Rise Mindset
Susan Fink
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My name is Susan Fink and my son was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 3. As a single mom, I have navigated through a variety of adventures, obstacles and personal challenges to advocate and support him. But, as a parent, I also need support and had a hard time finding it...which is why I created the Rise Mindset podcast, dedicated to supporting families raising children with special needs. I believe this is my purpose - to help others. And I’m on a mission to provide hope and positivity through sharing my personal insight, stories, mindset perspectives and ways to navigate through this journey. Make sure you subscribe so you never miss an episode and if you would like more insight into my life and to receive motivational inspiration in your newsfeed, follow me at @susanfink.rise on instagram. Thank you for listening, thank you for your support in sharing this podcast to help others. And until next time, I appreciate, I empathize, and I am here for you. and...We. Can. Do. This.
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Jul 26, 2022
Pausing is Powerful
If you are living in automatic, reacting and leading with your feelings in how you respond in everyday life to a variety of situations and encounters with others, this episode is for you. Pausing can be incredibly powerful to discover more about yourself, identify and analyze what drives your feelings and help you break free from reacting and have a more positive, productive outcome. In this episode, I share when and why to pause, what you can do when you pause and how to do it. It may sound easy, but pausing takes practice. I hope this episode resonates with you and provides you with a different perspective in hope for positive changes in your life. Please share this with others who this could help.
DM me @susanfink.rise to reach out for questions or if you need help. I'm a mindset coach helping other single parents and parents raising children with special needs, make significant changes in the way they think to get through what they're going through. Check out more information on risemindset.com Support the show
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Jul 24, 2022
A Deep Sadness
In this episode, I talk about how to deal with a deep sadness, which, in my experience, can lead to feeling stuck, paralyzed, anxious and overall a very sad, dark feeling that can also cause physical pain. I discuss a variety of actions you can take when you are feeling this deep sadness and emphasize the importance of awareness, intention and working through it rather than disregarding the emotion.
DM me @susanfink.rise to reach out for questions or if you need help. I'm a mindset coach helping other parents raising children with special needs, make significant changes in the way they think to get through what they're going through. Check out more information on risemindset.com Support the show
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Mar 5, 2022
Impermanence
In this episode, I unpack what impermanence means on a fundamental level and how it has helped me be a better mother to my special needs son, how it has helped me feel more free, joyful and handle challenging situations better, empowering me with this new mindset to live a better life and to be the best person I can be for myself and my son.
I encourage you to focus on impermanence, figure out how you can incorporate it into your life to feel the same freedom and joy I do from making this mindset shift. It's not as easy as it may seem, it takes practice, but it's worth it.
DM me @susanfink.rise to reach out for questions or if you need help. I'm a mindset coach helping other parents raising children with special needs, make significant changes in the way they think to get through what they're going through. Support the show
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Jan 5, 2022
Forgive Yourself
If you're anything like me, you're more compassionate, empathetic, forgiving and kind to other people, but not to yourself. You're your own worst critic and may have found yourself ruminating on, feeling guilty and shameful about the way you may have handled different situations, whether you said or did something you didn't mean. You didn't take a pause to determine what you can and can't control. You were impulsive in your response, and you continue to make the same mistakes.
In this episode, I unpack the different ways you can work through these emotions and ultimately forgiving yourself, to evolve and free yourself to move forward and live a more healthy, positive life. You don't have to sit in it, you are capable of forgiving yourself, practicing methods to help you move beyond yourself. You may not be able to control circumstances or people around you, but you have more control than you think and one area of control you have is how you move forward, how you learn from the mistakes you may have made and how you continue to grow one day at a time.
You got this!
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Jul 27, 2021
Flip the Script: From Negative to Positive Thinking
If you're anything like me - a naturally negative thinker, a glass half empty thinker, this episode is for you. In this episode, I discuss ways in which I have learned to flip the script from negative to positive thinking.
