Discovering Late-Life Lesbianism With Melisa Raney
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For some people, coming out as LGBTQ is easy – they’re comfortable with their identity and sexuality, and may have a supportive network. And sometimes it’s downright messy – they’re older, married with kids, or simply unable to accept their truth. Whatever the case may be - coming out can be difficult, confusing and painful.

My next guest is Melisa Raney - a mother and advocate for coming out. At 36, Melisa slowly began to question her sexuality. The problem was, she was in a heterosexual marriage, raising their two young children. Today, she is making, what she calls, her ‘mess’ her message: sharing her experience to guide others through the difficult process of coming out later in life.

It is no easy feat, but as Melisa teaches us: when you live your life authentically, you begin to live your life unapologetically. 





“I was following what was expected of me: go to school, go to college, meet the boy and get married…” [3:50]


“I had misread my own sexuality.” [4:20]


“It made me feel so validated; what I was feeling was real” [10:00]


“I was trying to fit in this box that society had created for me…” [11:22]


“I was happy in my marriage but I wasn’t fulfilled.” [24:30]





•    Melisa’s background [2:40]

•    Melisa’s experience of coming out [5:20]

•    How Melisa’s family took her news [7:40]

•    How Melisa handled her new life and her children [13:20]

•    Melisa’s work [18:56]

•    Why people don’t own their sexuality [23:30]

•    How Melisa has changed [25:25]

•    Lessons learned [28:12]

•    Closing thoughts [31:40]


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