The Rabbi and The Shrink
Rabbi Yonason Goldson and Dr. Margarita Gurri, CSP
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What do you get when you cross an Orthodox hitchhiking rabbi and a Catholic Cuban psychologist? An unpredictable conversation about everyday ethics and the secrets for successful relationships in business, family, and community. Contact us with questions and comments: http://therabbiandtheshrink.com/ Podcast@TheRabbiandTheShrink.com
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#69 Lucille Ossai - Communicate with Grace
How can we solve problems of communication when we aren't even aware of them?
How do we turn authenticity from a cliché into a mindset?
Is it hypocritical or authentic to present myself as the person I want to become?
These and other contemporary questions are addressed when award-winning communication guru Lucille Ossai joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucilleossaicommunicationspro/
https://www.lucilleossai.com/
Put yourself in the shoes of your audience to create connection with them.
What's the difference between simple and easy?
Body language cues us to be more aware of our own verbal communication.
Don't be afraid to ask for clarification.
What are Dialogues of the Deaf?
How body language triggers confidence in yourself and a positive impact on others.
Authenticity misapplied can become incivility.
It's authentic to be aspirational.
Have the end in mind when you know where you're going. The courage of curiosity leads us on a journey of discovery that can lead to wonderful destinations we never imagined.
What are the impediments to effective communication?
Great leaders need to be great communicators.
Gratitude and appreciation forms the bonds of mutual respect and trust that facilitate communication.
We have to be aware of the message we might be projecting even if we have no intention of doing so.
The word of the day: euphony
agreeableness of sound; pleasing effect to the ear, especially a pleasant sounding or harmonious combination or succession of words
Our style of speech established credibility, trust, and connection so the message will be received.
Give yourself permission to be yourself.
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Jul 28, 2022
#68 Jeff Koziatek - Seek Pebbles and Find Mountains
How does our focus on big wins set us up for failure?
How can you be confident without sounding arrogant?
Why is it self-destructive to identify ourselves and other by performance?
These and other confidence-boosting topics are addressed when peak performance coach Jeff Koziatek returns to The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.coreauthenticity.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffkoziatek/
Focusing on little wins sets us on the path for huge success.
Every time temptation comes, either we push back and get stronger or give in and stay as we are. Over time, we develop the habit of pushing back or giving in.
Confidence without competence is not a recipe for success.
Ethical leadership acknowledges mistakes, takes responsibility, and looks for lessons and solutions.
Is there ever a time to reward failure?
Failure is the time when loyalty really reveals itself.
When the team manager ignores the demands of 40,000 fans.
Churchill: Success is going from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.
Focusing on short-term wins often sabotages long term goals.
The word of the day: Simulacrum [ sim-yuh-ley-kruhm ]
Superficial representation or likeness
Leaders whose top priority is the appearance of competence or power are not genuine leaders
Overvaluing performance can make us go out of our way to prove something that was never true to begin with.
Keep asking until you understand. No one knows everything all the time.
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Jul 21, 2022
#67 Commander Mary Kelly - Ethical Battle Plans
*Should we be more afraid of pit bulls or chihuahuas?*
*How do the rules of the war room apply to the rules of the boardroom?*
*What are the six phases of crisis response?*
*These and other compelling questions are addressed when retired Naval Commander Mary Kelly joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmarykelly/*
*https://productiveleaders.com/*
*How can we transform our daily professional lives in five minutes a day?*
*Every morning ask yourself: “What does my leadership need to look like today?”*
*Leadership skills prepare us to default to the right decision amidst chaos and confusion.*
*Proximity to greatness makes us great.*
*What are the ethics of self-sacrifice vs. scapegoating?*
*Use the Socratic method to correct bad behavior.*
*Influencing through facts vs. emotions.*
*Civility allows us to disagree while remaining friends.*
*Leaders have to create commonality and channel emotions in a healthy way.*
*Establish your reputation as a person of honor and integrity.*
*Value individuals for who they are, not for assumptions we make based on their identity labels.*
*The job of a team is to support decisions once they’re made even if we don’t like them.*
*Choosing character over ideology is key to success.*
*Earn trust and loyalty by admitting mistakes and take responsibility for them.*
*How do we balance hierarchical structure against individual initiative?*
*Word of the Day: Martinet*
* *a strict disciplinarian, especially a military one.*
* *someone who stubbornly adheres to methods or rules*
*Successful leaders demand high standards and respect while showing respect and earning trust.*
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**Kīnāʻole: **Do the right thing, in the right way, at the right time, in the right place, to the right person, for the right reason, and with the right feeling, the first time! In other words, “Just do the next right thing!”*
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Jul 14, 2022
Archive Episode #26 Marilyn Suttle - Success in the Palm of your Hand
*How do we do a better job handling it when we get flustered and defensive?
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*How do we give and receive criticism in a way the builds trust and encourages improvement?
What is the alternative to flight or fight that promotes cooperation and collaboration?
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*These and other critical question for success in business and in life are answered when customer service maven Marilyn Suttle joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/marilynsuttle/
https://marilynsuttle.com/
*0:50 Wellbeing and security are critical to a healthy work environment for workers and customers
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*Ethics creates a culture of trust, solid relationships, and loyalty
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*Raising trust increases expectations, which is a good thing
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*Develop the skill set to deal with difficult and unexpected situations
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*Different values and styles need to be accommodated
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*6:00 Learned behavior is not easily unlearned
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*How do we handle it better when we get flustered and defensive?
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*We’re 100% responsible for 50% of every relationship
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*We make assumptions about the facts, which may or may not be true
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*We make up stories that create feelings by exploiting our unmet expectations
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*What outcome do we really want?
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*Clear communication often defuses conflict before it happens.
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*13:00 When we get into fight or flight, our biology hijacks our thinking and decision making
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*The other option is a challenge response, which can focus and motivate us
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*Being honest make us vulnerable, which is frightening but creates the potential for closeness
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*17:30 It’s all in the palm of your hand:
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*First impressions -- eliminate the potential for annoyance
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*Last impression
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*Manage high emotion moments
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*Marry yourself to your team and your customers
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*Measure and gauge -- feedback
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*21:15 Value their time and ask only for meaningful feedback and use it
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*How do you respond to criticism
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*Redirect attention toward the good to promote reframing
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*Take responsibility and show appreciation
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*27:00 Empower employees to address customer issues
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*Have someone to call to help you regain clarity
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*31:00 Different perspectives generate an ethical view
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*32:00 The word of the day: pithy
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*We don’t want to reduce all ideas to soundbites, but we do want to be concise so our ideas have impact
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*34:00 Happiness is a profound concept that come from being part of something important
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*36:00 Tailor your customer care according to the needs of each customer
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*37:00 Blaming, complaining, and making excuses are responses that will not lead to improvement
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*The difference between responding and reacting
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*Get comfortable with silence or pausing
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*Counting to 10 reboots your brain
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*Resist the pressure to fill empty space without thinking first
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*The benefit of one, two, and three second pauses
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*The pauses are the most essential part of the class
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*It takes stress to allev*
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Jul 7, 2022
Archive Episode # 34 Scott Mason - Create a Circle of Laughter
*Is it possible that we share responsibility for how others treat us?*
*What signals are we sending out that promote or allow them to treat us badly?*
*Can individuals with foundationally different values connect civilly and cordially?
These and other profoundly relevant questions are addressed when speaker and podcast host Scott Mason joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
https://www.linkedin.com/in/smason1/
https://www.purposehighway.com/
*1:00 People are responding to alienation by seeking meaning and purpose*
*Progress and purpose -- the source of happiness*
*You cannot pursue happiness*
*3:00 Make connections to build communities*
*Love emerges through giving and committing ourselves to a common purpose*
*A flame gives without giving anything up *
*We should influence one another in a way that we improve one another*
*8:00 It’s a moral imperative to contribute light to the world*
*A lack of clarity or belief holds us back*
*Recognize your gifts so you can give*
*10:30 A leap into the unknown changed everything*
*A ride in the dark and the rain produced a service mindset*
*A new perspective brings new opportunities*
*Do we listen when we hear “the voice”?*
*The profound power of humility and opening ourselves to new possibilities*
*16:30 Be Theseus -- meet the challenges that will make you a hero*
*Get out of the comfort box*
*Build a circle of laughter and joy*
*Why is a safe place a place of terror?*
*21:00 Fight fear with fear*
*The power of shame*
*Recover balance to make the right decision by looking down all roads*
*23:00 Viewing the world as hostile makes us hostile*
*Embrace the challenges that are beyond our control and respond with what we can do with them*
*Radical accountability turns us into positive extremists*
*What signals are we sending out that promotes or allows them to treat us badly?*
*Is it possible that we share responsibility for how others treat us?*
*32:00 Irreconcilable differences?*
*Can individuals with foundationally different values connect civilly and cordially?*
*Absolute truth is truth, regardless of whether we like it or understand it*
*Living in a world where we don’t all agree on truth, we have to recognize the sincerity and good intentions of those with whom we disagree*
*37:00 Belief in our own soul is transformative*
*The nature of the universe transcends our ability to comprehend*
*Respect facts, logic, and reason*
*Seek commonality of belief and humanity before focusing on differences*
*Don’t be afraid of uncomfortable conversations*
*If you personalize every belief, you will find it impossible to coexist with others who have different beliefs*
*We need to disagree honestly in order to grow and be willing to revisit our beliefs*
*45:00 Befriending “adversaries” may bring us condemnation from our “allies”*
*Every human being is deserving of basic respect*
*Most of us are doing good things despite our shortcomings or errors*
*Principled compromise is not compromising our values*
*49:00 We have to be able to connect and to lead*
*Leadership is impossible without self confidence in who we are and what we believe*
*55:00 Word of the day: gorgonize*
*When we look for the ugliness in others, we petrify our own hearts*
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Jun 30, 2022
Archive Episode # 27 Amanda "Jo" Erven - Speak the Truth, Even if your Voice Shakes
What's the single most effective way to avoid ethical pitfalls?