Who wants to live in the negative all of the time? I certainly don't. It takes a toll on your mental health, your emotional state, decreases motivation and productivity, has a negative impact on your relationships, work life, the list could go on and on. Positive thinking on the other has the opposite affect - things are much more colorful when you're living in the positive and quite frankly, things are much easier to manage throughout life.
In this episode, I unpack my thoughts and experiences around shifting your mindset from negative to positive. Daily practices, intention and ideas to help flip the script including:
- Discussions on hindsight. Let's not live in hindsight, let's life in the present
- Identifying your negative thought while you have it, stop it and replace it with positive thoughts
- Surround yourself with the right people, positive people. This may mean making some changes in your life that are not always easy decisions.
- Consider what you're grateful for and shifting your focus, redirecting your negative thoughts
- How smiling can have a positive impact on your mental state and positive outlook.
For me personally, positivity takes practice. Most people think I am a really positive person; however, what they may not know is positivity takes awareness, intention and lots of practice for me. But...the more you practice, the more naturally you start making the mindset shift to naturally gravitate toward positive thinking first.
I hope this episode helps you. I know this can be challenging for many, especially when going through emotionally challenges of raising children with special needs. It's even more critical for us as special needs parents to be ultra-aware of our mental health, how we are thinking and how we approach situations, which can have a positive or negative impact on those around us, especially our children.
To connect more, please DM me @susanfink.rise. I'm here to help. Remember, you are not alone in your journey. Reach out, there are resources and your people out there to support you.
My mission is to help as many people as I can by sharing my personal stories, insights and mindset perspectives. Please share this podcast to someone you may know who needs to hear it, so that we can continue to help other people through their journey. Support the show
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Jun 14, 2021
Meet Dina Farmer - Founder of Lily and Magnolia Travel, Autism Advocate, Veteran, Your Certified Autism Travel Professional and More!
Hi there and thank you for joining this episode - a special episode as I have a guest who is helping other people through her business! My special guest today is Dina Farmer. She is a mother of two boys, one of whom is autistic. Her family is a military family (she is also a veteran) and as she was struggling with booking travel for her own family, she pivoted her business to help others - She is a founder and owner of Lily and Magnolia Travel, helping autistic families book and plan vacations as a Certified Autism Travel Professional.
In this episode, we discuss her journey with her son's diagnosis, which she reveals an important lesson and advice for other parents not to ignore your inner voice or your intuition. She is not only an advocate for her son, but also an advocate in the travel industry, helping other families take steps and find resources to help them with family vacations and ensuring families know the type of support that is out there for them. Dina shares a wealth of knowledge, resources and advice for families to take a step in travel, starting small and planning ahead, knowing resources that are available to you.
We also go into some of her biggest challenges she faces, particularly being in a military family, moving around all of the time and advocating so much to ensure her son has everything he needs, no matter what! Sound familiar?
Check out this episode to learn more from another family/mother, listen to her advice based on her personal experiences and learn how you can get in touch with her (Lily and Magnolia Travel) to get assistance with your future travel!
Here are all the ways you can get in touch with Dina Farmer at Lily and Magnolia Travel:
www.lilyandmagnoliatravel.com
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Dina Farmer | Travel Advisor
Certified Autism Travel Professional
*Lily and Magnolia Travel
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Email: dina@lilyandmagnoliatravel.com
Phone: (808) 800-1249
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Jun 10, 2021
Go Ahead, Be Emotionful
Has anyone ever told you you’re being too emotional? Have you told yourself that you’re being too emotional? If someone ever says this to you, stand proud and say, I'm proud to be emotionful! This episode dives into what it actually means to be emotionful, what are emotions, how emotionful people tend to be more empathetic and compassionate.
I also go into things to consider if someone says "You're too emotional":
* Consider the source of who is telling you this.
* Can lead to negative coping mechanisms
* Someone may tell you you’re emotional primarily for negative emotions, not happy, content emotions. But just like happy and positive emotions, negative emotions need to come out too.
