People tell me they want to "control" their feelings better all the time. Like, all the time. And this stirs up a bag of mixed feelings for me because I know that control is the opposite of freedom. Control does not allow room for self-compassion. Control does not lend itself well to reality. In this episode, I talk about the reasons why we usually crave control, how my understanding of the word control changed after a terrible relationship, and how we can feel good & proud about our responses without having to limit, constrain, or deny our true feelings.