Why are so many people afraid to talk about ethics?
Has the world gotten less ethical?
These and other critical questions for success are answered when ethics auditor Amanda "Jo" Erven joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-jo-erven-ace/
http://www.auditconsultingeducation.com/
http://www.totalqualityauditing.com/
http://www.cpebookclub.com/
*#27 Amanda “Jo” Erven*
*1:30 Changing one person’s mind contributes to a better world*
*It’s hard to sell ethics because people don’t have a definition and are scared by the word*
*Have an ethics icebreaker *
*Ethics may not be simple, but don't have to be complicated*
*6:00 Three ethical character types*
*The Big Me*
*The Ethical Rationalizer*
*The Everyday Ethicist*
*People who call themselves ethicists tend to be less ethical*
*10:00 Unethical behavior encourages others to behave unethically*
*Create your own ethical value statement or mantra*
*We can’t change our circumstances except by changing ourselves*
*14:30 Be ethically pro-active which is pro-self*
*Too many people don’t know their own values*
*16:00 Where do we start to put ethics into action?*
*We don’t have to be experts*
*Sometimes we’re scared to do what’s right*
*18:00 Individual, leadership, and organizational ethics*
*The seven deadly ethical sins*
*“Move fast and break things” mentality*
*Disingenuous leaders -- always speak the truth, even if your voice shakes*
*20:30 Have things really gotten worse?*
*We are definitely more self-absorbed today*
*We don’t feel shame, but we rush to shame others*
*The contradiction of AirBNB*
*24:15 Beware of conflicts of your own interest*
*Ethics is threatened by fear and entitlement*
*The ethics of COVID*
*Dan Ariely’s research: thinking of the 10 commandments makes us more honest*
*28:30 Find your trusted advisor*
*Facing and embrace your adversity*
*Teaching surly students in Budapest, Hungary*
*When we have to defend our behavior, we think more about our choices*
*33:00 Doing the right thing feels really good*
*Ethical discipline protects others and ourselves*
*38:00 The word of the day: miscreate -- to produce in a way that is defective*
*Good intentions without disciplined execution can have disastrous results*
*40:00 Everyone deserves a better-than-good life*
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Jun 23, 2022
Archive Episode #33 Daryl Davis- Hate and Harmony
Why are we reluctant to "walk across the cafeteria" to start a conversation?
What is the soundtrack to your life?
Why don't books and history tell the whole story, and where should we turn to get it?
These and other critical questions for building a harmonious world are addressed when award-winning musician and race reconciliator Daryl Davis joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.daryldavis.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/daryl-davis-5226b24/
*1:00 Music is a bridge*
*The benefit of a global perspective*
*Legal desegregation took years to take effect*
*Attacked for being a Cub Scout?*
*Learning about racism at age 10*
*How can you hate me if you don’t know me?*
*7:30 Responding to injustice and hate with genuine curiosity*
*Breadth of experience provides perspective to moderate our responses*
*10:00 Books and histories did not explain hate*
*Meeting the head of the American Nazi Party as a high school student*
*The coming race war?*
*“Joining” the Nazi rally before the White House*
*The “rationalism” of white supremacy*
*18:00 What happens when whites become the minority in the U.S.?*
*What does the fear of that do to people?*
*Charleston, PIttsburgh, El Paso*
*22:30 A chance encounter with the KKK*
*Here was the answer to the question*
*28:00 We have to know who we are*
*Exposure to different cultures and ideologies make us broader*
*The five values all humans want:*
*Love, respect, to be heard, to be treated fairly, we want those values for our families*
*A missed opportunity for dialogue is a missed opportunity for conflict resolution*
*33:00 Meeting the Imperial Wizard of the KKK*
*The “noise”*
*We all feel fear of the unknown, we are all relieved when that fear is removed*
*We hate what we don’t understand because it frightens us*
*Awareness of our collective ignorance can bring us together*
*Education cures ignorance, which cures fear, which cures violence*
*48:00 What can we all do to transcend and eliminate hate?*
*Spend time listening to people to learn who they are*
*Debate doesn’t bring people together; getting to know one another as human beings does*
*53:45 Music contains the key*
*Harmony allows our differences to become a source of strength and unity*
*57:00 The word of the day: liminal*
*of, relating to, or situated at a sensory threshold : barely perceptible or capable of eliciting a response*
*What if life had background music?*
*Any moment can offer the opportunity to change our lives and our world*
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Jun 16, 2022
#66 Kelly Paxton - Why we Root for Criminals
Does the glass ceiling promote pink collar crime?
What conditions encourage our "evil twin" to come out from the shadows?
How do we balance trust against vigilance without toxifying the workplace?
These and other contemporary challenges are addressed when Pink Collar Crime expert Kelly Paxton joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
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Jun 9, 2022
#65 Jean Marie DiGiovanna - The New Workplace Renaissance
*How does the “Great Resignation” point the way to creating a workplace renaissance?*
*Why is unlearning a greater challenge than learning, and how does it take leadership to a new level?*
*Why is genuine curiosity an essential component to an ethical culture?*
*These and other enlightening topics are addressed when renaissance leadership guru Jean Marie DiGiovanna joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeandigiovanna/*
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Jun 2, 2022
#64 Deborah Coviello - The Courage of Curiosity
*How does contentment with the status quo prevent us from getting what we really want?*
*What does curling teach us about business and about life?*
*How do we steer away from chaos and crisis by preparing in times of calm?*
*These and other critical questions are addressed when Drop-in CEO Deb Coviello joins The Rabbi and the Shrink?*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahacoviello/*
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May 26, 2022
#63: Eliz Greene - Low Stress for Great Success
*What causes stress and what will relieve it?*
*If work-life balance isn't the cause of our stress, what is?
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*Can you reorder your stress environment*
These and other urgent questions for our personal well-being when anti-stress guru Eliz Greene joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizgreene/*
*https://elizgreene.com/*
*1:00 Lessons from cardiac arrest while carrying twins*
*A bubble of contentment protects us from tragedy and trauma*
*Where we want to be vs. where we need to be*
*It’s harder to watch someone you love going through uncertainty*
*Denying our pain can be fatal*
*Subtle pain can be just as deadly as intense pain*
*9:00 Gauging early warning signs against the fear of hypochondria*
*Job stress can have consequences at home*
*What causes stress and what will relieve it?*
*Overwhelm and uncertainty*
*NOT work-life balance*
*95% of our efforts are trying to solve the wrong problem*
*15:00 Stress is good in crisis, but dangerous whe…
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May 19, 2022
#62: William Negley - Sound-off for Gratitude & Support
*What does it say when we fail those who have given us so much?*
*How does the structure of our society complicate our problems?*
*Why does the stigma of mental health endure?*
*These and other critical questions are addressed when military mental health advocate William Negley joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/wwnegley/*
*https://sound-off.com/*
*1:00 How do we ensure mental health care for those who protect our country?*
*Sound off*
*Fighting stigma*
*Why chaplain care is not always enough*
*Filling in the gaps*
*Meeting people where they are*
*6:00 Why mental health stigma persists?*
*Bureaucracy, trust, complexity, desire for anonymity*
*Fear of blowback*
*10:00 The tragedy of crisis going unnoticed*
*What is the national security cost?*
*Meeting the need for anonymous care*
*Context creates awareness*
*23:00 What is the cause for explosion of PTSD*
*Does returning to a fractured society magnify the effects of trauma?*
*Lack of share…
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May 12, 2022
#61: Susan Fitzell - Brains are Wired Differently
*Why do employees sometimes pretend to be someone they’re not?*
*When is bending norms the key to a healthy culture?*
*How do we avoid inadvertently projecting disrespect?*
*These and other highly relevant questions are addressed when neurodiversity expert Susan Fitzell joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanfitzell/*
*https://susanfitzell.com/*
*1:30 The origins of neurodiversity*
*Autism initiatives at Stanford*
*Executives and administrators were unprepared for working with the neurodiverse and neurodivergent*
*Asking questions and listening to answers opens doors and possibilities*
*5:30 Brains are wired differently from birth*
*We don’t always understand each other*
*Awareness and initiatives creates a vibrancy and multiplicity of perspective that sameness does not*
*Dyslexics as codebreakers*
*10:00 We hire for diversity but train for sameness*
*Efficiency often filters out talent and encourages a monolithic culture*
*We make mistak…
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May 5, 2022
#60: Ron Carucci - Lead with Power and Purpose
*What are the triggers, patterns, and conditions that set us up for failure?*
*Why are we voyeurs of depravity rather than students of dignity?*
*Why are good-hearted leaders not more successful?*
*These and other critical questions are addressed when transformation guru Ron Carucci joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/roncarucci/*
*https://www.navalent.com/*
*1:45 The origins of truth, justice, and purpose*
*Why are good-hearted leaders not more successful?*
*Truth-telling makes all the difference*
*Tell the hero stories*
*Where does knowledge take us? That is the road to wisdom*
*8:30 Why are we voyeurs of depravity rather than students of dignity?*
*Stories of heroes inspire heroism in us*
*11:00 Four preconditions for success*
* *Be true to who you are -- unfulfilled values are destructive*
* *Justice and accountability -- measuring intangible contributions with integrity*
* *Governance -- make decisions honestly and transparently*
* *…
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Apr 28, 2022
#59: Julie Thompson - The Last Line of Defense
*What happens when the people responsible aren’t responsible?*
*When is learning on the job dereliction of duty?*
*Do I really want to work for a company with a bad reputation?*
*These and other penetrating questions are addressed when auditing aficionado Julie Thompson joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://auditingalliance.org/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejuliethompson/*
*3:00 Why is auditing the last line of defense?*
*Anticipate problems and prepare for when they inevitably happen*
*Trust but verify -- no gotcha*
*Like ethics, auditing calls for constant improvement*
*Do you want to work for or with a company with a poor reputation?*
*The power of objective opinion*
*8:45 What makes a good (or ethical) auditor?*
*Am I qualified for the job being offered?*
*Pressure to overlook problem situations as “outliers”*
*Downplaying as “low-risk”*
*Neglect in one area implies neglect in another*
*Van Halen and the red M&Ms*
*15:30 Covid masks on airlines o…
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Apr 21, 2022
#58: David E. Marlow - Uncover Your True Essence
What is your reason for getting up each morning?
