In The Game Podcast - 72: Parenting: What if you could Discipline without Damage by Dr Vanessa Lapointe

Jul 7, 2023

What’s It Like to go Deeply Undercover as a Cop?

Today, we continue the conversation with John, an experienced investigator with the Queensland Police for the past 11 years. But his past definitely would not have dictated his future when he became one of few to go undercover – for 3 years! Born in the Philippines, he felt like he was “dragged from home to home” when his mother left and he never heard the words “I love you” echoed from anyone’s lips – ever! He landed in the home of his seriously abusive Auntie, who he still gets chills recalling how much he feared her. The only person who paid him any attention was his Gangster grandfather who taught him the ropes. This made him perfect prey for a group of men who would educate him on how to survive the slums of the Philippines. Who knew that the “hustler” he was training to be would actually make him the perfect agent to go undercover one day. Thank goodness for that serendipitous moment years later in Australia, when he happened to glimpse an Asian Police Officer filling his cop car with petrol. This so speaks to the power of “seeing really IS believing”. After getting into the police academy and working himself to the bone to please everyone around him, he then decided that he would apply to get into the Defence Forces as well – at the same time. Only someone who feels that its never enough would try and pull that one off! John has recently awoken to the fact that it all his “go go go” attitude stemmed from his deep and incessant need to please and be loved! After working undercover for all those years, he has re-emerged with a deep desire to reach out to “the children”…the ones who feel abandoned like he was and who feel so alone that they crave love in whatever way they can get it. This often leads to above the line successes like John has had yet acknowledging the deep addiction to VALIDATION which comes with its own destructive patterning. Many other times, these abandoned kids become the ones John ends up putting behind bars for criminal behaviour. Imagine what could have been thwarted at the pass with some loving kindness and a compassionate understanding heart! John, you are so the man for that job! Go to http://www.bit.ly/InTheGamePodcast to become part of this growing community of DREAMERS!

42 min