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The Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?
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Can you heal yourself with Quantum Energy? with Tom Paladino
I am very excited about this week’s Language of Love Conversation because we are talking about something that I have always been curious to explore and learn more about. It is a very exciting form of alternative healing that is known to improve health and vitality.
Scalar energy researcher, Tom Paladino, is joining me today to talk about how scalar light therapy can be used in healing the body and mind.
What’s scalar light you ask? Well listen in as Tom elaborates on how scalar light therapy works and how it can be used to improve human health and vitality. It’s a fascinating new holistic approach to healing that I will be learning about alongside you. This week on Language of Love. This is one episode you don’t want to miss.
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May 31, 2023
Grow Your Soul and Call in Fuller Love
If you long for soul filling love or care about someone who does, this episode is for you!
When you commit to personal growth, you come to love the person you flourish into. And if you’re looking for love, you’ll be much more likely to attract in the kind of love you most desire. After all, the more healed and whole you are, the more you are a magnet for others who are the same!
This Language of Love Session, I talk to listener Kathleen about how to navigate the path to the best version of yourself, even while finding beautiful love along the way. We’ll discuss projecting the right energy, living in the right frequency, and a few things you can start doing right now to attract the love you deserve.
In this episode you’ll learn about:
Discovering what language is your body speaking
The Accidental Alpha Woman Syndrome and the fine line between power and control.
How your energy is your best date outfit.
If you want to attract masculine, ways to build up your feminine to attract.
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May 29, 2023
Collateral Damage: The Hidden Cost of Revenge
Have you ever wished harm on another person? Someone who did you wrong in some form or fashion?
Maybe it’s an ex, a co-worker, or a neighbor who crossed you. The truth is most everyone has felt this
way a time or two. But have you ever thought about the cost of vengeance?
In this Language of Love Bite, we’ll uncover the hidden costs of vengeance, fury, anger and what they
can potentially cost you. There’s a healthier way to express your disdain for a situation or a choice that
doesn't align with your core values or desires. It doesn’t cost you anything and allows you to feel
complete. Listen to this episode to learn more!
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May 24, 2023
Who Do You Think You Are? with Joe Dispenza
So many of us struggle with low self worth. But, if you’re not happy with the person looking
back at you in the mirror, you can actually change everything by changing your thoughts,
especially your habitual thoughts.
This week on The Language of Love, I’m so excited to share with you my conversation with Dr.
Joe Dispenza. He is revolutionizing the hearts and souls of millions with his teachings around
making what seems impossible, possible through the focused power of thought. In this
conversation we discuss how the mind, and memories from our past can affect our health even
shape our reality. The truth is an amazing life is waiting for each of us. It just requires a shift of
mind.
In this episode, we’ll also discuss:
● How to change your mind to change your health for the better.
● The power of using daily reminders of the person you want to be
● Key question to ask yourself that changes everything in your dating life.
● How to end addiction to negative thoughts
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May 17, 2023
Ready, Willing, but Unable
Sex … it gets easy with marriage, right? In a perfect world, this is how things work, but our world is far from perfect, and those imperfections often follow us into the bedroom. As much as we’d like to think otherwise, when you “put a ring on it” you won’t necessarily spontaneously release any predisposed inhibitions you have around sex.
This week, our Language of Love Session dives into this topic with a listener who is ready, willing, but unable to enjoy sex with her husband due to core inhibitions she didn’t realize she was still carrying. I help her get to the root of her aversion to being sexual and share insights and tools that will get her and her sex life back on track.
In today’s episode you will learn:
How to find the missing piece of your sex life.
How to come back to your body and stay there for true intimacy and pleasure.
When and how outside help can make all the difference
Ways to make intimacy feel safe.
How to build a better sex life without making sex feel like work.
Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences life has to offer. If you find yourself stranded at a bedroom impasse, the good news is that help is available.
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May 15, 2023
Should You Give Your Daughter a Vibrator?
Yes, you read that right! On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking about whether you should give your daughter the power to take her pleasure into her own hands. I first brought this up a long time ago on the Oprah Winfrey Show and while Oprah agreed with me, Gayle King and much of America didn’t.
This episode, I elaborate explicitly on why teaching your daughter self-stimulation has long-term benefits to her safety, self-advocacy, and ultimate sexual and romantic pleasure and satisfaction. Listen in as I talk about how giving your daughter a sex toy can positively affect her sexual development.
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May 10, 2023
Finding Your Own Magic with Anna Kloots
Have you ever found yourself bending over backward to please others and losing sight of your own needs and desires?
Anna Kloots, bestselling author and content creator, is joining me today during Language of Love’s conversation to discuss how you can cultivate your inner relationship with a fear of the unknown, the beautiful process, and finding your own magic. She talks about how to thrive in unknown scenarios and create new comfort zones.
Anna's journey of self-discovery and self-love is a true testament to the power of resilience and hope. She sheds light on the idea that the problems we experience in love aren’t about giving away too much of ourselves to someone, but about not knowing our true worth and thus giving it to the wrong people who can’t or won’t reciprocate.
Listen in as Anna shares the lessons she’s learned through her own journey of heartbreak that woke her up, led her back to her own magic, and allowed her to manifest the beautiful life and love of her dreams.
If you’ve been struggling to claim your worth or take that big leap your soul is calling you to make, this episode will inspire you to go for it all.
Visit Anna’s website, and check out her upcoming book My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act releasing May 16th, and follow her to check out the amazing journeys she’s on.
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May 3, 2023
Stop Accidentally Attracting Narcissists
Ever wonder why you are always drawn to partners who have the same personality traits? Some people call it having a type, I call it being a frequency match for a certain kind of character or quality. Depending on the type, this can be a good thing, a bad thing or a very bad thing.
In this Language of Love Session, I talk with a listener named Kim. She has been in a toxic narcissistic-codependent relationship for 4 years and she’s seeking guidance on whether or not she should throw in the towel.
In this episode you’ll learn:
How to reach the calm and presence necessary for an honest conversation
The two tipping points of pain that ultimately allow us to leave a toxic relationship
How much narcissists and codependents actually have in common (hint: codependents can be gaslighters too!)
A roadmap for healing successfully with action items
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May 1, 2023
Why Men and Women are Sexually Different
On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking sexual relationships and how men and women approach sex from different angles. Guys and gals, young and old, whether you are single, married or it’s complicated, if you love sex, this episode is for you!
Listen to this short and pointed discussion (pun intended) as I explain why we are the way we are. Why men are so focused and driven? Why women are so amazing at multi-tasking? And how you can enjoy your sex life to the fullest despite the difference in approach. At the end of this Language of Love Bite, I will tell you some things you can do to attend to those differences, so be sure to listen to the whole episode!
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Apr 26, 2023
Building the Faith Muscle with Bobbi Vogel
This week on Language of Love Conversation, I am joined by my friend and Clairvoyant Healer, Bobbi Vogel and our conversation goes deep! I am very excited to share her wisdom on the Language of Love. Listen in as Bobbi tells of the near death experience that was the catalyst of her awakening. She shares the secrets she’s discovered for building Faith as a path to healing the body and mind. And we even take some of your questions live, on the topic of faith, connecting with our deepest selves and unlocking our fullest potential.
Learn more about Bobbi on her Instagram page or website, Etheric Medicine.
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Apr 19, 2023
My Husband Is Addicted to Porn, Not Me
Like it or not, this is a very common issue couples face. One in five men suffer from low desire, and one of the most common causes is that they are investing too much sexual energy and time into watching porn.
On this episode of Language of Love Session, I am speaking with Isabel whose husband has a porn addiction. I explain to her why her husband is being unresponsive to sex, the reasons behind his immense fascination to porn and more importantly, some of the things they can do as a couple (I assign her homework!) to counter that.
If you are wanting your partner to be less on his laptop and more on you, listen to this Language of Love session!
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Apr 17, 2023
Closing the Orgasm Gap
One of the biggest bedroom complaints I get from couples is around closing what I call the Orgasm Gap. It takes the average man seven and a half minutes to get there and the average woman 20! On this week's Language of Love bite, we are packing into 10 minutes everything you need to know about sex, orgasms, and how to close the gap so you can both get the pleasure you deserve. Whether you are a man or woman, young or mature, single or in a relationship, you are going to love this one.
From practical tips that you can implement immediately to specific products that you can use that actually work, we are closing the orgasm gap today and it’s all happening on this week’s Language of Love Bite. Be sure to listen in and share with someone you love!
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Apr 12, 2023
Agape Love is at the Center of Health, Healing, & Inclusion with Glodean Champion
Life coach, light worker, and author Glodean Champion joins me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation. We talk about a myriad of topics relating to gender identity, race, self-acceptance, and more. All these topics are tackled in her recent fictional book, Salmon Croquettes. We also explore how her trip down south during the Black Lives Matter protests shaped her understanding of love, and how it helped her remember that she is a beacon of light in this world!
In this Conversation, Glodean and I discuss:
How to become a leader by using unconditional love
The three lessons Glodean learned from her trip to the South during the BLM protests
Powerful lessons from upbringing as an adopted child of a single mother
Glodean’s TEDx Talk on her suicidal thoughts and how one town saved her life.
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Apr 5, 2023
Finding Humility
This Language of Love session is very special to me because I am joined by my college roommate and bestie since the 1980s, Dana Lathrop. The two of us reminisce a bit (including recounting some of the crazier antics we got up to in our youth). But we also dig into the issue of humility; is it ever real? Is it required for social acceptance? Is there something wrong with you if you have too much or too little humility?
If you struggle with self promotion, celebrating your accomplishments out loud or claiming your gifts, this episode will definitely inspire you.
Dana is definitely someone who is committed to humility. Dana is a very talented and accomplished artist, but she is uncomfortable stepping into the spotlight. In this week’s Language of Love session, I help her identify where that is coming from and more importantly, what she should do about it.
Join me as we tackle this topic from our differing perspectives; why is it important to sometimes toot your own horn? Is it…
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Apr 3, 2023
What’s Your Number? To Tell or Not to Tell?
Should you tell each other your “number” in a new relationship?
In this Language of Love Bite we are tackling this age old question: How many sexual partners have you had? I’m helping you navigate through this conversation with your partner and, even more importantly, understand the implications of even asking the question in the first place! The asking (and the answer) both can have far reaching implications for the future of your relationship.
I’m always here helping you love and be loved better! So make sure to visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.
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Mar 29, 2023
Finding Magic in the Mess with Dr. Neeta Bhushan
On this week’s episode of the Language of Love, I am sitting down with wellness and emotional health advocate Dr. Neeta Bhushan, the author of the acclaimed book, That Sucked Now What? At a very young age Neeta experienced the loss of her brother and both her parents, leading her into a spiral of grief, an abusive relationship and struggles with codependency.
In this conversation, we talk about the ways that magical moments that can grow out of our deepest pain, as well as the many powerful strategies Dr Neetha shared to “sit with the suck” in order to move through it and thrive.
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Mar 22, 2023
Healing Trauma with Somatic Therapy
On this week’s episode of the Language of Love session, I sat down with Amanda who’s going through some heavy life changes and is struggling with organization and clarity. A veteran of the armed forces and a recovering alcoholic, Amanda is a fighter, an abuse survivor, and a mom with two beautiful children. She’s seeking some help putting her life back on track. In this session, we talk about:
How somatic therapy can be beneficial for Amanda in her recovery from sexual and emotional trauma.
Looking to her kids for motivation and how her healing can give her children a better life.
How to build trust and a relationship with your body.
Specific action steps that I lay out, the A, B and C to healing from trauma and abuse.
This must-listen episode is a very emotional one, as Amanda recalls the abuse and trauma she has endured. Listen as I share specific action steps she can take to heal, and lay out a path that she can follow to reach full recovery.
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Mar 20, 2023
The Keys to Helping Kids Thrive Through Divorce
If you are a child of divorce, or a parent going through it, this episode is for you!
Let’s face it. Divorce is never easy, especially when kids are involved. But the key to surviving it, and more importantly helping children thrive through it, comes down to the parents’ behavior… specifically around coparenting.
In this Language of Love Bite we get into the crucial things parents must focus on to help their kids move through a divorce as unscathed as possible, including my #1 indicator that predicts how children are going to manage through the process.
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Mar 15, 2023
The Journey to Self-Love & Self-Discovery Through Creative Expression with IN-Q
Songwriter, poet, speaker, and bestselling author IN-Q is joining me on this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the process of self-exploration through art and the journey to transformation and self-love. Through Inquire Within, his recent book, he shares the role that poetry has played in his life as he’s walked through a life of grief, joy, fear, love, and everything in between.
In this Conversation, we unpack:
How to move beyond fear to fully express our authentic selves
Ways art can be a path to self discovery
The fact that everyone is a poet of some sort and how to begin your own creative expression
When you know your own creative expression is complete
Visit IN-Q’s website, follow him on Instagram, and check out his book, Inquire Within, for more information on his story as an artist and the storytelling workshops that he holds for individuals around the globe.
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Mar 8, 2023
Navigating Finances as a Couple
Money. Sex. Kids. Religion. These are four big kahunas that can make or break a relationship. On todaysLanguage of Love Session I’m speaking with Victoria about money issues coming up in her relationship.
Navigating finances can be a minefield for relationships. Moving in is one thing, but sharing expenses is quite another. In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Victoria who reports she and her boyfriend are struggling with different view on spending. Listen as I talk to her about financial burden
sharing and how each partner can accommodate the other person’s spending and saving preferences
while still honoring their own.
It’s all about meeting in the middle. Can you create space and grace to support each other’s different
desires to spend or save money? Be sure to listen to this week’s Love session to find out!
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Mar 6, 2023
Life and Love After Herpes
Even though 1 in 4 people have Herpes, 80% of those who have it don’t even know it! Yet despite how common it is, I still find that a diagnosis with Herpes sends people reeling, all too often fills them with shame, and even keeps them stuck in unhealthy relationships they would otherwise leave if they didn’t feel like “damaged goods.”
In this Language of Love Bite I’m getting into it with you; the precautions to take to prevent transmission , ways to bring it up in a new relationship and methods to manage it. Most of all we get into the fact that this is simply a skin condition and not a death sentence for your love or sex life!