Why are distraction and FOMO so dangerous to our well-being?
How is the media consciously sabotaging our efforts for success?
These and other highly relevant questions are addressed when David E. Marlow, the Ikigai Guy, joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidemarlow/
*2:00 What is Ikigai?*
*Your reason for getting up in the morning*
*Living in the moment of doing what you are uniquely created to do*
*Doors open naturally when we are aligned with our true purpose*
*4:00 Is this different from living according to God’s will?*
*Living your essence in the best way you can*
*Disintegration is the opposite of integrity*
*Finding our balancing point between focus on our higher purpose and focus on our community*
*9:00 What is MOAI?*
*Connection to family, friends, and community*
*11:00 How David found his Ikigai*
*What came to him in a dream*
*Looking back, we see how seemingly disconnected events ar…
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Apr 14, 2022
#57: Dr. Melissa Hughes - Train Your Brain to Succeed
What do you do to be a bad boss?
What’s the greatest gift you can give?
Would you talk to another person the way you talk to yourself?
These and other fascinating questions are addressed when Brain Science maven Melissa Hughes, Ph.D. joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissahughesphd/
https://www.melissahughes.rocks/
2:00 Knowing our past gives us a sense of direction for the future
From 4th grade teacher to neuroscience researcher
We all have access to information; how are we using it?
6:30 What do you do to be a bad boss?
Traditional hierarchy vs. teams
Psychological safety and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
We all want to feel that we belong
Innovation is all about challenging the status quo
“This is how we do it” vs. “Can we do it better?”
11:00 Who is wise? One who learns from every person
We have to know what works, but also what doesn’t work
Obstacles vs. challenges: the brain loves challenges
Leaders who listen to employees…
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Apr 7, 2022
#56: Cordelia Gaffar - Experiment with Joy
Why do we choose not to be clear?
Are we flawed or are we human?
How does nurturing ourselves benefit our businesses?
These and other urgent questions are addressed when joyful living guru Cordelia Gaffar joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/cordelia-gaffar/*
*http://cordeliagaffar.com/*
2:00 The value of joy-mongering and joy-bonding
Elevate our interactions rather than being transactional
Joy is a function of growth, progress, purpose and connection
Our vocabulary creates our world
How joy addresses the lack of trust in business
The corrosive effect of tracking software
9:00 How nurturing ourselves benefits our businesses
Different kinds of rest, diet, and exercise are essential to a joyful disposition
Emotions and thoughts influence and are influenced by our state of being
We have more control over thoughts than feelings and most control over our actions
14:00 Doubt, frustration, isolation, powerlessness depress our attitude and performance
T…
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Mar 31, 2022
#55: April Shprintz - Winning Through Generosity
*#55 Winning through generosity w/ April Shprintz*
*How do you make the leap from damage control to prevention?*
*What question should leaders be asking themselves?*
*What is the ROI of generosity?*
*These and other transformational questions are addressed when generosity guru April Shprintz joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/aprilshprintz/*
*https://drivenoutcomes.com/*
*1:30 What are magic blue rocks?*
*We don’t always recognize how we can inspire others*
*Mindset makes all the difference*
*The power of authentic storytelling*
*6:30 The belief that life can be different*
*We can feel shame for circumstances beyond our control*
*When generosity becomes a reflex, it means nothing to us but everything to others*
*We don’t see what grows from the seeds we sow*
*In order to serve others, we have to see the bigger picture*
*14:15 Things in life happen for you, not to you*
*Working on how you view the world is the best thing you can do for you…
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Mar 24, 2022
#54: Barbara Vercruysse - Kindness is Strength
*How do we stay focused and not slip back into old patterns?*
*What is the difference between kindness and niceness?*
*If it’s greater to give than to receive, what is the greatest gift you can give?*
*These and other deep, meaningful questions are addressed when powerful kindness advocate Barbara Vercruysse joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbara-vercruysse-431027113/*
*https://www.barbaravercruysse.com/*
*1:00 Kindness is not weakness*
*Given six months to live*
*What is my legacy? What would I do with a second chance?*
*What kind of success leads to happiness?*
*6:00 How do we keep focus and not slip back into old patterns?*
*Gratitude is the foundation*
*Why waste our days in complaining and negativity?*
*What do challenges and obstacles teach us?*
*Do we give in to the darkness or do we strive to be the light?
You are the source of what you are looking for*
*12:00 Why do we think of kindness as weakness?*
*What’s the difference bet…
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Mar 17, 2022
#53: Brooke Deterline - Humility is the Doorway to Wisdom
*How do you tell the truth when there’s so much pressure to do the opposite?*
*How do we stop greasing the slippery slope to hell?*
*What is “ethical fading” and what can we do about it?*
*These and other compelling questions are addressed Courageous Leadership pioneer Brooke Deterline joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.thecourage2lead.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/brooke-deterline-428aa7/*
*1:30 Our most real beliefs may not be true*
*“The Heroic Imagination Project”*
*It’s easy for good people to do the wrong thing under pressure*
*The danger of situational influences*
*“Now that we know, what will we do?”*
*8:00 Brooke’s own epiphany of moral vulnerability*
*Responding through social fitness against our biology*
*Professor Dumbledor’s wisdom to combat groupthink*
*Courageous democracy*
*Grief is a powerful connector*
*14:00 Strengthening ethical decision-making through cognitive behavior training*
*Physical mindfulness*
*Write do…
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Mar 10, 2022
#52: Mark Hershberg - The Ethics of Competence
*Why is company culture necessary for technical skills to make a difference?*
*Who is more essential: workers or executives?*
*Was Jack Welsh good for business?*
*These and other highly relevant questions are addressed when Career Success Accelerator Mark Herschberg joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.thecareertoolkitbook.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/hershey/*
*0:45 Origins of the career toolkit*
*How can an engineer (or anyone else) learn leadership, communicating, networking, teambuilding, and negotiating?*
*Not just for senior leaders but for everyone*
*3:00 What do you believe that others don’t?*
*Why soft skills need another name, and technical skills are not enough*
*Ben Parker’s wisdom*
*Expand your rectangle for greater success*
*Improve your weakness as well as your strengths*
*9:00 How to build a high-power network*
*More is not always better*
*Seek quality over quantity*
*What can I give, not what can I get*
*14:00 How to make quality co…
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Mar 3, 2022
Archive episode #14: John Register - Heroism on One Foot
Why is ignorance a gift?
Why are we afraid to tell our own truth?
How does sympathy drive us apart?