We often turn to negative coping mechanisms such as:
* Shutting down - internalizing emotions
* Suppressing it - smile and pretend
* Becoming self conscious and insecure - judge ourselves negatively
* Holding your emotions in and stuffing them inside - creates energy inside, leading to depression, anxiety, feeling completely insecure. So, don’t disregard your emotions - positive or negative
Emotionful people tends to feel things more deeply and for longer than the average person. People who are highly emotional are often deeply compassionate, empathetic and self-aware, but at the same time may feel exhausted from feeling all the feels all the time.
Let's take a step back into what is emotion: Emotions are psychological states brought on by neurophysiological changes, variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioural responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure.
Emotionful: Of or relating to your emotion, exhibiting emotion
Use your emotions in a positive way, how can you use them to better yourself, to positively impact your life, to learn something new about yourself? Take the time to explore your emotions, rather than dismissing them or someone else dismissing them saying you’re being emotional. .
* Don't repress your emotions, aim for regulating your emotions
* Identify what you're feeling and what is the key source, or trigger of this emotion
* Accept all of your emotions, positive and negative
* Keep a journal - get it out and brain dump to make more room for positive thoughts and positive coping mechanisms
* Try deep breathing, or even tapping meditation
* Know when to express yourself. Set time aside to express yourself, and sometimes it’s not expressing yourself to someone. Writing it down, praying about it, expressing it to God or your higher power whatever that is. Get control of this - know when it’s appropriate by setting time aside to work through your emotions.
* Give yourself some space - give yourself time - be gentle with yourself, have empathy for yourself
* Use positive self-talk and actually listen to yourself.
That’s it for this episode. If you can relate to this, please follow this podcast so you never miss an episode and share this podcast to those who may need it. If you need help, I am a mindset and life coach - DM me @susanfink.rise or you can also check out my site risemindset.com to connect. I want you to remember is you’re not alone in this journey. Stay connected, reach out, there are solution out there to help you!
My mission is to help as many people as I can and I cannot do that without you. Thank you, thank you thank you for listening, thank you for your support in sharing this podcast to help others. And until next time, I appreciate, I empathize, and I am here for you. and...We...can do thisSupport the show
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May 25, 2021
Look Up, Literally
Can I ask you something? Where do you look when you are going for a walk, hike, run?
I noticed something about myself and wonder if you do the same thing. When I walk, run or go for a hike, I find myself looking down A LOT. I noticed this when I was going for a walk today and I was just looking down at the ground. I was very aware of where I was looking - the dirty ground, and when I actually picked my head up, lifted it, looked up, my entire perspective changed. My view had changed, and I was feeling better.
Yes, I was looking down because I was in my head. I was walking with my head toward the ground, shoulders shrugged forward and my eyes gazing at the ground, because I was thinking negatively, I was working through some challenges I was going through. And, usually it's fear, anxiety, stress, grief, worry. So, my physical appearance and how my body was shaped was indicative of how I was thinking.
But, when I changed my body posture, when I picked my head and looked up, when I changed where my eyes were looking - I could see the ocean waves, the sand, look at people's faces as they walked by. It was a totally different perspective. It was lighter, brighter and I could feel my negative feelings and thoughts start to disappear.
I was really curious about this - how posture and where we are looking, looking down vs. up, could have an impact on our minds, the way we think. While I was researching, I came across studies about this exact topic, and there is a direct correlation.
Check out this episode to learn more about this. Making this simple shift can truly have a positive impact on your mind, how you think and how you feel.
References:
https://thebestbrainpossible.com/posture-mood-brain-emotions/
https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are
https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2014-37739-001
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May 17, 2021
The Wasted Worry
Do you find yourself constantly worrying about the future? Ruminating on thoughts about what could happen and trying to prepare yourself for them? This is what I called wasted worrying. The main reason it's wasted is because you don't know what the future holds. We don't know what is going to happen in the future, so why do we worry so much about it. It's wasted because we waste a lot of energy, emotional energy and time in our minds on worrying about things that may actually never happen.
Worrying isn't completely wasted though, it can teach us something, help us identify where we focus on attention, identify if we are thinking negatively. It can help us identify all of this, to help us take action and make changes in our mindset.
