, Working Organization, Stress Response
This episode continues our journey through the Meta Programs (LAB Profile). We discuss a person's working style - how a person does their best: do they like to work alone, with others around them, or work in a true team. With many people working from home these days this is useful information to help them discover why they are continuing to keep their productivity up or why they have trouble being motivated. Another pattern is the Working Organization: where does a person put their attention - on People, Place, Thing (Task or Process), Information, Activity, Money, or Time. Our third pattern is about stress response; how do we react to normal stress: Thinking (first responder-like), Choice (go into emotion and then come out), or Feeling (go into emotion and stay there). In the world of business, these patterns are important because getting the right person in the right job maximizes the productivity and happiness of the individual as well as the company. If you like to work around peop…
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Jun 27, 2020
EP #37 - Meta Programs Part 3 - Motivation Source, Reason and Decision
In this episode, we continue exploring the sorting patterns of humans to determine where our motivation comes from, our motivation reason, and motivation decision. Each of these patterns determines whether we store our standards inside of us or outside, whether we like to follow set procedures or like generating alternatives and how long we will go before a significant change in a particular context. These are important traits when it comes to how we communicate and influence someone, whether we are competent in accomplishing specific tasks or reaching goals, learning, or whether a particular job is right for us.
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Apr 8, 2020
Ep #36 - NLP Tips & Tactics For Navigating The Effects Of COVID-19
In this episode, we discuss the nature and effects the coronavirus is having on on us all. Regardless of what you're situation may be, stressed or not, you are having to deal with the impact COVID-19 is having. The underlying truth is that like any negative experience, there is a structure and a method to effectively navigate it. We provide some NLP tools and logic to help you get through the current state of affairs.
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Mar 26, 2020
Ep #35 - Meta Programs Part 2: Level of Activity & Direction
In this episode, we talk about two Meta Programs that describe why we do what we do. The pattern identified as level of activity is all about when a person is proactive or reactive. Another way to think about level of activity is when we initiate or wait. The other pattern that we discuss is motivation direction and this refers to move away from or move toward. In other words, motivation direction refers to when we move toward a goal or away from a problem, toward pleasure or away from pain. Tune into this episode to learn how to identify these patterns and what implications they have on our behaviors.
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Mar 11, 2020
Ep #34 - Meta Programs: The What And How To Use Them
In this episode, we work to explain what Meta Programs are in terms of NLP and the subconscious mind. Meta programs are the deeply rooted neurological processes that manage and direct other mental processes. What we pay attention to, how we feel about money, and how we respond to change all stem from our subconscious programming. This is the first in a series of episodes in which we will unpack these programs and their implications.
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Feb 27, 2020
Ep #33 - How to Enhance Your Sensory Acuity For Improving Your Communication
In this episode, we work to define sensory acuity and deliver practical methods to employ it into your communication skills. Sensory acuity boils down to how well you use your five senses (VAKOG) to observe other people with curiosity instead of judgment. In NLP, sensory acuity refers to using our senses to make accurate observations about ourselves and others.
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Feb 12, 2020
Ep #32 - Using NLP & Submodalities for a Change
In this episode, Susan explains what submodalities are in terms of your brain's operating system and how you can use them to incite change in our behavior. Humans are meaning-making machines and we anchor pictures, sounds, feelings, and words to our thoughts. Tune in to find out how this affects how we feel about what has happened and what we're going to do about it.
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Jan 29, 2020
Ep #31 - The Truth About Online NLP Training
In this episode, we cover what Neuro-Linguistic Programming is, what training can do for you, and the difference between online and live classroom education in NLP. Susan and James both have their own experiences with online training and share them along with a solution for those who have only taken classes on the internet.
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Jan 15, 2020
Ep #30 - The NLP Six Step Reframing Process
In this episode, we breakdown the NLP six-step reframing process with a live demonstration. The six-step reframe process helps people to eliminate or change unwanted behaviors. Over the years, the six-step reframe process has been used by therapists all over the globe to rapidly change negative behaviors.
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Jan 1, 2020
Ep #29 - Solar Flares, Finances, and Personal Growth
In this episode, we discuss metaphors for cause and effect. There is a distinction between correlation and cause and effect situations. There are times when finding the meaning in events can serve us and other times it can hold us back. The truth is our belief about the meaning behind an experience can often be elusive.
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Dec 11, 2019
Ep #28 - Goals: New Year New You, The NLP Way.
