Episode 24 w/Tom & Beverly Rodgers
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This week Matthew and Kim interview professional therapists and married couple Tom and Beverly Rodgers. Through their 44 year marriage they have developed successful love models which they have practiced for over 30 years at The Institute for Soul Healing in Charlotte, North Carolina. The power couple are also authors to 6 books focusing on the healing of deep wounds from the past using neurobiological, psychological, and biblical techniques. Tom and Beverly nearly reached the breaking point in their relationship when they decided to change their behavior patterns by healing from past trauma. Tune in to find out how this couple changed the course of their marriage and are now spreading their wisdom to other struggling couples. 

Key Ideas:

-The Soul Healing Love model 

-How Tom and Beverly healed their marriage from its breaking point

-How deep-rooted issues can cause surface level problems in a relationship 

-Exercises you and your partner can do to dig deeper into your need, desires and emotions

-The three steps to conflict communication 

-The importance of empathy and how to have more of it


“The thing that makes a marriage good is thinking that each person got the better end of the deal and I definitely think that’s true with me, I definitely traded up in the draft with Bev” - Tom 

“ We came from divorced homes, so if we got mad we’d say ‘it’s not gonna work,’ ‘we just need to get a divorce.’...and one day I said we can’t say that anymore...what you speak is your destiny. ” -Beverly 

“Commitment has no exits.. And exits are things that you are passionate about more than you're passionate about working on your marriage.” -Beverly 

“About 65% of marital conflicts don’t come to an agreement.. But a healthy couple can actually dialogue.” - Beverly 

“We say that this phrase will heal your marriage, guaranteed ‘honey you may be right’ … which is really really tough to say in the middle of a conflict but if you can say that, and mean it, it humbles you.” - Tom 

“If you’re willing to be vulnerable you can be hurt, but you will never have intimacy without vulnerability...intimacy is the key to deep healthy relationships” -Tom 

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