Life After Childhood on a Commune Featuring Phoebe Pilaro
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Phoebe Pilaro spent her early childhood on a commune in the Redwood forest in the Santa Cruz mountains with very little adult supervision. Her parents had an unstable relationship and her father, likely bipolar and manic, was kicked out of the commune. Phoebe and her mother soon set off to other places and though her mother was a social and happy woman, she never set up boundaries during Phoebe’s childhood, gave her advice on growing up, or taught her about sex and protection. During her teenage years Phoebe did anything she wanted-- drinking, smoking weed and having sex. She was about to turn 16 when she found out she was pregnant and had 2 STDs and she became suicidal. She couldn't see a way forward and decided that ending her life was the only option for her. But then, something shifted and she decided she wanted to become a new person. 


In this episode:

  • Phoebe's story
  • How she dealt with the anger she discovered she had with her parents 
  • How she came to forgive them both
  • What parenting is like for her now that she’s a mom of two teenagers


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