Get ready for 2020! In this episode, we talk about not only how to set goals but how to INSTALL them so they just happen. No, it is not magical thinking or wishful thinking or visualization. There are certain ways to tell your mind that this is what you want. What has to happen for your mind to understand what you want? Certain key factors must be met in order to have the right formula. Set your goals to align with certain key factors and then create the pattern of thinking that will manifest them. It isn’t magic but it sometimes seems that way.Support the show
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Nov 27, 2019
Ep #27 - Money & Wealth Powered by NLP
In this episode, we discuss the significant role beliefs play in our financial success. We all have deep beliefs and values that are often beyond our awareness and affect our relationship with money. We can take measures to identify both the beliefs that limit and empower us in regards to money. Only when we've identified the limiting money beliefs can we truly begin to work on them.Support the show
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Nov 13, 2019
Ep #26 - NLP Holiday Management Toolkit
In this episode, we decided to break away from the conventional NLP processes and provide a little help to the holiday season. This time of the year can be filled with mixed experiences, ranging from joyful to stressful. The great news is many NLP tools can be beneficial for us in this festive time of the year.
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Oct 30, 2019
Ep #25 - Accessing Behavioral Resources with NLP
In this episode, we discuss how you can access behavioral resources with tools found in NLP. Often when we feel stuck or overly stressed, it is due to our perspectives and internal states. NLP has a number of tools we can use to overcome these limiting states and generate behaviors to overcome adversity.
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Oct 16, 2019
Ep #24 - The Truth About Trauma
In this episode, we discuss how people tend to think of trauma emulating from large traumatic events, but in reality, a traumatic event could be as small as your brother eating all of your Halloween candy. We will also explain how these events lead to limiting beliefs and what NLP can do about it.
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Oct 2, 2019
Ep #23 - The Power That Our Beliefs Have Over Us
In this episode, we dive into how the beliefs we hold have a tremendous effect on our lives. Many of the experiences we have early on in life tend to solidify themselves into generalizations we believe to be true about the world. More often than not, these deeply hidden generalizations are keeping us from the life we want.
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Sep 18, 2019
Ep #22 - How To Become A Master Calibrator
In this episode, we breakdown what it takes to be a Master Calibrator. Calibration in NLP is the ability to observe the full measure of communication in others. Calibration typically involves taking notice of verbal and non-verbal cues. Listen in to this show if you want to learn what it takes to build exceptional calibration skills.
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Aug 28, 2019
Ep #21 - The NLP Presupposed Principles of Excellent Communication
NLP has a set of presupposed principles that must be observed in order for NLP itself to be a working model in the pursuit of enhancing our human experience. We have spent a series of podcast episodes diving into these NLP presuppositions. In this episode, we explain how powerful the presuppositions surrounding communication can be in our lives.
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Aug 14, 2019
Ep #20 - The NLP Presuppositions That Support Change
In this episode, we are uncovering the NLP presuppositions that support change. The fact is we all go through change, whether it be on purpose in the form of a goal or when we change inadvertently. NLP had defined a set of principles that promote positive and long-lasting change. Be sure to tune in to this show so you can get a better understanding of these transformational NLP presuppositions.
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Aug 7, 2019
Ep #19 - Behavioral Presuppositions in NLP
In this episode, we discuss the NLP presuppositions that revolve around behavior. NLP presuppositions are assumed truths if NLP itself is to be a working model. The NLP presuppositions are powerfull and effective words to live by. Listen in to learn more about the behavioral-based presuppositions defined by NLP.
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Jul 24, 2019
Ep #18 - The Map Is Not The Territory
It's here folks! The most profound NLP presupposition is finally the topic of discussion on The Brain Language Podcast. The map is not the territory is the foundational belief of which NLP principles and process are built upon. This presupposition has a slew of implications about how our minds operate within the world that opens up unlimited potential for personal growth. Tune in to get an enhanced comprehension of this wonderful topic.
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Jul 10, 2019
Ep #17 - The Blueprint of Language
In this episode, we work to explain the structure of language and communication. Our communication typically has a surface and deeper meaning that is made up of linguistic presuppositions. Often, the nature of assumptions and inferences we make can lead to miscommunications and negative experiences. When we understand the meta model of language we can then improve how we communicate. This topic is one of the more complex studied within NLP and this episode is a great ice breaker into the study of language.
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Jun 26, 2019
Ep #16 - Words Mean Things
In this episode, we discuss how the use of language can lead to misunderstandings and what we can do about to improve it. Communication tends to be a poor form of communication because it is secondary to our behaviors. Ambiguity can kill a conversation, tune in to learn how to eliminate confusion and enhance your communications with others.
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Jun 12, 2019
Ep #15 - How Does Your Mind Represent Reality?
In this episode, we explain the representational systems defined in NLP. We use words as symbols to represent the experience we perceive via our five senses. The words we lean on to describe our experience play a huge role in our understanding and communication. Be sure to listen in on this show to get a better idea of how you can benefit from understanding your representational systems better!
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Jun 5, 2019
Ep #14 - Interview with Jason Botts
In this episode, we bring on Jason Botts as our first guest to be interviewed on the show. Jason is a former 15 year MLB Pro turned mindset coach who focuses on helping athletes enhance their inner game. He is a Master Practitioner graduate of NLP Training Concepts and has worked with Susan to hone his skills as a human performance coach. Join us as we explore Jason's approach to helping the mindset of young athletes.Support the show
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May 29, 2019
Ep #13 - Perceptual Positions in NLP
In this episode, we dive into the NLP concept of Perceptual Positions. By now, you've likely heard the expression, “to walk a mile in the other person's shoes?” Well, that’s what perceptual positions is in NLP plus so much more. Seeing, hearing, and feeling the perspective of others has a structure. Listen in to better understand perceptual positions and how applying this process can dramatically improve your communication.
