Listener Favorite: The Power of Letting Go with Jill Sherer Murray
57 min
This week I am re-airing a listener's favorite episode, The Power of Letting Go with Jill Sherer Murray. The episode aired right before the COVID-19 pandemic began. Since it feels like an entire year has passed since February, I thought I'd revisit some of my most popular episodes from early 2020. I'll be back with new episodes in November! Wouldn’t you just love the superpower of letting go? If so, you’re in luck! Jill Sherer Murray is a TEDx speaker and influencer, author, blogger, coach, and founder of Let Go For It®, a lifestyle brand dedicated to helping individuals let go for a better life. Jill is my guest on the podcast this week and she’s going to share all about harnessing the power of letting go.   Yes, letting go can feel risky and downright scary.   And, letting go is a challenge.   Especially when you’re contemplating divorce or going through divorce.   Jill said something pretty powerful during our time together, “If you figure out how to let go, you can find your way out of or to anything.” So today she’s going to share some ways that you can begin to move forward in your life.   After all, this is your one wild and precious life. If you’re waiting for someone to give you permission to live it, you’re not gonna get it. You have to take permission to live it yourself. This includes permission to let go, permission to immerse yourself in self-love, and permission to live your life as you see fit.

 Show Highlights

  • How ending a 12-year relationship was eye-opening and transformational for Jill (6:15)

  • What letting go truly is and the importance of acknowledging what you need to let go of before you can take action (14:36)

  • We talk about a simple yet powerful exercise which walks you through the process of letting go (26:41)

  • Why letting go is real freedom and how the act of self-love empowers us to act boldly (29:37)

  • Where women struggle most when it comes self-love and letting go (36:33)

  • When we don’t do the work, we are agreeing to let other people to decide what we have and what we don’t have (44:51)

  • Let go of being so hard on yourself, let go of other people’s expectations, and let go of being afraid of what you truly want (50:03)

Learn More About Jill:

Jill Sherer Murray is a TEDx speaker and influencer, author, blogger, coach, and founder of Let Go For It®, a lifestyle brand dedicated to helping individuals let go for a better life. She is also an award-winning journalist and communications leader who can trace practically every success she’s had in her career, love life, and more to letting go.  

Her TEDx talk, “The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go” has been viewed by almost two million people – and grows by the thousands each day. Her book, which comes out in May and is available for pre-order on Amazon and Indiebound, is called Big Wild Love: The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go. She wrote it in response to the countless numbers of viewers who’ve reached out to her for help and inspiration after seeing her TEDx talk.  

Jill spent a year studying improvisation comedy at the famous Second City Training Center in Chicago. And another five years writing a popular blog called “Diary of a Writer in Mid-Life Crisis” for She also let go of just about everything to put her weight in Shape Magazine—12 times—as part of a year-long assignment to document her weight loss journey for millions of readers. 

Resources & Links:

Jill’s website

Jill on Facebook

Jill on Instagram

Jill on LinkedIn

The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go TEDx

A Special Gift from Jill: If you’re struggling like I was in a relationship, not sure whether to hold on or let go, take comfort in knowing that the truth inside you knows the answer. And I have something to help you crack that truth. It’s a simple exercise you can do in just 11 minutes. Get it here:

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