Join us as we discuss these and other compelling topics with Paralympian and executive coach John Register on this episode of The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*https://johnregister.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnregister/*
*https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M08l27PzJ8E*
*1:00 People are uncomfortable telling their truths and articulating the object of their fears*
*All fear stems from fear of the unknown*
*2:30 Kids are willing to say what adults are afraid to*
*Embrace the new normal*
*New is “no prior frame of reference”*
*5:00 Kids come with innocence… when did we lose ours?*
*Labels and categories create tension*
*Empathy vs. sympathy*
*Honor and respect others for who they are and on their terms*
*10:00 Have low expectations and work to raise the bar*
*11:00 Ignorance is a good thing if it makes us curious*
*We need to be inquisitive and want to expand our kno…
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Feb 24, 2022
#51: Michael Alcee - The Unconscious and All That Jazz
*Why do people become lemmings?*
*What is self-awareness like being a jazz musician?*
*How can we reframe whistleblowing as leadership!*
*These and other compelling questions are addressed when therapeutic improvisationalist Dr. Michael Alcee joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-alcee-14417755/*
*https://michaelalcee.com/*
*https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkkGPyc3ZmA*
*2:30 Embrace dissonance to create new forms*
*Bliss comes often from embracing difficulties and dilemmas*
*Before we can deal with diversity and multitudes without we have to address them within*
*We need to confront our inner diversity and contention*
*We become exiled from ourselves*
*The lessons of Joseph and his brothers*
*We have to anticipate how our messages will be deceived*
*We have to recognize where we’ve gone wrong before we can move forward*
*12:00 Take inventory*
*No shortcuts to self-knowledge or knowledge of others*
*The difference between hurt and hate,…
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Feb 17, 2022
#50: Mariah and Byron Edgington - You Are More Than Enough
*#50 You are more than enough with Mariah and Byron Edgington*
*Can we raise ourselves when we’re connected to people who pull us down?*
*Where do we turn when we’re overwhelmed?*
*What’s the greatest gift you can give?*
These and other critical questions are addressed when mindset coaches Mariah and Byron Edgington join The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/byronedgington/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariahedgington/
https://www.mariahedgington.com/
*1:30 More than ever, people need affirmation that we can craft a better world*
*Where do we turn when we’re overwhelmed?*
*Just reaching out can change or save a life*
*We can miss cues that others are desperate for connection*
*4:30 What’s the greatest gift you can give?*
*Giving helps the giver as much or more than the receiver*
*Our moods affect those around us -- mirror neurons*
*By giving to others, we enable them to give to us*
*8:00 The more compassion and respect we give ourselves, the mor…
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Feb 10, 2022
#49: Mick Mulroy - Value Integrity Over Ideology
*Is our society becoming more cultish?*
*Are we facing the twilight of democracy?*
*Can individuals change the culture of our society?*
*These and other critical questions are addressed when Former Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for the Middle East Michael Patrick Mulroy joins The Rabbi and the Shrink*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-mick-patrick-mulroy-31198b52/*
*http://loboinstitute.org/*
*1:30 What is integrity? What does it have to do with being an American citizen?*
*Doing the right thing even when no one is watching*
*From its inception, the United States has been founded on the principles of freedom and equality*
*Integrity = integer*
*More than peace, harmony*
*Different people with different ideas connected by a common mission*
*5:00 A nation’s integrity comes from the character of its people*
*We need to honor our word for both our allies and our enemies*
*The way we do things is as important as what we do*
*7:00 What can we do as individuals?*…
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Feb 3, 2022
#48: Matt Ward - The Ethics of Authentic Connection
*How do you outrun a bear in business?*
*Why isn’t “know, like, and trust” enough to attract partners?*
*What’s the difference between partnership and kickbacks?*
These and other intriguing questions are addressed when referral guru Matt Ward joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattwardspeaks/*
*http://www.mattwardspeaks.com/*
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*1:00 Referrals are all about relationships*
*People do business with people they know, like, trust… and care about*
*Don’t look at people as commodities*
*Ethics is a function of authenticity*
*The four pillars of genuine connection:*
*Overdelivery*
*Listening*
*Surprise*
*Non-self-serving acts*
*It takes time: you can accelerate it but not hack it*
*9:00 Service is the key to building relationships*
*Think about what you can learn rather what can they do for you*
*12:00 Referral fees?*
*What’s the difference between partnership and kickbacks?*
*Transparency avoids ethical violations*
*The gift of…
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Jan 27, 2022
#47: Gila Manolson - The Power of Personal Dignity
*How can you exert power without taking center stage?*
*How can you use the practical to concretize the abstract?*
*Are traditional roles actually more empowering for women?*
*These and other unorthodox questions are addressed when feminist author and speaker Gila Manolson joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*http://gilamanolson.com/*
*1:30 A story of personal transformation*
*A feminist atheist sees gender roles in a new way*
*A vision of purity introduced a different view of life and intimacy*
*6:00 Modesty is an expression of self-value and self-worth*
*Directing our attention toward the internal rather than the external*
*The astounding personal dignity of a former Miss America*
*The relationship between man and wife is a paradigm for intimacy with the Creator*
*Using the practical to concretize the abstract*
*10:30 The paradox of distance bringing us closer*
*The case for sexual integrity*
*Rules are set in place for our benefit*
*Superficial intimacy can teach us not…
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Jan 20, 2022
#46: Sam Ardery - Become Positively Conflicted
*#46 Sam Ardery -- Become positively conflicted*
*Why is the next thing you’re going to say probably a mistake?*
*Why is conflict a mixed blessing?*
*Why do you double-down when you know you’re wrong?*
*These and other critical challenges to conflict resolution will be elucidated when mediation guru Sam Ardery joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/sam-ardery-b78a8022/*
*https://www.samardery.com/*
*1:30 Using personal experience to teach without coming off as a martyr or a saint*
*We trust our own common sense when we need objective perspective*
*4:30 Conflict is a mixed blessing*
*Problems are mostly fear-based*
*Balancing passion against professionalism*
*9:30 We turn to anger because it’s easier than self-reflection*
*“Why don’t you change so I’ll feel better?”*
*We fade in and out of self-awareness*
*Well-given rebuke can reach us and make us recalibrate*
*13:00 “Would you rather be right or would you rather be married?”*
*…
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Jan 13, 2022
#45: Lester Young - Life Sentence to Life's Mission
*How do we escape from the prison of our mind?
How do we acquire the mindset to transform failure into victory and success?
What do we want our life and our legacy to be?*
These and other pressing questions are addressed when a Muslim ex-con, a Catholic shrink, and an Orthodox rabbi sit down together on The Rabbi and the Shrink. Don't miss this episode with Lester Young!
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lester-young-b1b6a0106/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7Y3oh7l_wqJSCPtitB9BFw
*1:30 How a life sentence became a life’s mission*
*What do we want our life and our legacy to be?*
*One man, one book, made all the difference*
*We are all masters of our own fate*
*Authentic leaders inspire us to challenge ourselves*
*4:00 Free will: the past does not have to define us*
*We can’t necessarily change our circumstances but we can change ourselves*
*Dissociation started a process that ended with prayer*
*A perpetrator can honor a victim by becoming a new person*
*The path to rec…
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Jan 6, 2022
#44: Kimi Hirotsu Ziemski - The Courage to Communicate
How do we bridge the distance between the speaker and the listener?
Why is speaking truth to power both an illusive and a sought-after commodity?
Why is shooting the messenger really shooting yourself?
These and other fascinating and relevant questions are addressed when leadership guru Kimi Hirotsu Ziemski joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimihirotsuziemski/
https://ksppartnership.com/
*1:00 What is the responsibility of the asker and the askee?*
*Commitment to time, energy, and understanding*
*Fear of appearing stupid or insensitive*
*Lack of confidence that we can clearly express ourselves*
*We think it’s safer to stay silent, which sets us up for failure*
*5:00 William H. Whyte: the greatest problem of communication is the illusion that it has taken place*
*It doesn’t matter how hard we try to be clear if we don’t succeed*
*The courage to say: I’m not clear*
*8:00 Take responsibility, using humor or self-deprecation*
*Beware of bein…
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Dec 30, 2021
Archive Episode #3: - A New Year's Resolution?
Why are New Year's resolutions so hard to keep?
Do we want to change enough to really commit ourselves?
What are some basic strategies to do and be better?
These and other critical questions are addressed in this archive episode of The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*1:00 Repentance means a return to the straight and narrow through 1) stopping the improper behavior, 2) feeling remorse, 3) verbalizing our apology, and 4) planning a strategy not to backslide into old behaviors. Without a specific, concrete plan we have little chance of achieving lasting change.*
*4:00 The story of the first time Rabbi Goldson observed the Sabbath according to Jewish law, which demonstrates that the promises we make to ourselves may be the most important promises we keep.*
*9:30 Many people are not good to themselves, which may be why ethics really does start at home. What do you do to take care of or honor yourself?*
*11:00 Is there any sin that is truly unforgivable? According to the sages, only seven bib…
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Dec 23, 2021
#43: Nick Gallo - Succeed by Weaponizing Ethics
*Why is business more like baseball than brain surgery?
Are we responding to a virtual world by creating a culture of mistrust?
Why don’t leaders recognize the profitability of a healthy company culture?*
These and other critical questions are addressed when ethics evangelist Nick Gallo joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ngallo/
https://complianceline.com/
*1:00 The resonance of ethics*
*The aspiration of culture and flexibility*
*Happiness comes from purpose*
*Serving by helping others help themselves*
*4:00 The value of culture first*
*Lean into your strengths and talents while improving your weaknesses*
*We don’t serve our cause or our partners by pressuring people to be automatons*
*A diverse community promotes vibrancy and creativity*
*You can’t sell an idea if you don’t live it yourself*
*9:00 Why don’t leaders recognize the profitability of a healthy company culture?*
*Our best intentions may not survive the pressure of the stat…
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Dec 16, 2021
#42: Judith Germain - Harness Tension to Promote Innovation
*What’s the difference between influence and manipulation?*
*How has COVID created the need for a new leadership breed?
How do you lead those who don’t want to take risks to do what’s right?
These and other fascinating questions are addressed when Judith Germain, the Mindful Maverick, joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.
