Episode 22 w/Jeff & Jessica Jennings
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In today's episode, Matthew and Kim host Jeff and Jessica, husband & wife, and partners in their marriage counseling practice ‘Greatest Marriage Ever.’ This power couple met while getting their master's degrees in professional counseling in 2002 and now reside in Charlottesville, VA. With a combined 40 years of experience, they have helped thousands of couples rekindle a deep connection through cutting-edge neuroscience, relationship research, and positive psychology. Tune for incredible advice from the relationship professionals themselves. 

Key Topics

-Things you want to bring from your past into your marriage v.s the things you want to change

-Understanding the process (collective needs and fears) behind a conflict 

-How to break the ice during a fight 

-Learning to be vulnerable, not defensive


“Whatever wounds, whatever struggles we have are going to come forward in the marriage, and that's the point. The point is to really create a safe space so each of you, regardless of where you come from, can face these things.” -Jessica 

“Given my background and experience, commitment means you stay, you stick through it hell or high water”- Jeff 

“A lot of time conflict resolution has to do with understanding what's going on underneath... It's not the content, necessarily... What's underneath that anger.” -Jeff

“It would be this icy cold feeling in the home for 2 or 3 days where we're not really talking, but we've learned to recognize that cycle when it's happening a lot sooner and be able to call it out and be able to communicate what we need from each other” -Jeff

“It's easy to point out the bad guy… but there is no bad guy, you are both hurting, and you are needing to feel safe in order to reconnect. The cycle is really the bad guy.” -Jessica

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