FCPGM [Fight Coach, Psychotherapist, Gym Momma]
Liam-Og Griffin, James White, Marlene Griffin
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The Fight Coach, the Psychotherapist and the Gym Momma (FCPGM) is a weekly audio podcast featuring discussion and tips on topics such as mental health, parenting and martial arts. Using our combined experience we break down important topics that affect you and your family and how best to overcome them. The podcast is presented by Liam-Og Griffin (the Fight Coach) - a professional MMA coach, E-learning Designer and former engineer, James White (the Psychotherapist) - who is well versed in the areas of mental health, stress management and anxiety - and Marlene Griffin (the Gym Momma) - an owner/manager of a busy martial arts and fitness gym and a mother of 3. From time to time, the podcast will also feature guest speakers on various related topics. *** Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity/1456858741177345/ *** *** Twitter Feed: http://www.twitter.com/fcpgmpodcast *** *** Discord Server: http://shorturl.at/moBFP ***
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May 29, 2021
FCPGM033: Persuasion... how minds are changed
Persuasion is a lifelong game of molding our environment to the shape we want. Whether you’re convincing a group of friends to eat at a restaurant you like or encourage a child to complete difficult homework when all their friends are on Xbox live. Sometimes, a gentle nudge and a smile is all that’s needed but if a family member has been swallowed up by a doomsday cult, how are you going to get them out? On today’s episode…. We’re talking persuasion tactics and the best ways to effectively communicate your wishes and ideas in a way that actually gets those around you to change their minds, their beliefs or their habits.
*Recommended Links:*
* Emotions are more persuasive than logic, Olivia Goldhill - Quartz.com: http://shorturl.at/bnpqK
* Why you will fail to persuade people, James Sudakow - Inc.com: http://shorturl.at/bBDMT
* Why Facts don’t change our mind, Elizabeth Kolbert - NewYorker.com: http://shorturl.at/xDHT
* Psychology in Advertsing, Denille O'Regan - Blog: http://shorturl.at/kCFG4
* How to become a master of persuasion, Kendra Sherry - VeryWellMind.com: http://shorturl.at/jxIQY
* The Power of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini PhD - APA: http://shorturl.at/prBWX
*Gym Momma's Quote of the Week: *
“To be persuasive, we must be believable. To be believable, we must be credible. To be credible, we must be truthful” - Edward R. Murrow
*Connect with us:
*Marlene: https://linktr.ee/marlenegriffin
Jimmy: https://www.linktr.ee/jamespwhite
Liam-Og: https://linktr.ee/liamoggriffin
Podcast Website: http://www.FCPGM.com/
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May 22, 2021
FCPGM032: Charity... does it really help?
The Greek storyteller - Aesop - once said “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted”. On the surface, that seems logical, wise and well meaning. However, there are times when kindness, giving or charity cross over the threshold to enablement and other times, when your charity is siphoned off by middlemen to the point that the intended recipient is left no better off than before you gave a penny at all. When does charity really help? When is tough love better than unconditional support?
*Book Recommendation (affiliate link):*
Dead Aid: Why aid is not working and how there is another way for Africa, by Dambisa Moyo
https://amzn.to/3w8apgD
*Recommended Links:*
Brene Brown - Empathy vs Sympathy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw
Dave Ramsey - Love v Enabling: https://youtu.be/4M97_i03bnI
Dr Ramani - Toxic relationships: https://youtu.be/JZEyLwy6Z9s
The mental & physical benefits of giving: http://shorturl.at/wzRW2
Feeling Good about Giving: The Benefits (and Costs) of self-Interested Charitable Behavior:
http://shorturl.at/osG18
The Difference between helping and enabling: http://shorturl.at/bosR2
Dr Marlo on Charity, Help, Enabling: http://shorturl.at/rHT12
*Gym Momma's Quote:*
"Help people help themselves. Don’t judge, just help. In this process, be cautious to simply point them in the right direction and help them get moving. Don’t make your journey theirs, nor make their journey yours”
- Dr Steve Maraboli.
