Behavior Bitches
Behavior Bitches
Nov 23, 2020
Scott Tillema: Our biggest fan
Play • 1 hr 2 min
On episode 75 the Bitches bring on the one and only Scott Tillema! You may remember him from our hostage negotiation episode, where we dissected his Ted talk through a behavior analytic lens. After that episode Scott reached out to us and the rest is history! Scott has connected us to so many of our amazing guests, continually cheers us on after each episode and is just an all around genuine human! Not to mention all of his credentials and amazing negotiation skills. We could not be happier that we finally got Scott on the show to dive deeper into the behaviors that go into negotiations!! Tune in or miss the F out!                                                             Check out his Ted talk here:
Extreme Genes - America's Family History and Genealogy Radio Show & Podcast
Extreme Genes - America's Family History and Genealogy Radio Show & Podcast
Episode 359 - North Dakota Man Gathers Stories Covering 113,000 Miles In 14 Years
Host Scott Fisher opens the show with David Allen Lambert, Chief Genealogist of the New England Historic Genealogical Society and The guys begin Family Histoire News with the eyebrow raising story that the last Civil War widow has died! Catch the details on the show, plus the fact that her husband, who died in 1939, was already a great great grandfather. David suggests it is possible that this widow was a step FIFTH great grandmother at the time of her death! Fisher and David then talk about sharing DNA from their own fifth great grandparents who were born in the 1600s with other DNA testers. Next David notes a story about how women in Texas who couldn’t start their own business without their husband’s permission until 1968. Finally, a researcher has located a 97-year-old former World War II pilot who saved her father’s life through his skills in ditching a plane. Next, Fisher begins a two part visit with Jim Puppe of Fargo, North Dakota. Jim travelled some 113,000 miles over 14 years collecting stories from seniors in every town, village and city in his state which he has published in a single book. Dr. Henry Louis Gates returns to the show to talk about his newest episode of Finding Your Roots on PBS, featuring actress Glenn Close and director Jim Waters. Then David is back for an Ask Us Anything question about chromosome mapping. That’s all this week on Extreme Genes, America’s Family History Show!
44 min
How To Citizen with Baratunde
How To Citizen with Baratunde
To Be Less Polarized, We Must Humanize (with Esther Perel)
Baratunde ends Season One focused on the state of our relationships, a key pillar of how to citizen, and thus the health of our society after the most contentious election in modern history. In conversation with world-renowned relationship expert, Esther Perel, they discuss how to repair relationships in this moment, and how choosing to listen and humanize each other is not only how to citizen, but enlightened self-interest.   Show Notes + Links We are grateful to Esther Perel for joining us! Follow her @EstherPerelOfficial on IG or @estherperel on Twitter. or find more of her work at  We will post this episode, a transcript, show notes and more at Please show your support for the show in the form of a review and rating. It makes a huge difference with the algorithmic overlords!  INTERNAL ACTIONS  What is your model of relationships? Were you raised to believe in self-reliance and autonomy or interdependence and loyalty? Do you conceive of yourself as an “I” trying to develop a “We” or the other way around?   Take inventory of the relationships in your life.  Identify relationships in your life that are polarized over politics. Determine which make you truly unsafe that you must let go, then focus on those where you are still committed to some level of relationship and you can still see possibility. In those relationships, make the choice to humanize the person, listen, and find common ground, no matter how small. Reflect on your own behavior and language. Can you acknowledge any responsibility for the state of the relationship?   Examine your own perspectives about people who vote differently than you.  What about your view or beliefs about “these people” makes you fearful? If these thoughts were reversed, would they sound fair or accurate to you? Can you imagine another dimension to one of them as to why they vote or behave the way they do?    EXTERNAL ACTIONS Choose to deepen one or two relationships with people who voted differently from you. Instead of ignoring how a loved one voted, practice engaging through questions, not arguments. Be curious. Remember the question from Eric Liu in Ep 2: “what are you afraid of?” and add “what do you hope for?” and “what do you care about?” Build and invest in relationships outside of politics. We need more excuses to connect with each other beyond politics. In our second episode, Eric Liu asked us to start a club, any club. Do it. If you’re already in one or more, good for you. Stay connected to others through the common interests you share. Invest in those relationships.  ------------------------------------------------------ If you take any of these actions, share that with us - Mention Humanize in the subject line. And share about your citizening on social media using #howtocitizen.  SEASON BREAK NOTES Thrilled at the response. - example of quotes about the show, slack, inbox, or reviews in itunes. If you’ve enjoyed, the NUMBER ONE WAY PODCAST GROW are by word of mouth. Tell someone about the show or your favorite episode.  Thanks for riding with us this season. Here’s the news on the future of this show: There’s a future of this show! We will be making a second season and expect to release it in the first quarter of 2021.  We might drop some special episodes during this transition period for our country and our podcast, but here’s some ways to stay connected… Baratunde and show social @baratunde on socials. @howtocitizenwithbaratunde on IG 202-894-8844 “citizen” Send us email or voice memo! on what you’ve thought of season 1 and what you’d want to hear in season 2. Listen back to season 1, Visit Baratunde's website to sign up for his newsletter to learn about upcoming guests, live tapings, and more. Follow him on Instagram or join his Patreon. You can even text him, like right now at 202-894-8844. Learn more about your ad-choices at
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