How do we stop the cycle of the wasted worry?
Advice I received from a school staff member was to not look ahead more than 3 months, even less. Don’t look too far ahead and create your own future that may actually never happen.
* Be aware of what you're thinking about and turn your thoughts around
* Deep breathing - breathing techniques
* Tapping meditation
* Journal writing
* Focus on gratitude
These are not rocket science and you could look up any site about worry. But the biggest thing you need to do is to actually do these things. It takes intention and practice, so my message to you , is to figure out how to stop worrying, how to stop it when it’s happening so you don’t waste more time. What are the tools in your toolbox that can help you? This is personal to everyone, not everything works for everyone - but you have to build it, then practice it.
I can help you - let me know if you need help with creating a customized plan and toolbox for you. It’s not always easy to figure out on your own and having an unbiased person to help you might be what you need.
That’s it for this episode. If you can relate to this, please follow this podcast so you never miss an episode and share this podcast to those who may need it. If you need help, I am a mindset and life coach - DM me @susanfink.rise or you can also check out my site https://www.risemindset.com to connect. I want you to remember is you’re not alone in this journey. Stay connected, reach out, there are solution out there to help you!
My mission is to help as many people as I can and I cannot do that without you. Thank you, thank you thank you for listening, thank you for your support in sharing this podcast to help others. And until next time, I appreciate, I empathize, and I am here for you. and...We...can do this!Support the show
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May 11, 2021
How are you coping?
Coping on a fundamental level is what we do in our response to stress, trauma, challenges, etc. There are two basic ways of thinking about coping: 1) active or engaging coping strategies and 2) avoidant or disengaged coping behaviors.
Active coping is basically the willingness to address your challenges head on, whether that's internally or externally. This type of coping includes reframing the way you think, accepting what is going on, problem solving to figure out a solution and working toward regulating your emotions.
On the flip side, avoidant coping strategies is basically just that, avoiding it altogether. Having denial or wishful thinking is what this type of behavior looks like. It's basically the flight of the fight or flight phenomenon - you're fleeing the situation, you don't want to deal with it, you escape.
There are also two types of coping, inward or outward. Outward is to look toward the outside world to cope - doing things like working, helping the community, talking to others. Some negative outward coping behaviors could also look like:
* Taking out on other people
* Taking an action
* Argumentative
* Aggression
On the other hand, inward behaviors are just that - curling internally, not outwardly to cope with what you're facing. Types of behaviors could include:
* Binge watch tv
* Self care may look like sleep, eating. Reading, meditation, prayer
Escaping is also a way of coping, which I have turned to. Escape could be turning to alcohol, overeating, drug use to escape the situation and what's going on. But, ultimately, this doesn't resolve the issue and the trauma, stress, anixety, etc is still there. Escaping can be a dangerous road to take and often can lead to a very negative mindset, not making the situation any better.
I did this - I used to cope by drinking to escape. After a stressful day, when my son would go to bed, I would tell myself I deserved a glass of wine, I deserved it because it was tough. What I was really doing was escaping my emotions and challenges, which never went away, they were still there.
So, I ask you, what is the way in which you cope? Is it healthy?
Are you addressing the issue or avoiding it?
Are you making things better or worse?
Is how you're coping getting in the way of your goals?
I believe that awareness and understanding how you cope, and why you do what you do is the best place to start when thinking about these questions. Being aware will give you a foundation to start to identify what you need to change to live a more fulfilling, healthier and happier life in the midst of the challenges.
I also believe that short term pain will lead to long-term gain. Many people choose the escape route and to disengage because it's the easier path to take. Dealing with all that you're going through head on and engaging in it is not easier, it's harder, BUT, it will give you a path to freedom, a path to longer-term gain.
I hope this helps you. Please follow, share and comment and please share it with someone who may need to hear this message. Please follow me on Instagram @susanfink.rise and reach out to connect if you need help. I am a mindset and life coach and am here to help you push through your challenges to create a customized toolkit to help you.