**https://www.linkedin.com/in/judithgermain/**
**https://themaverickparadox.com/**
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*1:00 What is the Maverick Paradox?*
*What kind of leader will risk everything to do what’s right and give up everything to defend it?*
*Why do companies hire mavericks and then resent them?*
*You can be a maverick by personality or by vision*
*Maverick leader is who you are and what you actually do*
*Everyone can be a maverick leader*
*5:00 We all have the potential but we don’t all have the will*
*“Maverick leaders will swim upstream like a salmon even though they know there’s a bear waiting for them*
*7:30 How do you lead those who don’t want to take risks t…
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Dec 9, 2021
#41: Julie Hruska - Awaken From Sleepwalking Into Self-confidence
*#41 Julie Hruska -- Awaken from sleepwalking into self-confidence*
*How do we prioritize competing values and commitments?*
*What are the 6 habits of success?*
*What is holding you back from being successful?*
*These and other compelling questions are addressed when high performance coach Julie Hruska joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://powerfulleaders.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hruska-067414188/*
*2:00 How living others expectations can go wrong*
*Waking up from sleepwalking through life*
*Recalibrating for service serves ourselves*
*Everyone needs clarity and courage*
*You can’t serve others by being a dream merchant*
*7:00 Reject indoctrination and embrace wisdom*
*If we’re afraid of clarity, we retreat into sleepwalking*
*Believe in your own ability*
*Pay attention to your mindset and your internal voice*
*If we don’t choose our beliefs and values, we lack confidence*
*12:00 The comfort of the status quo*
*With low risk comes low reward*…
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Dec 2, 2021
#40: Kira Day - Meaning is the New Money
*How do we nurture our passion when the world around us stands in our way?*
*What’s the difference between passion and indulgence?
How can employers increase passion?*
These and other important questions are addressed when passion guru Kira Day joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*https://thepassioncentre.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/kiraday/*
*1:00 What is the passion gap?*
*Too many people don’t care about their work*
*Confusing passion with mission sends us down the wrong path*
*Often we need to come from a place of darkness to appreciate light*
*4:30 Our pains become our passions, and tension produces balance*
*What is the Passion Test?*
*What are the internal and external drivers of passion?*
*Passion makes us better*
*9:00 The four passion buckets*
*What are the underlying reasons for our passions?*
* *Internal -- natural interests*
* *Social environment -- connections and safety*
* *Functional -- support and development*
* *Psychological -- autonomy…
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Nov 25, 2021
#39: Helen Turnbull - The Unchallenged Brain is not Worth Trusting
*How do we react when others’ deeply held values offend us?
How does inclusivity strengthen an organization?*
*Are you willing to accept or embrace a new reality?*
These and other intriguing questions are addressed when Global inclusion expert Dr. Helen Turnbull joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
http://www.humanfacets.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-helen-turnbull/
*1:30 How does inclusivity strengthen an organization?*
*We can be privileged and excluded at the same time*
*4:00 What are D, E, and I?*
*Diversity: who we are*
*Inclusion: how we are treated*
*Do differences divide: why can’t we just treat each other as individuals?*
*Companies often hire for diversity and manage for similarity, which is self-defeating*
*We can learn about our unconscious biases but we can’t eliminate them*
*Sometimes we surprise ourselves with our own prejudices*
*Are we making eye contact with some people and not others*
*10:00 Do I have the will to compensate for my unconscious b…
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Nov 18, 2021
#38: Sam Horn - The Ethics of Eloquence
*Do you suffer from infobesity?*
*How do you make billions in 60 seconds?*
*How do you avoid becoming a bore, a snore, and a chore?*
*These and other urgent topics are addressed when Tongue-fu black belt Sam Horn joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://samhorn.com/*
*https://www.tonguefu.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/samhorn/*
*1:30 We want to do things worth doing*
*We succeed through community
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*Access to the successful is a shortcut to success
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*4:30 Ink it when you think it
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*If we don’t write down ideas when they enter our minds, we will lose them
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*Make your life your lab
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*You will make a difference in others’ lives
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*7:00 Ethics requires us to market the truth to benefit others
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*Be intriguing to get people on the hook
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*Infobesitiy vs. intrigue: a practical technique
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*Alliteration makes ideas memorable
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*Rhyme and rhythm
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*Crafting a message changes lives
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*14:00 tonality and musicality
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*Read out loud to self edit
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*Shift from u…
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Nov 11, 2021
#37: Breeda Miller - Conquer Crises with Compassion and Humor
*Is it ever right to deceive or mislead?*
*What happens when we become unexpectedly thrust into a radically new situation?*
*How do we cope with compassion fatigue?*
These and other compelling questions are addressed when self-care expert Breeda Miller returns to join The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/breedamiller/
https://breedamillerspeaking.com/
*1:00 An unplanned journey
The story of "Mrs. Kelly"*
*How do we cope with compassion fatigue?*
*We can’t help others if we don’t care for ourselves*
*Stories implant the lessons we need to survive and thrive*
*We can’t control what happens to us, only our responses*
*4:30 Response is the root of responsibility*
*The difference between reacting and responding*
*Looking at the bright side helps us cope with the darkness*
*6:30 Give yourself permission to not respond*
*Take a step back*
*Meet others where they are*
*Blessed are the flexible…*
*Balance humor against dignity -- no regrets*
*12:00 T…
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Nov 4, 2021
#36: Jeff Koziatek - Recognize and Actualize the "10" Within Yourself
*What happens when authenticity becomes a cliche?*
*Is it authentic to acknowledge being awful?*
*Are we being authentic when we aspire to be more than we are?*
*These and other stimulating questions are addressed when Jeff Koziatek, the Mindset Catalyst, joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
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*https://www.coreauthenticity.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffkoziatek/*
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*1:30 Do what you love.*
*Society sends a message that your value comes from what you do*
*Learn how to say no.*
*Everyone is asking the same two questions:*
*What is my worth, and where does it come from?*
*If it comes from something external, it’s not really ours.*
*People need tools for communication, confidence, and mindset development*
*We can be authentic behind a mask*
*But how much better to develop core authenticity that allows us to drop the mask*
*The difference between hiding and filter*
*10:00 “You are so different from how you seemed”*
*Go from living two lives to living one li…
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Oct 28, 2021
#35: Giancarlo Pitocco - Three Simple Steps to Wellbeing
*If I could get an hour of your time back, what would you do with it?*
*What is your brain chemistry telling you about how to live a more productive and fulfilling life?*
*Have we fallen into the fallacy of “down time”?*
*These and other fascinating questions are addressed when digital wellness guru **Giancarlo Pitocco** returns to join The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.purposeful.nyc/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/gcpofnyc/*
*1:00 Fred Rogers’s wisdom*
*You can love anyone if you understand where they are coming from*
*If we would take time to learn about people, we would feel affinity*
*The power of human engagement*
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*5:00 Special effects and action give us a dopamine fix with little substance*
*We crave rapid-fire images and don’t have patience for genuine connection*
*“The only thing missing from any situation is what you’re not giving.”*
*~Marianne Williamson*
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*8:00 Our phones help us avoid anything we don’t want to deal with*
*Five c…
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Oct 21, 2021
#34: Scott Mason - Create a Circle of Laughter
*Is it possible that we share responsibility for how others treat us?*
*What signals are we sending out that promote or allow them to treat us badly?*
*Can individuals with foundationally different values connect civilly and cordially?
These and other profoundly relevant questions are addressed when speaker and podcast host Scott Mason joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
https://www.linkedin.com/in/smason1/
https://www.purposehighway.com/
*1:00 People are responding to alienation by seeking meaning and purpose*
*Progress and purpose -- the source of happiness*
*You cannot pursue happiness*
*3:00 Make connections to build communities*
*Love emerges through giving and committing ourselves to a common purpose*
*A flame gives without giving anything up *
*We should influence one another in a way that we improve one another*
*8:00 It’s a moral imperative to contribute light to the world*
*A lack of clarity or belief holds us back*
*Recognize your gifts so you can give*
*10:30…
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Oct 14, 2021
#33: Daryl Davis - Hate and Harmony
Why are we reluctant to "walk across the cafeteria" to start a conversation?
What is the soundtrack to your life?
Why don't books and history tell the whole story, and where should we turn to get it?
