A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction
Jaime Davis
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A board-certified family law attorney, Jaime Davis and her guests provide information and tips for getting through a separation and divorce without destroying family relationships or finances. From marriage therapists and financial planners to private investigators and parenting coordinators, learn how to navigate divorce without destruction.
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Empowering Women to Live a Better Life After Divorce
In this episode, Jaime talks with divorce and empowerment coach Beverly Price about the emotional challenges that women often face during the divorce process. In her work as a coach, Beverly helps women feel empowered to have a better life. Whether contemplating divorce, going through the legal and financial process to divorce, or struggling with negative emotions post-divorce, a coach can help navigate this daunting journey and avoid making life-altering decisions based on emotions.
Beverly helps her female clients process their emotions effectively, particularly when the divorce process strips away a person's identity as a spouse and mother. She encourages a shift in thinking from "Who am I?" to "I am an amazing woman," promoting positive self-talk, gratitude, and mindset shifting. She explains that negative thinking forms negative pathways in the brain, reinforces negative responses, and shares how to create positive pathways to foster positive thinking. Tune in to this episode to better understand the significance of emotional well-being during divorce and how a coach can help navigate the process and rebuild self-esteem.
Need help from Beverly? Contact her by visiting www.herempowereddivorce.com.
If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.
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May 16, 2023
What's the difference between physical and legal custody?
In this episode, Jaime's talking with Melissa Essick, a fellow family law attorney and mediator, about legal custody in divorce with children. The discussion includes the differences between sole legal custody and joint legal custody, what information parents are entitled to about their children and what decisions typically need joint agreement between parents, such as medical appointments, mental health decisions, competitive sports, and school choice. They also warn against playing games and not involving the other parent in decision-making. Tune in to find out how to navigate custody concerns and differences in opinion.
While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.
If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.
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May 2, 2023
Healthy co-parenting strategies for divorced parents
Johanna Lynn, a relationship specialist and founder of The Family Imprint Institute, has over 20 years of expertise in resolving inherited family patterns and helps her clients dismantle unhealthy patterns, restore relationships, and create resilient boundaries. In this episode, they discuss common relationship issues couples face during and after divorce, including money matters, different views on parenting, infidelity, and the role of in-laws. They also delve into co-parenting and how to get both parents on the same page to ensure children don't feel the stress or tension from their separation.
Johanna explains that separating the pain of the separation from the co-parenting relationship is essential, and the foundation of healthy co-parenting is acknowledging that both parents love their children and want the best for them. She also suggests that looking at their relational family history and understanding each other's reactions can be helpful in trying to maintain a healthy relationship with their co-parent for the sake of their children.
Need help from Johanna? Contact her by visiting www.johannalynn.ca.
While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.
If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.
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Apr 18, 2023
How to get your financial information in order without a forensic accountant
Marriage is about love, but divorce is about money. In this episode, Jaime talks with Gabrielle Clemens, a certified divorce financial analyst. Gabrielle talks about how she helps men and women navigate the divorce process by ensuring that their divorce agreement is sustainable and viable for their lifestyle, and she emphasizes the importance of approaching divorce with a business mindset and understanding the long-term impact of financial decisions. Learn how to start with your financial affidavit or statement, which quantifies your lifestyle and expenses, to get control of your cash flow to avoid financial destruction in your divorce.
Need help from Gabrielle? Contact her by visiting www.gabrielleclemens.com, or check out her book.
While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.
If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.
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Apr 4, 2023
Do you need a forensic accountant for your divorce?
Do you think your spouse is hiding money from you during your divorce proceeding? You might need a forensic accountant like Robert Nordlander! Forensic accountants are experts in financial records and statements, and an attorney can hire them to testify about things like your former spouse's all-cash lifestyle, unusual spending, and unexplained purchases in court. In this episode, find out how to achieve the best possible financial outcome for yourself during your divorce.
Need help from Robert? Contact him by visiting www.nordlandercpa.com.
While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is specific to the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.
If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.