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May 22, 2019
Ep #12 - Choose Your Own Adventure vs Trusting The Process
In this episode, we visit another Meta Program that is known in NLP as Options and Procedures. We all have patterns of language and behavior that we subconsciously use to navigate the world. While they are contextual and vary from person to person, we tend to gravitate towards having choices or following guidelines. Listen in as we discuss the characteristics of both patterns.
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May 15, 2019
Ep #11 - From Avoiding Pain to Pursuing Pleasure
In this episode, we dive into the language and behavior patterns of motivation. When it comes to our Meta Programs, or subconscious patterns, we either move away from pain or toward pleasure when in regard to pursuing a goal. We dissect all of the traits and implications that surround both of these patterns.
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May 8, 2019
Ep #10 - How to Create a Successful Life
In this episode, we discuss what success means in the context of life and how we can create our successes. Success is an incredibly ambiguous term, and its meaning varies depending on so many factors. One thing is for sure; we are all on a personal journey and are fully capable of creating success for ourselves.
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May 1, 2019
Ep #09 - Why Don't People Change?
In this episode, we address the question of why don't people change. While there are many different reasons people refrain from change, there are some universal characteristics. We discuss the motivations behind avoiding change and the nature of change itself.
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Apr 24, 2019
Ep #08 - Becoming A Jedi Mind Master
In this episode, we talk about what it takes to obtain more control over your own mind. Our brain is the most powerful tool on the planet. The mind is much like a garden in that it can reap us beauty and benefit. But, similarly to a garden, if left unkept it will grow weeds and produce more problems than anything else. Tune in if you'd like to learn some of the tools NLP provides in growing your mind garden.
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Apr 17, 2019
Ep #07 - Defining Insanity: Why We Do the Same Thing and Expect Different Results
In this episode, we discuss what causes us to keep doing the same thing even though it doesn’t work. It has been said that the definition of insanity is to repeat the same thing over and over and expect different results. NLP offers some insight into why we do this and practical solutions for change.
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Apr 10, 2019
Ep #06 - The Foundation of Powerful Communication
In this episode we discuss rapport and how it is the foundation of powerful communication. Rapport with ourselves and others is a precursor to success and gives you the ability to navigate this world with greater ease. The quality of our communication has a direct effect on the quality of our lives. If you want to improve relationships in either the personal or professional climate, tune in to this episode to get some useful tools to do just that.
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Apr 3, 2019
Ep #05 - What Causes Us to Think People are Idiots
This episode is actually about miscommunications. We breakdown how mishaps in communication with others often cause us to think that people are idiots. While this may be true in some cases, more often than not people are not idiots and there is merely a miscommunication taking place. We dissect the nature of miscommunication and what may cause it.
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Mar 27, 2019
Ep #04 - Setting Strong Boundaries
In this episode we discuss how boundaries have an effect on our lives. Everyone talks about boundaries; almost no one tells you what they are, how to set them, what to do if someone violates them. Setting strong boundaries will help you stand up for yourself, stop agreeing to do things you really don't want to do, stop being so sensitive and reactive, and start feeling less guilty about putting your own needs first. It's a part of the process of defining yourself and what is acceptable to you.
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Mar 20, 2019
Ep #03 - The Power in a Well-Formed Outcome
In this episode of The Brain Language Podcast, we explain the power in having a Well-Formed Outcome. The Well-Formed Outcome is one of the organizing principles of NLP. Defining your outcome in terms of the way you would like to see things happen will increase the potential of it becoming a reality. In order to apply the NLP model, a person must first have an outcome. Knowing your outcome is the best place to start when you want to make a change.
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Mar 13, 2019
Ep #02 - Introduction to NLP
This episode of The Brain Language Podcast is all about Neuro-Linguistic Programming. "What is NLP?" is too common of a question these days. One reason for that is probably because the answer is as deep as a well. NLP is a very expansive topic that genuinely cannot be covered in one episode. Which is precisely why we want to do an NLP themed podcast. This is just the tip of the iceberg; stay tuned to learn what NLP can do for you!
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Mar 5, 2019
Ep #01 - Meet the Show
In this episode Susan Stageman and James Lusk introduce themselves and the show. Susan is the President and Principal Trainer of NLP Training Concepts and is Certified through the Society of Neurolinguistic Programming. She has been teaching NLP skills to small business owners, project managers, entrepreneurs and professionals since 1989. James is Susan's eager young padawan who wants to follow in her footsteps in helping people improve their lives with NLP. They hope to introduce golden nuggets of NLP knowledge in their show The Brain Language Podcast.
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