Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast - Ep - 40 How to Calm Your Daughter’s Anxious Mind So She Feels Good About Her Future

Jul 14, 2021

Ep – 37 How to Handle Your Daughter’s Toughest Social Challenge

*Hey parents,* I have a question for you … what throws your teenage daughter off more - *her big emotions* OR *the after-effects that follow her reaction* to her big emotions? *Welcome back to the cultivating resilient teens podcast.* If you’re listening today, you probably recognize the value in understanding, and learning how to manage emotions capable of rocking your household and social circles. So, today’s episode is offering you a ‘*What to do When’ Guide *that’s designed to help you and your daughter effectively handle the big emotions that stem from her toughest social challenges. And hopefully this guide is applicable with some of the other tough stuff too. Because with all the ‘gears in motion’ during the adolescent years, having tools that minimize the guilt and guesswork are golden. (Remember, all the resources shared in the podcast, including the full show notes, can be found on my website, *cultivatingresilientteens.com*.) *Thank You* Before we get into the guide, I want to send a shout out to the parents who courageously shared their daughter’s toughest social challenges with me. Even though your daughter’s experiences were not easy for her - or you - it felt good to see each of you find an approach that moved the needle in a positive, feel-good direction. *A Common Theme* Although each girl’s ‘toughest social challenge’ story felt unique, there was an obvious theme. When your daughter is lied to by friends she trusts and believes has her back - is clearly one of the hardest experiences to navigate for passionate, connection seeking teens. And, I’ll be honest with you, I almost ditched this podcast idea. Maybe you can relate, because if you’re like me, being lied to touches on a pretty tender place inside me that doesn’t really enjoy, and certainly resists being poked at, if you know what I mean. *The Power of Self-Compassion* So, rather than spending time dissecting why teenage girls lie to one another; a conversation that I believe is most productive between coach and client in a safe, co-creative environment – I want to introduce you to the work of Dr. Kristin Neff because navigating, healing, and supporting those tender places inside your daughter needs a solid dose of self-compassion. Find the Full Show Notes, including *Your “What to do When’ Guide, *visit my website, *cultivatingresilientteens.com**.* *Podcast Resources:* Wikipedia, Self-Compassion Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power to Thrive | Kristin Neff, Ph.D. *Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?* *90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program* https://thriveglobal.com/stories/how-to-raise-a-socially-intelligent-and-resilient-teenager/ *Episode #6 3 Simple Steps to Quiet Your Daughter’s Inner Critic and Boost her Self-Confidence*

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