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Eva Beronius
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Guiding you deeper on your personal transformation journey. Past obstacles and stories, and closer to the core of YOU - a life from integrity beneath the layers of conditioning. Your host is Eva Beronius, embodied self mastery and transformational teacher. Founder of selfmasteryandbeyond.com and the Embodied Self Mastery Community.
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Ep 87: Waking up to direct experience - recording from Teotihuacán
You’re here to experience life, and yet you’ve gotten so bad at actually experiencing. You see and interact with the world through the filter of labels and meaning that the mind is giving it. You’re being dreamt by your own conditioning, asleep in a version of the world that you’ve been programmed to see.
Having the direct experience of yourself, life and everything around you is very different. It’s waking up from the old dream and simply taking life in. Through your senses and through your awareness.
In this episode, I take you to Teotihuacán in Mexico and a recording from last year’s power journey where I guide you in the difference between perceiving through the mind and the direct experience. After this session, a man came up to me and said: “That just answered something I’ve been trying to understand for 15 years.”
If you want to experience truth and divine consciousness in a way that might take you several years to work through on your own - come with us on the yearly power journey to Teotihuacán
Also, I mention two new dates for the free Accessing Consciousness sessions. You can find them and register here
You find show notes in this post on my website
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Mar 15, 2023
Ep 86: The idea of being healed - Live Coaching #11 with Tina
Tina‘s been moving through a situation where she felt unsafe, and after she allowed her inner child to feel scared, another part shows up. A part that never wants her to feel unsafe or with uncomfortable emotions ever again. A part that’s saying “Are we there yet?”, and referring to a place where everything is healed and we only feel positive emotions.
We explore the dynamic between this protector part, the little girl and another part that resents the protector part. Tina discovers that they have a lot of similarities with how her mother and father sounded growing up.
This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round!
You find show notes in this post on my website
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Mar 1, 2023
Ep 85: Experiencing through the head vs being - Live Coaching #10 with Tina
Tina felt a new sense of peace after the last session when her inner girl received unconditional support. She also describes not knowing where her attention has been these past two weeks and like she keeps forgetting to be present in her body.
We explore what experiencing through your head vs experiencing through being feels like, which opens up a profound direct experience in Tina. We end the session with ways to remind yourself to practice being present in your body, so that it can become the new normal.
If you want to experience yourself and the world without the mind’s interpretation and labels, come join me in Beyond the Mind. The 10-week program that connects you with yourself as consciousness. So you can bring loving awareness to emotional wounds and shift old conditioning.
*=> Join me in Beyond the Mind**
*This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round!
You find show notes in this post on my website
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Feb 22, 2023
Ep 84: The hidden structure behind mistrusting others
What if the mistrust you feel for men, women, your partner, a random internet guy, the salesperson, or humans in general, is a reflection of the lack of trust you feel for yourself? Especially if you from a victim-state point at the other person and say “I can’t trust you and you need to do something about it”.
When you know how to handle uncomfortable situations, set boundaries, ask for what you want and feel painful emotions - and trust your own capacity to do so - there’s less need for the world to be different. Now you trust yourself to relate to any situation with integrity.
In this episode, I explore how you can use the sense of mistrust in others to find the parts of yourself that don’t trust you to take care of yourself.
If you want to learn how to meet with the parts that are mistrusting or hurt and grow your capacity to relate to life, come join me in Beyond the Mind. The 10-week program that connects you with yourself as consciousness. So you can bring loving awareness to emotional wounds and shift old conditioning.
*=> Join Beyond the Mind with a discount until March 1**
*You find show notes in this post on my website
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Feb 15, 2023
Ep 83: Abandoning yourself around others - Live Coaching #9 with Tina
Tina’s been having guests over and noticed how her attention gets pulled out of her body and into her head and on her external world. Into expectations on what the week should look like, how to make others happy, and her delivery of that.
We practice the felt sense of feeling safe with being in her body, also around others, and respond to the world from there. Which also builds trust with the protector parts inside. We call in an ally for her inner girl, so that the girl is always nurtured and safe, even when Tina is busy with other things.
This week I’m hosting an open session on Accessing Consciousness. I share how you can use the state of consciousness to meet all the parts of you with awareness. Also: Registration for Beyond the Mind opens in just a few days if you’d like to practice the steps with my guidance for 10 weeks.
*=> Join me for the free Accessing Consciousness session**
*This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round!
You find show notes in this post on my website
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Feb 8, 2023
Ep 82: Divine consciousness in your human experience
If you’ve ever had the experience of an expansive, unconditionally loving state of consciousness, you’ve probably asked yourself - how can I have more of that? Maybe this question led you to a meditation or other practice that allows you to access that state.
But for a while, these seemingly different states of everyday-ness and divine consciousness will likely feel like they exist as two separate worlds. In this episode, I explore how you can find divine consciousness in your humanness and allow for the two states to touch.
If you want to practice accessing that state of consciousness AND bring it to your very human wounds and patterns for deeper healing….
… don’t miss my open session Accessing Consciousness next week. It’s free to join and we’ll explore the practical steps as well as common obstacles and how to navigate past them.
*=> Register for Accessing Consciousness on Feb 16 or 19**
*You find show notes in this post on my website
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Feb 1, 2023
Ep 81: Why protector parts don't trust us - Live Coaching #8 with Tina
Tina’s been observing herself in the recordings of our sessions and seeing new layers of distraction and attention jumping around. She sets the intention to slow down and deepen her presence.
This allows us to go even deeper into the ecosystem that was created around her little girl. The girl that used to feel sad is now ready to play and enjoy, but she feels like there’s not enough room for her. This leads us to meet with the protector parts that have built the walls around the girl. It becomes clear that some of them don’t trust Tina, and that leads to new discoveries about who Tina has been identifying as.
Also, if you want to grow your capacity to meet all the parts of you with awareness - don’t miss the next round of Beyond the Mind, starting in February.
*=> Read more and get on the waitlist for Beyond the Mind here**
*The practices in there connect you with yourself as consciousness itself, a state where you can be in true loving observer of all your patterns.
This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round!
You find show notes in this post on my website
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Jan 29, 2023
Ep 80: Healing and relationships: Picking the "right" partner
The third and last episode in the series on Healing and Relationships. After covering the painful patterns in relationships, why they keep showing up, and how you can bring healing and shifts to them, we’re now looking at a different way of picking your partners.
Whether you’re longing for a partner, or are currently in a relationship, this episode encourages you to have a very honest look at what your needs and wants actually are in a relationship.
With this episode, I’ve put together a pdf with simple but impactful journaling prompts.
They will give you a better understanding of your needs and direction when choosing partners moving forward.
*👉 **Get the accompanying journaling prompts*
If you want to grow your capacity to meet all the parts of you with awareness - don’t miss the next round of Beyond the Mind, starting in February. The practices in there connect you with yourself as consciousness itself, a state where you can be in true loving observer of all your patterns.
*=> Read more and get on the waitlist for Beyond the Mind here**
*You find show notes in this post on my website
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Jan 27, 2023
Ep 79: Healing and relationships: Shifting the painful pattern
The second episode in the series on Healing and Relationships, with tangible ways to meet with the old patterns that keep showing up - and how to look for the layer underneath.
Clue: That layer has most likely to do with a painful emotion.
I also share one of my most humiliating experiences as a teenager and how it impacted my own relationships.
If you want to grow your capacity to meet all the parts of you with awareness - don’t miss the next round of Beyond the Mind, starting in February. The practices in there connect you with yourself as consciousness itself, a state where you can be in true loving observer of all your patterns.
*=> Read more and get on the waitlist for Beyond the Mind here**
*You find show notes in this post on my website
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Jan 25, 2023
Ep 78: Healing and relationships: Why we repeat the same painful patterns
If you recognize the humbling (and sometimes humiliating) experience of having your inner growth seemingly completely collapse in your relationships, I think you’ll get A LOT out of this episode.
I talk about WHY our painful patterns seem to repeat themselves, or why we’re ending up with similar partners again and again. This is the first out of three episodes, all guiding you in how to bring your healing and expansion into your relationships.
If you want to grow your capacity to meet all the parts of you with awareness - don’t miss the next round of Beyond the Mind, starting in February. The practices in there connect you with yourself as consciousness itself, a state where you can be in true loving observer of all your patterns.
