Alcohol Mastery
Alcohol Mastery
Aug 17, 2020
Getting To The Point Where Alcohol Is Not Your Problem Anymore
Play • 11 min

How to get to the point where you don’t care about alcohol any more…? There are many times in your new epic journey where you will not see alcohol as a problem any more… But when does that become a permanent state of mind?

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The Addicted Mind Podcast
The Addicted Mind Podcast
Duane Osterlind, LMFT
113: Unraveled with Laura and Tom Boldt
On today’s episode of The Addicted Mind Podcast, Duane speaks with mother and son, Laura and Tom Boldt, authors of Unraveled, A Mother and Son Story of Addiction and Redemption. They talk about their story of recovery and how they worked together to get recovery. They each share how their recovery impacts each other, and how they were able to do it. It is a great story of hope, compassion, and gratitude for the life they've created in recovery together – as a family. *A Mother and Son’s Story* Coming from a family of many alcoholics, Laura was certain she wasn't going to end up like her alcoholic mom. But fast-forward to having four children, Laura fell into full-blown alcoholism when her youngest child was two years old. It was on Halloween night 2008 that everything changed for her when she got into a serious car accident. She could barely remember what happened to her the next morning. At that point, she knew she needed help. At that time when Laura stopped drinking, her son, Tom, had already experienced bullying and switched schools a few times. He simply wanted a place to belong, which he had found in drinking and drugs. While alcoholism reflected how Laura was living free and having fun, it was completely opposite for Tom. It was more violent. There was more blood and there were more hospital visits. His alcoholism worsened to the point that it not only led to broken bones, but also, broken relationships. Then one Halloween night in 2012, he got in a couple of bar fights and ended up running down the freeway. The next morning, he just decided he was done. Addiction is a family disease because everybody around you suffers from it. The family essentially has a very important role to play during this healing process and there needs to be understanding and compassion. Part of Laura and Tom’s healing process was writing the book, which was not only cathartic to both of them, but an opportunity for them to send this message of hope. *In this episode, you will hear:* * Laura’s story of alcoholism and the turning point that made her decided to stop * Tom’s story of alcoholism and drug abuse, and his decision to stop * The effects of drinking on Laura and Tom * Their journey through recovery together * The role of the family in addiction recovery * The difficulties and challenges in recovery together * What they discovered about each other * Writing the book as a cathartic process for them and as a way to send their message of hope Key Quotes: [02:36] - "When you try to control your drinking, you only realize that it's controlling you." [03:39] - "People around you are far more aware of your alcoholism before you are." [07:18] - "I could have killed somebody else. My kids could be without a mother because of drinking." [13:07] - "I was completely unaware of the effects of alcohol... I just thought it was normal." [19:56] - "I started learning so much about the disease and Laura was so amazing and would fill me in on her journey and her experience." [22:42] - "Not all families have the opportunity to heal for whatever reason. But it does make it easier for the alcoholic and the addict to have a family that plays into that healing." [23:23] - "Resentments can cause relapse... it's a daily practice for us to stay healthy." [32:48] - "My life is filled with so much joy, so much fun, and, and true laughter that's not ignited by alcohol, and it really is a more peaceful way to live." *Subscribe and Review* Have you subscribed to our podcast? We’d love for you to subscribe if you haven’t yet. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-addicted-mind-podcast/id1268632042 ). Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. If you really enjoyed this episode, we’ve created a PDF that has all of the key information for you from the episode. Just go to the episode page at www.theaddictedmind.com ( http://www.theaddictedmind.com ) to download it. *Supporting Resources:* https://unraveledthebook.com/ Unraveled, A Mother and Son Story of Addiction and Redemption https://www.amazon.com/Unraveled-Mother-Story-Addiction-Redemption/dp/1632993198 *Episode Credits* If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com ( https://emeraldcitypro.com/ )
37 min
Recovery Elevator
Recovery Elevator
Paul Churchill