*Connect with us:
*Gym Momma: https://www.instagram.com/marlenegriffin_sbg_cork/
Jimmy: https://www.facebook.com/APIClinic/
Liam-Og: https://linktr.ee/liamoggriffin
Podcast Website: http://www.FCPGM.com/
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May 15, 2021
FCPGM031: Pivoting | Making a change of direction to achieve success
Sometimes in life, we realise the path we’re on no longer leads to the destination we planned on reaching. Other times, the path may lead to the right destination but have an obstruction that forces a detour. In any case, the flexibility to pivot, adapt and overcome is one major attribute of humankind that has allowed us to sail the 7 seas, discover vaccines and land on the surface of Mars. What does it take to become good at pivoting and are there psychological hangovers that can stifle our flexibility…. We discuss that and more, in this episode of the Fight Coach, the Psychotherapist and the Gym Momma.
*Recommended Links:*
* 10 celebs who pivoted successfully
* Chael Sonnen - The fighter who pivoted
* The Power of the pivot - by Dr Sarah Sarkis
* Dan Murray-Serter - Pivoting to turn entrepreneur burn out into a postive
* How Covid has disproportionately affected female entrepreneurs
*Book Recommendations: *
* Tarzan Economics: Eight Principles for Pivoting through Disruption, by Will Page
* A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters, by Dr Stephen C. Hayes:
*Gym Momma's Quote of the Week: *
“Progress is impossible without change and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything” - George Bernard Shaw
*Connect with us:
*Gym Momma: https://www.instagram.com/marlenegriffin_sbg_cork/
Jimmy: https://www.facebook.com/APIClinic/
Liam-Og: https://linktr.ee/liamoggriffin
Podcast Website: http://www.FCPGM.com/
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May 8, 2021
FCPGM030: The Roaring 20s?
In the aftermath of World War 1 and the Spanish Flu pandemic, the devastation of life, culture and economics was akin to a global forest fire. While irreparable and indescribable damage and suffering was inflicted, what was left behind was a metaphorical clearing, a gap for green shoots to reach for the light of the sun. Delicate sprouting leaves that would have previously struggled in the shade of crowded canopies were gifted an opportunity to get a head start in life. How can you position yourself to take advantage of the post-covid landscape and take part in the 21st century’s roaring 20’s?
*FCPGM Challenges:*
1. Marlene says: Shop Local and support your community
2. Liam-Og says: Evaluate your career to make sure you're in a position to catch the next wave
3. Jimmy says: Take a mental health audit:
https://www.thinkmentalhealthwa.com.au/mental-health-self-assessment-checklist/
*Gym Momma's Quote:
*"In the rush to get back to normal, use this time to decide which parts of normal are worth rushing back to"
- Dave Hollis
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity]
FCPGM on twitter [https://twitter.com/fcpgmpodcast]
Discord Server [https://discord.gg/A4Vy2HS]
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Jan 7, 2021
FCPGM029: Linda Goggin James (Cork Cancer Care Centre)
With over 9,000 deaths per year in Ireland related to Cancer, it accounts for approximately 30% of annual mortality. While treatments and medications are improving year on year, there’s still a long, long way to go. Cancer patients have their lives turned on its head with news of a diagnosis. Apart from the physical manifestation of the illness, there comes the emotional strife, not just to the patient themselves, but to their family too. Today, we’re meeting with someone who runs a center which aims to offer support to those who find themselves in that very position. What are the things that people battling Cancer find helpful? How has 2020 affected the service? How can we support the cause?
*Gym Momma's Quote:
*"Surround yourself only by people who are going to lift you higher"
- Oprah Winfrey
*Cork Cancer Care Centre Website:*
*www.CorkCancerCareCentre.ie *
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity]
FCPGM on twitter [https://twitter.com/fcpgmpodcast]
Discord Server [https://discord.gg/A4Vy2HS]
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Nov 28, 2020
FCPGM 028: Reinventing Yourself
Once upon a time, you would choose your profession upon leaving school and that would be it for the next 45 years. Reinventing one’s self was reserved for celebrities or those lucky enough to inherit a trust fund. Fortunately, this is no longer the case and there are endless opportunities for us all to choose our own paths. When is the right time to consider reinventing yourself and how can you do it successfully? On today’s episode, we’re looking at how possible it is to turn your own life upside down. Is it beneficial, detrimental or the just another symptom of what’s now referred to as the New Normal.