*=> Read more and get on the waitlist for Beyond the Mind here**
*You find show notes in this post on my website
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Jan 18, 2023
Ep 77: Safe to feel sad - Live Coaching #7 with Tina
It’s been a month since our last session. Tina describes experiences of seeing the world and her own belief system with clearer eyes. She’s finding that her belief bubble and felt sense of the experience don’t always match actual reality.
With that expanded awareness, Tina finds a part that’s trying to protect her from feeling disappointment and sadness. Together we explore that sadness and the impulses of withdrawing and contracting around it. We invite movement and freedom around the sadness so that her whole system is sent signals that sadness is okay and that they don’t need to go into a habitual response when it shows up.
Also, if you want to grow your capacity to meet all the parts of you with awareness - don’t miss the next round of Beyond the Mind, starting in February. The practices in there connect you with yourself as consciousness itself, a state where you can be in true loving observer of all your patterns.
*=> Read more and get on the waitlist for Beyond th…
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Dec 14, 2022
Ep 76: The Anniversary Special
Join Eva for a special episode where she revisits clips from the two years with the podcast and invites you to reflect on your own journey.
During the whole of December 2022, we’re celebrating two years of the Uncover YOU podcast by listing favorite episodes, receiving your suggestions on what you want to hear next, and having a giveaway where you can win coaching.
Join us in the celebrations and enter the giveaway here.
Also, Eva mentions her meditation program Beyond the Mind starting in February 2023. Get on the waitlist to be the first to know when the doors open.
*This is the last episode for the year and we’ll see you in 2023 again!*
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Dec 7, 2022
Ep 75: Ready to let go - Live Coaching #6 with Tina
Tina’s finding a story of lack that her feminine has been holding on to, even if it’s not necessarily true anymore. Tina realizes that this belief of her young inner feminine is keeping her in an experience of the world that feels isolated and lonely. We explore what her feminine needs to let go of this version of herself and mature in a way that serves her better.
We also poke holes in fears that Tina’s mind has around her physical body's capacity to feel.
If you want to join us for the Death/Rebirth process that we talk about in this episode, *read more and join here*.
This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my *alchemical group program Being Me*. Get on the waitlist for the next round!
*You find show notes in this post on my website*
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Nov 30, 2022
Ep 74: The embodied art of letting go
Death/Rebirth process in December: Strips you of a current iteration, belief or pattern you want to let go of. Makes you a better Artist of your Life. Join BEING ME mini here.
*Once you've awakened from the old dream that was dreaming you (your old program of conditioning, the Matrix you were trapped inside...), you're now the Artist. The Artist is the one who can create the dream, the life, they want. As the Artist of your life (as the Toltecs call it) you have stepped into an ongoing process of re-inventing yourself. You dream, you create, you take action, you nurture your creation, you refine, and then you let parts of your creation and iterations of yourself die to leave room for new.*
*The circle of life.
Moving through transformation after transformation, while YOU, at the core, also remain still. Unchanged. The unchanging essence of consciousness as the ever-changing expression of life in the form of a human. When this realization - the unchanging and the ever-changing - is f…
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Nov 23, 2022
Ep 73: “Do I follow every desire?” - Live Coaching #5 with Tina
Tina’s been feeling confused lately, and a part of her doesn’t know how to navigate and meet all the needs of her inner girl that has started to come out. She’s excited that the girl is finally expressing herself, but is also recognizing that she seems insatiable. Together we explore how to recognize the actual desire underneath the various requests.
If you’re longing for the kind of healing between your inner feminine and masculine that Tina is experiencing, join the self-study version: BEING ME mini during November.
This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round!
*You find show notes in this post on my website*
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Nov 16, 2022
Ep 72: 3 expressions of the wounded masculine - and how to heal them
Being Me mini: The module from BEING ME that heals your feminine and masculine dynamics. Special access in November here
*Ever felt like you’re trying to keep up with the to-do list but the stuff that needs to get done and solved just never ends? But no matter what you do the world just doesn’t seem happier with you? Or like you just can’t TAKE another temper tantrum from your 4-year-old (or your 13-year-old) and that your head is about to explode? *
*Or maybe that people seem to be wanting things from you and you’d rather go hide and avoid any kind of social event, connecting conversation, or teacher meeting. (And perhaps you’ve already solved that by withdrawing from the world, living in your own cave of comfort and solitude. People might still be knocking to try and get in, or they have given up by now...)*
*Congratulations. This means you’ve been connecting with the part of you that feels overwhelmed, out of capacity, and likely fearing it’s not good enough. We can…
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Nov 9, 2022
Ep 71: Healing the feminine - Live Coaching #4 with Tina
*Tina describes an event that gave her inner feminine a deeply healing experience. Together we break it down to understand the components of that experience from a masculine-feminine dynamic perspective. We also visit her young feminine that didn’t feel safe to trust her feelings and wantings for most of her life.*
This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. If you’re longing for the kind of healing that Tina is experiencing, get on the waitlist for the next round of Being Me, or join the self-study version: BEING ME mini during November.
*You find show notes in this post on my website*
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Nov 2, 2022
Ep 70: 3 expressions of the wounded feminine - and how to heal them
Being Me mini: The module from BEING ME that heals your feminine and masculine dynamics, now as self-study. Special access in November here
*The feminine has been suppressed and wounded in many of us, which has led to her never growing up, maturing, inside of you. Instead of being in charge and at home with the superpower of feeling and sensing, you might be suppressing your emotions or throwing them on someone else - expecting others to hold them when you don’t know how to.*
*A consequence of this is that you might develop patterns of people-pleasing, entitlement and/or blaming. Underneath them is an old wound of being dismissed in what you’re feeling, sensing that what you feel and need is not welcome, AND importantly - learning to assign A LOT of meaning to what you’re feeling.
*In other words, you never learned to be present and know that what you’re feeling is okay, without needing to react or act on it. This is true for a large majority of the human population. The goo…
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Oct 26, 2022
Ep 69: Un-identifying to heal hurt parts - Live Coaching #3 with Tina
*Meeting with and healing the wounded parts of yourself will inevitably have you grow. There’s a point on our healing journey where many of us get stuck. It’s not because you're actually stuck, but because you’re invited to learn a completely new skill and shift out of identification with parts of your ego mind that you’ve been looking at the world from, for a long time. Because here’s the trick: You won’t be able to heal your wounded parts from the protector parts that have kept them in the wound.*
*Many clients show up to this work saying “I’ve done A LOT of work”. Years of therapy, self-help books, inventorying, self-awareness, meditation… Usually, what they have spent most of their time doing is the work their mind thought they were supposed to do - not the work that will actually shift their inner world.*
*They have spent the majority of their time in the “awareness” part of the journey. Identify, analyze, and understand how the beliefs and patterns were…
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Oct 19, 2022
Ep 68: Affirmations of trust and ease
*Remember **episode 66**, when I talked about trusting your actions to get you the results you want? Whether you recognized yourself in there or not, it will always be helpful to look at where you’re doing your inner work FROM and to create a foundation that is supporting you rather than working against you.
Because, why not build a dream of trust for the work and your capacity to make changes? A dream of acceptance of your higher spiritual self AND your messy human self. Why not affirm beliefs that you are always enough, and that you’re doing enough? That things are working even if it doesn’t seem that way to your mind right now.
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I’ve recorded around 20 minutes of spoken affirmations, where I invite you into a different dream. These are affirmations and beliefs that helped me get the changes I wanted, and that I help my clients shift into.
*If you enjoy these affirmations, I wouldn’t be surprised if you come back to this episode…
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Oct 12, 2022
Ep 67: Disassociating from feeling unworthy - Live Coaching #2 with Tina
*When setting the intent to grow our capacity to feel, we’ll be faced with all the patterns we’ve built to avoid feeling. Eating, thinking positive thoughts, meditating, ignoring, lashing out, distracting, blaming, shopping, and more. We can see these as obstacles in the way and reasons why we’ll never be able to reach our intent. OR. We could see it as an invitation to meet with and understand the layers that have been formed as protection.*
*This is what we’re doing in the second coaching session with Tina in the Uncover YOU podcast. Tina has been experiencing stronger emotions the past few weeks and is navigating that. She’s also discovering a pattern of disassociating from feeling unworthy, and we’re meeting with protector parts that are concerned about feeling more.
*This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she’s moving through my *alchemical group program Being Me*.
*You find show notes in this post on my webs…
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Oct 5, 2022
Ep 66: Do you trust yourself to get the shifts you want?