RE 309: Curious VS Douchey
Stephen took his last drink on January 24th, 2020. This is his story of living alcohol free (AF). Odette’s weekly installment of: Finding Your Better You “The pleasures of connecting with people are much greater than the pleasures of judging people.”- Johann Hari If we show up genuinely, we can connect with someone. If we are pretending to listen, we will not connect. Only with actual connection can we truly see each other. In a little departure from talking about quitting drinking Odette is asking us to explore being a better listener. What would that mean? What would that look like? Listening to each other has the power to heal, however it’s also very hard to do. Can we be more curious and see how this can impact relationships? [6:01] Odette introduces Stephen. Stephen is 33 years old and lives in Austin, TX. He enjoys exercise, teaching tennis and using his Peloton. He’s planning to return to school in the near future. [7:30] Can you give listeners some background on your story? Stephen said he took his first drink at the age of 15. He was curious about it and remembers finding something that made him feel relaxed. Being so focused on tennis, alcohol was mostly a secondary thing. In 2008 he joined the military to be an Airborne Ranger, which is also where he noticed his drinking changed. He left the military in 2015 and the drinking followed him. With nothing to wake up for at 5am anymore, he was able to drink differently. After a few years he walked into an AA meeting and went all in for 7 months’ time. He began drinking again for 5 months which led him to January 2020. [14:59] Tell me more about your being in the military and the binge drinking. Did you question your relationship with alcohol? Stephen said he only questioned his drinking in the midst of a bad hangover. He was surrounded by so many others that drank the same way, so it was very normalized. Alcohol was a temporarily release from the stressors. [19:07] Have you shifted your thinking from that of learning to endure to finding joy? Stephen said he is still working on this. Coming from his sports and military background he was taught to do whatever it takes to get through something. He’s learned that only works in the short term, but the emotional impact last longer. In recovery Stephen has taught himself that it’s ok when things are easy and to go with the flow. He had to allow himself to surrender to the fact that he cannot live with alcohol in his life at all. [22:45] What has been different this time? Stephen said this time he had to adjust his all-in mentality. He’s more tied into recovery communities with actual people and listening to their struggles and stories. He gave up the idea of being perfect but at the same time accepted that he can’t be the best version of himself while drinking alcohol. [25:06] Have you found anything in sobriety that makes you feel relaxed and free? Stephen said running helps him and it’s when his body feels good and his mind is at peace. He’s working on trying to be ok with his own thoughts in his own head. Having real conversations with real people makes him feel free. [25:57] What do you do when you have a craving? Stephen said he eats. It’s simple and it works for him. He didn’t eat when drinking because he didn’t want to ruin his buzz. Now it’s the opposite. If that doesn’t work, he reaches out. [26:57] Tell me about this year. Stephen said at the beginning of COVID he was still able to be collecting a paycheck. He also went through a big breakup, which was different being sober. [29:30] What’s your everyday routine look like? Stephen said on a daily basis about connecting with people about his life and their life. Addressing mind, body and spirit, as well as attending therapy. [31:14] How have the interactions with family and friends been? Stephen said his family can now see the version of him that’s able to be present. He’s having conversations with family members who are questioning their own drinking. [34:01] Have you figured out the why of your drinking? Stephen said he’s been exploring a lot of deeper things with his therapist. He grew up in a home where he had to walk on eggshells. So, he thinks the drinking allowed him to be free of that. However, that led to all of his emotions being repressed and without an outlet except through drinking. Drinking allowed him to feel things and feel human. [35:38] Have you found therapy to be helpful? Stephen said yes. He’s an analytical person by nature and having someone to be a sounding board has been helpful. He wouldn’t have gone through a lot of the childhood trauma without his therapist. [37:36] Has your sleep improved? Stephen said not yet. He hopes it’s the last piece of the puzzle. [39:49] Have you gone back to AA? Stephen said yes, he’s