*Gym Momma's Quote:
*"Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself"
- Mireille Guiliano
*Recommend Books (amazon affiliate links): *
Emotional Intelligence, Book by Daniel Goleman (Self- Awareness): https://amzn.to/3nQ3Vic
Reinvent yourself, by James Altucher: https://amzn.to/3nTcFEl
On Tuesday’s, I’m a buddhist, by Michael Hardingt: https://amzn.to/3frWhrq
Grandma Moses, by Anna Mary Robertson: https://amzn.to/2UUh1Pb
*FCPGM Top Tips:*
* Self- Awareness (Who are you ?) Discover Your Strengths
* What is your Why ? Step outside your comfort zone with courage
* Set Goals (SMART) Make a Plan
* Be Realistic and in line with your values, Try things out
* Consider others too, use your support group, like minded people and those with experience
* Self- Compassion / Be kind to yourself, accept setbacks, learn from them and move forward again
* Take steps to begin and start now
*Recommended Links:*
Reinventing yourself at 60: http://shorturl.at/nIS05
How to reinvent yourself and change your life for the better: http://shorturl.at/luDW0
(Reinvent yourself [Psychology Today]: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/articles/201405/reinvent-yourself?fbclid=IwAR3GOH4ni86wIcsAo-W5dP5nG7I_LERIH1njOJfDYlGSBAlHrt0WhYmnbdM
Turn back time and hack your biology: http://shorturl.at/uwMS1
5 steps to reinvent yourself: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-steps-to-reinvent-yourself/?fbclid=IwAR0BpBtZYHvt6vj3u-AI4fESUjklJbywud_x-RDWzwjKBOdrbVqnxy3Jbrk
Springboard Courses: https://springboardcourses.ie
The 7 reinventions of Madonna https://whatutalkingboutwillis.com/madonnas-7-notorious-reinventions/
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group[https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity]
FCPGM on twitter [https://twitter.com/fcpgmpodcast]
Discord Server [https://discord.gg/A4Vy2HS]
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Nov 21, 2020
FCPGM 027: Boundaries
Have you ever felt taken for granted, or get anxious when somebody asks for what you’d consider too much? Do you find yourself agreeing to things that are not necessarily in your best interest? Well, you need some proper boundaries. On today’s episode, we’re building healthy relationship dynamics by laying out ground rules that guarantees your own long term mental health.
*Gym Momma's Quote:
"*Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others*" - *Brene Browne*
FCPGM Tips*
* Self- Awareness ( What are the boundaries that you feel you need to build and why ? Where do you need them emotionally)
* Listen to your Feelings / Gut (Its you bodies way of giving you information) Maybe like saying no might be a boundary !! You should be No1 to you and be ok with the stuff you do or accept
* Self- Compassion / Be kind to yourself
* Build your assertiveness skills (using compassion & empathy)
* Start small ( Take them 1 at a time) it’s a bit like building a new habit, the more you practice and do it the easier it becomes
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*Recommended Links:*
Boundaries with Brene Browne [Youtube} https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5U3VcgUzqiI
How to Set Strong Boundaries, Julia Kristina [Youtube] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zq4WHLyjBZU
4 Ways to Set and Keep Your Personal Boundaries. Plus, how to get yourself out when all efforts fail [Article] https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/romantically-attached/201608/4-ways-set-and-keep-your-personal-boundaries
What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? [Article] https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-are-personal-boundaries-how-do-i-get-some/
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*Recommended Books: *
Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Bruce Patton: https://amzn.to/338Wafg
Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ, by Daniel Goleman: https://amzn.to/3nM5aPC
But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath, by Dr Sherri Campbell https://amzn.to/3kTOBzk
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity]
FCPGM on twitter [https://twitter.com/fcpgmpodcast]
Discord Server [https://discord.gg/A4Vy2HS]
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Nov 14, 2020
FCPGM026: Procrastination... definitely today!
Why do something today when you can put it off until tomorrow? Procrastination is one of the single easiest habits to learn and one that’s hugely difficult to overcome. Why do we do it to ourselves? How can we cure it? On today’s episode, we’re not going to postpone this matter any further. Today is the day to deal with putting stuff on the long finger. Put your devices on “Do not Disturb”, lock yourself into a quiet room and let’s sort this Manyana disease once and for all.