These and other critical questions for building a harmonious world are addressed when award-winning musician and race reconciliator Daryl Davis joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.daryldavis.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/daryl-davis-5226b24/
*1:00 Music is a bridge*
*The benefit of a global perspective*
*Legal desegregation took years to take effect*
*Attacked for being a Cub Scout?*
*Learning about racism at age 10*
*How can you hate me if you don’t know me?*
*7:30 Responding to injustice and hate with genuine curiosity*
*Breadth of experience provides perspective to moderate our responses*
*10:00 Books and histories did not explain hate*
*Meeting the head of the American Nazi Party as a high school student*
*The coming race war?*
*“Joining” the Nazi rall…
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Oct 7, 2021
#32: Breeda Miller - Care for others by caring for yourself
W*hy is self-care a moral and ethical imperative?*
*What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?*
*What can we do to restore our collective faith in one another?*
*These and other critical questions are addressed when self-care expert Breeda Miller joins the Rabbi and the Shrink*
*https://breedamillerspeaking.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/breedamiller/*
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*1:00 Is self-care an ethical issue?*
*Take a break before you break*
*Only by taking care of ourselves can we take care of and be of service to others*
*You can only love others in proportion to how we love ourselves*
*4:00 “What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?”*
*There may be dreams we didn’t pursue that we still have time to realize*
*Can you tell your own story in a way that inspires others?*
*10:30 Stories provide the context that make information relevant*
*Simple stories often have the most profound impact and meaning*
*This generation is having a crisis of faith in one another, in our…
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Sep 30, 2021
#31: Peter Kelly - The Thin Line Between Truth and the Appearance of Truth
*Can you ever exploit the truth to be untruthful?*
*Why is authenticity always in your own self-interest?*
*How can we trust ourselves living in a deceptive world?*
*These and other fascinating questions are addressed when video virtuoso Peter Kelly joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*http://www.peterkellymedia.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/peterwkelly/*
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*1:30 Everything you’ve seen slanted by the bias of its source*
*You can be 100% accurate in your facts but also not truthful*
*The Giver -- the movie was designed to transcend politics*
*Context is critical to perception, irrespective of facts*
*What am I trying to accomplish? The answer will guide us in our decision making*
*6:00 The world is not binary black and white, and ethics requires us to grapple with the gray*
*Authenticity requires us to represent both sides*
*Technology makes it easy to misrepresent without outright lying*
*9:00 Video allows us to fashion our virtual environment*
*What happens when…
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Sep 23, 2021
#30: Michael Patrick Mulroy - A Mission to Promote Virtue Ethics
*#30 MIchael Patrick Mulroy - A Mission to Promote Virtue Ethics*
*What are the core values that drive collaboration and success?*
*How do we confront ideologies that rationalize violence and tribalism?*
*What is the ultimate formula for promoting accountability?*
*These and other foundational questions are addressed in this fascinating discussion when former U.S. marine, Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for the Middle East, and retired CIA Paramilitary Operations Officer Michael Patrick Mulroy joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-patrick-mulroy-31198b52/*
*https://www.loboinstitute.org/*
*Show notes*
*2:00 Inspired to serve by 9/11*
*Identifying the root causes of conflict*
*4:30 Lack of economic opportunity*
*The crisis of child soldiers*
*7:30 Toxic ideology makes it possible to rationalize evil and not easily defeated*
*Children are compliant and easily indoctrinated*
*Increasing tribalism pits us against each other*
*10:30 The e…
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Sep 16, 2021
#29: Cristina DiGiacomo - How Practical Philosophy Prevents Persistent Problems
*#29 Cristina DiGiacomo -- how practical philosophy prevents persistent problems*
*Do you often wonder why people aren’t listening to you?*
*Can philosophy provide practical solutions to modern problems?*
*Why are we challenged to bring together abstract concepts with down-to-earth issues?*
*These and other persistent questions are answered when practical philosopher and moral alchemist Cristina DiGiacomo joins the Rabbi and the Shrink*
http://www.moralchemy.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/cristinadigiacomo/
*1:00 How can philosophy provide practical solutions to modern problems?*
*Why are we challenged to bring together abstract concepts with down-to-earth issues?*
*We are philosophers if we pursue authentic wisdoms*
*7:30 The handshake and the golden rule are examples of accessible philosophy*
*Philosophy is the love of wisdom and the way we look at life*
*Asking questions makes us philosophers*
*Philosophy is a matter of outlook and perspective*
*Our attitudes shape…
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Sep 9, 2021
#28: Yonason Goldson - The Hitchhiker's Guide to an Ethical Life
What is the difference between ethics and morals?
How can we build an ethical society when we don't agree on moral principles?
How can we trust our own opinions when we can't trust our sources of information?
These and many other profound and urgent questions are addressed when the rabbi, Yonason Goldson, changes chairs from host to guest on the Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.yonasongoldson.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/yonason-goldson/
https://www.yonasongoldson.com/ethics-ted-talk
*1:30 Are compassion and intellect split, or can they be reconciled?*
*The difference between compassion and kindness*
*4:00 Is giving an impulse or a choice?*
*We unlearn our natural wiring to be kind and compassionate*
*6:30 What are ethics? Are they different from morals?*
*Where does wisdom come from?*
*How do we build an ethical society when we don’t agree on moral axioms?*
*11:00 Why are universal ethical principles so elusive?*
*Why did Albert Einstein regret publicizing the theory…
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Sep 2, 2021
#27: Amanda "Jo" Erven - Speak the Truth, Even if Your Voice Shakes
What's the single most effective way to avoid ethical pitfalls?
Why are so many people afraid to talk about ethics?
Has the world gotten less ethical?
These and other critical questions for success are answered when ethics auditor Amanda "Jo" Erven joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-jo-erven-ace/
http://www.auditconsultingeducation.com/
http://www.totalqualityauditing.com/
http://www.cpebookclub.com/
*#27 Amanda “Jo” Erven*
*1:30 Changing one person’s mind contributes to a better world*
*It’s hard to sell ethics because people don’t have a definition and are scared by the word*
*Have an ethics icebreaker *
*Ethics may not be simple, but don't have to be complicated*
*6:00 Three ethical character types*
*The Big Me*
*The Ethical Rationalizer*
*The Everyday Ethicist*
*People who call themselves ethicists tend to be less ethical*
*10:00 Unethical behavior encourages others to behave unethically*
*Create your own ethical value stateme…
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Aug 26, 2021
#26: Marilyn Suttle - Success in the Palm of your Hand
*How do we do a better job handling it when we get flustered and defensive?*
*How do we give and receive criticism in a way the builds trust and encourages improvement?
What is the alternative to flight or fight that promotes cooperation and collaboration?*
*These and other critical question for success in business and in life are answered when customer service maven Marilyn Suttle joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/marilynsuttle/
https://marilynsuttle.com/
*0:50 Wellbeing and security are critical to a healthy work environment for workers and customers*
*Ethics creates a culture of trust, solid relationships, and loyalty*
*Raising trust increases expectations, which is a good thing*
*Develop the skill set to deal with difficult and unexpected situations*
*Different values and styles need to be accommodated*
*6:00 Learned behavior is not easily unlearned*
*How do we handle it better when we get flustered and defensive?*
*We’re 100% responsible f…
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Aug 19, 2021
#25: David E. Marlow - Find Purpose, Find Life
How does sustainability apply to us as individuals as well as the world?
How do we find it in ourselves to forgive ourselves and forgive others?
How do quirks and idiosyncrasies forge us into more compete and healthy people?
These and many other secrets for self-development are answered when the Ikigai Guy David E. Marlow joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidemarlow/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/vluru/
*1:00 What is Ikigai = Japanese for life + purpose*
*Living out the essence of you in everything you do*
*3:30 What is a leader? Someone who enables and empower others to fulfill their potential in a way that betters the world*
*Happiness emerges from a sense of working toward the fulfillment of purpose*
*5:00 How do you find your ikigai*
*Reflect on moments when you felt fulfilled*
*Visit your values, verbs, and verses*
*7:00 The five pillars include:*
*Choose to be grateful; we control our attitudes*
*Making a conscious choice to live in the…
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Aug 12, 2021
#24: Giancarlo Pitocco - Reclaim Control Over Technology
How does pleasure distract us from our own unhappiness?
How is social media designed to control our minds and behaviors?
What is the formula for good digital health and well-being?
Learn the answers to these and many other essential question when digital wellbeing expert Giancarlo Pitocco joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gcpofnyc/
purposeful.co
*1:00 We need to reclaim control of our lives from technology*
*Shift your attention from being hijacked by our devices*
*FB has been exploited and misused by unethical players to manipulate and serve their own agendas*
*Do you know how much time you’re spending in front of a screen?*
*4:30 We don’t know what happiness is.*
*Pleasure often distracts us from our own unhappiness.*
*If you’re not dependent on external factors for happiness, you’re in control of your life and live more fully*
*7:00 Is it good to be easily amused?*
*Being delighted by simple pleasures makes the experience of living richer…
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Aug 5, 2021
#23: Rosemary Ravinal - Showing Up as the Real You
#23 Rosemary Ravinal – show up as the real you
Is there a difference between filtering and misrepresenting?
Is it dishonest to use a virtual background?
What message do I send if I show up on Zoom in my pajamas?
These and other urgently relevant questions will be answered when Zoom mastery expert Rosemary Ravinal joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/rosemaryravinal/
https://rosemaryravinal.com/
01:21
Authenticity can make or break our careers, our reputations, and you know how difficult it is to fix them once they are broken. So the stakes are very high.
02:09
When COVID began, we felt it was temporary and didn’t make much effort:
kids running around … somebody's lawn mowing the lawn… I'm in my sweats… I haven't even combed my hair.
A year later, we're still doing it, and now we’re going into in person meetings again.
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It's like creating a set. But the authenticity part is that that you create, that really reflects who you are, as a pe…
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Jul 29, 2021
#22: Kimi Hirotsu Ziemski - Tough Decisions and Leadership
What does leadership really look like?
How do you decide what to share, with your team and with the outside world?
And when you're a leader, how do you balance the ever-changing demands that get put on you?
Kimi Hirotsu Ziemski helps us sort of how to be a real leader and not just the person in charge! *
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimihirotsuziemski/
http://ksppartnership.com/
http://www.pmidsig.org/
https://consciousleadershippm.com/
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Boundary management is a communications management term. And what it means is there are some things that you share with your team, and only your team. And there are some things that you share with the greater stakeholder community. The question becomes, if you are not fully transparent if you are making choices about what you share, and when you share it, is boundary management, actually ethical or is it by some people's lights, fibbing, lying, committing the falsehood?