Are you ready to learn how to protect yourself and the ones you love, release the shame and step into your sexual power? Well this episode is for you!
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Mar 1, 2023
When Our Childhood Wounds Wound our Children: The Parenting Map With Dr. Shefali
Whether you are a parent or not, this episode is going to open your eyes! This week on Language of Love, I sit down with one of my faves, Dr. Shefali. She is a renowned author, psychologist, and parenting expert. Her book The Conscious Parent really changed my life. Now we sit down to talk about her newest endeavor, The Parenting Map.
In this episode we get into it all, including:
All the unconscious ways our own wounds play out in our parenting style
The specific ways our triggers in adulthood actually developed in childhood and how we can stop the cycle with our own kids
How our attempts to raise “successful” and “happy” kids is actually misguided
The secret guilt I’ve been carrying about a mistake I made with my son Sammy
Do you want to know how you can be there for your kids in a more fulfilling, meaningful, and loving way that will serve them and aid in their development? This episode is for you!
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Feb 22, 2023
Experiencing a New Level of Healing with Gabby Bernstein
Today’s episode is a special one as my guest today is someone with whom I share both a professional and personal connection. Gabby Bernstein is a New York times bestselling author with 8 books. She is also a motivational speaker and host of the “Dear Gabby” podcast. Her latest book, Happy Days, is her most personal work to date. Gabby shares her healing journey after recovering traumatic memories of sexual abuse
In this week’s Language of Love Conversation, Gabby takes us along on her deep and personal journey of healing, sharing with us the resources she discovers that have helped her heal, and the tough lessons she learned along the way. We even get into an event we co-facilitated and I (lovingly) confront Gabby about a hurt I suffered at her hands close to a decade ago!
If you are someone or love someone who’s suffered any kind of trauma, this is not an episode to miss!
In this LOL Conversation we talk about:
The difference between “Big T” Trauma and “little t…
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Feb 15, 2023
Friendship is Your Stepping Stone to Romance
We’re back with another Language of Love session! In this episode, I chat with a 40-something-year-old listener who wants to find love but feels an aversion to dating. She’s never dated and never been physically intimate with someone.
As we explore some of her childhood and current attitude toward men, we unpack the things that might have landed her where she is today. I also break down some tools to begin practicing to open her heart to love vulnerability, like fostering your friendships first!
In this session, we discuss:
How our parents’ marriage can deeply affect our perception of love and care
What we are really craving in the search for emotional and physical intimacy
Why friendship can be a wonderful stepping stone to romance
How vulnerability and open heartedness with our pets can heal some of the wounds blocking us from love
The power of somatic experiencing in healing our blocks to love
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Feb 13, 2023
When You want to Go But Your Partner Threatens to Hurt Themselves if You Do!
Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner has threatened to hurt themselves if you leave?
Unfortunately, this is a surprisingly common situation that I hear from a lot of you. In today’s Language of Love Bite, I want to equip you with a few tools to navigate a situation with someone who is either genuinely at risk or might be using suicidal thoughts as emotional blackmail. The tips I outline will hopefully give you some comfort and peace when navigating a stressful situation such as this.
In this Bite, I explore:
What emotional manipulation looks like
The important difference between Suicidal thoughts/ideation vs. a suicidal plan
How to spot some of the red flags in someone at risk
Steps to take to leave the relationship in a way that leaves your partner protected.
If you’re afraid that your partner is going to hurt themselves and don’t know what to do, call a clinician, 1-800-273-8255, or dial the suicide hot line 988. Erring on the side of caution wil…
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Feb 8, 2023
Breaking Down Barriers to Healthy Love with Stefanos Sifandos
What is healthy love, and what can stand in the way of achieving it?
Transformational relationship coach Stefanos Sifandos is joining me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the characteristics of healthy love and the five barriers that can stand in the way. He also shares his own journey from childhood trauma to struggling in relationships and the turning points in his life that led to healing.
In this episode, we dive into:
The turning point in Stef’s life that led to healing
The 5 Blocks to Love
When to throw in the towel in love
Divine femininity vs divine masculinity
The qualities of a healthy relationship
Stefanos Sifandos and his wife run a Breathwork for the Feminine event every month, but he also has a variety of coaching options for those looking to take that first step toward opening their heart to love. You can also follow him on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to stay up-to-date on his work!
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Feb 1, 2023
Healing from Assault & Abuse in a Relationship
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes references to sexual assault and abuse.
This week’s Language of Love Session is with a listener facing a devastating situation in her marriage. After recently sustaining sexual abuse by her husband, this listener and I sit in this heartbreaking situation together as she considers her next move in this marriage. We also discuss trauma she has not yet healed from and how she carries it with her every day.
If you’ve experienced assault or abuse, please know that those experiences are not your fault. You are deserving of safety, respect, and solid boundaries.
In this Session, we break down:
What assault is at its core
The ways narcissistic partners hurt us
How trauma in childhood informs our romantic choices
How to begin moving forward with somatic therapy
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Jan 30, 2023
Female Ejaculation: Real or a Myth?
This week’s Language of Love Bite is all about female ejaculation. Some people believe it’s a myth, so I’m breaking down that misconception in today’s episode! A common belief is that your body releases urine when you orgasm, but that is not the case. There is a specific compound found in male and female ejaculation, and today, I want to talk about what’s actually happening in our bodies when we experience this.
In this Bite, I break down:
The difference between male and female ejaculation
The process of retrograde ejaculation
A few tips to ejaculate when you orgasm
You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voicemail if you have any questions!
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Jan 25, 2023
Parenting in the Darkest Seasons with Kristina Kuzmic
How do we manage negativity and misery while still finding things to be grateful for? How do we pass these skills on to our children?
Kristina Kuzmic, writer, creator, and mother, is joining me today during today’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss personalized parenting for our children, how we can support them through their mental health struggles, and how to combat insecurity and uncertainty with grace. She is a big believer, as am I, in the power of authenticity and vulnerability in developing close relationships and unity.
She also unpacks her journey through her current profession, her early projects, the impact of her Wednesday Night Dinners, how she fosters gratitude through her “Yeah, but…” game, and her son’s dark season of depression.
In today’s episode, we discuss:
Why there is no “one size fits all” model for parenting
The subtle ways we label our children
Reframing traits that are categorized as “negative”
The power of authenticity
The…
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Jan 18, 2023
Assessing Your Inner Child’s Wants & Needs
What does it mean to shift a relationship that’s just not working? How do we reestablish independence and access our gifts while carrying childhood trauma?
This listener and I are breaking down these questions and assessing the state of her marriage in today’s Language of Love Session. It’s not uncommon for some people in long-term relationships to feel like their independence is tied to the presence of a partner – we almost revert to a child-like sense of ourselves. But we must teach our inner child to speak up for their wants and needs, so tune in to discover the valuable tips I offer this listener!
In today’s Session, we explore:
The state of her marriage
The trauma we carry into our relationships
Reestablishing independence as adults
How to integrate the wants and needs of our inner child into our lives
Why a somatic therapist can help
Releasing generational trauma
How our souls choose our family of origin
Tips to cultivate connection and access our gif…
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Jan 16, 2023
Why Do Women Fake Their Orgasms?
OK, let’s be honest. How many of you have faked or known someone who regularly fakes orgasms?
If you’re in this boat, I get it. There are plenty of reasons women fake it, and I’m shedding some light on these motivators in today’s Language of Love Bite. Whether it’s a presumed act of mercy, you haven’t had an orgasm before, or you’re unsure how to replicate the orgasm you experience on your own, I want to help you reach a point where you can be honest with your partner.
In this Bite, I’m explaining:
The mercy fake
The stages of an orgasm
How to tackle shame as the secret orgasm killer
Why some women don’t advocate for their pleasure
Ideal ingredients for sexual pleasure
How best to tackle it with your partner if you’ve been faking it!
Remember that orgasms and arousal depend on several different factors. If you’re not reaching an orgasm every time you have sex, that’s completely normal! But pleasure is your birthright. Let go of those expectatio…
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Jan 11, 2023
How to Ground Yourself When The World Around You Seems Crazy with Christina Lopes
It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives.
Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos.
During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into:
The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium
Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness
The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening
The powerful thing that hap…
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Jan 4, 2023
Raising Boys as Sensitive and Intuitive Humans with Justin Baldoni
If you are raising a man, identify as a man or love a man this episode will mean the world to you! I know it means the world to me as a mom of 3 boys and a wife of one man.
In today’s Language of Love Conversation, actor, director, author, and father Justin Baldoni unpacks how this question motivated him to write his recent book, Boys Will Be Human. Justin shares the insights and clarity he wishes he had been given as a young man. We connect over our experiences as parents as we struggle through trying to
help our own children become the people they’re destined to be.
In this conversation, we break down:
How social pressure and our own unconscious conditioning can act as a barrier to helping our boys grow into healthy men
Tips for teaching boys to move through feelings rather than ignore or hide them
How to tackle bullies and bystanders who squelch our boys’ creativity and self expression
The unexpected effects Porn has on developing brains and how the idea of…
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Dec 28, 2022
Discovering Wholeness Through Healing with Dr. Gabor Maté
I’m beyond excited to welcome Dr. Gabor Maté to this Language of Love Conversation. As an author, physician, and renowned addiction expert, Gabor has spent years working to break down societal norms and traditional ideals about the connection between trauma and illness. His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture, explores the relationship between and influences of mind and body.
Together we get into the many ways our current physical and mental health is rooted in childhood.
In today’s Conversation, we talk about:
Ways in which our mind and body are interconnected
The unique ways stress impacts women’s physical health
Why ‘no’is crucial to physical health
How to understand the feeling of guilt and what it means
The gifts of sensitive children and why society doesn’t always recognize them
How healing is the natural movement toward wholeness
Two different kinds of pain
Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s website for more information…
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Dec 21, 2022
There's Hope in the Unknown
This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener that’s currently navigating a divorce and feeling like the world before her is pretty unclear. As she fights to trust her own instincts and desires, I offer her some helpful techniques to hold on to her clarity in the face of external pressure and doubt.
Her story is a good reminder that we have to honor our truth in the face of great pain, change, and divine timing. We also discuss the power of therapy and working through childhood trauma in uncovering the possibilities that are available to us after loss.
In this episode, we’re diving into:
The reasons why a marriage ends
Deal breakers in a relationship and unmet expectations
Families of origin and the shadows that follow us into adulthood
Understanding divine timing and living in the present
The importance of inner child work and assessing what our inner child wants
How to claim what you want for your life
Remember, you don’t need a r…
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Dec 19, 2022
Why The Lens You View Life Through is Everything
This Language of Love Bite is all about the lens through which we view our world and our reality! Everyone has a unique perspective on life, but how does yours influence your emotions, your energy, and your state of being?
During this episode, I share some thoughts on how our view of the world and our reality can shape our feelings and perspectives on, well, everything! Beyond this, I offer some tips to reprocess, regulate, and ground yourself when you’re feeling stuck in a certain narrative.
This week, I highlight:
How the lens through which we view the world is unique to us
The impact of preconceived narratives on our relationships
Why we have to avoid spiritual bypassing
Clearing our lens to live in love
We all attract that which matches our frequency, so pay attention to the lens that colors your world. When you clear your lens, you might find that you’re more able to lead with love, and the door to greater joy and positivity in your life opens!
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Dec 14, 2022
Reframing Love, Sex, and Potential Partners with Biet Simkin
After our vibrant and memorable introduction at an Association for Transformational Leaders event, I knew I had to have Biet Simkin on the podcast for a Language of Love Conversation. She’s a meditation, breathwork, and spiritual teacher that believes in the power of meditative practices and wrote a book called Don’t Just Sit There! During our chat, Biet shares her unusual upbringing, her journey into music industry and celebrity she found there, her struggle with addiction, and then her return to Fourth Way work.
Biet also unpacks how we can reframe things in the dating world and reframe our understanding of soulmates, falling in love, and what it means to genuinely invest in relationships.
In this episode, Biet and I dive into:
How death presenting itself in early in life changed Burt’s journey and led her to be the spiritual leader she is today
What the “Fourth Way”is, and how you can use it to bring a spiritual perspective into your daily life
How failure can se…
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Dec 7, 2022
Finding Support and Boundaries in the chaos of cancer
How do we love our partners through some of the scariest seasons of our lives?
In this Language of Love Session, I chat with a listener juggling a newer relationship with a partner that was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. After watching my loved ones walk through cancer and moving through my own cancer journey, I know the ups and downs of this experience well. In this open-ended season of life, we discuss how this listener and their partner can navigate this illness together, how to build a foundation for their relationship through this diagnosis, and how cancer offers us an invitation to grow spiritually and emotionally.
Today, this Language of Love listener and I unravel:
How cancer forces us to grow through intense stress and fear
Embracing the challenge as a couple rather than forgoing all boundaries
How to encourage healthy regulation in yourself and your partner
Accepting your partner’s flaws and missteps
The importance of defining what you will and will not do…
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Dec 5, 2022
Your Life is a Result of Energetic Frequency
Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!
This week I’m taking a few minutes to talk about frequencies, manifestations, and how the two are related. We’re all like human tuning forks, which means that sometimes our moods can be brought up or down just by being near others. This experience is very human, but I want to help you learn how to adjust, maintain a higher frequency, and attract abundance with a few of my tried-and-true tips.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
How your frequency and ability to manifest your desires are related
The different levels of frequency and how they relate to your mood and the moods of others
Why holding your own energetic frequency is necessary to reach your desires and manifestations
Tips to raise and maintain your frequency
How to create room for sadness, loss, anger, frustration, etc. and then move beyond
Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a…
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Nov 30, 2022
The Power of Our Past Lives with Ainslie MacLeod
Have you ever had that inkling that your past life may be affecting your present moment?
During this week’s Language of Love Session, past life psychic, spiritual teacher, and author Ainslie MacLeod and I are unpacking reincarnation and the basics of past lives. We break down the relationship between the body and soul, how learning about our past lives can set us free, and how our past lives impact our ability to love. Ainslie also reveals his journey to this profession, his recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook, how he refined his psychic ability, and how he came to know the spiritual guides that instruct him.