*Recommended Books:
Learned Optimism:* How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Martin Seligman: https://amzn.to/3p5lUCG
*Self-Compassion *by Kristin Neff*: *https://amzn.to/3lfCoFV
*The Procrastination Equation, *by Piers Steel: https://amzn.to/32uvRjk
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Recommended Links:
*7 steps to cure procrastination: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irp5ghCVNAM
Ted Talk - Tim Urban - Inside the mind of the master Procrastinator: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU
What can we Learn from the Optimistic Explanatory Style: https://afsconsulting.ca/on-procrastination-part-4-what-can-we-learn-from-the-optimistic-explanatory-style/
The Science Behind Procrastination: http://shorturl.at/jszRW
Why You Procrastinate: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html
*Gym Momma's Quote:
*"Every day spent procrastinating is another day spent worrying about that thing. Do it NOW and move on wither you life!"
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group
FCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)
Discord Server
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Nov 13, 2020
FCPGM025: Procrastination
Why do something today when you can put it off until tomorrow? Procrastination is one of the single easiest habits to learn and one that’s hugely difficult to overcome. Why do we do it to ourselves? How can we cure it? On today’s episode, we’re not going to postpone this matter any further. Today is the day to deal with putting stuff on the long finger. Put your devices on “Do not Disturb”, lock yourself into a quiet room and let’s sort this Manyana disease once and for all. *
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Nov 7, 2020
FCPGM024: Loneliness
With Social Distancing and successive lockdowns, it seems we’re all experiencing loneliness in 2020 a bit more than usual. For some it’s harrowing to go without daily social contact. For others, alone time is relaxing or productive. It seems to be highly subjective. But what’s the purpose of feeling lonely? And are there dangers to chronic loneliness? On today’s episode, we’re discussing the feelings of being lonely. While Covid has certainly amplified this issue, it’s not a new phenomenon; But has 2020 given us a chance to learn about loneliness and how to deal with it better?
*Recommended Books:
Altered Traits: *Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body, by Daniel Goleman and Richard J. Davidson: https://amzn.to/354BUwT
*The Power of Now*, by Eckhart Tolle: https://amzn.to/3p8kis0
*Dealing with Loneliness*: Learn How to Deal With and Overcome Loneliness to Never Feel Alone Again, by Mary Jane Perrusso: https://amzn.to/3k8QGGY
*Emotional First Aid*: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts by Winch Ph.D., Guy (2014): https://amzn.to/3p90Rzl
*Loneliness*: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, by John T Cacciopo and William Patrick: https://amzn.to/2U4lXk8
*Gym Mommas's Quote:
*"The Real Loneliness is living among all these kind people who only ask one to pretend"
- Edith Wharton*
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*Recommended Links: *
Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell - “Loneliness”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3Xv_g3g-mA
7 signs of loneliness - Youtube - Psycho2Go.net https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VcHuQt3fYY
MedCircle Series on Dealing with Loneliness: Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3utpgoJaAk
Can Loneliness Kill you? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuWsHyuLD_E
Mad study on effects of loneliness on cold symptoms: https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/hea-hea0000467.pdf
Loneliness a disease https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3890922/
How loneliness can make you sick https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2017/09/loneliness-sick
Loneliness affecting the brain* *http://shorturl.at/tAPR7
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group
FCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)
Discord Server
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Oct 31, 2020
FCPGM 023: How to deal with negative people
Negativity, eternal pessimism, lazy body language, constant complaining, the poor mouth. I bet you even visualising those phrases has already begun to drain your energy. We encounter people with negative behaviours every single day and while we can choose to avoid some of those people, others, we may be stuck with, such as family, work colleagues, team members. Where does negativity come from and how can we prevent ourselves being affected by it. On today’s episode…. We’re going to look at tactics to deal with the moaning Myrtles of our lives. We need to be impervious to gloom so that we can keep on firing on all cylinders and not get dragged into a black hole. *
Gym Mommas Quote of the Week:
*"You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to"
- anon
*Top Tips:*
* Don't go head to head (learn to deflect and disarm)
* Empathise but don't take responsibility
* Set boundaries ["I don't want to talk about this topic anymore..."]
* Learn to redirect the conversatio…
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Oct 24, 2020
FCPGM 022: Social Media - positive or negative?
In the 21st century, the internet has revolutionised how our species interacts socially. Being Tik Tok famous or an influencer are terms that didn’t exist just a few short years ago. There’s no doubt social media brings connectivity and entertainment to the masses, but at what cost? On today’s episode…. We take a deep dive into social networking - the good, the bad and angry emoji. How can we benefit from its many positives without drowning in an ocean of pretentiousness and negativity?