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May 3, 2021
Finding Your Lost Identity
Do you feel like you lost your identity and you are unfulfilled in a certain area of your life?
Early on when my son was born as a single mother was working and taking care of my child I completely lost sense of who I am and what my goals were, my passion, my interests - I basically identified myself as a single mom, someone who worked and took care of my son. To be honest, there wasn’t a lot of time to take care of myself or do anything I was interested in, at least I thought there wasn’t time. I felt like I completely lost myself.
So if you've lost your identity this podcast is for you If you are unsure of who you are anymore or if you have lost your sense of being let's talk about that How can we get that back?
Here are some steps or things you can do to recover your identity, or to even create or shape a new identity,
* Give yourself permission to figure it out - give yourself time. Sometimes we also have to deal with specific emotions in between, could be allowing yourse…
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Apr 26, 2021
The Unsupportive Family Members
This is a difficult topic for many. I’ve had the opportunity to speak to other parents and this is one of their struggles.
When going through this journey, and especially in the initial diagnosis, you may run across family members who don’t understand, are unsupportive, not willing to learn about the diagnosis, may even say things like - it’s just a phase.
You may have to reset your own expectations of your family members.
They may not be able to provide the support you need, your child needs, your family needs.
Let me ask you a question. What does support look like to you? Are you not receiving what you need?
The truth is, they may not be able to give you what you need, the type of support you’re looking for. This could be for many reasons, and reasons I have heard include:
* They don’t understand the diagnosis. They don’t understand what’s going on
* They are in denial - they may not want to understand, they may be telling themselves something different becaus…
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Apr 19, 2021
Using a Stone Two Ways: Working Through Emotions and Letting Go
Rise with the Light is not only about challenges we go through as parents with special needs children, but I also cover making mindset shifts to help you in everyday life deal with different struggles you might be going through, to give you a different perspective and ways to practice. Throughout my journey in battling a variety of challenges from cancer, brain surgery, divorce while 8 months pregnant, autism diagnosis of my son, being a single mom and other situations, I have had to work incredibly hard with being intentional with mindset changes - and this takes practice, so I hope these mindset tips and hacks help you too.
I want to talk to you about how a simple object, like a stone, can help you relieve emotions, particularly anxiety and help you let go.
Have you ever carried around a rock, stone or small pebble in your pocket? You could also use a seashell, or any sort of small object to be honest. Carrying this object around with you, in your pocket, easily accessible can help…
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Apr 5, 2021
The Art of Mindfulness: Meet Vani Shiroor - Founder of DotUrMinds
Please welcome to the show, Vani from DotUrMinds. Vani is a special needs mom, raising her daughter with Epidermolysis Bullosa, or EB, is a rare genetic connective tissue disorder that affects 1 out of every 20,000 births (in the United States - approximately 200 children a year are born with EB). Her daughter is now 19 years old, thriving, now in college at UCLA and was able to give her graduation speech at her High School graduation. Vani is also the founder of DotUrMinds and is here to tell us all about her journey, words of advice for parents and about her DotUrMinds sessions, bringing mindfulness and art together!
In this episode, we cover so much ground:
* What is EB and when was your daughter diagnosed? We talk about her journey with her daughter, when she was diagnosed with EB just a few days out of the womb.
* Her biggest challenges as a parent of a daughter with special needs.
* How Vani handled her emotions and mental health through her journey.
* We talk about sel…
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Mar 26, 2021
That Helpless Feeling
What does feeling helpless actually mean? According to the American Psychological Association, learned helplessness occurs when someone repeatedly faces uncontrollable, stressful situations, then does not exercise control when it becomes available.
Helplessness can come from a single event, like trauma, or a series of events that are recurring. it can lead to depression and often puts your brain into fight or flight mode.
Helplessness basically is a feeling of not being in control. Powerlessness. You can overwhelm the areas of the brain responsible for problem solving and judgment and things get cloudy - you can’t think on your feet, find solutions to make things better or problem-solve.
