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Do you ever answer, "Yes," way too quickly, and you're left regretting it?
Do you wish people listened to you more?
Ever wonder why even powerful women get into unhealthy relationships?
Eliza VanCort is here to help us respond with integrity so our yes really means yes, and our no means no. She shares a lot of "why" behind difficult relationships, and gives an empowered perspective on all of the isms - specifically sexism and racism - and how we can rise above.
[0:00] Why claiming space in relationships is so hard (we're trained to receive an F from others in the love department)
[2:49] What is an anti-mentor?
[5:34] Do we ever waste time in relationships?
[6:33] 3 Words that silence women: Crazy, Feminist, Bitch
[11:57] How to recognize when you're "shrinking," or ceding space
[14:24] The fix for racism/sexism, even when unconscious
[18:41] Toxic relationships: It's not all bad, intermittent reinforcement, and getting out
[24:35] How to Claim Space in relationships
[25:26] From Pushover to Empowered
[31:35] How to know you're happy and not pretending
[34:15] The Boundless Heart Community definitions of "Claiming Space." We heard from Robin (for self), Olivera (integrity), Maggie (prioritize self), and Lali (presence)
[43:45] Believe you have the right to claim space
About my guest
Eliza VanCort is the author of the bestselling book, A Woman's Guide to Claiming Space: Stand Tall. Raise Your Voice. Be Heard., and an in-demand consultant, speaker, and writer on communications, career and workplace issues, and women’s empowerment. The founder of The Actor's Workshop of Ithaca, she is also a Cook House Fellow at Cornell University, an advisory board member of the Performing Arts for Social Change, a Diversity Crew partner, and a member of Govern For America's League of Innovators.
Connect with Eliza:
If you'd like to buy my book, A Woman's Guide to Claiming Space: Stand Tall. Raise Your Voice. Be Heard. Find it here on Amazon: https://bit.ly/AMAZON-CLAIM-SPACE-NOW. Join my community of space claimers: https://www.elizavancort.com/. Follow me on social media: https://linktr.ee/ElizaVanCort
Join The Boundless Heart Inner Circle: https://boundlessheartpod.com/innercircle