In this conversation, Ainslie Macleod and I discuss:
The Basics: What is a past life? What does it mean?
The healing power and purpose that can come with learning about your unique past life
How Ainslie developed his psychic connection in the early days of his profession
The concept of twin flames and how misconception can fortify toxic relationships
The exper…
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Nov 23, 2022
Moving Through Grief
In this language of Love Session, I’m talking with a divorced woman named Liz who lost the son she shares with her ex-husband. We talk about the prolonged grief she is experiencing and how it is impacting her current relationship and causing mixed emotions about her ex. While Liz has unique issues in her relationships, the impact of her grief and feeling torn between two people is very relatable to many of my listeners.
In this Language of Love Session, we unpack several of the common challenges Liz is facing, including:
How to avoid getting stuck in the middle of the grieving process, begin to heal and learn to live your life without guilt
How prolonged grief can can calcify and become part of your fiber if ignored
The type of grief therapist I recommend to help move through your pain in a healthy way
How to manage relationships and mixed emotions that may surface in the face of unexpected loss
How to sort out feelings when you feel torn between two lovers, especially when…
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Nov 21, 2022
Quantum Sex
The number one question I get from couples is: How do we spice up our sex life? So in this episode of Language of Love Bites I’m diving into the secret to creating the intensity and connection we all crave; Quantum Sex. It’s a system I developed to teach couples how to channel their sexual energy and create an even more exciting, intense sex life than they imagined was possible.
In this episode I explain:
How to use your body's energy, your physical sensations, your atomic energy, and your conscious awareness to enhance arousal
The difference between feminine and masculine sexual energy
How to create a deeper heart centered connection with your partners
How to use visualization to channel your sexual energy to your partner
The power of the “Pink Sparkly Vagina” technique
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Nov 16, 2022
Never Argue with a Dead Person with Manhattan Medium, Thomas John
As most of you know, I believe we’re all psychic. But in this episode of the Language of Love, I’m talking to a professional psychic medium who has a lot to teach us all!
Known to his fans and celebrity clients as the, ‘Manhattan Medium’, Thomas John and I talk about his new book, Never Argue with a Dead Person: True and Unbelievable Stories from the Other Side. He shares thoughts on whether he thinks people have trouble crossing over to the spiritual side as well as ways being psychic has shaped his life, including:
How his psychic and medium abilities developed
What it was like growing up psychic in a home filled with skeptics
How to choose a medium that’s right for you
Does he believe there are such things as evil spirits?
What role he thinks Covid has played in our spiritual evolution
Thomas John even did a reading on me! He connected with several of my loved ones on the other side, including my sweet son, Sammy. One relative he contacted, and called out by…
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Nov 9, 2022
Little White Lies
Are little white lies in love ok? If your partner omits details or information, is it a warning sign that you should run for the hills? In this Language of Love Session, I’m talking with a listener who has some concerns about lies in love and how to determine if they are deal breakers for your relationship. I also go into how your past plays into the problems you face in your current relationships and how you may unknowingly be contributing to the issue.
In this Session, we talk about:
How to identify whether past wounds are seeping into your current relationship
The importance of setting the stage, identifying boundaries and getting the changes you want to see in your relationship
Recognizing codependent behavior and how to manage it
Identifying how easy you make it (or not) for someone to be honest with you
A 90-Day exercise to reset and prove that you can both change your habits to create healthier communication and a more trusting bond between the two of you
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Nov 7, 2022
Genital Self Image Matters
In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about female genital self-image. Just like our bodies, women’s vaginas and vulvas come in all different shapes and sizes. And, we get caught up in how we think our vulvas should look based on images we see portraying them.
Did you know that I have researched genital self-image (and published results in a scientific journal)? How you feel about the shape and appearance of your genitals directly affects how willing you are to be sexual with someone! The truth is, your vulva is PERFECT the way it is. I’m truly concerned with how many women feel self-conscious about how their vaginas look and are going under the knife to change the shape, size, and appearance of their genitals, to make them tighter or more desirable.
I’m not telling women they are wrong for wanting these surgeries, but as a medical professional, I want to make sure women understand the risks and complications that can happen as a result of nipping and tucking down th…
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Nov 2, 2022
Finding Your Cup of Happy With Joss Stone
This episode is so meaningful to me! Today I am interviewing Joss Stone, one of my favorite singers and a truly amazing human being. She is such a soulful, thoughtful, and wise woman, and she has so many powerful tips about how we can stay happy even in this crazy world. Joss is best known for her beautiful music but she is a deeply inspiring person who hosts a podcast called “The Cup of Happy,” which is filled with lovely advice about how you can get the most out of your life and create more peace and joy in your daily life.
Today, Joss and I will talk about:
• Her podcast “The Cup of Happy:” What she has learned from leading researchers and philosophers about how to create more peace and happiness in your daily life
• The difference between having fun and being happy
• How she dealt with the loss of her baby and the pain of the miscarriage
• Welcoming her rainbow baby
• How she balances her career goals and creative urges with the day-to-day life of motherhood
• M…
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Oct 26, 2022
How to Save Your Marriage When You Have Outgrown Your Partner
Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a ‘Sessions’ episode. This is where I get to sit down and do a real-time session with a caller just like you!
Today I am speaking with a caller who says that she has found that she is growing away from her husband. Although she deeply loves her husband, she is finding that they just aren’t connecting the way they used to. She feels herself being called to a more soulful, meaningful existence, and she is being pulled out of her comfort zone into a place of magical transformation and self-growth. But while this can be a beautiful space of healing and wisdom, it can also be frightening and uncomfortable, especially if your partner isn’t on that same wavelength with you.
My caller says that her husband very much wants things to stay at the ‘status quo.’ He doesn’t want to see their relationship change or his wife grow into new directions. So what do you do when this happens? Can one partner ‘ascend’ to a higher st…
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Oct 24, 2022
You Aren't Crazy You're Just Ascending!
Have you been experiencing mysterious and unexplained physical, mental, and emotional symptoms over the past few years? Have you gone to doctors and specialists who, perhaps along with family and friends, are telling you it’s all in your head? Have you heard of Ascension Syndrome? In this Language of Love Bite, I’m giving you some answers that will help it all make sense. Ascension Syndrome is impacting all of us.
I am so fascinated by Ascension Syndrome and want to help as many people as possible understand what’s happening in the world right now. So, In this Love Bite, I share what I learned through my research for my new eBook, You're Not Crazy, You’re Just Ascending, a guidebook where I share advice from renowned experts, guided meditations, and other tools to help you stay centered in this mass awakening.
In this episode you’ll learn:
-what ascension is, how it’s impacting you and why this is actually a magical time
-why spending time in nature is so beneficial…
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Oct 19, 2022
Dr. Drew Calls In!
I am so excited about today’s episode of “The Language of Love”! I am sitting down with the one and only Dr. Drew! I have known Dr. Drew for 25 years, and I remember sitting in his audience in “Loveline” way back in the 90’s and just being amazed at how deeply intuitive and wise he was (and still is).
Dr. Drew and I are talking about one of the topics that make me geek out the most: Intuition! Our brains are only able to process a tiny percentage of the information that we are being exposed to at any given moment. Our brains have evolved this way to help ensure our survival: To give us the most pertinent information and filter out everything else. But, here’s the thing: If you are an intuitive person, you likely may sense or feel these ‘hidden’ messages all the time.
It wasn’t until very late in my career that I realized I had these intuitive powers I could use to help really elevate my clients’ healing. I began tapping into all the signals the universe had been s…
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Oct 12, 2022
Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Here's What You Need to Do
Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down to talk to a woman who says she is struggling in her long-term marriage. As the mother of 3 young kids, my caller says that she is beginning to examine her past and her current relationship and now realizes that she is co-dependent. As a child, her father was emotionally available and displayed narcissistic behaviour, and her mother always had to keep him happy and calm in order for the house to run smoothly. As a result, my caller also learned to fill this role of being a people-pleaser, always seeking to keep the peace and hide her own needs.
Now, in her marriage, my caller says that she is tired of having her boundaries ignored and her emotional needs go unmet. Although she loves her husband dearly, she feels like she has minimized her own needs and go along with whatever he wants, even if it makes her unhappy. She is stuck in a pattern of placating him and always putting him first when she doesn’t feel that same support from…
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Oct 10, 2022
This is the Biggest Lie We All Believe about Men and Sex
I come across a lot of misconceptions about sex and sexual desire in my work as a sex therapist. But perhaps one of the most harmful of them all is about men and sexual desire. Most people believe that men should always be in the mood. We expect men to have much higher desires than women, and that they are always ready and up for sex. This is such a harmful misconception.
It is actually incredibly common for men to struggle with low desire, for many of the same reasons that women struggle with low desire sometimes. Medications can impact desire (like anti-depressants) as can hormones (such as low testosterone). Illness, stress, fatherhood, relationship issues, and financial issues can also wreak havoc on a man’s libido.
Unfortunately, treating male sexual desire can be very complicated. Many men don’t seek help until low desire has been going on for months or even years. They are ashamed to talk to their doctor because we often associate sexual desire with virility and ‘manliness…
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Oct 5, 2022
Don't Text Your Ex with Nick Viall
Is The Bachelor’s Nick Viall ready to pop the question to his girlfriend of two years, Natalie Joy? Why does he think he was so unlucky in love TWICE on The Bachelorette? And what is his hopeful versus grateful list? I’m covering all of that and more in my heartwarming, inspiring, and really honest Language of Love Conversation with former reality star, Nick Viall.
He is dishing about it all from looking for love in front of the camera – to healing from being cheated on by his ex-fiance. We talk about how, for many years, Nick’s ego and insecurities led to the decisions he made in his relationships and how he learned to recognize when he was fighting for love versus fighting to continue to be in a toxic relationship. We discuss how he learned to put his own ego in check when it comes to dating.
We also talk about Nick’s new book “Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday,” where he shares the best advice he’s picked up in his dating life through the years. And Nick answers wh…
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Sep 28, 2022
Seeing Beyond 3-D with Lee Harris
I am so excited about this episode of “The Language of Love”! Today I am honored to sit down for an intimate and meaningful chat with Lee Harris. Lee Harris is a transformation teacher and energy intuitive who is known around the globe for his inspirational wisdom. Every time I get the chance to talk with Lee, I walk away with some profound bit of knowledge or awareness that I didn’t even realizing I was looking for.
Today, Lee and I are talking about how we can travel past viewing the world in ‘3D density,’ which might sound like a complicated term, but it simply means that when we are locked into viewing the world in 3D (rather than 4D or 5D), we lose our ability to see beyond our perspective. The world feels tight and constricted. We are operating out of a sense of ego, out of a need to control the decisions and thoughts of other people in order to make ourselves feel safer.
This episode will teach you:
• How to have harmonious and even productive conversations with peop…
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Sep 21, 2022
How to Hold Your Own Energy: A Recovering People-Pleaser Calls In
Today on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a ‘Sessions’ episode! This is when I get to sit down with a caller just like you and do an in-depth session with them about anything and everything related to sex, love, soul, and more.
This week, I am talking to Carmen. Carmen is struggling to recover from a lifelong problem with people-pleasing. Carmen has set the intention to live her life differently and stop putting herself on the bottom of her to-do list. The problem now is that when she is with her family, her friends, or her romantic partners, she can slip into her old people-pleasing behavior or worry that she is harming her loved ones by not catering to them enough.
I talk to Carmen about how people-pleasing can lead us to ‘accommodate’ other people’s energies. We instantly switch to their energy frequency because we want to be on the same page as them and because people-pleasers have the instinctive, ingrained need to put their own needs and energies underneath that o…
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Sep 19, 2022
The Surprising Reason You Can't Let Go Of Your Past
Do you ever feel like you are being haunted by your past? If so, you need to tune into “The Language of Love” to hear how you can heal your wounds so that you can finally let the past go.
We all experienced trauma as children, even if you fortunately didn’t have hugely disturbing experiences like sexual assault, physical abuse, or extreme poverty in your childhood. I call these kind of traumas “Big T” traumas, because they’re easily identifiable to all of us as areas of pain and terror.
However, there are also “little t” traumas, traumas that aren’t as easily identified as wounds. These events might include an overly critical parent, religious fear-mongering, bullying at school, weight struggles, learning difficulties, and sibling rivalry, just to name a few.
All of these experiences impact our self-worth, our beliefs about ourselves, our beliefs about how we should be treated, and about how the world works. They may not feel as worthy of healing and attention as othe…
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Sep 14, 2022
Embracing the Erotic Creature in You with Sheila Kelley
What does it mean to embrace yourself as an erotic creature? Why is sexual empowerment still such a taboo for so many women? How can you awaken your sensuality, eroticism, and emotions in order to discover who you are and how you approach love – and life?
On this episode of “Language of Love,” I’m joined by body whisperer, speaker, and actress Sheila Kelley, who’s helping women reconnect to their vitality, sensuality, and true selves through an embodiment and movement practice called S Factor.
Started when Sheila realized as a young woman that she had “no idea who she was as a sexually empowered woman,” S Factor helps women heal their body’s relationship with society and celebrates the feminine essence within all of us.
In this episode, you’ll learn about:
The five different feminine powers we all possess
How to discover your unique type
The power of getting out of your head and into your body’s full erotic expression
Ready to embrace your eroticism and ta…
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Sep 7, 2022
Healing Your Deepest Wounds: Why You Can't Let Yourself Be Loved
When we talk about abusive relationships, we tend to focus on physical abuse. That is why leaving a purely emotionally abusive relationship that doesn’t have any physical abuse can be very confusing. If you don’t have a black eye, is it abuse? If he doesn’t push you down or slap you, is it abuse? If she doesn’t throw things at you or put her hands around your throat, is it abuse?
YES. Even if your partner never lays their hands on you, emotional abuse is STILL abuse. Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging and traumatic. Even after you leave the relationship, emotional abuse leaves its mark. It shakes your view of yourself and it threatens your ability to visualize a better future for yourself. It keeps you stuck in a pattern of being wounded and unable to move forward to healing.
