We Were Accidentally “Forced” into Waiting for Sex!!!! | Sex and Wine - an Intimate Conversation #24
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When we started dating, we were “forced” into waiting to have sex. Cera and I were so hot for each other, but her best friend bet her she coudln’t wait until the end of the month to have sex. Matthew wanted her to win the bet - so we waited.  

In our Sex and Wine episode, we discuss:

  • Benefits of waiting a bit to have sex after dating
  • Consent for a kiss
  • Meaningful sex
  • Sex getting better when you know each other deeply 
  • How to have great sex the first time
  • Empowering men to wait
  • Rechanneling sexual energy so you’re not a slave to sexual desire
  • What does it mean if you don’t have much sex in your relationship
  • Sex and intimacy? How are they the same? How are they different?
  • How our families talked to us (or didn’t) about sex.

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CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

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