*If you feel like you’re doing all the stuff in your personal work, but still don’t get the results you long for, there’s an underlying belief and habit you might have overlooked. It has to do with whether you learned to trust yourself and your actions to get results. *
*When growing up studying in school, going to gymnastics or learning to play the guitar - did you get overwhelmed by the feeling that you were doing it wrong and not good enough? And with that learned to manage that feeling by rebelling, giving up, blaming others, or something similar? Or, did you get a sense that when you studied, practiced and took action, you would get the grades you were going for and that your skills were growing?*
*Now, can you see how this might have an impact on how you approach your inner growth work? If you don’t trust yourself to get the results you want and haven’t learned to connect with the desire underneath your to-do-list, then you might seemingly be doing all the right thing…
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Sep 28, 2022
Ep 65: Intro and staying with what’s here - Live Coaching #1 with Tina
*When you’ve been deeply identified with your mind, you tend to **think** about doing the work and the mind interprets that as **doing** the work. If you’re thinking about inner work a lot, the mind thinks you’re doing a lot of work on yourself, while you actually haven’t done what’s needed to make an impact on your inner world. Bringing awareness to your patterns is great, but the actual shift won’t happen in the mind. They will happen deeper in your system by releasing stored emotions, accessing your unconscious and relating to your self with acceptance and presence.*
*Then what is it that you’re supposed to do to make the shifts you long for? You can find several resources for that here in the blog and the podcast (and of course in my online trainings), but for the coming few months, I thought I’d show you in a new way. In this week’s episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, you get to meet Tina who I’ll be coaching for the coming few months, and you get to listen an…
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Sep 21, 2022
Ep 64: Coming back home to your self, with Chris Bale
A man who deeply inspired me in falling in love with my human and feel deeper than ever before, is Chris Bale. Chris is a spiritual mentor, intimacy coach and master energy worker. His embodied expression of mature masculine energy, with deep compassion for human conditioning and wounding, is a source of healing for thousands.
In this week’s episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I have a soul-nourishing conversation with Chris that spans from taking apart your bullshit and moving from your head into your body, to energy polarity and what it has to do with feeling alive. The reason I find this conversation so nourishing is that it touches on something that is deeply inspiring to my work: Can you take the embodiment of a true state of acceptance and love, back home to your human experience?
If you’d like support in taking the journey we’re talking about in this episode - from stuck in your head to the direct experience of yourself - *come join us in my 8-month alchemical program Be…
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Sep 7, 2022
Ep 63: Our resistance to ease and joy
*The idea that you have resistance to a fulfilling life from joy and ease might seem surprising since you’re probably striving for greater happiness. “I want to be happy!” you might say. “I would LOVE to live in ease where what I want is naturally showing up in my life.”*
*The odds though, are that you are having experiences of the opposite. More stressful events, the same relationship patterns repeating themselves, feeling like weeks turn into months and years without a change… Maybe you hear yourself thinking “Once this project is over…” or “Could life just give me a break! THIS on top of everything else??”.*
*Truth is that YOU likely need to give yourself a break. As long as you’re operating from the same belief system and are unconsciously embodying struggle - that’s what you’ll receive more of. Even if life events do keep happening, your relationship to them will be very different if you’ve shifted your own beliefs about struggle. In this episode of…
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Aug 31, 2022
Ep 62: Embodiment of Feminine and Masculine energies, with Rosko Blake
*In my work with private clients and especially inside my group program Being Me, I use polarity work (the dance between the feminine and masculine energies) as a way to grow your capacity to feel. Because when you grow your capacity to feel you’re more deeply connected with life and what you want, beneath the ego-mind. When you’re more connected with what you truly want, you open a door to being your full authentic self in connection with all of life.*
*On a relationship level, you’ll be able to heal old patterns you might have given up on changing. On a more spiritual level, connecting with your mature feminine so that she can receive more of the mature masculine will open you up to consciousness on the innermost level. A permeation of truth in every atom of your being. It’s a feeling of making love to all of life and letting life guide you.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I continue my conversation with Rosko Blake from a year ago, about the embodiment of fem…
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Aug 24, 2022
Ep 61: Embracing sexuality for pleasure and aliveness, with Erika Alsborn
*You were brought into this world through sex and you are a sexual being. Yet, you often form a relationship with your sexuality that is filled with shame and anxiety or treat it as a service to others rather than a force that are your own to experience. When you cut yourself off from your sexuality, or use it in a wounded way that lacks integrity, you have lost a potent source of life force. You most likely feel drained of energy and aliveness. Healing and embracing your sexuality in a new way might very well be the piece you’ve been missing. *
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk to Erika Alsborn, sex- and birth coach, about the somewhat indescribable magic that happens when you experience a sexual awakening.
**BEING ME* is my alchemical 8-month group program where you take the journey out from your head and into embodying the true you. It’s open once per year around August and usually starts in September.
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Aug 17, 2022
Ep 60: What BEING ME is like, with Megan and Mike
*BEING ME* is my alchemical 8-month group program where you take the journey out from your head and into embodying the true you. It’s open once per year around August and usually starts in September.
*When I put together the first version of Being Me, I didn’t know if what was in there would work on anyone else. I had combined four areas that had been crucial on my own journey and that I hadn’t seen mixed and taught in this way, but I didn’t know if it was just me it had worked for. I was surprised and thrilled when week after week, members were coming back with shifts and experiences of pleasure, meeting with uncomfortable emotions and feeling alive. The shifts they were making exceeded what I had imagined possible.*
*After three rounds of this alchemical process, with tweaking of the practices and testing different forms of support and structure, I get teary-eyed when reading the shifts members have had in their experience of life and themselves.*
In this episode of the Un…
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Aug 15, 2022
Ep 59: What you THINK you need vs What you actually need
*Sign up for FEELING ME*: a weeklong training where you practice connecting with your body so you become aware of what you’re feeling and can express from there
*Get on the waitlist for BEING ME*: My alchemical 8-month group program where you take the journey out from your head and into embodying the true you.
*In many areas of our life, we’re so used to talking **about** things that we miss checking in with what we actually need and feel (as we explored in episode 58). This pattern also sneaks into how you’re doing inner work. You’ve read the books, taken the courses and listened to the teachers but still feel like you’re not where you want to be. Faced with the fear of failing, your mind dreams up ideas of what you need and what you’re missing to get the shifts that you want.*
*Your mind will likely think there’s a missing piece, something you’re not seeing, a modality you need to learn or a teacher that will open something new in you… But ponder for a moment whe…
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Aug 10, 2022
Ep 58: The way out of hurtful conversations
*Sign up for FEELING ME*: a weeklong training where you practice connecting with your body so you become aware of what you’re feeling and can express from there
*Get on the waitlist for BEING ME*: My alchemical 8-month group program where you take the journey out from your head and into embodying the true you.
*We all have them, and we all detest them. The conversations that go south and end up in disconnection, misunderstandings, and frustration. The conversations that seem to take us deeper into the labyrinth of dysfunctional relationship patterns, when all we want is to be heard, understood, and move past any issues into more joyful interactions. How is it that we all want to have better and resolving conversations, and still end up with confusing and hurtful ones?*
*A big part of this problem is that we’ve been trained to talk about everything else than what we’re feeling. We talk about what the other person is doing, or why we’re reacting the way we are - but are not ab…
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Aug 3, 2022
Ep 57: From people-pleasing to caring for your needs
*Sign up for FEELING ME*: a weeklong training where you practice connecting with your body so you can get in touch with your real needs and desires.
*Get on the waitlist for BEING ME*: My alchemical 8-month group program where you take the journey out from the head and into embodying the true you.
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*A quick googling on “how to stop people pleasing” gives you lists of things to do in order to stop being a people-pleaser. In my experience, very few of them will make an actual shift to your inner world and address the root cause. If you’re looking for a more sustainable way to shift the patterns of people-pleasing, you’re in the right place.*
*If you grew up learning that having needs and wantings comes with bad consequences, chances are that suggestions like “listen to your inner voice” and “learn to be assertive and stand up for yourself” won’t do much. Truly shifting a people-pleaser role can instead take you on an incredible inner journey where you learn to get…
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Jul 27, 2022
Ep 56: Understand the fear-based mind to choose love (5/5)
*Go to this page* to see all episodes in this series and download the workbook.
*Sign up for FEELING ME*: a weeklong training that takes you out of your head and into your body. The direct experience of yourself beyond fear-based thinking.