*Recommended Books:
*Unfu*k Yourself Series 2 Books Collection Set by Gary John Bishop (Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life & Do the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding) https://amzn.to/3451Rfk
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brene Brown https://amzn.to/349cXja
Ten arguments to deleting social media right now, by Jaron Lanier: https://amzn.to/2Iz5HVy
The age of surveillance capitali…
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Oct 3, 2020
FCPGM 021: Having Enough - do we ever?
There’s not enough hours in the day. There’s isn’t enough food on my plate. There’s not enough instagram followers for me. It’s natural for us to complain and moan about not having enough. How much of that moan is legitimate and how much is based on us trying to keep up with the Jones’s? How can we learn to be satisfied with what we’ve got?
In this episode, we never having enough… or do we? What’s this persistent perception of scarcity we seem to suffer from and how can we overcome it?
*Recommended Book:
*Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust, by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3n0pSM6
The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living, by the Dalai Lama: https://amzn.to/3czmoeF
Flow: The Psychology of Happiness, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: https://amzn.to/3cBU4Ip
This Works: How to Use Mindfulness to Calm the Hell Down and Just Be Happy, by Paddy Brosnan: https://amzn.to/30u9zNZ
Win or Learn: MMA, Conor McGregor and Me: A Trainer's J…
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Sep 27, 2020
FCPGM 020: Relationships - all the secrets
Humans are social animals. From tribal beginnings to agricultural settlements and modern cities, our ability to interact and cooperate with our peers in complex systems is arguably the skill stack that differentiates us from all other life on Earth. However, we still have a lot to learn about strong and healthy relationships. What are the keys to long lasting partnerships, whether they be romantic, business, family or sports teams? How can maximally leverage the power of the pack in all aspects of our lives?
In this episode we look at relationships… why they succeed, why they break down and how we can become better at fostering stronger ones in our communities. *
Gym Mommas Quote of the Week:
*"If you want a relationships that looks and feels like the most amazing thing, you need to treat it like it is the most amazing thing" - anon*
Recommended Books:
*Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Brenee Brown: https://amz…
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Sep 19, 2020
FCPGM 019: Drug Addiction & Substance Abuse
Solvents, Hash, Marijuana, LSD, XTC, Cocaine and Heroin. For many of us, the closest we get to these substances is watching tv dramas like Breaking Bad. For others, experimentation in their teens was as wild as it got. But for some, the rabbit hole is much deeper and the life consequences that follow are rarely positive. What substances are on the streets nowadays? Why do young teens turn to drugs or pills at all? How can we keep younger generations from venturing down that path? Today’s episode is a bit different to usual. Myself, Mar and Jimmy were fortunate enough not to have be snared by any major substance abuse addictions. Truth be told, I had a very sheltered childhood so I’m as far from an expert on this topic as you’re likely to get. However, we were introduced to two fellow podcasters who have been in the trenches and survived to tell the story.
James Leonard and Timmy Long (aka "The Two Norries") are 2 friends from the Northside of Cork City, who found themselves enta…
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Sep 12, 2020
FCPGM 018: Happiness
What do you need in order to achieve happiness? Money, Love, Health, Tik Tok followers? Or like Spike Jones and his City Slickers of the late 1940’s, would you just be happy with your two front teeth. Is Happiness a state of mind or does it take a lifetime to achieve? We’re going to learn all the secrets of Happiness on today’s episode, where we’ll be looking at Happiness - the definitions, the true meanings, the pursuits of it and talking about whether it's all made up or not.
*Recommended Book:
*Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realise your Potential for Lasting Fulfilment, by Martin Seligman https://amzn.to/2RmQPL4
Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Martin Seligman https://amzn.to/2DSd5JE
The Miracle Of Mindfulness, by Thich Nhat Hanh https://amzn.to/3ipcaj1
*Gym Mommas Quote of the Week:
*"Be Happy with what you have. Be excited about what you want" - Alan Cohen
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group
FCPGM on twitt…
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Sep 5, 2020
FCPGM 017: Homelessness and poverty
A roof over your head and warm place to sleep doesn’t seem like much to ask for does it? In a modern society where everyone has a smartphone and access to high speed internet, you’d imagine homelessness should be something we read about in history books. If our news coverage and social media feeds are anything to go by, this is not the case. On this episode, we'll be looking at homelessness, it’s causes, why it’s still a thing in the 21st century and ideas that might help those who are concerned about becoming homeless in the future.
