Welcome back to our intimacy series with Michaela Boehm, the founder of The Non-Linear Movement Method® and expert embodiment & intimacy coach and therapist.
This is a really juicy episode where we talk about love. We come into adulthood with mixed messages and expectations for love that we have to unlearn to really open to love. We look at the misconceptions around romantic love, the meaning of love and how it differs for everyone; embodiment and its impact on our ability to allow love in.
Love can be described as the ability to be open, feel and connect to your heart and another's heart. This openness is not an easy thing to practice, because our experiences happen during the course of our individuation and we decide that it is too painful. Most of us will close our hearts to avoid pain and reduce our ability to welcome love in.
When we allow love in, we become vulnerable to pain, loss and grief. If we can fully feel all our feelings, then with the exalted positive feeling of love comes the reciprocal shadow side where the feelings might not be so pleasant to experience. Because of this tendency that many people close themselves to the possibility of pain and grief, when we actually get the love that we want, we can't accept it because we are not a big enough vessel for the abundance of love that we receive.
Episode highlights:
- Deconstructing how we fall in love and diving into this wild cocktail of survival mechanism and a primal need for reproduction.
- How women unconsciously go through a chemically induced selection process and look for someone at the most basic level, who can keep her children alive and safe (supportive, helpful, status, power, health, wealth are all markers for the survival of the off spring).
- We dive deep into attachment styles and previous experiences and how for some people love is equal to chaos, abuse, victimhood – a person tends to consciously or unconsciously look for our childhood patterns to be played out in adult love relationship.
- The differentiation between the love feeling where you genuinely like the person that you are with and sexual tension/ attraction – which is not love but chemistry.
- The different level of intimacy that’s possible when the infatuation has worn off and when the chemicals have stabilised – this is where the intimate relationship starts if we are willing to engage in it.
- We talk in detail about the importance of the daily practice of embodiment so that the body and nervous system can integrate to become a bigger vessel for love.
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