Summary of "The Code of the Extraordinary Mind" by Vishen Lakhiani | Free Audiobook
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A self-help guide to learning how to break free from the shackles of society and seek happiness and success by adopting the code of the extraordinary mind.

What if I told you that all the ideas you think you know about love, education, religion, and happiness are all a bunch of Brules? That’s Lakhiani’s term for bulls**t rules. Generations and generations of people continue to pass these Brules down, but whose decision was it to continue following these outdated customs? These rules are long past their expiration date and it’s time to abandon them. Lakhiani suggests that everything we know about the world is shaped by habit and conformist beliefs, everything from love, work, religion, health, parenting, and more. It’s time to look past these rules and redefine your happiness and purpose. What could your life look like if you abandoned what you think you knew and created a new life for yourself?

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The 5 AM Miracle with Jeff Sanders
The 5 AM Miracle with Jeff Sanders
Jeff Sanders
Breathwork, Meditation, Wim Hof, and Cold Therapy with Robbie Bent
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42 min
Stoic Coffee Break
Stoic Coffee Break
Erick Cloward
175 - Circumstances and Choices
One of the core tenants of Stoicism is understanding the things we control and the things we cannot control. Today I want to discuss this a bit more in depth. _“Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing.”_ _— Epictetus_ Circumstances and Externals First, I want to focus on the things that we don’t have control over. Our property is anything that we own. We don’t control what happens to our things. An earthquake, fire, or flood could ruin our home. Someone could crash into our car. Our computer or jewelry or money could be stolen. Our reputation, or namely, what other people think of us. This is hard because we want to be liked by other people, and to some extent are driven by what others think of us. 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11 min
How to Be Awesome at Your Job
How to Be Awesome at Your Job
Pete Mockaitis
645: How to Make a Bigger Impact by Connecting First with Dr. Melanie Katzman
Melanie Katzman shares strategies for establishing a great connection to facilitate great work.  — YOU’LL LEARN —  1) The trick to a great first impression  2) The one question to gain better perspective  3) The listening hack that makes all the difference  Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep645 for clickable versions of the links below.  — ABOUT MELANIE —  Dr. Melanie Katzman is a business psychologist and coach to the world’s top public and private companies. Her latest book, Connect First: 52 Simple Ways to Ignite Success, Meaning, and Joy at Work, is a #1 WSJ bestseller.  She has delivered workshops and keynotes to organizations worldwide for three decades. During COVID-19, she is an especially sought-after virtual speaker, giving groups the tools for coping with newfound daily stressors, teaching immediately actionable techniques that have meaningful and enduring results.  Melanie has been featured in the financial and popular media, and has appeared on numerous podcasts and television outlets.  • Book: Connect First: 52 Simple Ways to Ignite Success, Meaning, and Joy at Work  • Instagram: melaniekatzman  • Facebook: Melanie Katzman  • LinkedIn: Melanie Katzman  • Twitter: @melaniekatzman  • Website: MelanieKatzman.com  — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —  • Book: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns  • Website: Above the Law  — THANK YOU SPONSORS! —  • Blinkist: Read or listen to summarized wisdom from thousands of nonfiction books! Free trial available at blinkist.com/awesome
32 min
Coaching for Leaders
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
514: The Way to Lead Online Events, with Tim Stringer
Tim Stringer: Technically Simple Tim Stringer is a coach, consultant, and trainer and the founder of Technically Simple. He provides productivity, technology and workflow coaching, consulting and training to people and organizations, large and small, all over the planet. His technology specializations include Asana, Daylite, OmniFocus, and Trello. He supports many people in productivity though his website LearnOmniFocus.com -- and also through the Holistic Productivity approach that he developed after coming face-to-face with cancer back in 2008. Tim consults to leaders and organizations on how to use Zoom effectively and recently launched a new course: Leading Effective Zoom Events. In this conversation, Tim and I overview some of the common mistakes of online events, how online can produce even better results than in-person, and ways to engage people quickly. Plus, we review some of the key technology that will support your organization’s outreach efforts. Key Points It’s often a mistake to assume that you’ll be able to lead online events with the same planning and design for in-person events. Opening a meeting early and using the five-minute rule to begin with icebreakers, breakouts, polls, or reactions will help engage people in the event quickly. For events with many people or higher visibility for your organization, have a dedicated technology co-pilot so that hosts and speakers can stay focused on being present. Virtual lounges (with a dedicated host), spotlight and multi-spotlight, practice sessions, and preassigned breakouts can all help the technology disappear and the human connections to take center stage. Some organizations are discovering they are more successful with online events than past in-person ones. Many have had such a positive experience that they plan to continue leveraging virtual events after the pandemic. Resources Mentioned Leading Effective Zoom Events by Tim Stringer Recommended Practices for Engaging Online Events (PDF download) Related Episodes Serve Others Through Marketing, with Seth Godin (episode 381) How to Create Meaningful Gatherings, with Priya Parker (episode 395) How to Run an Online Meeting, with Bonni Stachowiak (episode 472) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.
40 min
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