*Recommended Book:
*The Girl In Between, by Sarah Carroll https://amzn.to/2ZdAM6S
*Gym Mommas Quote of the Week:
*"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door we do not see the one that has been opened for us" - Helen Adams Kelleher
*Connect with us:
*Facebook Community Group
FCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)
Discord Server
*Recommended Links:*
* https://www.housing.gov.ie/housing/homelessnes…
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Aug 30, 2020
FCPGM 016: Difficult Conversations
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Aug 23, 2020
FCPGM 015: Does Gender define our role in society?
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Aug 16, 2020
FCPGM 014: Free will versus pre-determinism
What did you have for breakfast this morning? Was that your choice? Or did the atoms of the universe over the past 13.7B years collide and interact in a predictable chain reaction that led to you having the life experiences and opportunities which in turn led to you inevitably picking that particular breakfast today? Is free will a myth? In this episode, we weigh up the arguments of free will and pre-determinism. If we don’t have free will, can we take credit for anything we do right? Or suffer the responsibility of anything we do wrong? Prepare for a thumping headache as we meander through philosophy and metaphysics during this episode.
*Jimmy's Mindfulness Course* - "Personal Transformation Course": https://www.inner-happy.com/6-week-personal-transformation
*Suggested Book:*
* *Free Will*,* *by Sam Harris: https://amzn.to/2DOHmcx
* *Elbow Room*, by Daniel Dennett: https://amzn.to/3iMXhqm
* *Daring Greatly*, by Brene Brown: https://amzn.to/3h0Wdio
* *The Fear of Freedom*,…
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Aug 9, 2020
FCPGM 013: The Shame factor of Social Expectations
We all know that as children we are to excel at school, be popular amongst our peers and achieve good marks in exams. With a perfect education, we must then get a steady job, settle down with a suitable partner, get married, have 2.4 children, a dog, a cat and buy a house in the suburbs. We work to pay bills and raise a family for approximately 45 years before retiring to take up gardening, golf, crochet or bird watching and of course, we know to make sure to leave enough money behind to cover our own funeral expenses. We know this to be true, right? But who the hell decided all that for us and what happens if we don’t follow the script? In this episode, we talk about social expectations and the shame/guilt that we can be subject to if we don’t conform. *
Recommended Books:
*Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly 2008 https://amzn.to/3krwwJU*
*Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace), by Chade-M…
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Aug 2, 2020
FCPGM 012: Leadership & Emotional Intelligence
When you think of a great leader, what qualities and attributes can you ascribe to them. Is it possible to become a great leader or do you have to be born that way? In this episode, we look at the world of leadership and emotional intelligence. How can we become better leaders or recognise leaders that are worth following?*
Recommended Books:*
* Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman https://amzn.to/39QyWwx
* Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body, by Daniel Goleman & Richard Davidson https://amzn.to/2XiENGb
* Dare to Lead, by Brene Browne https://amzn.to/30iuq6W
* Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust, by Viktor E. Frankl https://amzn.to/2BQWuoJ
* The Mind of the Leader: How to Lead Yourself, Your People, and Your Organization for Extraordinary Results, by Rasmus Hougaard & Jacqueline Carter https://amzn.to/39NhZmV
*Article Links:*
* https://siyli.org/ Training in Emotional Intelligence &…
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Jul 27, 2020
FCPGM 011: What can Dogs teach us about ourselves? (Rory Hennebry - Munster Canine)
Dogs have been domesticated over thousands of years and nowadays, they are truly top of the list when it comes to human/animal companion status. Whether it be seeing-eye dogs, guard dogs, emotional support dogs, sniffer dogs or mountain rescue dogs, it seems that human life would be very different without our 4 legged friends around. But what can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from canine psychology. In this episode, we’ll be talking to one of the country's top canine experts about dog psychology and what we can learn from it.