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In five episodes of the Uncover YOU podcast we’re putting one of the most powerful principles for transformation to work: to turn towards that which we want to change. Instead of running from our minds, we’re going to look closely at the fear-based dream that has snuck in. More than that, we’re going to have a conversation with the Devil himself, hiding in any mind that is run by fear.
You can follow along by reading the book Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill, and then listen to each of the episodes where I’m connecting it with the self mastery work and giving your journal prompts to apply the insights from the book to your own process.
In episode five, the Devil spills the beans on how to get out of his grip and attain spiritual…
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Jul 20, 2022
Ep 55: Understand the fear-based mind to choose love (4/5)
*Go to this page* to see all episodes in this series and download the workbook.
*Sign up for FEELING ME*: a weeklong training that takes you out of your head and into your body. The direct experience of yourself beyond fear-based thinking.
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In five episodes of the Uncover YOU podcast we’re putting one of the most powerful principles for transformation to work: to turn towards that which we want to change. Instead of running from our minds, we’re going to look closely at the fear-based dream that has snuck in. More than that, we’re going to have a conversation with the Devil himself, hiding in any mind that is run by fear.
You can follow along by reading the book Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill, and then listen to each of the episodes where I’m connecting it with the self mastery work and giving your journal prompts to apply the insights from the book to your own process.
In episode four of this series, we continue to learn about the ways of the Devil.
Without hol…
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Jul 13, 2022
Ep 54: Understand the fear-based mind to choose love (3/5)
*Go to this page* to see all episodes in this series and download the workbook.
*Sign up for FEELING ME*: a weeklong training that takes you out of your head and into your body. The direct experience of yourself beyond fear-based thinking.
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In five episodes of the Uncover YOU podcast we’re putting one of the most powerful principles for transformation to work: to turn towards that which we want to change. Instead of running from our minds, we’re going to look closely at the fear-based dream that has snuck in. More than that, we’re going to have a conversation with the Devil himself, hiding in any mind that is run by fear.
You can follow along by reading the book Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill, and then listen to each of the episodes where I’m connecting it with the self mastery work and giving your journal prompts to apply the insights from the book to your own process.
In episode three of this series, I discuss the two main tools that the Devil uses to gain cont…
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Jul 6, 2022
Ep 53: Understand the fear-based mind to choose love (2/5)
In five episodes of the Uncover YOU podcast we’re putting one of the most powerful principles for transformation to work: to turn towards that which we want to change. Instead of running from our minds, we’re going to look closely at the fear-based dream that has snuck in. More than that, we’re going to have a conversation with the Devil himself, hiding in any mind that is run by fear.
You can follow along by reading the book Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill, and then listen to each of the episodes where I’m connecting it with the self mastery work and giving your journal prompts to apply the insights from the book to your own process.
To understand success - study failure
To find God - know the Devil
To experience consciousness - understand the mind
In episode two of this series, I discuss the principle of turning towards instead of running from the Devil (or the mind) out of fear. Also, on the other end of the rainbow, what Hill calls “The Other Self” awaits. Th…
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Jun 29, 2022
Ep 52: Understand the fear-based mind to choose love (1/5)
At some point on any self-awareness journey, we become aware of just how automated and non-stop our thinking is. Chances are you discover a lot of self-criticism, negative thinking, and automated patterns that are running in your head.
When you wake up and realize that you can’t seem to turn it off at your own will, it’s easy to feel like a victim of your own mind. It might frighten you how little control you have over it. That at any point, the mind could take over and drive you into a pit of stress, worthlessness, jealousy, hopelessness, or despair.
In five episodes of the Uncover YOU podcast we’re putting one of the most powerful principles for transformation to work: to turn towards that which we want to change. Instead of running from our minds, we’re going to look closely at the fear-based dream that has snuck in. More than that, we’re going to have a conversation with the Devil himself, hiding in any mind that is run by fear.
You can follow along by reading the book…
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May 19, 2022
Ep 51: The energetics behind self-healing
*Sometimes people that are interested in doing work with me reach out and ask: “Do you also do healing?”. After making it clear what they mean by that I often end up responding “Yes. But I’d much rather teach you how to do it for yourself”.*
*You are the medicine. You’re born into this world as a bundle of pure aliveness. When you’ve had your energy tangled up in fear-based belief systems - personal and collective - you’re drained of life force. Learning to re-connect with it, feel it and fill yourself with it, allows you to align with integrity.*
*In this new episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, we zoom out from **last week’s episode** on sexual energy and talk about the bigger problem of our disconnection from life force. And how you really start healing when it starts to move through you again.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
There are still spots open for the in-person retreat for women in Sweden (May 29 - June 3). If you’ve been thinking…
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May 11, 2022
Ep 50: Alchemize your sexual energy to feel alive
*Our sexual energy is an often deeply misunderstood force. Our relationship to it often gets embodied in one of two ways. Either as an addiction to act on certain habits and release the energy, leaving us depleted of the life force we accumulated. Or suppressed or lost touch with, leaving us dried up and with little access to life force.*
*Sexual energy is not just about having sex. We live in an orgasmic universe. It’s how life is created every second, how flowers bloom and good ideas are born. Human conditioning and social and cultural structures have made it into the narrow definition of intercourse and orgasm. You can actually be a deeply sexual person without having sex, in the traditional meaning of the word.*
*In this new episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, we start pulling apart the associations you’ve made with sexual energy and explore the energy itself and how you can use it to feel more alive.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
There are still spots…
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May 4, 2022
Ep 49: Identify and integrate shadow parts
*So often we’re trying to reach for the stars by stretching our hands towards the sky when we really need to get them dirty, digging into the earth to visit the underworld, our unconscious. In the dark, the stars come down to meet us, there’s no reaching to be done. Daring to go into the darkest shadows and shine the light of awareness, is what has allowed my own blissful state to expand.*
*Meeting with all parts of yourself might seem scary. The ugly, the demonic, the denied, the lost selves. That which you are afraid others will see you as. The parts that your ego-mind has pushed aside as something unwanted and bad.*
*But the price of not meeting with them is high. In the shadows, they keep running your life. When seen, felt, and understood - their secret reign can come to an end. There are ways you can connect with and integrate your shadows that I’ve found to be VERY impactful and have you not getting lost in a labyrinth of endless contemplation and figuring it out.*
*That…
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Apr 27, 2022
Ep 48: 3 reasons to prioritize embodiment
*Embodiment is such a fundamental piece to both healing and creating a new life. Fact is, you’re embodying your beliefs right now, most of them unconsciously. If you want to experience real inner change AND see the effects of your inner work reflected back to you in the world around you… then you need to understand and practice conscious embodiment. *
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I share how embodiment takes your inner reality into the external world and give you three major reasons why you want to get skilled at it.*
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
If you want to practice embodiment with me, the best places to do so are at the **BEING ME retreat** and the **BEING ME online journey**.
* Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Apr 22, 2022
Ep 47: Turning towards what's here: Meditation and Q&A
This is a bonus episode that was recorded during a live session in the community.
You can do the meditation or, if now is not the time, you can skip forward to the discussion at the 34 minute mark and do the mediation when you have space for it.
Things we covered in the discussion:
- Does consciousness solve everything?
- What if my mind is very scattered and my attention jumping around?
- I've been used to shifting an uncomfortable state to positive thinking and emotions - to meet the uncomfortable is different...
- The importance of taking your attention to the gym, and starting where you're at.
And more!
If you want to join Beyond the Mind to exercise your attention and learn how to experience yourself and everything as consciousness, you can *register here.*
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Apr 13, 2022
Ep 46: 3 practical hacks to accelerate inner change
*When we’re trying to change the current program of our mind, we’re faced with somewhat of a pickle: The tool we have to change it with is also what we’re trying to change. Often, the current program of our mind can’t even dream up what could be possible. What life could look like or what we’re capable of. It can’t see outside of itself. And IF it can, it often feels victimized by the fact that we’re not there yet. *
So how can we change our inner world when we seem stuck in an old one? I found that there were three tangible things that accelerated my own inner change and that I see accelerating people’s growth again and again when used well.
