Do you and your partner share household chores or you divide labour along gender roles in your relationship?
A Pew Research study shows that couples who share household responsibilities have healthier relationships. But how easy is for a couple to do away with traditional gender roles and have men and women share equally housework just as the other responsibilities? Why do we feel resentment whenever we're doing more for the good of the relationship?
Cera and I have always believed in a relationship of equals, so both of us contribute to every sort of responsibility that needs taking care of. For instance, I usually do the cooking, while she does the weed whacking now and then. Not roles traditionally assigned to men or women respectively. Even so, we both started growing resentful doing the chores we used to enjoy doing for each other. What were the underlying reasons?
On this episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss:
1. the benefits of sharing chores and other household responsibility
2. the advantages and disadvantages of specializing in gender assigned role
3. is equality the same as scorekeeping?
4. how lack of appreciation breeds resentment and feelings of exploitation while performing household chores
5. how equality in handling housework builds intimacy in a relationship
Kindly share your thoughts and question below
MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,” hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff.
Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.
Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects.
CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years.
She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.
This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.