Rory Hennebry is founder of *Munster Canine* - a company specialising in breeding and training service dogs for military, rescue and companion aid. Make sure to follow Munster Canine on Instagram and Facebook with the following links:
*Instagram:* https://www.instagram.com/munstercanine/
*Facebook:* https://www.facebook.com/Munster-Canine-868036533269258
*Website: *http://www.munstercanine.com/
Recommended Books:
"*The Psychology of the Human-…
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Jul 19, 2020
FCPGM 010: Phobias, Irrational Fears & how to overcome them
Fear is an emotion that our brain feels to warn us of possible impending danger but should you fear clowns, beards, baked beans or clouds? Some phobias are irrational, some aren’t but all can be debilitating once the panic kicks in. How can you overcome it? In this episode, we talk about phobias and other rational fears that can disrupt people’s lives and steps you may be able to take to overcome or manage those fears.*
Interesting Links:
*https://www.zyto.com/13-most-common-phobias-in-the-world
https://www.health.harvard.edu/a_to_z/phobia-a-to-z
https://beckinstitute.org/about-beck/team/our-history/
https://www.sportbible.com/ufc/funny-weird-gsps-coach-explains-the-ufc-legend-is-worried-about-alien-abduction-20191223*
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*Recommended Books: *
Anxiety Disorders and Phobias: A Cognitive Perspective, by Aaron Beck and Gary Emery https://amzn.to/2CrZ5FU
Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Practical Strategies to Overcome Fears, Worries, and phobias and Be Prepared for Life – fro…
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Jul 12, 2020
FCPGM 009: Depression & Anxiety
Depression is said to be the silent killer. While we, as a species, have gotten a lot better at discussing the things that get us down, we still have a long way to go. How do you cope with prolonged sadness that robs the wind for your sails? And what’s the relationship with anxiety and constant worrying?
On this episode, we talk about dark clouds and black dogs. Depression, sadness, loneliness and anxiety. It’s a good job we have a psychotherapist on the team to sort the wood from the trees. *
Links:*
* https://www.aware.ie/
* https://www.samaritans.org/ireland/samaritans-ireland/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCrniLQGYc (World Health Organization (WHO)
* http://www.brainblogger.com/2017/12/20/neurological-basis-of-anxiety/
* https://yapko.com/about-depression/
* https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOVJgYHj6kc (Depression and major depressive disorder)
* https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QEjWLj5wAFM (Biological basis of depression)
* https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSM…
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Jul 5, 2020
FCPGM 008: Dealing with your own mortality (Guest Kevin O'Sullivan)
The entire planet is still in the grips of a pandemic of Covid 19. With more than 10M confirmed cases and over 500k deaths worldwide to date, the fear of infection and dying has become a visceral reality for a lot of people. How do you process your own mortality? What can we learn from near death experiences?
In this episode, we hear from Kevin O'Sullivan - a tattoo artist and lifelong martial artist - who has had a few brushes with death. His most recent was during the current pandemic when he ended up in the Intensive Care Unit at the Cork University Hospital after contracting Covid-19 and subsequently pneumonia. However, that wasn't his most harrowing traumatic experience.
After detailing his multiple near death experiences, Kevin leaves us with a priceless list of tips that he learned when he realised how fragile his (and anyone else's) life really is. You don't want to miss out on this.
To follow Kevin (and his Trident Ink Custom Tattoo Studio) on social Media, here are his lin…
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Jun 28, 2020
FCPGM 007: Anger and Aggression (with Abanoub Fares)
Anger is one of our fundamental human emotions. For the majority of us, we have the odd moments where we get angry and lash out before calming down and returning to normal. But for some, anger turns to rage and the lash-out is more extreme and prolonged, maybe leading to negative consequences. Why is that and what can be done to help? Let’s figure that out right now.
On today’s episode…. We’re discussing Anger and aggression. We’ve got a very special guest, who has such an issue with this, that his MMA fight name came about after a tantrum he once had.
I'm speaking of course about Abanoub "Anger Management" Fares. He's a senior member of the SBG Cork MMA Team and one half of Team Fares Brothers (along with his younger brother Fou Fou). *
You can find him on the following social media channels:
*Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abanoub.fares.5492
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angermanagement_tfb/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTdOSjar098CiW-trv7UmsQ*
A…
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Jun 21, 2020
FCPGM 006: How not to be duped... Skeptical Thinking
How can you defend yourself and your family against misinformation in a world increasingly saturated with un-curated social media journalism? How can you avoid being swept up by fear, panic and peer pressure? Don’t worry, the FCPGM podcast has you covered.
On today’s episode, we’re looking at skeptical thinking and tips on how you can make sure you’re not being taken for a ride by unscrupulous charlatans or political propaganda.
To begin with, all 3 of us give a brief account of areas close to our hearts where a keen eye is required so that you don't get taken for a fool. James starts with the world of Self-help, Meditation and Mindfulness. Marlene talks of politics and history, while Liam-Og discusses the pitfalls of martial arts gurus and no touch knockouts.