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I share the three things you quite easily can bring into your life to accelerate your own progress.*
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
And if you want to get to the heart of meditation and go deeper into yourself than you've ever been before, Beyond The Mind is the c…
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Mar 29, 2022
Ep 45: How I got my mind onboard with accessing consciousness
*If you have a skeptical mind and have been spending most of your life relying on your thinking, it might seem like an insurmountable task to have the direct experience of consciousness. Even if you have been meditating for a long time, chances are that you’ve been doing it from inside the mind.*
Here’s the good news. I was extremely heady, analytical, AND skeptical, and I managed to get my mind on board with accessing consciousness. I needed to understand the why and the how and then break it down into very practical steps. In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk you through the steps needed to have that longed-for experience beyond the mind. I also share about my own journey of getting there.*
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
Join me for the **Accessing Consciousness webinar** where I'll break down the steps to accessing consciousness and teach you how to get past the common obstacles.*
*And if you want to get to the heart of meditation and go de…
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Mar 23, 2022
Ep 44: The direct experience of your true self - a conversation with Eddie
*The direct experience of your core self is something that will change you. The funny thing is that you’ve actually come home to yourself and not changed at all, you’ve simply dropped some layers of illusion you used to cling to. *
*We’ve all read the books and heard the stories about awakenings and enlightenment, but truly experiencing it for yourself and not through an idea in your mind, is a whole other deal. When the seed that’s been planted with that experience is nurtured and invested in, the state of consciousness slowly becomes where you operate from. A place to navigate, relate and heal from. A place of deep love and trust in life. A place of aliveness, expansion, and joy.*
It all starts with that seed being experienced and cared for. The ego-mind will still be there but you have less faith in it. Instead, there’s a longing to experience MORE of the true you. And you have a new sense of self to relate to your mind from.
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast,…
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Mar 16, 2022
Ep 43: Shift your brainwave state - and 3 surprising benefits when you do
*Understanding brainwave states and how they are related to different states of consciousness made a big lightbulb go on for me. The survival state with its looping thoughts and feeling stuck can be clearly measured as a brainwave state. As can the state of feeling at peace and present with yourself and the world around you. With each of your internal states the frequency of the pulses between the neurons in your brain changes.*
*The brilliant thing is that it goes in the other direction as well. Change your brainwave state and your thoughts and emotions will change. Learn how to move between brainwave states and you won’t feel like a prisoner in your stressful and anxious thoughts. Access new brainwave states and new expansive states of consciousness will become available to you.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I give you an overview of how the different brainwave states are connected to different states of consciousness, how you can shift your brainwave state and ho…
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Mar 9, 2022
Ep 42: Changing the relationship to your mind, rather than changing your mind
*A lot of people have formed the idea that meditation is a way to discipline the mind. To quiet it, focus it, calm it down, cultivate more of the thoughts you want to have and with that become more of the person you want to be. This idea might be helpful to get you started but can keep you trapped in identification with the mind. *
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk about how meditation will change your relationship with your mind altogether. That at the heart of meditation is self-realization and an inner knowing of who you are that will have you fall in love with all the things you were desperately trying to change.
I also tell you of five ways you will notice that your relationship with your mind has changed. Let’s dive in!*
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
If you want to get to the heart of meditation and go deeper into yourself than you've ever been before, Beyond The Mind is the course for you. **Get on the waitlist for Beyond The Mind**…
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Feb 23, 2022
Ep 41: Using affirmations to establish love-based beliefs
*You have likely heard me emphasize how important it is to take apart your old beliefs, rather than trying to put new ones on top of them. That’s why I’m skeptical about practices that ONLY rely on affirmations or thinking your way to new patterns, since they often bypass your initial wounds and the exiled parts that need to be met and integrated. *
*However, building a new house while you take apart the old one is VERY helpful. Having something to move towards - what you want to feel and believe and experience - can be very grounding and calming for your nervous system as you’re uprooting your old house and making major changes to your inner world.*
In this episode, I talk about when and how affirmations can help you tap into new beliefs you want to live by. Beliefs based in love and trust rather than fear and doubt. And why it’s important to find affirmations that make you tingle, open your heart or even salivate.
*You find show notes in this post on my website.**
**Regis…
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Feb 16, 2022
Ep 40: Two insights that will help you heal core wounds
*Inner-growth work at its core is simple, and yet so tricky. Mainly because we’re trying to understand a pattern and shift it, with the same program it was created with. As you can imagine, this is not a very effective way. The insights that we need seem to stay hidden just out of sight, while we run our hamster wheel.*
*So if you’ve been wondering why you haven’t been able to get to a certain belief or change a certain emotional reaction - don’t beat yourself up. Your ego-mind is brilliantly built in layers with labyrinths and its own protection mechanisms to stop you from going deeper into the maze. Once you know the way it seems obvious. A key that might have been missing for you, is understanding the motivation driving parts of yourself, and the unmet needs that are hidden underneath their protection strategies.*
That’s why, in this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I share two insights into how parts of yourself are operating and the unmet needs underneath. So that y…
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Feb 9, 2022
Ep 39: Understanding survival response - and how it’s running your inner-growth work
*When we hear the term “survival state” it’s easy to associate it with life-threatening situations and trauma. But we’re in this state a lot more than we’re aware of. We’re unconsciously responding with fight-or-flight responses to many of our everyday situations, even if on a lower grade on the scale.*
*The thing is: since this state is so normalized - in your own body and brain, and in society - it will also seep into how you’re doing the self mastery work, or any other growth practices. When you learn how to recognize and shift out of it, doing your growth practices will feel easier and have a bigger effect.*
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I give examples of how this reactive state dictates how you’re doing your self-growth work. I also discuss why you can’t reason your way out of this state, and what new levels of mastery you’re invited to… well, master… to recognize and get out from under its spell.
*You find show notes in this post on my we…
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Feb 1, 2022
Ep 38: "I feel like shit" - or do you..?
*We’ve all heard our mind say things like “I feel like shit” or “I’m completely overwhelmed”. What often happens next is that we react to this statement like it’s true and a terrible thing that either needs to be fixed asap or something to feel hopeless and defeated about.*
*But what if instead of getting carried away in reactions to the statement, we were to look at the statement itself? Is it really true? **Am I in fact** feeling like a pile of shit? (And how on earth is a pile of shit really feeling??)*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I guide you in questioning the story from the mind about how you’re feeling and how to find out what you’re really feeling. You might be surprised to find that more often than not, you feel a lot better than shit.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Dec 29, 2021
Ep 37: Relationship Connection: The forgotten ingredient
*If we would call the deeply connecting relationship we long for a festive Holiday meal, then there’s a fundamental ingredient that is needed to cook that meal. An ingredient that most of us haven’t learned how to access, or even that it exists. It’s so rare to see it well practiced that we could call it a forgotten ingredient. Chances are that you rather have seen and practiced MANY other things in your relationships. Like reacting, withdrawing, getting angry or feeling hurt and betrayed and frustrated… *
*If you want to create trusting communication, intimacy and heart-to-heart connection (whether it’s with your partner, your children, co-workers or yourself) you need to KNOW this ingredient, learn HOW to use it, and put it to PRACTICE daily. When you do, it will grow into the foundational ingredient that makes all dishes on your relationship table taste a lot better.*
*In this third episode in a series on Relationship Connection, Gary and I talk about the forgotten ingre…
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Dec 21, 2021
Ep 36: Relationship Connection: What's Possible?
*When a relationship has a good quality of connection - whether it’s in the relationship to your own mind, emotions and body, or in relationship with others - a door opens. A door from the room of old patterns that leads into a new experience. What will create and open that door is the quality of the attention you’re directing onto something. Just like a magic spell. The reason you’ve been getting the outcome you’ve seen so far is because you’ve been casting the same spells over and over again.*
*In more tangible words, you have the relationships you have because you’re bringing your half and playing your role in them. You react and respond. You project and create from your mind’s idea of the world and the people inside of them. When you change your half, you’ve changed the ingredients of the relationship and you’ll get a different outcome.*
*This is when life starts to feel new and possibilities endless again. This is where intimacy and trust, when it used to feel…
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Dec 14, 2021
Ep 35: Relationship Connection: The struggles
*I had to remove a lot of protection layers to even discover that I longed for deep, heartfelt connections. My spiritual ego that felt all it needed was deep meditation and the skill to shift from anger to gratitude had to crumble. The lone wolf who said it was better off alone had to meet with its deep-buried fear. The project manager that believed everything could be related to through a good ol’ strategy and a to-do-list had to realize the consequences of its actions.*
*Many of us live in a survival state when it comes to our relationships, and we don’t even realize it. We’re tumbled around by our amygdala responding to threats and trying to pull us out of danger by going into fight- or flight mode. We end up feeling deeply disconnected, frustrated and confused when all we long for is deep, heartfelt connection.*
*That’s why, in the upcoming episodes of The Uncover YOU podcast, we’ll be focusing on Relationship Connection. Let’s start with the struggles we’re experie…
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Nov 23, 2021
Ep 34: How to change your relationship with money, time and attention
*Let’s play with the idea that everything in life is a matter of relating. You relate to the people around you and your job. You relate to the weather or the traffic. You relate to your emotions, your inner judge and your mind. All of them are showing up in a certain way - but what’s your half of the relationship?*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, we take a closer look at your relationship with the currencies you have to make most of your investments; time, attention and money. Do you feel you’re constantly in lack of them? Or are hiding behind judgments of other people that seem to have more of them?*
*Making investments with your time, attention and money is what will give you more of what you want. But if your relationship to these currencies is one of victimhood, you’re left with little to invest with.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
**Get the discount offer for Beyond the Mind mentioned in this episode!**
*(Open until December 1st)*
*En…
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Nov 10, 2021
Ep 33: "I'm stuck!" - or are you...?