Today on “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a woman who bravely left an emotionally abusive relationship. Now, she is looking for ways to heal, but also for ways to co-parent with her ex.
Du…
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Sep 5, 2022
Are You Settling Instead of Searching for Your Soulmate?
This week on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bite” episode. These are my short and sweet episodes in which I distill my best sex, love, and relationships advice into concise, actionable steps. These episodes are less than 10 minutes long so they are perfect for those times when you are running short on time but still want a boost for your mind, body, and soul.
For today’s “Bite” episode, I am addressing one of the most common questions I get asked as a relationship therapist: How do I know if my partner is ‘the one’?
Many times, people stay with partners that don’t necessarily tick all of their boxes, but being with someone is better than being alone. Does this sound familiar? If you have every stayed in a relationship that is far from ideal just because you would rather be with someone than be alone, then you need to listen to this “Bite.”
On this episode, you will learn how to:
• Find out if your romantic choices are being driven by fear or by a need t…
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Aug 31, 2022
Talking to the Dead wtih Rebecca Rosen
Today, on “The Language of Love,” it’s me and Rebecca Rosen teaming up to talk about people who have passed on…and how we can continue to connect with our loved ones even after they have transitioned out of this realm. Rebecca is an internationally acclaimed medium who has helped countless people communicate with the spirit world and exchange messages with people who are no longer here in physical form.
As soon as one of my friends told me about Rebecca, I instantly knew I needed to connect with her right away. It was as if something just called me to reached out to her right away, and Rebecca had the same experience with me. After seeing me on television one day, she told her husband that she knew I would reach out to her one day…and she was right, I did!
Since we connected, Rebecca has been receiving messages from my son Sammy. Sammy died a little over a year ago, and throughout my grief process, I haven’t been fully ready to connect with him in spiritual form. My pain wa…
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Aug 24, 2022
Married to a Narcissist: Can You Save a Marriage on the Brink?
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a caller about her struggles with low libido throughout her life. As we discuss her low desire, I uncover what I find to be troubling abuse in her current marriage.
For reasons she didn’t quite understand, my caller never felt deep desire for her husband, even before they got married. She always assumed she just had low desire, or that she might have trouble feeling passion because of the negative messaging she received about sex as a child.
But, over time, she realized it was simply that she didn’t feel desire for her husband in that way. Finally, they made the decision to divorce, and she moved on to a new marriage…this time with her ‘soulmate’ who was her old high school sweetheart.
Although the intimacy and desire are there with her old flame/current husband, the trouble is that her husband becomes quite volatile during arguments. From yelling to name-calling to physical altercations, he is very defensi…
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Aug 22, 2022
Why You Need to Befriend Your Shadow Side
Today on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my quick, informative little episodes that I created for those times when you don’t have time to listen to a whole podcast but you need a little boost and inspiration during your day.
For this “Bite,” I am talking about something that I think is so, so important: Befriending your own shadow. All of us have a shadow. And this shadow doesn’t have to be a negative thing. Our darkness is what can help us to reveal our light. Our wounds can be our way of healing the world.
But if we aren’t aware of our shadows, if we don’t embrace and befriend our shadow sides, guess what happens? That shadow side is what drives the bus. As they say in recovery, ‘our secrets keep us sick,’ but I would take that one step further and say it’s the secrets we keep from ourselves that keep us sick. If there are parts of you that you find shameful or unlovable, and you try to hide them away and ignore them, that onl…
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Aug 17, 2022
Human Design with Erin Claire
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Erin Claire. Erin is a human design expert. Human design is based on your time, date, and place of birth, and it offers you a roadmap and operating model that can help you learn more about yourself and how you can be most effective in love and life.
Unlike astrology, which is predictive, human design isn’t meant to tell you your future. And human design doesn’t just rely on your natal chart. It combines things like your chakras, your energy, and other philosophical and spiritual systems. It’s a very in-depth system and a tool that you can use to help amplify your life.
Using a powerful algorithm, the concept of human design is an incredibly interesting way to get to your where you came from, who you are, and where you are being pulled to. On this episode you will learn:
• What human design is and how it can be relevant or useful to you
• What are the 5 main human design types
• How you can get your own human desi…
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Aug 10, 2022
How to Heal Your Inner Wounded Child
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a very special Sessions conversation. During Sessions, I get to talk to real listeners just like you and give them personalized, real-time advice to help address all of their questions about sex, love, and relationships.
Today I am speaking with Mary. Mary reached out to me after seeing a post I made on social media about the wounded child that can often lives within many of us. If you have trauma in your past (who doesn’t?) and you haven’t fully addressed and processed that trauma, you might too have an inner wounded child who is crying out for attention and healing.
Mary shares with me some of the things that deeply traumatized her as a child, including how her mother would prioritize men over raising her children. Mary still carries that trauma with her into her own romantic life and beyond. I help her to understand how she can meet her inner wounded child and help that child heal.
If the concept of an inner wo…
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Aug 8, 2022
How to stop being a 'people pleaser' in the bedroom
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my short-and-sweet episodes in which I answer listeners’ most pressing questions.
For this “Bite,” I tackle a question from a viewer who wants to know how to deal with people-pleasing in the bedroom. Being a people-pleaser might sound like a good thing, but it is often very self-destructive for the person who is being the pleaser. They often give up their boundaries and their truth in order to satisfy the needs of everyone around them, and as my caller points out, this can even occur inside the bedroom too.
So what happens if you are stuck in people-pleaser mode in the bedroom, or if your partner displays this behavior during intimacy? How can you ensure that BOTH of you are feeling valued and respected, and that each of you are truly enjoying sexual pleasure instead of just going through the motions or faking orgasms?
In my own experience as a sex therapist, I have found that people w…
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Aug 3, 2022
How to Lean Into Your Intuitive Intelligence with Sonia Choquette, and Sonia and Sabrina Tully
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down with Sonia Choquette. Sonia is a spiritual teacher and visionary guide, as well as the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers. Her latest book “Trust Your Vibes (Revised Edition): Live an Extraordinary Life by Using Your Intuitive Intelligence” is a crash course for anyone who wants to tap into their inner wisdom and call in their higher guides.
Also joining us are Sonia’s two daughters. Like their mother, these women are also highly gifted and talented, and they have also recently written a book together. Called “You Are Amazing,” this self-help book is meant to help readers trust their inner magic and discover their true power.
In this episode, you will learn:
• What is the ‘sixth’ sense and how can we allow ourselves to be spiritually informed, even if we don’t fully trust the whole process
• Understanding ‘intuitive intelligence’ and realizing that the purpose of this intelligence is to…
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Jul 27, 2022
Codependency and Narcissism: Breaking the Cycle
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Sessions” episode! These are some of my absolutely favorite episodes because I get to sit down with listeners like you and offer my real-time advice on your love, sex, and relationship questions.
For today’s session, I am talking to a caller named Lisa. Lisa is struggling with issues with her partner, who she believes could be a narcissist. Lisa’s partner has kept her trapped in a toxic marriage (over 18 years) in which he has threatened her with financial consequences or alienating their kids if she leaves him. Although Lisa is desperate to leave, she is frightened to exit the relationship.
Lisa is a self-described codependent who has always struggled with expressing her needs and standing up for herself. Although she reports that her childhood was relatively happy, as I explain to her, codependency is not a trait we develop in adulthood. It’s a trait we establish in childhood as a way to survive and cope in our fa…
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Jul 25, 2022
Dating after Divorce: When Should Your New Partner Meet Your Kids?
On today’s “The Language of Love,” we are doing a “Bites” episode! These “Bites” are short, pithy, bite-sized takes that are based on questions listeners like you send into me.
For this episode, I am talking about love after divorce. Dating after divorce can be really tricky, not only because you and your ex might still be raw and dealing with your own complicated feelings, but also because we know that our kids are watching us and being impacted by every decision we make. As parents, our love lives don’t occur in a vacuum. Our kids are being influenced by our romantic choices, and they will use our relationships as a model for their own romantic relationships when they become adults. So, it’s no wonder that so many parents get really stressed about dating after divorce or dating as a single parent in general.
No wonder concerns about dating after divorce are some of the most common questions I get from clients, friends, acquaintances, and more. We all want the best f…
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Jul 20, 2022
Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is the cofounder of Quest Nutrition, a billion-dollar corporation which produces health-conscious meals and snacks. She is also the President of “Impact Theory” and the host of “Women of Impact,” a web series you can find on YouTube or listen to online. On her show, Lisa interviews women who have overcome massive difficulties and tragedies in order to make their dreams come true.
I adore Lisa’s new book “Radical Confidence,” and I have recommended it to so many of my girlfriends. If you haven’t read it yet, be sure and grab a copy, because it is truly transformative and inspirational. Whether you are struggling to feel confident in your career, in your romantic life, or just in general, her book will inspire you to live authentically and chase after your wildest dreams.
On this episode, I talk with Lisa about what inspired her to write this book and what she wants readers to take from it. Yo…
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Jul 13, 2022
When You Fear Success: Getting Out Of Your Own Way
It’s time for another one of our ‘sessions’ on “The Language of Love”! On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller named Martha. Martha shares with me a story that I think will sound very familiar to many of you: Whenever she sets a goal, she has lots of energy and motivation at first, but then she quickly finds herself getting ‘stuck’ and not having anymore forward momentum.
I talk to Martha about how she can un-stuck and achieve her goals, particularly from an energetic standpoint. How can you align your energy so that you are attracting the success and abundance you desire? And why is it that we find ourselves winding up in dead-end situations where we can’t accomplish our dreams no matter how much we try?
In speaking with Martha, I also find that she tends to choose men who don’t support her dreams and actively desire her success. I believe this is one of her primary wounds: Not that she has a fear of failure, but a fear…
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Jul 11, 2022
Sex after Baby: How to Find Your Sexual Pleausre Again After Giving Birth
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing another “Language of Love Bite.” That means I answer your questions and tackle the most common issues I hear during my work as a sex, love, and relationship expert.
So what’s today’s Language of Love Bite all about? Sex after baby! How can you reclaim your sexual pleasure after you give birth? There are many issues which can arise after giving birth, even if you have a normal and healthy pregnancy and birth. Creating life takes a massive toll on a woman’s body, from her hormones to her sleep to her stress levels. So it is no wonder that many people struggle to find their pleasure again in the bedroom if they have a newborn at home.
This is especially true if you are breastfeeding. While breastfeeding is natural and wonderful, it also can do a number on a woman’s hormones: In order to make breastmilk, women’s bodies essentially have to shut off their estrogen, which can mimic what happens to the female body dur…
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Jul 6, 2022
Writing Love Letters to the Universe With Sarah D Little
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Sarah D. Little. Sarah is a dear friend of mine. She is a beautiful, passionate writer who knows firsthand how painful trauma and loss can be. Sarah has an amazing story that I know will inspire and empower all of you.
Sarah has dealt with everything from heartbreak to depression to financial loss to suicide attempts. Sarah shares with me how her love for literature, writing, and the work of authors like Cormac McCarthy helped her to endure even as her life seemingly unraveled. You can watch Sarah’s YouTube channel called Love Letters from Sarah to learn more about her origin story.
Her history is painful, but relatable. From being cheated on by her partner to losing her beautiful home and garden, Sarah has endured so much turmoil and heartbreak, but has come through with her soul and her purpose intact. After losing her relationship and all of those external things which made her feel strong and protected, Sarah had to t…
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Jun 29, 2022
Overgiving and Control Issues: Why People-Pleasing Can Often Stem from A Desire to Hide Ourselves and Fix Other People
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller who says she’s afraid of abandonment and builds walls to protect herself. In her friendships and romantic relationships, she has trouble letting people in, and she believes this fear stems from past trauma. However, she is ready for a change: As a lifelong people pleaser who tends to overextend herself, my caller says that she often gives, and gives, and gives, until she gets emotionally exhausted and resentful and chooses to end the relationship.
Does this sound familiar to you? It certainly does to me. As a recovering people pleaser, what I have come to realize is that sometimes we actually are givers because it’s a way for us to maintain control over the relationship. It makes us feel like we have agency and we can protect ourselves, because we think we are choosing to be the bigger person and sacrifice the most in the relationship. But in the end, all our needs go un-met, because we have chosen to…
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Jun 27, 2022
How to Get Your Partner to Show Up for You in the Way You Most Desire
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” we are doing another episode of “Language of Love Bites.” These extra-special short episodes are meant to be direct, simple, and to the point, so you can easily apply my advice to your love life and start seeing results right away.
For this installment of my “Language of Love Bites,” I am talking about how you can get your partner to show up for you in the way you desire. I often get questions with these theme for my callers and clients, and even strangers on the street. They want to know how they can get their partner to behave differently or show up for them differently than they currently are—maybe they want their partner to be more romantic, to be more passionate, to be more helpful around the house, or to be more patient and joyful.
On this “Bite,” I reveal how you can start to see this shift, not by changing your partner, but by changing yourself. The secret to getting more of what we want from our partner is to bring m…
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Jun 22, 2022
Calling in the One with Katherine Woodward Thomas
I am so honored on this episode of “The Language of Love” that I get to sit down with Katherine Woodward Thomas. Katherine is not just a New York Times bestselling author, master teacher, and a marriage and family therapist: She is also a dear, dear friend and someone I often turn to for advice and support.
If you have ever heard the term ‘conscious uncoupling’ (made popular a few years ago when Gwyneth Paltrow when she divorced her partner Chris Martin), you know Katherine. “Conscious Uncoupling” is one of her most beloved books and truly a game-changer when it comes to how to approach breakups and divorce.
Her latest book “Calling In the One” is a must-read for anyone who is looking for love, or anyone feeling as though they don’t have the passion and romance in their life that they so deeply desire.
On this episode, Katherine and I get a chance to talk about some of my favorite things. Here are some crucial life lessons you will learn in this episode:
• Resigned…
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Jun 15, 2022
The Resurgence of Feminine Energy with Christina Lopes
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with one of favorite people: Christina Lopes. Christina is a former clinician who is now a spiritual teacher and healer. Christina bridges together science and spirituality to help people heal their lives and unlock their true potential.
