It can feel so much better, or easier when you're in the phase of expecting a baby, to just assume things will all "work out" between you and your partner as you transition from a couple to a family. The reality is that 2 out of 3 couples experiences a sharp increase in conflict and a sharp decrease in relationship satisfaction. It also has a huge impact on the relationships you have with your extended families and with your close friends. Boundary setting is inevitable as you grow and craft your new family unit to align with your values and your needs, because how YOU want to see that cultivated, likely won't be how others think it should happen. And even if they wanted to support your different ways, unless you articulate them clearly, they won't be able to read your mind and honour them.
The road from two to three is bumpy, my friend. I will not fool you. That might seem cruel, but actually I've got your back. When you deal with boundary setting and express potential concerns before things hit the fan, you'll dodge the relationship-erosion that happens when resentment show up. No one expects you to have zero tension or conflict, but if you catch the differences of expectations early and deal with them proactively and respectfully, you'll get through those conflicts without the significant damage that can otherwise happen.
Today's episode will give you the run down, and if you listen and go, "THIS IS US!", then dive deeper with me in my course for couples, When You & Me Become Three. If you're adopting, I'm not leaving you out of this important equation - I've made a specifically adoption-tailored version of this course, just for you - Adoption, What to do while you wait.
Happy boundary-setting folks!!!