*A common thought while doing self-awareness work, or in other places in life, is “I’m stuck”. It’s a pretty vague metaphor that can mean many different things. Still, our mind tends to take it as a truth and gets busy with figuring out why we are stuck and what we need to do to get out of there.*
*What would happen if we instead found out WHO it is feeling stuck? And allowing the emotions and sensations to be felt? I’ll give you a clue: these parts would feel safe to let go of their story and “you” would feel a lot freer.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I give you three likely (but more sneaky) reasons why a voice is saying "I am stuck" and how you can offer it real help.*
*You find show notes and the FREE meditation in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Nov 3, 2021
Ep 32: One habit that is slowing down your progress
*Feel unable to change an old pattern that you discovered a while back? Or that you can’t get to a core belief? Or are you noticing yourself avoiding meeting some uncomfortable emotions that you know needs to come out? And like the responsibility to figure it all out is on you? In a sense, it’s true that no one else can do your inner work for you. But in a world where we fear to be vulnerable and receive support, it’s easy to let the lone wolf take over completely without even knowing the alternatives.*
*The consequence? Keeping yourself from making the progress you could be having. Because truth is, you won’t be able to **think** your way out of your old mind program. The way is not to **figure it out**. You will most likely need guidance and support in dropping into the layers below your thinking mind to make the shifts at an unconscious level. Especially with the more sticky belief systems, or when you start to get to the root of things.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YO…
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Oct 20, 2021
Ep 31: Are you using meditation, affirmations and gratitude to escape from uncomfortable emotions?
*A lot of people use physical exercise, yoga, or meditation to regulate their emotions. They feel better and learn to not get stuck in an unhelpful thought pattern. That is great! But at times we are using these activities to avoid emotions we don’t want around, which just keeps them stuck there longer. Let’s explore how to tell the difference between regulating and avoiding emotions, and helpful ways to approach stored emotions AND the protection mechanisms around feeling them.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Oct 13, 2021
Ep 30: What you experience on a Power Journey - Live from Teotihuacán
*Ever wondered what a spiritual power journey is? And what the heck you do on one? The first time I nervously signed up to go on one I was considering if I’d gone crazy and was about to join a cult. Maybe I did because I kept coming back. But it wasn’t because some cult leader was giving me new rules to live by, quite the opposite. It was because of how different I felt inside and the personal freedom I gained to create my life the way I wanted to. *
*Come with me into a live episode with conversations with participants on the ongoing 7-day intensive in Teotihuacán Mexico.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Oct 6, 2021
Ep 29: My personal journey, PART 1
*Do you know what one of the most fascinating things about taking the journey of deep inner change is? That you’re not the same as you were five years or even five months ago. The beliefs that were driving your thoughts and behaviors back then aren’t there anymore. So you think different thoughts. You react differently. And most of all you feel differently about yourself and life.*
*As you’re becoming less of your old conditioning you become more of YOU. Freer in your different expressions. Freer to learn and make decisions from love rather than fear. Life itself can breathe you and move through you. *
*In your becoming it’s sometimes hard to remember back to that old version of you that lived from suffering and lack. That’s why, in this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, Tami asks questions about where I was before I started and about breakthroughs and obstacles I experienced during my first years. *
*Thanks to everyone in the community who posted questions for this. We…
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Sep 29, 2021
Ep 28: The true rebellion against your conditioning
*When our inner alchemical or spiritual work has become another thing on the to-do list and we feel the heaviness of another box to check, we’ve lost touch with our WHY. We’ve forgotten what we set out to do and we’re lost in the forest of musts and shoulds.*
*Your inner work is not another chore. It’s the rebellious act of breaking free from a program of beliefs based in fear. A program that has been running you and directing your thoughts, emotional reactions and decision making. To be able to take it apart and feel free, happy and at ease, you need to rebel and do some things opposite to what that old program of conditioning wants you to do.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast I share my perspective of rebellion that always got me to come back to or deepen my practice.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
**Get on the waitlist for the rebellious meditation journey Beyond the Mind** *that is mentioned in the episode*
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podc…
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Sep 22, 2021
Ep 27: The Acceptance trap
*“You shouldn’t feel angry, you should be able to accept this!” Does this inner thought, or something similar, sound familiar? As we’ve talked about in previous episodes, our mind has a tendency to use things in our self-awareness and spiritual work against us. To hijack them, make a minor tweak and voilá: all the sudden we’re beaten down with the concepts we’re trying to change our lives with.*
*One of those things is the idea of acceptance. When our mind uses acceptance as ammunition against what we’re feeling or wanting, the whole idea of acceptance has gotten lost. We’re told by our mind to use acceptance on outer circumstances and other people’s behavior, but we miss to apply acceptance and recognition of our emotions, experiences and wantings.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I help you recognize if you’re stuck in the acceptance trap.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence rev…
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Sep 8, 2021
Ep 26: When our mind hijacks the awakening process
*What are you currently believing about who you should be or what you should be feeling? The mind is constantly trying to fit us into different boxes. The boxes might be changing through your life, but the underlying dynamic of needing to fit one, and beating down on you if you don’t, is the same.*
*When going through the self mastery process, or other awareness work, the box might have changed to needing to be the hunter, the warrior, of getting results, of feeling gratitude, of accepting, of staying calm and present. This is again the mind wanting to apply ideas to live by. The actual process of changing beliefs and stepping into personal freedom is about meeting and feeling what is alive in you.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk about the boxes our mind is trying to fit us into, the idea of success and the antidote to all of it.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpf…
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Aug 25, 2021
Ep 25: How to understand and shift overwhelm in 3 steps
*Overwhelm happens when we don’t have the capacity to fully process a situation, our inner emotions or other impressions. We could say that the instream of data is greater than our bandwidth to process. Our capacity to process can be temporarily lowered because we’ve got a lot going on. Or we’re constantly taking too much in without a filter so our processor is tired and burned out.*
*The root of our overwhelm is more often our own internal dialogue and reactions to an event than the event itself. The belief structure we’re carrying will more than often create so many internal reactions and protection mechanisms that we’re overwhelming ourselves with conflicting information and pressure about who we should be. The beliefs driving those reactions are what you need to look at to end the internal overwhelm for good.*
*But there’s no way of getting to those beliefs when you’re in a state of overwhelm. That’s why, in this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I walk you thro…
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Aug 11, 2021
Ep 24: Healing your inner Feminine and Masculine dynamics, with Rosko Blake
Here’s the link to BEING ME for men and women which we mention in the episode. The next round is open for registration until *August 17th*.
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*The feminine and the masculine are some of the oldest archetypes and their dynamic is alive in all of us, beyond gender identification. If left unattended it’s easy to take on many of society’s unhealthy relating between the feminine and the masculine. When honored and nourished, they can bring a whole new level of aliveness and integrity. When they are matured and embodied they will spiral out to our relationships and give us that deeper connection and uplifting we’re often craving.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I have an in-depth conversation with Ross Blake, a men’s leadership & relationship coach about our inner relational physics. Welcome to dive into a topic I find myself deeply fascinated and connected with.*
*You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sente…
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Aug 4, 2021
Ep 23: On loving yourself and dissolving self-rejection
More about the 2-day workshop on Self-love that I mention in this episode.