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Dec 28, 2022
Season 5 Episode 4: Valuing the Family Business for Divorce During an Uncertain Economy
Determining how much the family business is worth during a divorce is a fairly common issue. If separating spouses cannot agree on the value of their business, an expert is normally brought in to perform a formal business valuation. In this episode, CPA and Certified Valuation Analyst David Amiss shares his expertise about valuing a family business for divorce in an uncertain economy.
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Jul 19, 2022
Season 5 Episode 3: Divorce and Children with Special Needs
Separation and divorce can be difficult enough, but when a couple has a child with special needs, separating can be even more complicated. In this episode, attorney Linda Malone shares some of the things a couple should consider if they are planing to separate and they have a child with special needs. Topics include, establishment of special needs trusts, government benefits, guardianship, and supplemental insurance among other things.
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Apr 25, 2022
Season 5 Episode 2: Divorcing a Narcissist
An inflated sense of self-importance, a need for attention from others, and a lack of empathy are some of the hallmark behaviors of narcissism and sound like what not to look for in a spouse or dating partner. In this episode, Michelle Chiaramonte, LCSW and owner of Lumina Counseling Associates shares her expertise about navigating the divorce process when a narcissist is involved.
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Mar 30, 2022
Season 5 Episode 1: A Child's Perspective on Divorce
In this epsiode, host Jaime Davis interviews author Kimberly Ewertz about her first book Family Redefined: Childhood Reflections on the Impact of Divorce which is a collection of testimonies by adult children of divorce. In 1990, after twelve years of marriage, Kimberly filed for divorce propelling her and her then ten year old son into a journey of irrevocable change. That journey was the impetus for Family Redefined.
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May 24, 2021
Season 4 Episode 5: Reunification Therapy
Thriving during separation can be difficult when you have a child who refuses to spend time with either you or your co-parent. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses the process of reunification therapy with Dr. Tina Lepage, a forensic and clinical pyschologist and founder of Lepage Associates Psychological and Psychiatric Services. https://lepageassociates.com/.
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Apr 20, 2021
Season 4 Episode 4: Why You Should Consider Individual Therapy During Divorce
During separation and divorce, you can become your own worst enemy if you allow the stress of the situation to change who you are and how you present. It can be difficult to make important legal decisions that may impact the rest of your life if you are not managing your stress. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses the benefits of seeking individual therapy while going through the divorce process with Michelle Chiaramonte, LCSW and owner of Lumina Counseling Associates. https://www.luminacounseling.com/
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Mar 15, 2021
Season 4 Episode 3: Helping Your Children Thrive During Separation
In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses how to help your children thrive during separation with child psychologist Dr. Lori Thomas. Dr. Thomas provides guidance and insight into issues such as how and when to tell the children about the separation, what not to tell the children, and what to expect once the children know about the separation. http://wynnsfamilypsychology.com/OurDoctors/tabid/366/Default.aspx.
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Mar 15, 2021
Season 4 Episode 2: Is it Time for Divorce or is it Just COVID?
Most people think it’s conflict and argument that lead to divorce. In fact, it’s the decreasing affection and the lack of emotional responsiveness that lead to separation and divorce. In this episode host Jaime Davis discusses the impact of COVID on marriages with licensed marriage and family therapist Caroline Landen. https://awakeningscenter.org/therapists/caroline-byrd-landen/.
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Mar 15, 2021
Season 4 Episode 1: When is Family Therapy a Good Idea for a Family going through Divorce?
This season the podcast will highlight themes with the purpose of not only helping you survive your divorce but to also thrive while you are making your way through the process. Most of the episodes this season will concentrate on self-care and therapy related subjects. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses when family therapy might be a good idea for a family experiencing divorce with licensed marriage and family therapist Erin Ballard. https://raleighfamilysolutions.com/erin-ballard/.
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Jan 26, 2021
Season 3 Episode 8: Buying and Selling a Home During Separation
Buying and selling a home during separation can present a unique set of challenges. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses the process with listing agent Julie Bell, buyer's agent Christina Cataldo and mortgage loan officer Deon Bradford- the team at Julie Bell Real Estate Divorce Specialists. For more information, you can visit their website at https://redivorcespecialists.com/.