working through the steps again. But he primarily focuses on a larger network for his own recovery. [41:07] Rapid Fire Round * What would you say to your younger self? Stop trying to find clarity and happiness in a bottle. What happened to you as a child is not your fault * What book are you reading right now? Claim Your Power by Mastin Kipp * What’s your favorite ice cream flavour? Amy’s Ice Cream: Mexican Vanilla * What parting piece of guidance would you give to listeners thinking about ditching the booze? There is no perfect recovery.Find your own path, don’t look back and you aren’t alone. There are so many people living a life without booze. You may have to say adios to booze if... you jump out of a plane drunk, because you are still drunk from the night before. Odette’s weekly challenge: Only you know what is best for you. Protect your energy. What works for some might not work for you. We are all here to encourage and inspire each other. We are challenging big alcohol, you are a part of this. Upcoming events, retreats and courses: * You can find more information about our events Affiliate Link for Endourage: For 10% off your first CBD order with Endourage visit this link and use the promo code elevator at checkout. Affiliate Link for Amazon: Shop via Amazon using this link. The book, Alcohol is SH!T, is out. Pick up your paperback copy on Amazon here! You can get the Audible version here! Resources: Connect with Cafe RE - Use the promo code OPPORTUNITY to waive the set-up fee. Recovery Elevator YouTube - Subscribe here! Sobriety Tracker iTunes Sobriety Tracker Android Sober Selfies! - Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to -info@recoveryelevator.com “Recovery Elevator – when you show up as you are, you make all the difference for yourself and for the world - I love you guys”
47 min
One Year No Beer | Hack your healthy Lifestyle
One Year No Beer | Hack your healthy Lifestyle
Ruari Fairbairns & Andy Ramage
Sharing the Alcohol-Free Journey: Johnny Johnson | OYNB 109
One Year No Beer is about something much bigger than changing an individual’s relationship with alcohol. It’s about changing society’s relationship with alcohol. And often, when one person makes a significant change, they find a way to share that change with a broader group of people. That’s what today’s guest did. In today’s episode, Johnny Johnson discusses the drinking culture that he was a part of. He didn’t consider himself an alcoholic or think of his drinking as anything over the top – it was just normal. It was normal to go out for drinks on weeknights with colleagues and go out on the weekends with old school friends. It was normal to work through hangovers. It was normal to spend Sundays recovering so that the cycle could start over again with the next work week. “I looked back at my life and I started thinking, I'm just on this hamster wheel and I'm not enjoying life.” Johnny decided after his wedding that he was tired of this version of normal – tired of having hangovers, tired of worrying about what he might have done and forgotten about while he was drinking. So, he decided to give up alcohol for a while, then decided to join One Year No Beer so that he could experience the support of a community during his journey. But that’s not where Johnny’s story stops. He found himself telling friends and family about going alcohol-free because he was excited about it. And because he still wanted to go out and join in social activities, he also started exploring alcohol-free drinks. Johnny did find some nonalcoholic beers that he liked, but most venues carried big brands that he didn’t care for as much. Rather than giving up, Johnny was inspired by the situation. He decided to create his own alcohol-free beer. His goal was to get it into pubs and restaurants so that when he and other people like him went out, they could order an alcohol-free beer that they liked and were proud to be seen drinking. In today’s episode, Johnny discusses his journey with alcohol, his foray into nonalcoholic brewing, and his experiences with the One Year No Beer community. Listen in to learn how Johnny managed to create a healthy nonalcoholic beer and to pick up a promo code that will give OYNB members a discount on Johnny’s alcohol-free beer. LINKS & RESOURCES OYNB LINKS OYNB MasterMind Program: https://www.oneyearnobeer.com/mastermind/ OYNB Website: https://www.oneyearnobeer.com/ OYNB Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Oneyearnobeer/ OYNB Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/199505820380513/ OYNB Twitter: https://twitter.com/oynbuk/ OYNB Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oneyearnobeer/ JOHNNY JOHNSON’S LINKS UNLTD Beer: https://www.unltd.beer/
46 min
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