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*The further you travel into the core of your being, what you'll find is love. The more love you can give to yourself, the more freedom and expansion you get to experience, and the more personal power you have at your disposal. The way to get there is by examining the relationship you have to yourself and then shifting out of self-rejection (which is a learned program from fear) into a deep sense of love for yourself (which is your natural state). *
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I share about the surprising moment when I noticed a loving inner voice. I also talk about who is the sender and the receiver in loving yourself, and that one of the things in the way is often that we haven’t practiced receiving it.*
*I tie together this whole journey that we've taken over the past three episodes: starting with examining how self mastery is a process of aligning with integrity, to exploring how liv…
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Jul 26, 2021
Ep 22: What is Integrity?
More about the 2-day workshop on Self-love that I mention in the intro to this episode.
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*The phrase **living in integrity** conjures up two wonderful images in my mind: on the one hand, I picture a compact central point, a steadfast core; and on the other, it is an all-encompassing embrace of the whole.*
*That’s kind of what living in integrity feels like: knowing who you are at your core and navigating from a trusted internal compass, while also embracing all parts of the experience of self and of life. It’s being both the centre and the whole at the same time.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I pick up where we left off in the last episode. If Integrity is the goal of the self mastery journey – what exactly is integrity and what does aligning with it look like?
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Jul 20, 2021
Ep 21: Re-aligning with integrity through Self Mastery
*Self Mastery can sound like a way to gain control over your mind. To have mastery OVER the self, to override and make sure we don't have any of those pesky uncomfortable reactions again. In a way, a consequence of Self Mastery will be that you take back power from the mind and that you get control over the automated programs that have been running it.
But at the core, Self Mastery is much more an alchemical process of becoming. Becoming the YOU underneath the unconscious program of beliefs. Learning who you are, what you truly want and what integrity feels like. So that you can create a life that feels truly nourishing to your soul.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast I talk about what Self Mastery really is - less about mind control and more about the great journey of aligning yourself with integrity.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here…
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Jun 22, 2021
Ep 20: Audrey’s journey from anxiety and depression to love
*One of the more persistent assumptions of the mind is that to be truly happy and joyful, all other patterns have to go. This assumption is...false. Once you uncover the spring of happiness and joy underneath the layers of beliefs, you can be happy AND meet old patterns and newly discovered pockets of them from this state. What has shifted? That you’re no longer identified with your mind and that you’re relating to it differently.*
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk to Audrey who’s had a transformational year, to say the least. In early 2020 she joined the Self Mastery Course - with a lot of skepticism and resistance - to address the feelings of anxiety and depression she’d experienced her whole adult life. In our conversation, she shares what made change possible for her as she kept showing up for the different practices and group settings in the community.
All her unconscious patterns haven't gone away in a year, but she’s meeting them from a whole new pla…
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Jun 1, 2021
Ep 19: Understand belief systems to change a belief
*Nowadays, many more people are aware of limiting beliefs as an obstacle to create the life they want. Once you’ve realized that unconscious beliefs are what is causing many of the emotions, thoughts and patterns you want to change, you probably get in a hurry to try and change them. The problem is that you often don’t go deep enough and are trying to change one limiting belief without knowing HOW it was put into place, WHAT components it consists of and WHY it’s there. And most importantly, you are probably missing to address the emotion it was put into place with.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk about the complexity of belief systems and what they are made of with my friend and fellow truth hunter Abby Ruston. Abby runs a **Youtube channel **where she shares the practical steps that have helped her transform her life. This queen of analogies uses a mix of self awareness, neuroscience, metaphysics and spirituality, and doesn’t shy away from digging deep.…
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May 26, 2021
Ep 18: Shifting vs Feeling Emotions
*If you feel confused about the “right way to handle your emotions”, you’re not alone. We’ve often been taught a reactive way of being with them that includes either avoiding them or being swept away by them. So when we hear the instructions to feel our emotions it might seem very counterintuitive and bring up fear and resistance. On the other hand, we have a sense that this is where the key to unlock our old patterns is hidden.*
*So is shifting my emotional state a way of suppressing my emotions? And how can I allow them to be felt when that’s what I feel I’ve been doing my whole life - way too much?? In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I bring clarity to these questions and a roadmap to when to practice which skill.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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May 4, 2021
Ep 17: Ways to practice Dreaming
*One of the biggest things in the way of Dreaming is the identification we have formed with our mind. We believe that what it’s saying is a reflection of who we are and even if we manage to shift out of one or two of the stories it’s telling we still have the unconscious belief that the mind IS WHO WE ARE. But there is more of you. In fact, when you start to explore it you will find many different experiences underneath the thinking mind.*
*In the last episode about Dreaming, we covered what it is and how you move from the unconscious to the conscious Dreamer. In this episode, Gary van Warmerdam and I continue our conversation and share stories about our own early Dreaming experiences and some simple things you can do to grow your own Dreaming skills.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
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If you’re curious about taking a journey into deeper un-identification with the mind, I opened up the doors for my online course Beyond the Mind on May 3rd. Read more about the…
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Apr 27, 2021
Ep 16: What is Dreaming?
*Dreaming is a word you might have heard me use in different situations. I talk about personal dreams and collective dreams. I talk about waking dreams and conscious dreaming. I will ask you what dream is dreaming you if you’re one of my clients. But what exactly do I mean by a Dream?*
*In **episode 1** I gave an overview of the Self Mastery Journey of moving from the Victim, to the Hunter, to the Dreamer and into the Artist of your life. In this episode Gary van Warmerdam and I have a conversation about Dreaming where we give a deeper focus to Dreaming and the process of moving from the unconscious to the conscious Dreamer.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
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If you’re curious about taking a journey into deeper un-identification with the mind, I’m opening up the doors for my online course Beyond the Mind on May 3rd. Read more about the dreaming journey Beyond the Mind and get on the waitlist here
You can also join us for a live celebration of the Self Master…
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Apr 20, 2021
Ep 15: Making progress and falling down again
*Have you ever felt like you were winning the self-mastery game? Like you’ve totally conquered your old program and won’t need to practice anymore. Only to be beaten down the next day and realizing you either had it and lost it, or that you were just believing a lie.*
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I share a conversation with one of my clients, Mark, who’s coming into our weekly session with a new experience. His inner judge is morphing and telling new stories about winning, only to beat him down again. We talk about how the ego-mind is not your enemy but the adversary you need to exercise your awareness, and how the humbling moments are the ones that make you grow.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
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If you’re curious about taking a journey into deeper un-identification with the mind, I’m opening up the doors for my online course Beyond the Mind on May 3rd. Read more about the dreaming journey Beyond the Mind and get on the waitlist here
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Apr 13, 2021
Ep 14: Dissolving the Spiritual Ego
*Having a Spiritual Ego is not a big thing, most of us do. The big question is how you relate to it. Do you believe what it’s saying about you and the world, or are you observing what it’s doing from outside of it? Are you believing that you should keep your shadow self hidden, or are you taking action to integrate and welcome all parts of you? *
*In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I talk about effective ways to dissolve the Spiritual Ego and answer questions from listeners.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*Enjoying the Uncover YOU podcast? Your one-sentence review would be most helpful! Leave a review on Apple podcasts here.
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Apr 7, 2021
Ep 13: Spiritual Bypassing: The Spiritual Ego denying your Shadow Self
*When your ego-mind has gotten a hold of the idea of self-awareness and spiritual growth, it will use this idea to keep avoiding what it’s afraid of. All the uncomfortable, yucky, wild, dark parts of yourself that you have learned to reject. But shifting the uncomfortable emotions doesn’t happen by wanting them to go away. It’s when you step out of the identification with the ego-mind and start welcoming and loving all there is that you free yourself from the inner conflict.*
*In episode 13 of the Uncover YOU podcast, I have a conversation with Gary van Warmerdam from pathwaytohappiness.com about Spiritual Bypassing and the Shadow Self. You’re welcome to join us and hopefully get a better idea of what is kept hidden under your Spiritual Ego!
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
I’ll be continuing to talk about this topic in the coming 2 episodes of the podcast and you can join me for a discussion and Q&A session in the **Self Mastery Community**!*
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Mar 31, 2021
Ep 12: 8 signs you’re operating from a spiritual ego
*As we established in the **last episode explaining the spiritual ego**, having a spiritual ego is...normal. It’s the ego mind’s survival mechanism of morphing and upgrading. But it might not have been what you had in mind when you set out on your transformational journey. You were dreaming of stepping out of the identification with the mind and its old program altogether. You wanted to live and operate more from your heart. Have a deeper sense of who you are. Not ending up in a new version of your ego. *
*You can side with your ego-mind and fight the fact that you have developed a spiritual ego, or you can take this as an opportunity to grow your awareness. Hopefully having dismantled some of the stigmas around having one in the last episode, it’s time to look at clues to if you’re indeed operating from a Spiritual Ego.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
I’ll be continuing to talk about this topic in the coming 2 episodes of the podcast and you can join m…
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Mar 24, 2021
Ep 11: What is a Spiritual Ego?