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Dec 7, 2020
Season 3 Episode 7: Protecting your Electronic Devices and Data During Divorce
People often have questions about how to best protect their children and their assets during a divorce, but one area that they often overlook is protecting their data and making sure that their spouse can’t access their devices accidentally or otherwise. In this episode host Jaime Davis explores this topic with Rusty Gilmore, a Security Consultant and Computer Forensic Expert with Protus3.
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Nov 17, 2020
Season 3 Episode 6: Evaluations in Child Custody Cases
When you are involved in a child custody case, there are several types of evaluations you may encounter including custody evaluations, psychological evaluations, and substance abuse assessments. In this episode host Jaime Davis and fellow family law attorney Melissa Essick discuss what these evaluations entail and offer practical tips for parents who may be facing an evaluation in connection with their child custody case.
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Oct 12, 2020
Season 3 Episode 5: Tips for Working Effectively with Your Family Law Attorney
For many people, divorce may be the first and sometimes only time they will work with a lawyer during their lifetime. Not knowing how to work effectively with your lawyer can lead to unnecessary frustration and dissatisfaction. In this episode, host Jaime Davis and her law partner Carrie Tortora discuss tips related to five different areas of working with a divorce attorney: the initial consultation, including how to prepare and what to expect; communicating with your lawyer; what to do when you are asked to collect documents and information for your attorney; managing your legal bill; and most importantly, maintaining your sanity during the process.
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Sep 17, 2020
Season 3 Episode 4: Separation and Divorce During COVID
If you are contemplating separation or divorce, you may be worried about how the COVID-19 pandemic will affect your ability to physically separate from your spouse, as well as your ability to negotiate and finalize agreements about child custody, child support, the division of your assets and alimony and what will happen if you find yourself needing the court's assistance. In this episode, host Jaime Davis and fellow family law attorney Lynn McNally discuss how COVID might impact your divorce and whether now is a good time to separate or not.
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Mar 26, 2020
Season 3 Episode 3: Navigating Child Custody and COVID-19
Being separated or divorced and dealing with child custody is hard enough on a good day. Divorced parents often wish to avoid interacting with one another if possible, but the coronavirus pandemic is presenting new challenges and is requiring more communication. In this episode, host Jaime Davis and her law partner Carrie Tortora discuss tips for navigating child custody and child support during the COVID-19 outbreak.
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Feb 27, 2020
Season 3 Episode 2: Introducing A Year and a Day the Book
In this episode, host Jaime Davis and colleague Lynn McNally discuss Jaime's newly released book entitled A Year and a Day which is based largely on this podcast. In 2017, Jaime decided to create the podcast to provide tips and information for getting through a separation and divorce without destroying family relationships or the family finances. The book is geared toward divorce related professionals and individuals who are contemplating separation, have been told by their spouse that they want to separate, or who may be dealing with child custody issues.
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Jan 21, 2020
Season 3 Episode 1: Can I Represent Myself in my Divorce Case?
People going through a separation often want to know whether they can represent themselves in connection with their divorce case. While the short answer to this question is yes, in this episode host Jaime Davis and fellow family law attorney Lynn McNally delve deeper into the issue and discuss times when it may be ok for you to represent yourself and other times when you should consider hiring a lawyer to help you.
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Nov 7, 2019
Season 2 Episode 6: The Divorce Process
Various claims arise from the dissolution of a marriage. One of those claims is equitable distribution. Postseparation support and alimony are two additional claims that arise. Child custody and child support may also be at issue. In Episode 6, host Jaime Davis and her law partner Meredith Cross discuss two ways to resolve these claims and what to do if you have just been served with a lawsuit.
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Oct 16, 2019
Season 2 Episode 5: Alimony and Cohabitation
Alimony and cohabitation can be some of the more frustrating issues for family law clients. There are many misconceptions about who is entitled to alimony, how it is calculated, and what constitutes cohabitation. In this episode, host Jaime Davis and her colleague Melissa Essick discuss when a spouse might be entitled to receive alimony, whether there is a formula for calculating the amount and duration, and how cohabitation might impact a person's right to continue receiving spousal support.