On this episode, I talk with Christina about how the universe is evolving right now and how our global consciousness is changing. Due to the pandemic and other social and cultural crises happening across the world, many of us are going through what is being called “Ascension,” and if you don’t know what is happening, it can be very overwhelming and confusing.
That is why I am so excited to sit down with Christina and talk about some of these very important things, like:
• Ascension: What is going on in the universe right now and what are the symptoms of “ascension”? How do you know if you are going through ascension and how can you get the most of this experience?
• Synchronicity:…
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Jun 8, 2022
All for Love with Matt Kahn: Learning How to Hold Space
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Matt Kahn. Matt is an empath, speaker, healer, and bestselling author of books like “Whatever Arises, Love That” and “The Universe Always Has a Plan.” I love Matt’s work and I am a HUGE fan of his books. That is why I am so honored and grateful he is sharing his brilliance on “The Language of Love.”
Today, we will learn about:
• Your “Third Eye”: Is there really such a thing as a third eye and what the heck is it?
• Trusting Your Visions: Matt shares his history of connection with the unseen world and how he has received messages from Source. How can you learn to trust messages from your angels or higher beings?
• Channeling Your Intuition: We all have spiritual gifts and we all have the ability to tap into the unseen and receive messages from the beyond. Yet, many of us don’t know how to trust that process or get of our own way. How can you start accessing this power and letting yourself be comfort…
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Jun 1, 2022
Afraid to Be Loved
On this special episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing what I love the most: Talking directly with listeners just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues and offering real-time advice to help them learn how to love and be loved better. (And, yes, you too could be selected for these special “Language of Love” sessions…just reach out to me on social media or send me an email to languageoflovepod@gmail.com).
For this episode, I sit down with a woman who is struggling with a fear of abandonment in her romantic relationships. Although she has been divorced for many years, she has struggled to find lasting love in the following years. She recently ended a long-term relationship in which she was left broken-hearted when her partner left her for someone else. This is an ongoing pattern for my caller, and she says that she is constantly in ‘service mode’ with her partners and that she is always trying to get love by giving, giving, giving…but she never is…
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May 30, 2022
How To Manifest Love
Manifesting has been a buzz word for decades now. Many people think they know what it means to manifest and how to go about it, but the truth is that you may be going about it all wrong. On this special “Love Bites” episode of “The Language of Love,” I reveal why many people approach manifesting the wrong way, and how to change it. If you're trying to manifest the love life you desire, you need to stop thinking about what you want and instead start thinking about how you want to feel.
Yes, manifesting all comes down to getting aligned with the emotions you want to experience in your love life. Emotions are energy in motion, and the universe is fueled by energy. All of our experiences are created by energy, so if you want to create more passion and romance, you need to get your energy in the right place. But how? Listen to this episode to find out and start manifesting your dream love life now!
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May 25, 2022
Coming Back to Life with Stephanie Arnold
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Stephanie Arnold. Stephanie has an incredibly powerful story which she shared in her international bestseller, “37 Seconds: Dying Revealed Heaven’s Help—A Mother’s Journey.”
The title of the book comes from Stephanie’s real-life experience in which she died for 37 seconds. That’s right: She died and came back to life, and what she learned in those 37 seconds is so unforgettably powerful. I am so honored to speak with her today and learn what dying taught her, and I think you will find it to be so uplifting and informative.
You will learn about:
• The truth about your ‘sixth sense’ and how it can save your life
• What scientists, medical experts, and philosophers have learned from studying clinical death (a.k.a. ‘near-death experiences’)
• Stephanie’s premonition that she was going to die, and how she learned to advocate for herself after her fears were not taken seriously by her medical te…
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May 18, 2022
Why Orgasm Equality Matters with Dr. Mintz
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Dr. Laurie Mintz. Dr. Laurie is a sex therapist and a professor who has written two amazing books about sexual pleasure: “A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex” and “Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It.”
I was thrilled to sit down with Dr. Laurie because we have a lot in common: Like me, she originally was going to school for psychology, but when she became her studies, she realized that there was a huge lack of focus on sexual pleasure. Also like me, she grew up in a house where sexuality was not a shameful topic or something to be afraid of, and so she was innately comfortable tackling these topics with her clients and being a trailblazer in what was then a very new field.
On this episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laurie and I will help you discover:
• What Orgasm Equality Means (Hint: It’s the exact opposite of the Orgasm Gap)
• Why Orgasm Equality Can Lead to…
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May 11, 2022
Size Queens, Faking It, and Fantasies: I Take Your Calls Live!
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am taking YOUR calls and giving love, sex and relationship advice live on the air.
First up, I talk to a caller who wants to know if it is normal for a man to fantasize about other women when he is being intimate with his partner. Is it okay to think about other people during sex or is that a form of betrayal and infidelity? And, if you need to think about someone else during sex in order to achieve orgasm, is that a red flag that you aren’t with the right person or your relationship is stale? Listen to the episode to find out my advice on what to do if your mind wanders during sex.
Next, I talk to a woman who says her husband doesn’t know what he is doing in the bedroom. Although he is a wonderful partner in many ways, he doesn’t have much experience. So, she’s been faking orgasm for years. How do you STOP faking orgasm once you have been doing it for so long, and how can you explain your subterfuge to your partner without…
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May 4, 2022
Cheryl Strayed Talks about Her "Inner Terrible Someone" And Learning to Love Fear
I am so excited about today’s episode! I finally got to sit down and interview Cheryl Strayed, one of my favorite authors and a true inspiration for so many. Cheryl, of course, is the NYT best-selling author of “Wild,” which was later made into a beautiful Oscar-nominated movie.
Cheryl and I have known each other for years, and I have always been a massive fan of her work. Cheryl has a hilarious anecdote about the first time we met, which you will have to listen to the episode to hear, but let me just say, it ends with Cheryl asking me: “Laura, do I make you sick?”
HA! Not at all, girl.
This led us to talking about your “ITS”! This is Cheryl’s name for your “inner terrible someone,” that voice in your head that always offers up the cruelest self-criticism and narrates the worst possible version of scenarios. Sadly, we all have that “inner terrible someone” who is quick to heap on the shame, doubt, fear and self-loathing that keeps us from accessing our true wort…
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Apr 27, 2022
Every Rose Has its Thorn
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about one of her favorite topics: How our emotional wounds impact the way we love and receive love in our relationships.
Dr. Berman explains that most of us are carrying “thorns” within our souls from our earliest experiences onward. These include not only our own thorns, but the thorns of unworthiness that our family also passed down to us. Many families carry a legacy of unworthiness that they unintentionally pass down generation to generation.
On this episode you will learn:
• How to identify your thorns and trace their origins
• How to identify common thorns in your family line and connect them back to your present struggles
• How to learn your partner’s thorns and find how your thorns may complement or exacerbate each other’s pain
• How to undo these stories of unworthiness, and how to reclaim our birthright of love and forgiveness.
• How our thorns often give us the greatest possible opportuni…
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Apr 20, 2022
Talking Masculinity with Justin Baldoni
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Justin Baldoni, best known for his role as Rafael Solano on “Jane the Virgin.” Baldoni is also a director (“Five Feet Apart” and “Clouds”) and a podcaster (listen to “The Man Enough” podcast here).
Solano is also the author of “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity,” an engaging and daring exploration into what it means to be a ‘man’ in today’s society, and how we are failing boys and men in many ways.
On this episode, you will learn:
• Why the term ‘toxic masculinity’ can be harmful
• How the definition of manhood has shifted in the last few decades, leaving many men struggling to find role models or clear examples of the kind of man they want to be
• How dangerous gender roles can be when it comes to young boys who are encouraged to never cry or ask for help
• How we can create gender equality without demonizing men or masculinity
• How you can f…
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Apr 13, 2022
Romance In a Post-Covid World
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how Covid has changed the way we date and the way we connect the people around us. Now that Covid sanctions are lifting in many places and we are almost entering a ‘post-pandemic’ lifestyle, Dr. Berman has great advice for anyone looking to heal and to find love after a long, lonely 2 years of isolation.
On this episode you will learn:
• How the pandemic has changed us on a deep level, even if we are not fully aware of it
• How the hidden blessing of the pandemic was that it led people to find what wasn’t working in their life (whether it was their job, their marriage, etc.) and led them to branch out in new and exciting ways
• How many people are dealing with emotional and physical changes related to the pandemic, and how we can lean into that discomfort and learn from our experiences
• How the pandemic also led many of us to fear human touch and companionship, leaving many people “touch-starve…
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Apr 6, 2022
Learning Radical Self- Acceptance with Tara Brach
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Tara Brach. Brach is an incredible thought-leader in the field of radical self-acceptance, emotional healing, and Buddhist mediation.
During their special talk, Brach explains to listeners how you can deepen your practice of self-love and self-acceptance so that you aren’t just working around the edges of unconditional love and surrender, but that you are living and nurturing that state of mind on a moment-by-moment basis.
After you have listened to this episode, you will know how to:
• Embark on a journey of self-love that goes so much deeper than our culture’s current understanding of self-care and self-esteem
• Begin a meditation practice that will be accessible, enjoyable, and a natural part of your daily life
• Identify unhealthy thought patterns that undermine your ability to wholly love yourself and accept your whole being
• Heal and release toxic family…
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Mar 30, 2022
The Truth About Triggers
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about triggers. You’ve probably heard the words “triggered” or “trigger warning” a lot in recent years. And, for good reason: As a nation we are becoming more aware of mental health battles and the importance of being compassionate and supportive when it comes to people’s ‘triggers,’ i.e. those hidden trauma wounds that can be opened up by certain conversations or experiences.
But in this episode, Dr. Berman challenges everything you *think* you know about triggers. She will teach listeners:
• The difference between being triggered and simply being irritated or upset.
• The value of paying attention to our triggers. While we have a knee-jerk reaction to run away from pain or discomfort, Dr. Berman says that our triggers often hold our deepest opportunities for growth and healing.
• Realizing that we sometimes use “triggers” as an excuse to avoid difficult conversations or moving out of our c…
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Mar 23, 2022
How to Heal Your Heart with Katie and Gay Hendricks
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Katie and Gay Hendricks. This husband-and-wife duo have transformed the lives of thousands of people with their iconic self-help books, including their New York Times bestseller “Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment.”
In this episode you will learn:
• How to identify and break negative thought patterns that are keeping you from finding love
• How to find healing and purpose even when the world feels chaotic and dangerous
• How to communicate with your partner in a way that resolves fights rather than amplifies them
• How you can influence your partner’s behavior with nothing more than your own energy
Listen now to hear this inspiring interview with self-help gurus Katie and Gay Hendricks!
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Mar 16, 2022
This Common Self-Esteem Issue Can Ruin Your Sex Life
Have you ever thought about how your body image might be impacting your sex life? Most people don’t realize that the thoughts we have about our bodies can actually inhibit or even prevent us from being able to enjoy sex or reach orgasm.
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman connects the dots between body image and sex, explaining why the pressures of our current society have complicated sexual pleasure for the average person.
After listening to this episode, you will know:
• How porn has warped our ideas of how naked bodies should look
• How negative beliefs about our bodies and genitalia can poison our pleasure in the bedroom
• That even men can greatly suffer from poor body image, especially when it comes to the size of their penis or how long they can last in the bedroom
• How to begin to release your negative self-talk and create an environment of a compassion and self-love in the bedroom
• How studies have shown that our feelings about our gen…
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Mar 9, 2022
Maria Menounos and the Caregiving Crisis
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” media mogul and television star Maria Menounos joins Dr. Laura Berman for an intimate talk about healing, transformation, and whole-body health.
Menounos is a cancer survivor who battled brain cancer alongside her mother. She shares how her mother’s brain cancer deeply impacted her life, and how the diagnosis completely shifted her focus and changed her career.
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” you will learn:
• How caregiving can be depleting and demanding, and how you can lose yourself entirely as you devote yourself to caring for your sick loved one
• How women, in particular, can lose their passion, their wellness, and their power as they selflessly care for both their aging parents and their young children
• How caregivers often forgo their own medical appointments and their own health because caregiving take everything out of you
• How the Covid-19 crisis left so many people struggling to care for their si…
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Mar 2, 2022
How to Get Over Your Ex
Heartbreak is often an unavoidable part of dating and falling in love. Even the strongest relationships will sometimes falter and fail, leaving us broken-hearted and wondering how we can ever get over the pain and move on.
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman will teach you how to get over a breakup the RIGHT way, so that you can gain wisdom from the experience and move forward to new relationships without bringing baggage or having the same issues in the future:
• Learn how long you should wait after a breakup before you start dating again
• Find out why ‘sex with the ex’ can be so traumatic for you on a emotional and energetic level
• Discover how to energetically ‘release’ your ex so that you don’t feel as entwined with them
• Examine your role in the relationship’s breakup
• Find out why you may have a pattern of picking partners who routinely let you down
Often our romantic partners trigger our most deep-seated wounds, and when we b…
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Feb 23, 2022
Beyond Sorrow: Nick Cannon Speaks about Life after His Son's Death
It’s time for Part 2 of Dr. Berman’s intimate chat with television superstar Nick Cannon. On Part 1 of this special interview, Dr. Berman and Nick talked about everything from monogamy to sex toys to how Nick’s fear of germs keeps him going back to his baby mamas instead of finding new partners.
But, on this second installment, Nick and Dr. Berman tackle something much deeper and darker: The loss of Nick’s infant son, Zen, and how he is coping with that grief. Zen died of a brain tumor in December 2021 when he was just five months old. Since then, Nick has grappled with every parent’s worst nightmare: Losing a child. It’s a nightmare Dr. Berman knows well, as she also lost her son in 2021.
On this episode you will learn:
• How Nick and Zen’s mother have celebrated their son’s short life
• How you can stay connected to lost loved ones even after they are gone
• How you can present with grief without being overwhelmed by the waves of sadness and anger
• Why grief…
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Feb 16, 2022
Nick Cannon Opens Up About His Love Life
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with television personality Nick Cannon. As you may know, Dr. Berman has appeared on “The Nick Cannon Show” multiple times, both to help him recover from the grief of losing his infant son, as well as to help him explore the idea of temporary celibacy. Nick’s love life has been very complicated as he has multiple on-and-off relationships with the mothers of his children, and he comes to Dr. Berman seeking some clarity and direction around his romantic future.
