May 15, 2023
S02E18 The Arguing is Fun Episode
* What is one key trait that makes successful people successful?
* Thinking better with other people
* "We think best when we think socially."
* Social constructivism
* Group think -- we let loyalty take the place of our thinking
* Think for yourself, before you think with others
* Use tools/methods to help people think better
* Think first, share second - Alone Together
* When the first person anchors the rest of the sharing
* Speaking last as a manager
* Divergent thinking before convergent thinking
* Giving ideas space - go into a room together to define the problem, brainstorm alone, then back together with all the ideas
* Diverging first as not being natural
* Push for convenience and efficiency which gets in the way of the social way of thinking
* Check-In is seen as a waste of time, yet it creates a synchronization at the beginning of a meeting
* How to diverge when we don't feel psychologically safe
* What creates groupiness? Learn together, Train together, Feeling together, Engage in rituals together, Synchronicity (body, meals)
* Lost the sense of "groupiness" at work
* Role-playing games - must let everyone's roles play out
* Having structure for debating with one another can make it fun
* Disagreement and conflict aren't synonymous - disagreement is about ideas, conflict is personalized
* Leaders as moderators for healthy disagreement
* Do managers need to be trained in running meeting design, moderation, etc?
* Starting meetings with music?
* Different neural pathways are used when learning versus when teaching
* The jigsaw method of teaching - learn a small part and then teach it to others
* Must learn to think for yourself through reflection time
* The more roots something has, the more powerful
* Offloading information by making it visual, talking about it, journaling
* Busy-ness isn't always productive
* Foster different ways of thinking about things - using objects
* The importance of evaluating others' ideas not just expand on your own.
* Arguing across cultures - different cultures approach it differently
* Arguing as not being seen as team-playing
* Creating a system for disagreement combined psychological safety
* Productive disagreement versus unproductive conflict
* The Extended Mind by Annie Murphy Paul
* The Culture Map by Erin Meyer
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