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Jun 28, 2019
Season 2 Episode 4: Criminal law issues that can arise following a separation
In most cases, when we talk about the issues arising from a couple’s separation, we discuss civil claims such as child custody, child support, alimony and property distribution. But there are some actions a spouse might take following a separation that can lead to criminal liability. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses two of those issues- domestic criminal trespass and revenge porn- with attorney Maria Hawkins of the Miller Law Group.
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Mar 18, 2019
Season 2 Episode 3: How will being separated affect my inheritance rights?
If a person is married, can he completely disinherit the other spouse in his will? If spouses separate, is there anything they should consider changing about their estate plans? In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses inheritance rights and how your marital status might affect those rights with attorney Brooke Dalrymple. In her estate planning work, Brooke counsels clients and prepares the documents necessary to ensure their wishes are honored with regard to their assets, their health care, and the handling of their financial affairs.
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Feb 11, 2019
Season 2 Episode 2: High Conflict Divorce Cases and How to Handle Them
There seems to be a misconception that all couples going through a divorce are involved in high conflict cases. In reality, however, the majority of separating couples are able to resolve their issues with little or no court intervention. With that said, there are some cases that despite the lawyers using their best efforts will not settle. The parties are unable to agree upon even the smallest of issues and court battles ensue. These cases are often referred to as high conflict cases. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses the topic of high conflict cases with Donna Moore, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Healthy Divorce Recovery Specialist.
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Jan 22, 2019
Season 2 Episode 1: What Happens to the Family Business in a Divorce?
Who gets the family business in a divorce? Will I continue to co-own it with my spouse? Will I have to buy out his or her interest? How will my business be valued? Will I need to hire an expert? In this episode, host Jaime Davis and her law partner Nicole Taylor discuss the answers to these questions and more concerning what happens to the family business in a divorce.
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Dec 10, 2018
Episode 16: Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a problem that does not discriminate. Anyone can be a victim or a perpetrator of domestic violence. Domestic violence transcends all socioeconomic boundaries and education levels and can affect people of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. In this episode, host Jaime Davis discusses the issue of domestic violence and how to obtain a domestic violence protective order in NC with her colleague Jonathan Melton.
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Nov 6, 2018
Episode 15: How to Handle Your First Holidays Following Separation
The first holiday season after a separation can evoke a variety of emotions for both you and your children. Steeped as they are in memories and traditions, the holidays are likely to stir up feelings of fear, stress, and potentially even sadness. In episode 15, host Jaime Davis and fellow family law attorney Melissa Essick discuss tips for preparing and coping with the first holiday season as a separated/divorced family.
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Oct 22, 2018
Episode 14: Substance Abuse and Child Custody
Custody cases in and of themselves are hard enough, but one issue that can further complicate an already highly emotional situation is substance abuse. In this episode, host Jaime Davis and her law partner Carrie Tortora offer tips and discuss actions you can take if you find yourself involved in a custody case where substance abuse is an issue.
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Oct 4, 2018
Episode 13: Taking Care of Yourself During a Divorce
In Episode 13, host Jaime Davis discusses the importance of self-care during the divorce process with fellow family law attorney Lynn McNally. This episode addresses such issues as: What is self-care? Why is self-care important during a divorce? What can you do to ensure you are taking care of yourself during a divorce?
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Aug 13, 2018
Episode 12: Evidence in Child Custody Cases
Can your cell phone be imaged? Can your spouse obtain a copy of your Facebook archive? What about text messages and emails? These questions and more are answered in Episode 12 when the tables are turned and host Jaime Davis is interviewed by her interns Grace Massarelli and Olivia Daniels about evidence in child custody cases.
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Jul 12, 2018
Episode 11: The Do's and Don'ts of Surviving a Child Custody Case
Learning how to navigate the do's and don'ts of being involved in a child custody dispute can be unnerving. In Episode 11, host Jaime Davis discusses helpful tips for surviving child custody litigation with her colleague and fellow family law attorney Melissa J. Essick. Jaime and Melissa address issues such as how to appropriately communicate with the other parent, what not to post on social media, and how to avoid alienating your child.