Often when feeling helpless or other emotions, people tend to ‘buffer’ which is a way to avoid the emotion or feeling. They turn to binge watching netflix, over eating, binge drinking or having a night out to unwind - but don’t really tackle and face the emotion. Avoidance and running away f…
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Mar 15, 2021
Meet Chante Douglas: Author, Echoboy's Mom, Autism Advocate, Single Mom and More
I had the pleasure of meeting with Chante Douglas, a single mother, an autism advocate, a military veteran having served in the air force and a published author, bring awareness and advocacy about the autism community.
We cover so many topics, including when her son, Levi, was diagnosed, the mental health challenges she has faced, and how she has been working through them. Helping her son with his mental health after he had a 'terrible, terrible day,' which she drew inspiration from for her upcoming book that is going to be released soon called, "Are You Okay?"
She literally turned her son into a superhero, Echoboy, as well as introducing his side-kick, ABC Girl! Driving more representation in the black and brown communities, especially related to autism, is really important to Chante.
Chante has taken her pain and driven it to her purpose, using writing as a way to express herself through her poetry, but also writing childrens books, not only to help other children with autism know…
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Mar 1, 2021
The Autism Health Coach: Dr. Tasnuva, PhD
I had the privilege of connecting with Dr. Tasnuva, who is now a dear friend in the autism community. Not only is she an autism advocate for her son, she has created her own signature program to help other people, utilizing her background in pharmacy and all that she has learned with helping her son and his abilities. She is absolutely inspiring.
Dr. Tasnuva is a Pharmacist with a PhD in Natural Medicine. She has been an Assistant Professor of Pharmacy at her Alma mater in Bangladesh. She is also a published research scientiest on Stress and Natural Medicinal Approach.
She is a holistic Health Advocate, a mom of 3 with a kid on the spectrum and living in Ottawa, Canada. Her experience in helping her autism child thrive, verbalise and supercharge has given her the knowledge and desire to help others. Now she is working as an Autism Health Coach helping Autism Kids with Language, speech, communication and other physical and cognitive developmental delays to get successful.
Her 5 pilla…
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Feb 20, 2021
Are you angry? I am too.
In this episode, I talk specifically about anger. This is a challenging emotion to navigate, it can take over our entire body and can make us do and say things that we may not mean.
When my son was diagnosed and throughout our journey of autism, I have seen anger rise up inside of me - I have let it take control of me rather than taking control of it.
What I learned is the emotion of anger may not even be related fully to the circumstance that is actually happening. It can be rooted in so many othert hings, that impact our anger, how it comes out, how we deal with it.
Anger doesn't solve anything and I talk about ways to cope and create your own toolbox to find ways to handle your emotions, particularly anger.
I also talk about acceptance in this episode. Perhaps our anger comes from not actually accepting our circumstances, accepting a diagnosis. It can also stem from going through the grieving process.
Regardless of what your anger is rooted in, finding ways to cope with it, to…
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Feb 6, 2021
Meet Jamiel Owens from The Ausome Show - A Father's Perspective, Challenges, Insight and Advice
It was a blessing to have Jamiel Owens, the founder and founder/host of the Ausome Show and incredible advocate for the autism community.
Jamiel's son was diagnosed with autism when he was 3 years old, and in this episode, we talk about his family, when his son was diagnosed, the challenges he faced as a father. We also get into discussion around having a spiritual foundation, ensuring you're communicating with your local police department and the things his son has taught him. Most of all, he provides incredible insight, perspective and advice for all parents out there, particularly remembering that everyone is unique in their way, to embrace who you are!
Jamiel is an incredible father, focused on his purpose to support the autism community, especially the black and brown community - to be the voice people can relate to, and provide support. He has many accollades of being published multiple times in Autism Parnet magazine and Next for Autism publications. He is also the co-host of…
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Jan 24, 2021
Grieving What You Never Had - The Fantasy
Grieving isn't just for things that you had and have lost, it's also for things that you may have never had. Basically, grieving the fantasy of what you never had, what you wished for or envisioned, which didn't come true. All of the feelings that come with grieving, including sadness, pain, loss, it’s the same as if you did lose something you had, so there isn’t a difference.