7:00
The seven key success parameters are actually a framework that is so…
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Jul 22, 2021
#21: Claire Vande Polder - Happy Marriages
What makes a successful relationship?
Is marriage really the happily ever after part or do they still require work?
What is reasonable to expect versus what do you need to accept?
Find the answers to these questions and more as we talk to Claire Vande Polder, the author of Making Marriage Happy: Hard-Won Wisdom from Real Couples
Grab your copy here:
Making Marriage Happy: Hard-Won Wisdom from Real Couples
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*Connect with Claire on*
**Linkedin**
**Instagram*
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What I came up with is a book that is basically, what happy couples do as told in their own words. It's the only book, I know of where all the expert advice comes from people who are only experts in their own relationship and what they do that makes them happy.
7:00
When I was a younger person I looked at people who had been married for a while and I thought, okay they're just they're like on autopilot right?
29:00
it took a lot of time before they understood that's not who my husband is, this thing that I really wish my w…
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Jul 15, 2021
#20: Susan Rooks - The Ethics of Communication
Does thought influence language of does language influence thought?
Is it worth the risk to offer constructive criticism?
Can you set high standards and remain respectful when others fall short?
Discover the answer to these and other highly relevant questions as Grammar Goddess Susan Rooks joins The Rabbi and the Shrink
https://grammargoddess.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanrooks-the-grammar-goddess/
https://twitter.com/Grammar_Goddess
*2:00 The importance of preserving the integrity of language
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*We are what we say and what we think
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*Language is only as perfect as how we use it
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*Objective vs. subjective perception
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*8:00 Words are free, but it’s how you use them that costs
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*We get defensive when we don’t like what we hear
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*“You can do [even] better”
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*11:00 It’s risky to offer correction or disagree
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*Start with a smile
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*You can have high standards and still be pleasant
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*Smile at strangers
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*16:30 What’s the effect of grammar mistakes?…
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Jul 8, 2021
#19: Rabbi Daniel Lapin - Diversity in the Context of Unity
*Is it iconoclastic or wicked to question the value of diversity?*
*Why do we struggle to value innate talents over superficial appearance or identity?*
*Have well-intentioned but misguided policies contributed to contemporary problems?*
*These and other compelling questions will be addressed in rough and tumble conversation when Rabbi Daniel Lapin joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/rabbi-daniel-lapin/*
*https://rabbidaniellapin.com/*
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*2:00 The synergy between theology and psychology*
*Is diversity a moral imperative?*
*Is it iconoclastic or wicked to question the value of diversity?*
*Diversity of opinion and outlook is critical and more significant than mere identity*
*Does a cohesive community gain or suffer from diverse values?*
*10:00 Should we rather address systemic otherism?*
*How do we deal with the tension between finding common values and encouraging different perspectives?*
*Why do we struggle to value innate talents over superfi…
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Jul 1, 2021
#18: Dave Bricker - The Meta-truth of Storytelling
*Does lying ever serve a higher truth?*
*Why is it better to be a journeyist than a journalist?*
*Is marketing ever more than manipulation?*
*Learn the answer to these and other fascinating topics as the Rabbi and the Shrink discuss the interplay between fact and fiction with business presentation coach and storysailor Dave Bricker.*
*https://storysailing.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidbricker/*
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*1:30 Do the stories we tell have to be 100% true?*
*Our job as storytellers is to transport the audience*
*Be a journeyist, not a journalist: *
*Your story is a metaphor to inspire and teach*
*The story vs. the meta-story*
*“Disbelieve everything I say; I am telling the truth.”*
*How much creative license are we allowed?*
*Life doesn’t unfold in a neat order*
*Blend details for narrative effect*
*Miracle -- a true story that embellishes facts*
*9:00 When is the truth not good enough?*
*Drama vs. documentary*
*Don’t we all have different versions of the t…
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Jun 24, 2021
#17: Mark Brown - Everyone Deserves a Second Chance
*Episode #17: Mark Brown -- everyone deserves a second chance*
*Why do we fear what we don’t understand?*
*Is freedom a goal or an obligation?*
*What practical steps can we take to create a culture of civility and mutual respect?*
*These and other substantive questions are answered when World Champion of Speaking Mark Brown, CSP, joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://markbrownspeaks.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-l-brown-speaker/*
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*1:00 How Mark became a World Champion of Speaking*
*Disney and “a second chance”*
*Intolerance, indifference, and ignorance -- how we treat each other*
*Don’t be tied to what others think of you*
*Why do we fear what we don’t understand?*
*8:00 The unknown makes us feel vulnerable so we try to assert control*
*The responsibility of creators to project values and messages*
*Our responsibility as consumers of media to seek out positive messages*
*Why don’t we get it?*
*How do we get to a place where we want to unde…
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Jun 17, 2021
#16: Libby Gill - Hope as the Secret to Success
Who are your limiters and your liberators?
How does leadership “bubble up”?
What are the four steps of success?
What do Navy SEALS and Holocaust survivors have in common?
Why is hope essential to being ethical?
She grew up on two continents and went to eight different schools before putting herself through college waiting tables. Starting her career as an assistant at Embassy Communications, a television company founded by the legendary Norman Lear, Libby survived three mergers to become head of publicity, advertising, and promotion for Sony’s worldwide television group in just five years.
After her first career heading communications at media giants Sony, Universal, and Turner Broadcasting, Libby founded LA-based Libby Gill & Company, a leadership consulting and executive coaching firm. She guides individuals and organizations to lead through change, challenge, and chaos by deeply engaging employees in a shared future-focused vision of success.
https://libbygill.com/
https://…
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Jun 10, 2021
#15: Bob Burg - Give and the World Will Give Back More
*Episode #15: Bob Burg*
*How do you create a context that promotes everyone's success?
How do you communicate information for maximum impact?
What are your unconscious operating systems and are they serving you?
How do you find and foster successful partnerships?
What should your target be to increase your chances for success?
Join us as we discuss these and other fascinating questions with Bob Burg, NYT bestselling author and Hall of Fame speaker on The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://burg.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobburg/
https://twitter.com/BobBurg
https://thegogiver.com/
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*1:00 How the rabbi met Bob*
*Extraordinary accomplishments while keeping the common touch*
*3:30 What is a go-giver*
*Focus on others is the best formula for business*
*Internally motivated but outwardly focused*
*Ethics: being selfless is selfish*
*Business is about how we make others feel*
*Benevolent context for everyone’s success*
*8:00 Collaboration is people with different skill sets co…
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Jun 3, 2021
#14: John Register - Heroism on One Foot
Why is ignorance a gift?
Children come with innocence; when do we lose our own?
Why are we afraid to tell our own truth?
How does sympathy drive us apart?
If I have 16,729 friends , why do I feel so alone?
Join us as we discuss these and other compelling topics with Paralympian and executive coach John Register on this episode of The Rabbi and the Shrink.
*https://johnregister.com/*
*https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnregister/*
*https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M08l27PzJ8E*
*1:00 People are uncomfortable telling their truths and articulating the object of their fears*
*All fear stems from fear of the unknown*
*2:30 Kids are willing to say what adults are afraid to*
*Embrace the new normal*
*New is “no prior frame of reference”*
*5:00 Kids come with innocence… when did we lose ours?*
*Labels and categories create tension*
*Empathy vs. sympathy*
*Honor and respect others for who they are and on their terms*
*10:00 Have low expectations and work to raise the bar*
*11:00…
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May 27, 2021
#13: Shep Hyken - Customer Service or No-Service?
*What happens when leadership is disconnected from the front lines?*
*Is deception ever necessary or ethical?*
*Is it possible to set the bar too high?*
*These and other fascinating topics are discussed in this interview with customer service guru and NYT/ WSJ bestselling author Shep Hyken on The Rabbi and the Shrink.*
*https://hyken.com/
https://twitter.com/Hyken
https://www.pinterest.com/ShepHyken/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/shephyken/
https://www.facebook.com/ShepHykenSpeaker
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*1:00 No excuses or false expectations*
*Ethics applies to big ideas and principles but never at the expense of little details*
*If I take your money for my product or service, I have an ethical responsibility to make it as easy as possible for you to use it*
*4:00 Customer experience is integral to business*
*Why do businesses fail to anticipate customer needs?*
*7:30 Major disconnect between leadership and frontlines*
*Experience the real experience*
*11:00 Critics have to engage in deception t…
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May 20, 2021
Episode #12: Sajal Thakkar - Lawyer Against Litigation
*What is the connection between ethics and civility?
Can democracy survive without a civil culture?
How do we balance insensitivity against hyper-sensitivity?
These and many other critical matters of human interaction are discussed in this week's episode with Chief Civility Officer Sejal Thakkar.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/sejalthakkar/*
*1:00 Harassment and discrimination vs. civility*
*Evaluating and filtering our own behavior*
*What are our core values? What are the guidelines?*
*4:00 Internal vs. external behavior*
*A mindset of commitment to standards*
*Unclear definitions promote inappropriate behavior*
*Prevention vs. reaction*
*7:00 Checking boxes vs. addressing root causes*
*Over- vs. under-reaction*
*What can individuals do to improve a culture?*
*3 out of 4 people do not report cases of harassment*
*11:00 Have we overcorrected in promoting respect?*
*When leaders set an example of dignity and respect, openness and civility become more natural*
*15:00 How do…
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May 13, 2021
Episode #11: Jennifer Elder - Build a Sustainable Future
Could you be the next Bernie Madoff? Could I?
