Jan 25, 2022
Conflict sucks. Until you consider the alternative.
Look up the definition of conflict and here are some of the words you’ll see: serious disagreement or argument, protracted one, dispute, quarrel,incompatible, variance, clash, irreconcilable
So who jumps out of bed and goes into work wanting to tackle conflict? Because if we actually do address the conflict and actually TALK to the person about it….well, it could hurt their feelings, or it might make the situation worse, and it takes time and energy, and it probably won’t change anything anyway, and it will be uncomfortable, and it really doesn’t matter, or it could damage the relationship, and there’s really no urgency, and they might get mad, or we’re just waiting for the perfect moment, or we don’t have authority, plus, we’re tired. Its just. Not. Worth. It.
These thoughts are deceptively powerful, because they frame possible outcomes of a discussion in the negative. Meaning, here are all the reasons I should NOT address the conflict. Here are the myriad of reasons…