I’ll be honest. When I found out I was pregnant and was going to be a mom, and when I learned he was going to be a boy, I had all of the fantasies, wishes and hopes for what he would be like. I envisioned everything would be okay, He would play sports like I did, he would call me mommy, he would mimic me, try to eat off my plate, say things I say, talk to me, some things I thought were pretty basic. I thought he would be a social butterfly like me, make friends, want to play with other kids, so many things I was fantasizing about, things I wished for my son and envisioned he would be like.
But, none of th…
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Jan 22, 2021
Roots, Rise, Light? What does it all mean?
I wanted to share with you why I called this podcast “Rise with the Light” and why I designed the logo the way I did. Seems silly for an episode, but all of it was intentional and helps to share my journey.
Throughout my journey with my son and to get to where I am now, I felt like I had to ‘rise’ out of the darkness. While I did my best to be as positive and encouraging to my son as possible, I felt so dark on the inside and any downtime I had I was just depressed and full of worry, fear, anxiety - just feeling so down. It was really hard for me to sometimes see a way forward, to see that there was hope.
Something I heard had a profound effect on me "When there is a shadow in the darkness, there is light."
In this episode, I review the actual definitions of the words rise and light, and why they have so much meaning for me.
I also unpack the logo, why does the arrow have little lines at the bottom. Those signify roots - and I'll tell you how I had to uproot myself out of t…
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Jan 20, 2021
A Rollercoaster of a Day
If you are a parent with a child with autism and special needs, you totally get this. Each day can be completely different. You never know when the next meltdown or challenging situation will come up. You can anticipate all you want, but your child might have something that triggers a sensitivity, an emotion that shuts them down, something that makes them physically react. It can be challenging to try to handle a situation that might come out of nowhere.
It's like being on a rollercoaster every day. Some days are a smoother ride than others, but other days, the ride is pretty intense. You may be pulled right or left, or have an incredibly big dip or multiple loop-de-loops. As much as you might be able to predict them, you never know when your roller coaster might go from a smooth ride to a treacherous one.
Not only are you in need to take care of your child, to help, support and figure out a solution to work through the challenge, but you also have to deal with your own emotions. It…
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Jan 19, 2021
My Interview with Gary Leavitt, WMEX Radio
I could not believe it when I received a message from Gary Leavitt, radio host for WMEX in the Boston area. He had come across my name and mission with my podcast, Rise with the Light, and was so inspired he wanted me to be a guest on his show.
I am so grateful I am able to spread the word about what my mission and purpose is in life, to help other people by sharing my experiences, insights, mindset perspectives and stories my son and I have had throughout our journey with autism.
My son was diagnosed when he was 3 years old and in this interview, you can learn about:
* How my son was a complete surprise - I am divorced and have been a single mom since pretty much when he was conceived.
* Why I started this podcast
* Why I called it Rise with the Light
* What I have learned from my son
* What the goal is of the podcast
* Topic examples I will cover
* Blessings that come with autism
My mission is to help as many families as I can who are raising children with autism or…
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Jan 14, 2021
Advice for New, Reminders for All
Since starting this podcast, I have been asked about advice I would have for other parents. I have not only learned a lot from my son, but also other parents who have children with autism and special needs, teachers and aids who have helped my son, who have been a part of our 'team.' There is a long list of advice, but I focused on the ones that have been impactful for me and I'd like to pass on.
Have you ever walked on the beach and seen the footprints behind you and in front of you? I was walking on the beach a few months ago and those footprints made me think about things I have learned from people who have come before me, people who have been through what I am going through. The footprints in front of me are the ones that I can pass on to others. The advice I can pay it forward, to help other people.
We can learn from each other and can help each other. These are the pieces of advice I have for you in this episdoe.
* Don’t look beyond 6 months
* Focus on what you have cont…
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Jan 10, 2021
Are WE Sleeping?