In reality, there are scams and snake oil salesmen in all walks of life and the most consistent ammunition we can arm ourselves with for defence is Skeptical Thinking. We discuss the meaning of skepticism, the psycholo…
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Jun 15, 2020
FCPGM 005: Are Resolutions a waste of time?
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Jun 7, 2020
FCPGM 004: Weight Loss - Common Pitfalls and Success Strategies
*On today’s episode…. We’re looking at weight loss, including the psychology of eating, the history of dieting and the science behind what works and what doesn’t.
If you'd like to skip ahead, here are the time stamps:*
03:10 Disclaimer
04:36 Origins of Diet
11:45 The psychology of overeating
21:15 Exploitation of Marketing
32:32 What diets work?
44:19 Benefits of Exercise
48:07 Listeners Questions
57:46 Myths and Misconceptions
1:16:44 FCPGM Success Strategies
1:35:49 Gym Momma's Quote of the Week
FCPGM *Success Strategies
1. Make sure you are you really ready to lose weight?
2. Set reasonable goals and deadlines [SMART Goals]
3. Build your team (support network, activity, gym, team)
4. Choose the diet and exercise plan that suits you best.
5. Preparation: Shopping, meal planning etc. ("Fail to prepare, prepare to fail")
6. Measure & Track but don’t obsess
7. Don’t expect a straight line of progress & plan for set backs
8. Celebrate small wins*
*Gym Mommas Quote*
"*A l…
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May 27, 2020
FCPGM 003: Overcoming Adversity, with Sean O'Leary
If you’re human, you’ve got challenges to overcome. Be they physical, emotional, financial or anything else. The questions is not “Do you have adversity in your life”. It’s “How good are you at overcoming it?”.
On today’s episode, we’re discussing adversity in life and how to overcome it. We have a very special guest - Sean O'Leary - who talks about his experience of dealing with the amputation of his right leg, after developing a rare bone infection. *
*To follow along with the complete show notes, visit http://www.fcpgm.com/
We'd love to hear your opinions and feedback. Please get involved in the conversation on any of these channels:
- FCPGM Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity
- Tag us on twitter using the handle *@FCPGMPodcast*
- Visit the FCPGM Discord Server: https://discord.com/channels/714042592094060584/714043874598715402
- email us at *podcast@FCPGM.com
Related websites:
SBG Cork City: http://www.SBGCork.com/
API Clinics: h…
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May 26, 2020
FCPGM 002: Lessons learned from Lockdown
Since March 2020, people all over the world have endured an unprecedented period of isolation and physical distancing… certainly within this generation. But like every challenging situation, we emerge with lessons learned. What is it that we can take from the Covid 19 pandemic?
In this episode, we’re looking at the lessons we can and should learn from the recent upheaval of regular life. The good, the bad and the ugly of the 2020 Coronavirus Lockdown.*
*To follow along with the complete show notes, visit http://www.fcpgm.com/
We'd love to hear your opinions and feedback. Please get involved in the conversation on any of these channels:
- FCPGM Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity
- Tag us on twitter using the handle *@FCPGMPodcast*
- Visit the FCPGM Discord Server: https://discord.com/channels/714042592094060584/714043874598715402
- email us at *podcast@FCPGM.com
Related websites:
SBG Cork City: http://www.SBGCork.com/
API Clinics: http://www.APICl…
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May 26, 2020
FCPGM 001: How to deal with bullying... as a parent
How do you cope if your child is being bullied at school? Should you tell them to rise above it and ignore the nasty people or face it head on and fight back? In this episode, we dive into bullying - how it can affect young kids in school or outside, how to deal with it and how to prevent it from affecting your child long term.
Topics covered include:
- What is Bullying and why it's important to clearly define
- Why do bullies bully?
- The hidden signs of bullying and how to spot them
- Our 5 stage process to resolve a bullying situation
- Is it ever ok to fight back?
To follow along with the complete show notes, visit http://www.fcpgm.com/
We'd love to hear your opinions and feedback. Please get involved in the conversation on any of these channels:
- FCPGM Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity
- Tag us on twitter using the handle *@FCPGMPodcast*
- Visit the FCPGM Discord Server: https://discord.com/channels/714042592094060584/714043874598715402
- email…
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