Today we dive into defenses - all the tricks/skills/strategies we ALL use to ward off unwanted thoughts and feelings. We discuss the most common defenses and try to supply helpful examples. It's important to be aware of these because while you may have successfully allowed feelings and thoughts to drop out of your awareness, they are actually still determining your behavior and your feelings...you just don't remember the reason anymore. These defenses can impact how parents see their children or how you were seen as a child, for example, or how you see your partner. The more accurate you are in seeing yourself, the more accurate you will be in seeing others, with the benefit of feeling a bit more at ease with yourself and your relationships. We find this content fascinating, so let us know if you'd like more stuff like this.