Children with autism and special needs may have challenges with sleep, falling asleep, staying asleep or sleeping at all, which not only creates more challenges, but also has an impact on the rest of the family. When your children don't sleep, most likely you don't sleep.
Before my son was diagnosed, I was averaging about 2 hours of sleep because he never slept well. He had a really hard time napping, falling asleep, staying asleep and being a single mother, it was up to me to help him back to sleep, which meant, I never slept. This really took a toll on me as I also had to work full time and it was often difficult for me to focus at work, I started getting depressed, the sleep deprivation is real.
In this podcast, I discuss quite a few things:
- We unpack why children with autism and special needs may have challenges with sleep. There are quite a few theories out there and I was able to research and communicate them here.
- What can you do to help your child sleep. There are a varie…
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Dec 27, 2020
"He doesn't look like he has autism."
Autism doesn't have a look but if someone says this to you or asks other questions, how do you respond?
Here are somethings I have heard in my journey with my son:
* Your child doesn’t look like he has autism.
* But he seems so normal
* My son does the same things or My daughter does the same things
* Are you sure he has autism or is he just acting like a little kid?
* Are you sure it’s autism or does he have behavioral issues and needs more discipline?
* Maybe he’ll grow out of it, it’s just a phase.
Have you heard these things too?
It’s important to remember - We may not have control over what people say, but we do have control over how we respond.
How do you respond to people when they say something like this to you?
Do you respond at all? Do you get defensive? Do you respond and take the opportunity to educate, advocate and sing your child's praises?
Let’s take a step back and consider these things....
People who have never heard of autism or had any…
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Dec 22, 2020
You're Not Okay, and That's Okay
How are you feeling? Are you okay? If you're not okay, it really is okay. I know, everyone is hearing this all over the internet "It's okay to not be okay" or "You're not okay, and that's okay" - it's kind of cliche now, but the reality is, as a parent raising a child with Autism, I am not always okay, especially in the beginning of this journey. To take it a step further, I was also beating myself up for not being okay - like something was wrong with me, I couldn't handle things perfectly all the time. I was putting myself down, feeling guilty about it and it was only making things worse.
I was confused about this too. I was my son's biggest cheerleader, but I couldn't cheer myself on. What was up with that?
The reality is we have a lot going on, even just with our own child(ren). It's a lot, especially while handling a lot of emotions and challenges, not to mention all of the general life stuff. As a single parent, it has gotten so overwhelming at times, I was not okay all of the t…
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Dec 21, 2020
You Know Now, But You Already Knew - The Diagnosis
This episodes is focused on the "official" diagnosis. I'm taken back to sharing my experience when my son was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder when he was 3 years old. But, the diagnosis solidified what I already knew. I already saw signs, but was in denial about them and thought my son would do things in his own time , like talk, but I was wrong. In this episode, I take you through what it was like for me when I got the "official" diagnosis. The emotions I felt, but ultimately, what I had to do to move beyond my own emotions and focus on what needed to be done - to take action to advocate and support my son.
If this episode resonates with you and you'd like to share how you handled the "official" diagnosis or if this episode is meaningful to you, DM me. I'd love to hear from you. @susanfink.rise on IG and FB. Support the show
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Dec 11, 2020
Intro to Susan Fink & Rise with the Light
My name is Susan Fink and I am your host of the Rise with the Light podcast. I'm so grateful to be able to start this podcast to support parents, single mothers and families as I have been thinking about it for a really long time and I finally had the courage to just start, something that fear had been holding me back from doing.
This podcast is dedicated to the parents, mothers, fathers, family members, caretakers who have children with special needs. This short intro episode is to explain why I started this podcast, what I believe my purpose is on Earth and to explain what you'll be listening to.
Being a single mother with a child with autism is not easy and it comes with a lot of challenges, emotions and responsibilty to navitage through. I took on this challenge when my son was diagnosed at the age of 3 and want to share my passion and what I believe is my purpose to help other people with what they might be going through raising a child with special needs.
It's important to not…
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