Apr 2, 2021
Why 50 50 Relationships Don't Work.
*Marriage isn’t a fifty-fifty proposition. Conducting your relationship as a business deal will get you in a lot of trouble. Since we live in a competitive culture, we see things thru a capitalist lens, prompting us toward seeing things as quid pro quo or tit for tat rather than giving more freely and less conditionally. *
*Instead of real **giving of yourself**, you see relationships as an **investment**, expecting a return, and if you don’t get a return you feel resentment.*
*What you need to agree on: *
* *Finances: Who is going to earn? Both? How much do we need? What is she makes more? What if he makes more? Who is responsible for paying the bills? *
* *Children: Main Care giver, Main teacher, Main disciplinarian. Also decide What are we going to share at each phase. Baby, who wakes up, changing, feeding. Toddler, teaching, discipline Teen, Discipline, instruction. *
* *Should be a team effort. Who is better at what?*
*When the flow of giving stops, both people suffe…