Nick has fathered 7 kids with four different women, and now he is expecting his 8th child with former Wild ‘N Out colleague Bre Tiesi. While many have been critical of Nick’s decisions, he has made the intentional choice to be more conscious about his love life and the choices he makes when it comes to sex. There’s just one problem: Due to his fears about STIs and unsafe sex, he prefers to be intimate with the women he knows and trusts (the mothe…
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Feb 9, 2022
How to Turn Up the Heat this Valentine's Day...Even if You're Single!
Love is in the air! Whether you are single or coupled up, Valentine’s Day offer us a special opportunity to pause and celebrate love, romance, and passion. On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman will teach you how you can make this V-Day your most memorable yet, even if you normally approach the day with dread.
On this episode you will discover:
• Why Valentine’s Day is so much more than just a “Hallmark holiday”
• What gift(s) your partner REALLY wants for Valentine’s Day – surprise, it’s not necessarily jewelry or lingerie!
• The best date night ideas for V-day that are affordable and approachable for couples of all budgets
• How you can use Feb. 14 as an invitation from the universe to deepen your bond with your partner
• How to celebrate YOURSELF this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single or with a partner
Listen in to this special Valentine’s Day episode and get ready to make this Feb. 14 as passionate and magical as you desir…
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Feb 2, 2022
Having Sex After Baby: Yes, Birth PTSD is Real!
"On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Birth PTSD. This is a rarely discussed topic that impacts men and women alike.
“Going through labor and delivery is a massive experience that can take a physical, emotional, and spiritual toll,” says Dr. Berman. “Even if you had a ‘normal’ birth (using the word normal loosely, as all births are different and special in their own way), you might find that you are having a hard time getting back into sex. Once the doctor gives you the green light to have sex again, you might find that one or both of you are having a hard time getting back to your old sex life.”
That’s because, says Dr. Berman, your sex life likely won’t ever be exactly the same…and that’s okay.
“Sex after childbirth is different, and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing at all. On the contrary, many parents can find that their sex lives will deepen and improve over the years, but often times there is also a period of adjus…
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Jan 26, 2022
Healing through Yoga with Paul Denniston
On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with her friend and yoga expert, Paul Denniston. Author of the groundbreaking book “Healing through Yoga,” Denniston has personally helped Dr. Berman through the grief of her son’s death and showed her ways that yoga can help us to channel, heal, and process our deepest wounds.
Denniston is the founder of Grief Yoga and has built his practice around the five fundamental keys of healing: Awareness, Expression, Connection, Surrender, and Evolution. With each of these stages, yoga positions and meditations can help you to further your spiritual practice and unblock energy channels so that you can live your most fulfilling, love-filled existence.
In this episode, Denniston and Dr. Berman also talk about how anger can actually be one of our greatest teachers, and how tapping into our anger in a healthy way can help to free us from unwanted experiences and negative thought patterns. While we often ru…
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Jan 19, 2022
How to Increase Desire in the Bedroom
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman talks about the trouble with mismatched libidos and why so many couples struggle to establish complementary sex drives.
“One of the most common issues my clients have is that one partner wants more sex than the other,” says Dr. Berman. “Generally, this is an issue that presents early on in a relationship, but over time the issue grows and grows…as does the resentment.”
Dr. Berman explains that mismatched libidos can often trigger a vicious cycle, a cycle which couples may not even be aware of or realizing that they are perpetuating.
“Here is what often happens: The partner who keeps getting turned down for sex becomes resentful and insecure. They start to pull away, sometimes intentionally, sometimes unconsciously. The pet names and romance and affection start to disappear. As these things fall by the wayside, the sex drive only continues to plummet and both partners grow apart bit by bit. This is…
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Jan 12, 2022
The Truth about Manifesting Your Desires: A Conversation with Maureen Riley
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with intuitive consultant, life coach, and mindfulness-based psychotherapist Maureen Riley. Dr. Berman has been a longtime client of Maureen Riley, and she reveals that Riley’s wisdom and intuition has helped her deeply.
Riley is committed to teaching people how to unlock their own potential and get out of their own way. If you’re starting 2022 with a list of daring resolutions and hopes for the New Year, this is a must-listen episode that will teach you what you need to know in order to make your resolutions a reality.
“Imagine being able track back to the hidden source of what’s blocking you while you simultaneously access the power within that unlocks, opens and shifts you into a new reality- one that’s aligned with your Wholeness, well Being, and Source of inner guidance,” Riley states. “Once activated, this energy and intelligence can repair your health, put your life into alignment with your t…
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Jan 5, 2022
Here's What Your Partner Really Wishes You Would Do in the Bedroom
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men and women really want in the bedroom. Do men and women really have such vastly different needs and desires in the bedroom? Is it true that men have much higher libidos than women, or that women can’t have sex without getting emotionally attached?
Dr. Berman gets real about these intimacy questions and more, first explaining what truly makes a person desirable in the bedroom. And believe it or not, it has nothing to do with how big your breasts are or how long you can last during sex.
“Think back to the best sex you’ve ever had,” says Dr. Berman. “The sex that made you feel the most turned on, desired, and powerfully connected to your partner. What made that sex so amazing? It probably had nothing to do with your partner’s penis size or whether or not they had a 6-pack or double D cups. It was probably about the emotional connection and the excitement you felt at being seen and loved and tre…
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Dec 29, 2021
After Death: How to Connect With Our Lost Loved Ones with Susan Grau
On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Susan Grau. Have you ever wondered it means to be a medium, or have you ever felt as though you have a ‘sixth sense’ or an ability to see or feel people who are no longer here? Then this episode is for you:
Susan Grau is an Internationally recognized Intuitive Medium, Life Path Intuitive, Life Coach, & Hypnotherapist / Past Life Regressionist. Susan is known for bringing her genuine, benevolent, and down-to-earth style to her clients and sessions. Susan works with the spirit world using her “Clair Senses” as a means to communicate with your loved ones. She has been offering her professional and spiritual services to the public for over three decades.
“You are made of light. You are good, kind, and filled with the spiritual beauty of the afterlife. Never forget where you came from. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than what you are. Always know your value. You are from the light…
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Dec 22, 2021
Stop Making this Mistake in the Bedroom
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common mistakes that people make in the bedroom. How can you create passion and meaningful sexual intimacy even when you have been together for years? How can you make sex special on a regular weeknight when the kids are down the hall and there are still dirty dishes in the sink?
From understanding the different ways that men and women approach sexual pleasure to getting in touch with what you really want in the bedroom, Dr. Berman explains that the most fulfilling and passionate sex is often born out of self-knowledge and a willing to go beyond the surface.
“When we think of exciting sexual encounters or passionate hookups, we tend to imagine a very Hollywood image of what that kind of sex looks like. We picture a couple stumbling home from their date night or a night out at the bar, pulling each other’s clothes off as they trip down the hallway and then land in bed together. The sex feels very sp…
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Dec 15, 2021
A Conversation about Love, Divinity, and Meaning with Neal Allen and Anne Lamott
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate conversation with husband Neal Allen. Neal Allen is a coach and writer who studies and practices traditional and contemporary spiritual paths. His book “Shapes of Truth: Discover God Inside You,” is one of Dr. Berman’s favorite new books and she is eager to share how you can apply the deep wisdom within this book to your life.
Neal Allen will help listeners discover how to find the divinity within, including what divinity means and how even a non-believer can connect with a deeper meaning and purpose. Allen explains how his time at the Hameed Ali's Diamond Heart group helped to awake him to the false stories about himself and his reality that he had been stuck in, and how he was able to ‘burn down his house’ discover how to see the many colors of divinity within them.
“There are 35 colors that you can find within yourself,” says Allen. “And each of them has to do a way in whic…
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Dec 8, 2021
How to Have More (and Better) Orgasms
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman discusses one of the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice: Mismatched libidos.
“Whenever one partner has more desire than the other partner, you’re looking at a powder keg,” says Dr. Berman. “It may not seem so at first. But as one partner keeps saying ‘no’ and the other partner keeps dealing with that rejection, over time it can really become an explosive situation.”
Dr. Berman says one of the main reasons mismatched libido can lead to divorce is because lack of sex often leads to lack of physical intimacy and then lack of emotional intimacy as well.
“When sex falls by the wayside, what often happens is that cuddling, kissing, hand-holding, and snuggling often go away too,” says Dr. Berman. “A woman may reject being cuddled or getting massaged because she fears it is going to lead to sex, and if she’s not in the mood, she may just want to shut down any physical intimacy altoge…
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Dec 1, 2021
Loving Consciously with Lee Harris Part 2
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman continues her conversation with the transformative author and energy guide, Lee Harris. (See the previous episode for Part One of her interview with Harris).
In this episode, Dr. Berman and Harris talk about how you can heal from a breakup and find self-care. What does self-care really mean? Is it about splurging on a massage or taking a hot bath with expensive bath bombs? Or is there more to self-care than meets the eye? Harris and Dr. Berman look beyond the commodification of self-care and our current understanding of how self-care often means external things (like shopping or going on vacation), and how self-care can actually be much deeper than that.
Harris suggests spending 10 minutes a day with yourself, and how this simple, easily applied practice can totally overhaul you whole day and our whole mood. The truest form of self-care is about being with yourself, honoring yourself with your whole awareness and cons…
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Nov 24, 2021
Listening to Your Spirit Guides with Lee Harris Part 1
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with energy expert and transformation guide Lee Harris. Harris is the author of “Energy Speaks: Messages from Spirit on Living, Loving, and Awakening,” and on today’s episode, he talks about how we can get in tune with our energy and help use our consciousness not only to heal ourselves but to heal the world.
Harris explains to Dr. Berman how we can better raise boys and help them to get in touch with their emotions. Since our society encourages men to be stoic and never cry or show weakness, many boys grow up being unable to cope with or even identify their emotions.
On this episode, Harris shares his important insights on raising emotionally healthy boys, but also emotionally healthy kids in general. How can you better tap into your child’s emotions? How can you parent in a conscious, vulnerable way? These questions are so complex, but the answers are already within us, if we can just let our egos…
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Nov 17, 2021
What Men Want in the Bedroom (And What They Don't)
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men really want in the bedroom, and why men seem to have higher desire than women when it comes to intimacy.
Dr. Berman reveals that the most common issue that she sees in her clients is the fact that men want more sex than their partners, and how those mismatched libidos can wreak havoc on your relationship. When sex falls by the wayside, it can lead to less affection, less physical touch, and less romance in general. When a woman doesn’t want sex, she may brush off her partner if he tries to cuddle her or kiss her, because she thinks “Oh no, he is just going to want sex, and I don’t even want to go there right now.” Or maybe she even feels guilty accepting affectionate touch since she isn’t ‘keeping up her end of the bargain’ and being the passionate, hands-on partner that she knows her partner wants her to be.
Yet the more these things disappear (the cuddling, the hand-holding, the pe…
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Nov 10, 2021
Embracing Your Wild: Janne Robinson and the Secrets to a Liberated Life
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Janne Robinson, a feminist beat poet, speaker, and visionary. The two women talk about life, love, trauma, open-heartedness, and finding ‘the one.’
How do you know when you have found your forever soulmate? And how do you know when you have found someone who is just here temporarily to help you deepen your journey and continue your soul-work?
They also delve into the idea of “you spot it, you got it” and how you can claim those parts of yourselves that might scare you or even trigger. How can you claim your ‘wild’ and embrace your shadow-self? Robinson explains that most of us constantly live in a state of conformity, always trying to blend in and achieve concrete milestones in order to prove our worth.
Robinson also talks about the feelings of jealousy and inferiority that can plague us when we don’t feel as ‘enlightened’ or as ‘free’ as other people around us who are living con…
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Nov 3, 2021
Love Yourself to Heal Yourself
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about self-love and how self-love can help to heal the world. She tackles the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, explaining that self-esteem is conditional. Self-esteem is often based on other people’s perceptions of us and that external validation, such as whether you can perform well enough or achieve enough in the world’s eyes. Only then can you have pride in your accomplishments and feel confident in yourself.
But, as the sex therapist explains, self-worth is completely different. It is totally unconditional love that you never have to compete for or earn.
“Self-worth is ultimately, at its core, the understanding that you are worthy of abundant love, simply because you exist. You don’t have to do anything or be anything, you’re actually perfectly imperfect exactly as you are and perfectly lovable exactly as you are. You are the unique, one-of-a-kind expression of spirit,” says Dr.…
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Oct 27, 2021
Getting Your Head Out of the Sand: A Talk with Marianne Williamson
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with internationally acclaimed author and lecturer Marianne Williamson.
Dr. Berman’s grief journey following the death of her son Sammy has been greatly illuminated and shaped by Williamson’s past works, such as “A Return to Love” and “Tears to Triumph,” so sitting down for an interview with such a beloved soul-guide has been a longtime plan of hers.
In today’s interview, Dr. Berman and Williamson talk about this incredibly difficult time that we are living in, and how crucial it is for us to stay present and engaged, rather than hiding our heads in the sand. How can you find your voice and help to promote peace and integrity when you just want to hide away from the ugliness of the world?
Williamson says we must start acknowledging our own power and refusing to be silenced.
In particular, Williamson believes that empaths and spiritually-minded people have a huge responsibility right now in help…
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Oct 20, 2021
Ecstatic Dancing
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about her newfound hobby, Ecstatic Dancing. This unique form of dance is often misunderstood, and many people may not even know about this amazing, transformative form of body movement. So, together with Robin Parrish (Co-Founder and Managing Director of Ecstatic Dance LA), Dr. Berman discusses what ecstatic dancing is really all about, as well as how she has been using ecstatic dancing to cope as she moves through her grief journey after her son’s death.
Ecstatic dancing isn’t about learning choreography or having the best rhythm: It’s about leaning into the changing waves of our lives, and learning how to dance and move with these ups and downs. Ecstatic dancing is all about listening to the wisdom of your body, and moving through any fears or doubts as you embrace the music within you.