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Jul 2, 2018
Episode 10: The Child's Advocate
Thanks to a very important project of Legal Aid of North Carolina, in some custody cases, an attorney can be appointed to represent the child to advocate for what the child wants to have happen. In Episode 10, host Jaime Davis discusses The Child's Advocate with its program director attorney Suzanne Chester.
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Jun 18, 2018
Episode 9: Family Law Appeals
When the trial is over and the Judge has entered the Order, your case is finished, right? The answer is not necessarily. In some cases if you disagree with the Judge's ruling, you may have another avenue available to you. In Episode 9, host Jaime Davis discusses the appellate process in family law cases with her colleague and fellow family law attorney Jonathan Melton.
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May 11, 2018
Episode 8: Grandparent Visitation
When parents separate, we often hear about a custody schedule being put in place that addresses when the children will spend time with each of their parents, but in some cases, grandparents may have rights too. In Episode 8, host Jaime Davis discusses the topic of grandparent visitation with her law partner Stephanie Gibbs, who often represents grandparents involved in custody disputes.
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Apr 16, 2018
Episode 7: The Intersection of Couples Therapy and the Divorce Process
Episode 7 features special guest Caroline Landen, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in Couples and Sex therapy with the Awakenings Center for Intimacy and Sexuality. In Episode 7, Caroline and host Jaime Davis discuss the benefits of marriage counseling both before and after a decision to end the marriage has been made.
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Mar 29, 2018
Episode 6: The Potential Price of Cheating
Cheating, or adultery as it is referred to in the legal context, is one of the more challenging problems that can arise in a marriage, and often it is one of the factors associated with the decision to separate or divorce. In Episode 6, host Jaime Davis discusses the potential impact adultery can have on a family law case, as well as potential claims a spouse may have against the third party for alienation of affection and criminal conversation.
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Feb 19, 2018
Episode 5: Parenting Coordinators in Child Custody Cases
In Episode 5, host and Certified Parenting Coordinator Jaime Davis discusses the topic of Parenting Coordinators in child custody cases with fellow family law attorney and Parenting Coordinator Katie King. If you are involved in a high conflict custody dispute and you and your co-parent have a difficult time making decisions that affect your children, a Parenting Coordinator may be the answer. This episode will explain what a Parenting Coordinator is and how to get one, as well as offer tips for working with your Parenting Coordinator once one has been appointed.
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Feb 3, 2018
Episode 4: Gray Divorce
Episode 4 features special guest Haleh Moddasser, CPA. Haleh is the Senior Vice President and Managing Partner of Stearns Financial Group's Triangle Office, and she has recently published a book entitled Gray Divorce: Silver Linings. In Episode 4, Haleh and host Jaime Davis discuss the concept of Gray Divorce and the different impact divorce after age 50 can have on women versus men. For more information about Haleh, go to http://www.stearnsfinancial.com/team_member/haleh-moddasser/
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Jan 3, 2018
Episode 3: Common Myths Surrounding Separation & Divorce
In Episode 3, host Jaime Davis explores common myths surrounding separation and divorce with her law partner Carrie Tortora. Carrie and Jaime discuss such topics as whether "papers" are required to be legally separated; whether committing adultery means a spouse loses everything; and whether the children get to decide where they live.
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Dec 13, 2017
Episode 2: Mediation
In Episode 2, host Jaime Davis discusses the topic of mediation with fellow family law attorney and mediator Lynn McNally. This episode addresses questions such as: How does mediation work? How much does it cost? Why is mediation beneficial? Are there any downsides to mediation?
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Nov 28, 2017
Episode 1: Co-parenting
In Episode 1, host Jaime Davis discusses issues related to co-parenting with Dr. Lori Thomas, a licensed psychologist with Wynns Family Psychology. Dr. Thomas offers tips and suggestions for how parents can continue to successfully co-parent their children despite a separation or divorce.
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