What is the ethics diamond?
What is meliorism and why can't we be ethical without it?
These and many other gems of wisdom are found in this week's episode with executive coach Jennifer H. Elder, CSP, CPA, CVP.
http://www.sustainablecfo.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferhelder/
*1:00 The ethics diamond (the fraud triangle + one)*
* *Facing the dilemma of choosing knowing someone will get hurt*
* *Pressure from one side or both: angel and devil on your shoulder*
* *Rationalization*
* *What’s the likelihood of getting caught?*
*2:30 The crisis of COVID magnifies all these elements*
*5:30 Gray areas are fertile ground for rationalization: *
*How honest can I be with myself?*
*How much we need a community to hold us accountable*
**8:00 Slippery slope: small violations lead to bigger ones*
*Without consequences, we get bolder*
*10:30 Transgressions become permitted and then become values*
*11:30 The fallacy of the sli…
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May 6, 2021
Episode #9: Service?
*0:30 The sages taught that we are created for three purposes:*
*To learn, to serve, and to perform acts of kindness*
*We have to connect ourselves to something greater than ourselves, and that takes effort*
*3:00 Service has two elements: intention and effort; each can exist independent of the other but should be integrated*
*Good deeds have tangible and intangible benefits*
*8:00 Not all acts of value can be measured or quantified, yet they are substantive*
*10:00 It may be my job to serve, I may be getting paid, yet I am still providing service*
*How I do my job depends on my level of commitment, which may depend on the environment created by those around me*
*14:00 The value of service depends on effort, either in the moment or in preparation*
*We should always challenge ourselves to raise the level of our service*
*16:00 “The Love Languages”*
*Serving others depends on responding to their wants and needs*
*18:00 Why were Adam and Eve challenged by the prohibition n…
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May 3, 2021
Episode #8: Gossip?
*1:00 The last refuge of the unethical is “it’s not illegal”*
*The last refuge of the gossiper is “but it’s true” -- if it’s not true, it’s slander*
*The purpose of speech is to connect with others, and gossip uses speech to divide people and tear them apart*
*The biblical prohibition against gossip*
*4:00 Pope Francis: gossip tastes like candy but is poison: it denies the G-dliness in others*
*6:00 Different types of gossip cause different types of damage*
*How Aaron the High Priest used speech to bring people together*
*7:30 When good speech can be used to cause harm*
*Emo-terrorists and saboteurs*
*10:00 Guard Your Tongue by Rabbi Israel Meir Kagan*
*How much damage seemingly benign comments may cause*
*Negative speech must have some wider benefit*
*13:00 Complaining vs constructive criticism*
A*void the sense of entitlement that leads to complaining and gossip*
*15:00 The Hebrew for “gratitude” translates literally as “recognize the good” -- th…
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Apr 29, 2021
Episode #7: Generosity?
*1:00 Generosity is an expression of kindness*
*Theologically, the world is built on kindness*
*When we give, it validates us, empowers us, and makes us partners in creation*
*3:00 Generosity is natural to children, but then we grow out of it*
*Babies are takers; if they don’t get what they want, they scream and get it*
*Parenting is the job of weaning the child off of the need for immediate gratification*
*Most of us aren’t trained to be parents*
*6:00 Overly generous parents raise entitled and selfish children*
*Is there such a thing as true altruism?*
*Why would anyone choose the pleasure of giving over other pleasures?*
*10:00 Does the pleasure of giving negate the pure motives of giving?*
*If I want to be a giver, then I’ll give even without the internal desire and thereby acquire the natural impulse to give*
*Manners: acting artificially polite for the sake of contributing to a better society and culture*
*The prisoner who acted generous in order to con people…
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Apr 26, 2021
Episode #6: Setting Limits?
*0:30 King Solomon: “Don’t remove the boundaries of eternity.”*
*We have to reexamine boundaries and conventions, but not abandon them wholesale*
*Einstein regret: relativity leads to relativism*
*Balance respect for the past with a progressive eye to the future*
*3:15 All of psychology is about setting limits*
*Why do we have so much trouble with it?*
*Human beings are lazy, so we try to avoid difficult decisions*
*We try to set our default between generosity and self-care*
*7:00 Commands, demands, and requests*
*10:00 Embarrassment over being seen as irresponsible or out of control*
*As parents and as members of society, we do have the right and the responsibility to give rebuke, but also to deliver it civilly*
*13:30 How do we decide what limits we set for ourselves in all aspects of our lives?*
*Don’t act out of anger but out of principles*
*Balance self-respect against social expectations*
*16:00 Using diplomacy to give rebuke*
*We don’t want to be the pol…
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Apr 22, 2021
Episode #5: Cancel Culture?
*1:30 People can violate the normative values and standards of society to the point where they forfeit the privilege of being allowed to remain a member of that society.*
*2:45 Groupthink vs constructive disagreement*
*Only when you understand the ideas of other people do you really understand your own*
*Insecurity drives us to shut down dissenting voices*
*5:00 It’s us vs. them, and you’re them: BYE!*
*Children have a fresh way of looking at things, and are unafraid to ask why*
*The older we get, the more threatened we are to reevaluate our world view*
*9:00 How do you deal with people you have to deal with who are not open to discussion?*
*Oblique approach rather than frontal assault*
*11:00 What outcome do you hope to achieve in your discussion?*
*Communication vs. conversation*
*Dialogues of the deaf*
*15:00 We aren’t trained to listen; we’re planning our response*
*What has happened to curiosity?*
*The I in ETHICS is Inquisitiveness vs. willful ignorance*
*S…
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Apr 15, 2021
Episode #4: Civility with Accountability?
*1:00 Have we confused assertiveness with aggression?*
*How do we balance being assertive with being civil and respectful?*
*Civility is the root of civilization*
*Does cancel culture promote or undermine civil society?*
*How do we hold one another accountable with objectivity?*
*4:30 Is hate speech ever comparable to terrorism?*
*6:00 We can’t have informed opinions if we are uninformed?*
*7:30 “Who gets to say…” = “no one gets to say.”*
*Jewish jurisprudence answers how to approach objective consensus*
*11:00 We want to preserve free speech while promoting civility*
*Ethics allows us to strike a path forward*
*13:00 What happens to humor when we are afraid to give offense?*
*14:00 “Derech eretz” -- the way of the land: standards and values are interwoven with social norms*
*The history of shifting standards*
*Conventions provide minimum standards for society*
*17:30 The anonymity of social media posting demands responsibility but promotes irresponsibili…
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Apr 8, 2021
Episode #3: New Year’s Resolution?
*1:00 Repentance means a return to the straight and narrow through 1) stopping the improper behavior, 2) feeling remorse, 3) verbalizing our apology, and 4) planning a strategy not to backslide into old behaviors. Without a specific, concrete plan we have little chance of achieving lasting change.*
*4:00 The story of the first time Rabbi Goldson observed the Sabbath according to Jewish law, which demonstrates that the promises we make to ourselves may be the most important promises we keep.*
*9:30 Many people are not good to themselves, which may be why ethics really does start at home. What do you do to take care of or honor yourself?*
*11:00 Is there any sin that is truly unforgivable? According to the sages, only seven biblical figures totally forfeited their share in the world to come through actions that led others to sin.*
*Will Rogers’s philosophy toward sin.*
*13:00 Start with achievable goals. Find accountability partners.*
*15:00 Are there do-overs? Aside from the mos…
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Apr 7, 2021
Episode #2: A Good Apology?
*2:00 Assertiveness training doesn’t always teach that the rest of the world isn’t always assertive.*
*Choose your battles; don’t engage in conflict over little things, but save your conflict for substantive issues.*
*What we choose to say and do is the foundation of ethics.*
*3:30 Word of the day: Zeitgeber -- an environment cue that helps an organism regulate its metabolism.*
*We need to take cues from our environment so we can regulate our ethical metabolism.*
*5:00 Isn’t it unethical to never speak up?*
*Compliance can be the enemy of ethics if it becomes an excuse not to grapple with ethical decision making.*
*Constructive disagreement enables us to see an issue from all sides.*
*7:30 What makes us act unethically?*
*We human beings are in conflict with ourselves. The amygdala wants immediate gratification and the frontal lobe looks ahead for long term consequences.*
*11:30 How do we respond ethically to others’ misbehavior?*
*Situational ethics? The principle…
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Apr 7, 2021
Episode #1: Everyday Ethics?
*2:30 What’s the connection between ethics and civility?*
*Stephen L. Carter says in his book Civility that Civility is the root of Civilization.*
*An ethical mindset creates the relationships that lead to a civil culture.*
*5:00 How do we create a civil culture when we disagree on our (allegedly) shared values?*
*The truth is we can’t. We have to first identify those values we are all invested in, then we have to engage in conversations of constructive disagreement so that we don’t devalue each other.*
*7:00 We have to deal with family members with whom we don’t see eye to eye. What are some of those issues?*
*Do masks infringe on individual rights or do our responsibilities to the general welfare take precedence?*
*If we use the letter of the law as an excuse to circumvent the spirit of the law then we’ve missed the point that law is a guide to responsible civic conduct.*
*11:30 Does science prove that masks help? How can we believe officials when we are presented w…
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