Ecstatic dancing has been said to lead to feelings of ecstasy or pure joy, and whether you do it alone in your ba…
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Oct 13, 2021
Kicking Ass in a Corset with Andrea Kayne
Today on the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Andrea Kayne. Andrea Kayne is a leadership coach and an author who recently wrote “Kicking Ass in a Corset: Jane Austen’s 6 Principles of Living and Leading from the Inside Out.”
Kayne draws insights and life lessons from the works of the 18th-century novelist. Austen’s classics like “Emma” and “Pride and Prejudice” are as rich with meaning now as they were then. Yes, surprising as it may sound, these centuries-old books have a lot to teach us about self-knowledge, intuition, and learning to trust and embrace your power.
In this episode, Dr. Berman and Kayne talk about what it means to know yourself, how to release old habits and self-defeating beliefs, and how to come really know and LOVE yourself, flaws and all.
Whether you are an Austen lover or someone simply to find your purpose, this episode is a must-listen!
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Oct 6, 2021
Losing Sammy Part 3
On today’s extra-special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman brings us up-to-date on the latest in her son Sammy Chapman’s case. As many of you know, her 16-year-old was fatally poisoned by fentanyl earlier this year. In the months following, Dr. Berman and her husband Sam Chapman (along with their sons Ethan and Jackson) have seen their world turn upside down as they try to grieve while also advocating for real, impactful legislative change that will ensure no other child falls victim to these online drug dealers and no other family has to suffer as theirs has.
In today’s “Losing Sammy, part 3,” Dr. Berman reveals what her life has been like since the loss of her son, how she laid him to rest, how grief has impacted her marriage, and how her and her husband’s differing views on the after-life have sometimes left them struggling to understand each other’s motivations.
Tune in for this very important episode to learn how even during your most painful…
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Sep 29, 2021
Debunking Sex Toy Myths
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the history of sex aids, from primitive sex toys to the invention of the first vibrator. From G-spot stimulators to dilators to penis rings, there are so many sex aids which you can use to improve your connection with yourself and your partner(s). As Dr. Berman explains, the sex aid industry has really changed in the last 2 decades: Now sex aids are female-friendly and easily found online or in cozy boutiques, rather than in scary dimly-lit rooms at truck stops.
So how can you find out which sex aid is right for you? Which sex is best for single folks or for use during intercourse? Dr. Berman gives her top tips to help you shop smart when you enter the world of sex aids.
Then, she talks about how you can introduce sex aids into their relationship. What should you do if your suggestion of using a sex aid offends your partner or makes them jealous? It’s not uncommon for men to feel insecure when women want…
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Sep 22, 2021
Should You Get Back Together with an Ex?
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about Bennifer and whether or not it’s ever a good idea to get back together with an ex. Getting back together with an ex is extremely tempting, and for some, the urge can even feel downright addictive. If you’re going to get back together with an ex, you have to really make sure that you’re doing so in a conscious, intentional way. You need to be willing to examine what you did to contribute to the breakup in the first place, and what steps you both need to take to ensure that you don’t make the same mistakes this go-around.
Next, Dr. Berman talks to couples who have been stuck at home together for a year and a half due to Covid. After so much togetherness during the pandemic, how can you and your partner start to bring more magic and passion back into your relationship? If you are feeling more like roommates and less like lovers, don’t despair: There are ways you can reignite the flame after this dif…
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Sep 16, 2021
What is Sexual Healing?
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about ‘sexual healing,’ and what that term means to her. How can you use sexual intercourse to elevate your energetic consciousness and use sexual pleasure as a tool to help you heal your life?
Then, Dr. Berman talks about another kind of sexual healing: Healing physical issues in the bedroom which prevent people from enjoying intimacy. From lack of desire to erection issues to painful sex to an inability to reach orgasm, there are many common sexual complaints that can complicate your experience in the bedroom. However, there are also many tools that can help you overcome these issues and create the sex life you desire.
Dr. Berman also addresses how you can heal from past sexual trauma. In many cases, people with a history of sexual abuse may struggle to feel safe in the bedroom and avoid sex altogether, or they might use sex in a self-destructive way and have unsafe sex or make promiscuous choices even if…
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Sep 8, 2021
The Body Keeps the Score: How Trauma Can Impact Our Physical Forms and Sexual Pleasure
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common challenges that couples report. She reveals that the top complaint that partners have is uneven desire when one partner has a higher libido than the other, and how that can lead to trouble throughout their relationship. She says one issue is that even though many women struggle with some form of sexual dysfunction, whether that is lack of desire, difficulty reaching orgasm, or pain during intercourse, the medical community has only just begun to put attention into addressing female sexual pleasure. Hence, while men can turn to options like Viagra or Cialis, women are left with few, if any options, for improved sexual response, and most are too ashamed to even raise the issue with their doctor.
So, what should women with low desire do? First, Dr. Berman says women need to go to their doctor for a hormone panel as well as to investigate whether any medications they are on may cause sexual si…
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Sep 1, 2021
Learning to Love without Conditions: A Conversation with Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.
On today’s episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with guest Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. The world-renowned Toltec spiritual teacher and New York Times best-selling author of books like “The Five Levels of Attachment” recently hosted a shaman retreat which Dr. Berman attended, and on this new episode, they sit down to reconnect and reflect on love, healing, and living wholeheartedly and consciously even during this difficult time.
Don Miguel Jr. (son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements) recently wrote a groundbreaking book titled “The Seven Secrets to Healthy Happy Relationships,” and as he explains to Dr. Berman, the foundation of all of these secrets is unconditional love.
“The difference between conditional and unconditional love, to me, is that conditional love only sees what it wants to see, and unconditional love is willing us to see life as it is, it is willing us to see the whole,” says Don Miguel.
Don Miguel and Dr. Berman t…
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Aug 25, 2021
Different Words, Different Worlds: Male and Female Communication
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how communication is a muscle that couples have to learn to exercise throughout their relationship. She explains that many of us operate under the assumption that our partners can read our minds and hear our inner monologue, thereby understanding our motivations and our needs as we move throughout the day. But, she warns, our partners often understand our inner lives much less than we actually imagine, which leads to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and unnecessary arguments.
Then, Dr. Berman talks about the difference between the way men and women communicate, and how this can lead to issues between male partners and female partners. Dr. Berman explains that when men communicate, they often have a competitive stance, looking for subtle or not-so-subtle ways to ‘one-up’ each other or be the alpha dog in the room. On the other hand, when women communicate, they generally seek out opportunities for conn…
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Aug 17, 2021
Sexual Shame & The Myth of the Perfect Labia
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about sexual shame and why so many people are uncomfortable talking about sex. Why is something so natural and so fundamental to the human species so taboo in our culture? And how can we start to break down those barriers and normalize human sexuality?
Next, Dr. Berman talks about how aging can impact our bodies and our sexual response. Although there is no such thing as a ‘sexpiration date,’ and older people can desire and benefit from sexual intimacy even in their golden years, the truth is that as we age, our sexual response can become complicated.
Your genitals will change in appearance as you age, but this doesn’t have to be a source of shame or low self-worth. Many women may be tempted by the idea of ‘vaginal rejuvenation,’ especially as they age and notice changes to their labia, but these operations come with lots of potential downsides.
Not only are these vaginal rejuvenation surgeries totally…
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Aug 11, 2021
Quantum Love
On this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks about the meaning of Quantum Love and how to implement Quantum Love principles in your own life, both inside and outside the bedroom. Scientific discoveries over the past 25-50 years have established that at our core, we are all pure energy. Our bodies have an energetic frequency that is always shifting and changing as a result of our thoughts and feeling states. That energy doesn’t stay within our bodies, but emanates out, impacting everyone around us, most especially our romantic partners.
Dr. Berman says that couples are like human tuning forks, constantly matching one another’s frequency. You and your mate are constantly entraining your energy to one another. Most of this happens outside conscious awareness, but not when you are practicing Quantum Love. In this episode, Dr. Berman teaches you how to consciously take charge of your body’s energetic frequency so that your partner matches to you; your wants…
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Aug 5, 2021
Beyond Bullying: Jeffrey Marsh and the Power of Radical Self-Love
On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Jeffrey Marsh. Marsh is an LGBTQ+ activist and social media personality known for their uplifting videos on TikTok. The genderqueer, genderfluid nonbinary author was dubbed "the internet's most beloved anti-bully," and on this episode, Marsh lives up to their reputation as one of the most inspiring and educational voices in the LGBTQ+ community. Marsh is a visionary who coaches people to learn to love and accept themselves, especially the parts of themselves that might feel wrong or flawed, or unlovable.
Dr. Berman sits down with Marsh to discuss everything from gender identity to pronouns to what it really means to live a fully authentic life. Marsh explains how they are able to live so bravely even in a world that can sometimes feel so filled with hate. As Marsh discusses their traumatic experiences with bullying as a child, Dr. Berman digs into the topic of childhood bullying from her perspective as a m…
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Jul 27, 2021
The Danger of Dead Bedrooms
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the very real danger that comes from ‘dead bedrooms.’ As she explains, the longer you go without sex, the more difficult it is to reawaken that desire and save that sexual connection. From physical concerns like the decline of sexual response and atrophy in the genital region to the emotional valley that can grow between couples when sex falls by the wayside, Dr. Berman explains why it’s so important to get the flames going in the bedroom, because once that fire is doused, it becomes that much harder to reignite once again.
Next, Dr. Berman talks about how older women can grow into their sexual prowess as they age. She explains that while older men can be seen as ‘debonair’ or getting better with age, older women tend to be seen as unattractive or simply not seen at all. She explains why this myth is simply false and why sex can be enjoyable and life-affirming for baby boomers and beyond, and ho…
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Jul 21, 2021
Why Vulnerability is So Sexy
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about demisexuality. This term is used to describe someone who only feels an attraction to someone after they have built an emotional connection with them. In other words, they generally don’t feel attraction to celebrities or attractive people they see walking down the street: First, they need to get to know a person before desire develops.
In a similar vein, Dr. Berman discusses arranged marriages and whether it is possible to create a sexual connection with someone you only meet on your wedding day. What happens if the person standing at the altar isn’t physically attracted to you, or vice versa? Is there a way you can build desire and attraction if the feelings aren’t there, or if they have diminished over time? Additionally, how can you build an emotional connection when someone when you feel completely distanced from your partner?
Next, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who discusses how the lockdown has…
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Jul 14, 2021
Surrendering to your partner, Long-distance relationships, & Spiritual Transformation
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the experience that catapulted her into a spiritual transformation, and ultimately led her to write her book “Quantum Love.” Dr. Berman discusses how the science of energy and the way energy moves in the body led her to deepen her practice as a sex therapist and focus her practice on ‘sex, body, and soul.’
Then, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know whether long-distance relationships are worth entertaining when the person lives thousands and thousands of miles away. How can you build an energetic connection with someone when they live many time zones away? She also talks with a man who has a history of long-distance relationships who says he struggles with giving himself self-care during his alone time, and finding a way to acknowledge his own worth and sexuality after being solo in the Covid shutdown for so long.
Dr. Berman talks with a woman who says she struggles with ‘masculine e…
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Jul 7, 2021
Waiting for 'The One'
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman tackles the concept of a ‘new normal’ and the fundamental invitation the pandemic offered each of us: The opportunity to go inward and begin prioritizing connection over distraction, and quality over quantity when it comes to our relationships.
For many of us, the pandemic has put a pause on our sex lives. On today’s episode, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who says she hasn’t had sex for a year… and now has decided she wants to wait to have sex until she meets ‘the one.’ She is hesitant to be intimate with a partner too early because she knows it will create feelings of attachment even if the partner isn’t right for her or if the partner isn’t seeking a relationship. So how can she manage her feelings of desire while patiently waiting for ‘the one,’ and how can she explain to her dates that she isn’t going to be open to hookups or casual sexual connection?
Dr. Berman also talks about how masculi…
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Jun 30, 2021
Putting Love First, Even During Traumatic Times
On today's episode of the "Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how she can prioritize and nurture her relationship, even as she is dealing with the great trauma and terror of knowing that many of her loved ones are across the world living in a very dangerous situation. She wants to know: “How can you maintain physical and emotional intimacy when you are terrified for your family members who are living in a warzone?”
Dr. Berman’s advice is applicable for anyone who is grappling with loss and fear during this time of social upheaval. Prioritizing our love lives and maintaining intimacy can feel impossible and even shallow when there is so much pain all around us, but Dr. Berman helps reveal how safeguarding our bond and nurturing our relationship needs can actually serve us and helps us be of service in return.
Next up, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how to tell when she is ready to date after a breakup. When is it time to put your…
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Jun 23, 2021
The Beautiful No and Beyond - Sheri Salata
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with one of her dear friends Sheri Salata. Salata was an executive producer for “The Oprah Show” as well as the president of the Oprah Winfrey Network and Harpo Productions. Since leaving Oprah, Salata began to focus more intentionally on her own personal growth and leaned into the power of ‘the beautiful no.’
What is the beautiful no? Salata says that her people-pleasing nature and her desire to excel in her career and her personal relationships led her to struggle with setting boundaries and saying no, whether it was to opportunities or favors or constantly giving to those around her. Like many people, especially women, Salata says she struggled with codependence and was unable to prioritize her own needs and emotional health. This left her always feeling unfulfilled and disconnected from her own self-worth.
On this episode, Salata and Dr. Berman talk about Salata’s book “The Beautiful No,”…
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Jun 16, 2021
How to Get More Sex in Your Relationship
On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks live with callers on Clubhouse and gives real-time advice on sex, love, and relationships.
First, she helps a woman in a long-term relationship who says things have slowed down in the bedroom. Dr. Berman explains why ‘scheduled sex’ can actually be very beneficial in both re-igniting passion as well as increasing libidos that may have stalled once the honeymoon phase ended.
Next, Dr. Berman has an impromptu’s couples’ session with a young entrepreneur and his girlfriend who says their hectic schedules keep them from finding time to connect and enjoy their relationship. Dr. Berman explains how they can find ‘bite-sized’ intimacy throughout the day and ensure that they are prioritizing each other even as they pursue their career goals.