*When exploring the terms spiritual ego, spiritual materialism or spiritual narcissism in articles and literature, they are almost always portrayed as a bad thing we want to avoid. The manipulating and abusive guru who has been hiding behind a mask of spirituality type of thing. *
*But a spiritual ego is not very different from a non-spiritual ego, and understanding it will give you great insights into how your ego morphs and re-invents itself to make sure you keep seeing yourself through its lens. Understanding the spiritual ego, embracing it, and moving on from it can be one of the most powerful steps you take on your transformational journey.*
*In this and the coming three episodes of the Uncover YOU podcast we will dive into the fascinating topic of the spiritual ego.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
I’ll be talking about this topic in the coming four episodes of the podcast and you can join me for a discussion and Q&A session in the **Self Mastery Communit…
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Mar 2, 2021
Ep10: Befriending your emotions Q&A session
*If someone would have told me at the beginning of my journey to just get out of my head and drop into my body, I would not have known how to do that. My mind was my safety blanket and I had avoided my emotions by escaping to my mind.
Instead of fighting the mind, bring the mind on the journey when you start befriending your emotions. When we get good instructions on HOW to make the journey from analyzing to feeling, we feel safer to do so.
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*This episode is the recording of a Q&A session about emotions and feeling where we discuss episodes 7-9. I answer questions around resistance with feeling, staying in the observer, depression, and if it’s possible to do a happy dance when anxiety shows up.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
Enjoying the podcast? Leave a review on your prefered podcast hosting site!*
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Feb 23, 2021
Ep 9: What not having to figure things out feels like
*If the aim for this journey from analyzing to feeling is to operate more from integrity, then let’s look at what that might be and feel like. When you’ve been run by a program in your mind it’s hard to know what trusting your body and what it’s saying might look like.
We usually don’t even feel we know who we are when we start to take apart the beliefs that have been the foundation for our identity and our opinions.
In this episode, I paint the picture of a trusting relationship with your body and with feeling, and what superpowers that will bring you.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*You can join me on the 25th of February where I will be recording a Q&A session live on a zoom call . Head to *selfmasteryandbeyond.com* to find out more
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Feb 16, 2021
Ep 8: The Fear of feeling emotions
*In this episode, Gary van Warmerdam (from pathwaytohappiness.com) and I have a conversation about the leap from the mind into the emotions and why he built the Self Mastery Course to support this shift.
He also shares about his own process of getting in touch with emotions, and how he moves his attention between the mind, body, emotions, and consciousness throughout his day.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
*You can join me on the 25th of February where I will be recording a Q&A session live on a zoom call . Head to *selfmasteryandbeyond.com* to find out more
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Feb 10, 2021
Ep 7: From Analyzing to Feeling
*The Self Mastery work takes off in the understanding of how your mind works, how beliefs are formed and brings you into the observer of your thoughts and reactions. The real shifts won’t start happening until you truly get in touch with your emotions and learn how to feel them.
In the coming four episodes we’ll explore that process of moving from your head into your heart, from the mind into your body and what kind of resistance might show up along the way. Let’s start with painting the big picture.
**You find show notes in this post on my website.**
Watch the free workshop "How to being with what is" that I mention in the episode here.:
*1. *Create an account* in the Self Mastery Community (if you don't already have one)
2. Watch the *'How to: Being with what is'* workshop video* by clicking here**
*Head to *selfmasteryandbeyond.com* to find out more
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Jan 26, 2021
Ep 6: How things in the way of your process actually ARE your process
You find show notes and images in this post on my website.
*One of the common programs of the mind is to tell us that we’re failing, doing it wrong. Doing the self mastery work is no different. The mind seems to have a surprising amount of opinions on how we should be practicing and what results should look like.
When you’ve been identified with the mind you will react and either believe what it’s saying or start defending yourself against it, with a different part of the mind.
In this episode, we'll talk about how you're exactly where you need to be and with a simple mindset shift can change into seeing that the obstacles showing up on your journey, is actually the way to the change you want.
*Every week I will be recording this podcast live on a zoom call with time for a Q&A at the end. Head to *selfmasteryandbeyond.com* to find out more and join me on the live calls every Tuesday.
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Jan 19, 2021
Ep 5: Connecting with pleasure from integrity
You find show notes and images in this post on my website.
*In our **last session about Connecting with Pleasure** as a skill to expand your old, limiting program and create the life you want, there were good questions that I didn't get to. So in this episode, we'll dive deeper into the topic of pleasure and see if we can bring more clarity to the difference between our mind's ideas and attachment to pleasure, and pleasure from integrity.
*When we’ve been identified and pulled along by our mind program our entire life, it’s hard to tell the difference between desires and wantings from integrity and attachments to pleasure as an escape, distraction, or addiction.
This is where you first of all need to learn skills to step outside of the stories your mind is running to observe them. To start stalking them and turn the tables on them pulling your attention along. When you’ve inventoried some of these stories and seen what kind of unconscious beliefs are driving them, now you star…
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Jan 12, 2021
Ep 4: How connecting with pleasure will change your self mastery work
You find show notes and images in this post on my website.
*When we start the Self Mastery work it's often from a feeling of struggle. It takes effort, motivation, and willpower to shift our perspective about our inner world and start making changes to it. Especially if we’ve been in a victim state about what is happening to us in our external world and in our internal reactions. *
Effort and struggle are just one aspect of life though, and neither your job, your relationship to your unconscious, or your life have to be created from there. The more personal freedom you have, the better you can build your life the way you actually want it. And I'm not talking about the domesticated way that your mind THINKS you should be wanting your life, but the experience you ACTUALLY desire.
In this session I'll talk about how pleasure can be a great hack that both will build a new dream, a new way of living for yourself, AND have unconscious structures that resist this to surface, so you can b…
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Jan 5, 2021
Ep 3: 3 signs you're ready for the next level of self mastery
You find show notes and images in this post on my website.
*Once you know and are doing the foundational practices in the Self Mastery work (found in the self mastery course 1), you have an invaluable foundation to take apart beliefs from.*
But at a certain point, you might hit a plateau where you find yourself not getting further, walking in circles, or not getting to certain "dark corners" of the unconscious.
You might feel stuck in your head and feel that you KNOW all the ingredients for transformation but not able to embody them and live from them fully. Or you might start to feel way better in certain areas of your life, and that initial motivation to make changes and keep practicing is fading. And with that old patterns might creep back in again.
If you want to keep going and move out from the Hunter identity and more into the Dreamer and Artist, you need some new skills at this point. In this episode, we'll explore what those skills might be, and when you know you're ready f…
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Dec 15, 2020
Ep 2: How boundaries with others start with taking care of you
You find show notes and images in this post on my website.
*Let’s look under the hood of a question I get quite often:
“How do I learn to set boundaries with other people.” *
There’s no problem with the question itself, but often it’s asked from the belief that we need some new skills to deal with an external situation, while we actually need some skills to:
* Become aware of our unconscious structures of beliefs
* Relate to these structures from outside of them, and allow emotions to release and beliefs to be shed
* Connect with self-love that’s already inside of you
In this episode of the Uncover YOU podcast, I invite you to go deeper and look at structures that might be hiding in your unconscious.
Let’s marvel together at how our external world and relationships often seem to match our inside world of beliefs.
Every week I will be recording this podcast live on a zoom call with time for a Q&A at the end. Head to *selfmasteryandbeyond.com* to find out more a…
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Dec 8, 2020
Ep 1: The steps of uncovering YOU
You find show notes and images in this post on my website.
*A personal transformation isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s necessary to learn new skills and to change how you look at your old patterns to make a deep and lasting shift. This is not a journey for the faint-hearted, since it will have you face and shift the foundation you’ve built your identity on. So is it worth it?*
More than worth it
The rewards are freedom, inspiration, self-realization, joy, and peace, to mention a few. And well-practiced skills that you now can apply to keep navigating the world, and your unconscious. You’ve become the master of self, and the artist of your own life.
This first episode is my attempt to give you a good overview of the Self Mastery process because if you know where you’re at and you know what’s ahead, you have a much better chance of understanding what you might need to move forward. Then we can dive deeper into specific aspects of the journey together.
Every w…
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