Later, Dr. Berman helps a man who spent years stuck in a sexless marriage. Since he wasn’t getting his needs met, he focused all of his energy into his work and let his sexu…
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Jun 9, 2021
Radical Awakening with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with one of her favorite writers and thinkers, Dr. Shefali Tsabary. They discuss Dr. Shefali’s latest book “A Radical Awakening,” and what she wants women to know about stepping into their power as well as owning the fact that they are often unconscious co-creators of their own suffering.
Together Dr. Berman and Dr. Shefali break down the differences between men and women and how institutions like marriage can contribute to these power imbalances. Dr. Shefali offers actionable tips on how women can begin to lean into their feminine gifts and awaken to their true power.
They tackle the idea of how rigid social expectations and an obsession of success and wealth has led to generations of suffering and disconnect. How can we get back to our true source and find lasting peace and worth, while still achieving our goals, and while still loving and parenting and living in a way that aligns with our core val…
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Jun 2, 2021
Should You Be Friends with an Ex?
On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman is talking sex, love, and relationships with callers on Clubhouse.
First, Dr. Berman helps a woman in a 16-year relationship who is feeling like the stress of the pandemic is finally taking its toll on her marriage. She says that while she is a very intuitive and sensitive person, her partner is much more stoic and pragmatic. He often talks to her in a cold tone or in a way she finds hurtful, but when she points this out to him, he doesn’t really understand what she is talking about. How can a sensitive partner help their spouse understand that their tone and body language can come across as rude or aggressive even if that is not their intention?
Next, Dr. Berman helps a woman who wants to know if it is ever okay to be friends with an ex. What do you do if you want to stay friends with an ex-partner, but your current partner thinks it is inappropriate?
Then, Dr. Berman helps a man who was suffering in an abusive relati…
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May 26, 2021
Martha Beck and the Way of Integrity
On today's episode of the "Language of Love," Dr. Berman sits down with the acclaimed author, coach, and speaker Martha Beck. Known as "Oprah's life coach," Beck's thought-provoking wisdom has helped thousands of people learn how to lean into their self-worth and carve out a life that is meaningful and joy-inducing.
Martha Beck (who authored "The Way of Integrity" and "Finding Your Own North Star") is one of Dr. Berman's personal favorites. On this episode, Beck talks to Dr. Berman about how to "get into integrity," and what integrity means when it comes to love, sex, and relationships.
Beck also talks with Dr. Berman about the Dark Wood of Error, which is a place many of us might be right now, without even realizing it. How can you tell when you are in the Dark Wood of Error, and how can you get out of it?
Listen in to find out what Martha Beck has to say and how her wisdom can help you to fulfill your life's purpose and find the love you deserve.
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May 19, 2021
How to Get Out of the Friendzone
On this episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks to a woman in a 35-year relationship. Now that their kids are grown and out of the house, she and her husband are struggling to connect and figure out their new relationship as partners outside of their roles as parents. How can empty-nesters lean into their new freedom and figure out their identities as lovers outside of being parents and teammates in raising a family?
Next, Dr. Berman talks to a woman who wants to know how to figure out if a new partner is sexually compatible before you even enter the bedroom. If your kink is BDSM, how do you find a partner who shares the same desires? What is the right way to broach your kink to new partners, and how soon is too soon? Dr. Berman weighs in.
Then, Dr. Berman tackles the subject of “friends with benefits.” How can you get your friend to view you in a more romantic light, and is there really such a thing as the ‘friendzone’?
Dr. Berman also gives advice on how to…
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May 12, 2021
The Truth about Death, Loss, and the Taboo of Grief with Anita Moorjani
On this very powerful episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks to Anita Moorjani about the loss of her son Sammy and how her grief makes people uncomfortable. If you have ever lost someone you love or you are struggling to cope with grief, this is a must-hear episode that will bring comfort and clarity to your grief journey.
Moorjani has a unique perspective on death and dying, as she had a near-death experience in which she almost died from terminal cancer, only to be brought back to life and make a miraculous full recovery. (You can read about this amazing journey in Moorjani’s book, “Dying to Be Me,” which is one of Dr. Berman’s favorite books).
Having been to the ‘other side,’ Moorjani offers her wisdom and perspective about what happens we die and what we can do here in the present to cope with loss. And is it possible to find connection with people who have passed on, to communicate with those who are no longer with us in physical form? Moorjani thinks…
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May 5, 2021
When Sex is in the Way of Love
On today’s unique episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Berman talks about what to do when sex gets in the way of love. Yes, while normally Dr. Berman addresses issues like lack of libido or lack of sexual pleasure, today she is talking about what happens when TOO much sexual pleasure gets in the way of the love you want.
First, Dr. Berman helps a woman who says that she is tired of men who seem to only view her as a sexual object. While she dates a lot and has no problem meeting men, she says that she is constantly dealing with guys who are too overtly sexual at first and don’t seem interested in her beyond sexual gratification. How can she attract a man who is actually interested in a relationship and not just hooking up? How can you create a dating profile that is flirty and fun, while still making it clear that you are only looking for monogamy and serious relationships, not casual sex?
Next, Dr. Berman helps a man who is dating a woman 20 years his junior. While their sex…
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Apr 28, 2021
The Empath's Survival Guide with Anita Moorjani
Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Laura Berman talks with the incomparable Anita Moorjani, author of "Sensitive is the New Strong” about what it means to be highly sensitive. What careers are best suited for highly sensitive? How can you tell if you are highly sensitive or if your child is?
Dr. Berman and Anita Moorjani also discuss the difference between being an empath and being highly sensitive. Turns out they are not the same thing, and it is very important for people to realize the difference between the two, especially if they suspect that they might have empath qualities.
Although being an empath can be very powerful and very meaningful, it also comes with risks, especially if you aren’t aware of how to harness your empath abilities. Empaths take on the emotions and energy of other people around them, literally experiencing their sorrow and anger and fear as if it is happening to them. So empaths can very eas…
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Apr 21, 2021
Breaking Down Barriers to Sexual Pleasure
On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps people who are facing physical roadblocks on their journey to sexual pleasure, in particular women who are suffering the loss of desire and arousal due to menopause.
Dr. Berman first helps a woman going through menopause who is dealing with unpleasant symptoms like rashes after intimacy and difficulty reaching orgasm. She says she feels as though her clitoris is difficult to find and that things are dry and uncomfortable down there. Is diminishing estrogen causing her rashes and dryness? How can older women protect their sexual health when faced with these unique challenges? And how can you talk to your doctor about these sexual symptoms in a proactive way without feeling embarrassed?
Next, Dr. Berman helps a woman with lichen sclerosis who has extreme pain and discomfort during sex. Around 1 in 80 women suffer from lichen sclerosis, but it is most common among middle-aged and elderly women. This inflammatory condit…
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Apr 14, 2021
Mismatched Libidos
This episode of "The Language of Love" is all about mismatched libidos and what to do when you and your partner don't have the same level of desire. Mismatched libidos are one of the most common issues that couples face and it often leads to the end of relationships, so this very special episode can be invaluable in helping to preserve your marriage and your sexual pleasure.
First, a woman asks for help restoring her lost libido, as her sex drive tanked after she began anti-depressants. Anti-depressants are notorious for sexual side effects, yet they are invaluable in treating depression and anxiety. Luckily, it is possible to continue taking your medications without sacrificing passion and pleasure. Dr. Berman offers advice for how to sex-proof your relationship even when you are taking SSRIs and other psychiatric medications, as well as how to talk to your partner about your decreased libido and help them to still feel loved and desired even when you are not in the mood.
Then, a ca…
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Apr 7, 2021
Living Your Most Authentic Life In and Out of the Bedroom
On today's episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman helps listeners find out what may be holding them back from living their most authentic life, inside and outside the bedroom. From gender identity to sexual fantasies to finding love, Dr. Berman helps listeners create their most passionate and fulfilling lives with vulnerability, honesty, and daring.
Dr. Berman first talks to a woman who fantasizes about watching her partner have sex with other women (known as a cuckquean fantasy, or cuckold fantasy when the genders are reversed). Why does she have this fantasy and should she act on it in real life, such as by having a threesome? Is it ever a good idea to invite another person into your bedroom, and why does she want to see her husband pleasuring another woman?
Next, Dr. Berman hears from a transgender caller who wants to transition but is afraid to take that first step. Should she take that leap and start living full-time as a woman, even if it leads to the heartbreaking end o…
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Mar 31, 2021
Finding and Keeping Passion in Long-term Relationships
Is it possible to be monogamous for life? In this episode of "The Language of Love," Dr. Berman talks about whether or not monogamy is truly sustainable.
Next, Dr. Berman helps a caller who says her husband wants her to talk dirty, but she doesn't know how to get started. How can a 'good girl' tap into her naughty side without feeling inauthentic or as though she is playing a porn star role?
Dr. Berman then helps a woman who says she and her longtime partner struggle to "get past the silliness" in their relationship in order to get to the sexiness. How can lovers continue to find passion and excitement when they are also best friends who love to clown around with each other?
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Mar 24, 2021
Quantum Love (and a Dash of Quantum Sex)
In today's episode, Dr. Berman talks about the energetic shift which changed her parenting style for good and how this "Quantum Love" practice also helped her son Ethan tap into his powerful empathy without losing his own boundaries. After writing a groundbreaking book about the concept of Quantum Love 4 years ago, Dr. Berman reveals how her profound grief over the recent loss of her son Sammy has renewed and deepened her practice of Quantum Love...And she explains how listeners can learn to access these life-changing benefits, starting right now.
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Mar 17, 2021
Talking to Your Kids about Sex
In this important episode, Dr. Berman gives tips to listeners on how they can raise sexually healthy kids. With so many teenagers having unlimited access to porn thanks to the Internet, Dr. Berman explains what parents should teach their kids about porn and why today’s porn can be so dangerous, especially for teenagers who are still forming their sexual desires.
First, a woman writes in asking Dr. Berman for help after her 9-year-old accidentally walked in on her husband giving her oral sex. What can these parents do to help ensure their child isn’t ‘scarred’ by this embarrassing incident?
Next, Dr. Berman helps a parent who wants to know if it is okay to let her teenage daughter have her boyfriend stay the night. Is it okay to accept your teenager being sexually active or does that set a poor parenting standard?
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Mar 10, 2021
Losing Sammy Part 2
In Losing Sammy Part 2, Dr. Berman draws back the curtains on her recent ‘grief retreat’ to the redwood forest. Rather than run from the terrifying emotions, Dr. Berman talks about how she intentionally stepped into that darkness and let faith guide her as she went heart-first into that fathomless pain.
From somatic therapy to grief yoga to breathwork, she sunk into her most primal and terrifying feelings about the loss of her son. She talks about how the process not only helped her to start wrapping her arms around some of her grief but also re-introduced her to her childlike connection to the spirit world and the unseen.
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Mar 3, 2021
Sex Therapy 101
Have you ever wondered if you could benefit from sex therapy? On today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Berman explains who really needs sex therapy and when sex therapy is the most productive.
First, Dr. Berman helps a 43-year-old woman who says sex hurts lately and she isn’t becoming lubricated like she used to.
Dr. Berman also gets an email from a lesbian who has recently begun dating a transwoman. However, her new partner still has male genitalia--which makes this lifelong lesbian uncomfortable because she has never interacted with a penis and has no desire to do so.
Finally, Dr. Berman takes a voice message from a man who says his libido has disappeared lately and he is feeling rundown and out of sorts--could it be low T?
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*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman, Dr. Berman’s…
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Feb 24, 2021
Am I Normal?
In today’s episode of the “Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman is tackling questions from listeners who are worried “Am I normal?”
First, we hear from a listener who worries that her rape fantasies make her a ‘bad’ feminist. Dr. Berman explains why rape fantasies are so common and why they happen, and what women are really fantasizing about when they fantasize about rape.
Next, Dr. Berman helps a divorced man who is newly into wearing women’s panties. He has also been gotten into ‘forced feminization’ fantasies in which he is compelled to dress as a woman. Now he is wondering if this means he is transgender or just into cross-dressing.
Hear Dr. Berman tackle these and other embarrassing sex questions on this episode of “Am I Normal?”
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*Please note: this episode was recorded before the heartbreaking death of Sammy Chapman,…
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Feb 17, 2021
Losing Sammy
In today’s very raw but very necessary episode, Dr. Berman discusses the recent passing of her 16-year-old son Sammy. She explains what happened that tragic night, why she decided to share it with the media, and how she has been coping during this whirlwind. She also reveals how the outpouring of support from her family and friends and even strangers have caused her to confront one of her core childhood wounds: Her inability to accept help or emotional caretaking from others due to a subconscious fear of being a burden.
But she says she has discovered: “Letting others help me helps them. When I allow myself to be comforted and supported, I offer my loved ones the opportunity to be comforting and supportive. And that truly is a gift...for both of us.”
Please join Dr. Berman’s Facebook group Parents for Safer Children or help spread her fundraiser for the Organization for Social Media Safety. This national nonprofit is the first consumer protection organization solely focused…
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Feb 10, 2021
Valentine's Day Blues
In today’s episode, Dr. Berman helps a husband who says his sex life has totally tanked due to the pandemic—between kids and online school and constant togetherness, he says intimacy has fallen by the wayside and his wife feels more like his roommate than his sexual partner.
But, first: Dr. Berman gets a voicemail from a woman who is scared that her adult daughter is being pressured into sex by her online boyfriend before she is ready. Dr. Berman explains how to gauge when it is the ‘right’ time to have sex, and how people can navigate physical intimacy when we live in a world of masks and social distancing.
And what to do about the Valentine’s Day blues? Dr. Berman helps a woman who says she is dreading Valentine’s Day because her partner always disappoints her on this day of romance.
Listen in for all of Dr. Berman’s advice and write languageoflovepod@gmail.com with your own questions, or leave a voice message for the sex therapist here. Shy? Don’t worry! You can…
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Feb 6, 2021
The Language of Love Trailer
Introducing The Language of Love, a weekly podcast where America's top sex, love, and relationship expert, Dr. Laura Berman, shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?
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