A Love Language Minute
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A Love Language Minute draws from Dr. Gary Chapman's years of counseling experience, excerpts from his live events, and his answers to listeners' questions to give encouragement and practical help and hope for the relationships in your life.
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23 hours ago
A husband's limited view of his role in the family
A husband's role in the family is more than just being the breadwinner. Meeting your family's need for love is vitally important as well.
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1 day ago
Loving your spouse when they reject you
How far would you go to love your wife, even if she rejects you? Reading the first three chapters of the book of Hosea would be a great place to start.
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2 days ago
Understanding the needs of your spouse
If a couple doesn't understand the needs of their spouse, it's likely they won't make an effort to discover each other's needs. What steps are you taking to meet the needs of your spouse?
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3 days ago
Long-distance relationships and physical touch
What do you do when your husband's love language is physical touch but he is currently deployed? Work on creative ways to give an emotional touch while apart.
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4 days ago
Giving up on a relationship too early?
This generation seems to give up on relationships too easily instead of working through issues in a mature and thoughtful way.
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Feb 19, 2021
Sharing your life with your spouse
When you're away at work, your spouse can't relate to your job. Describe the events of your day to your spouse so they can better understand.
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Feb 18, 2021
Loving the unlovely
When your spouse isn't loving toward you, decide that you're going to love them, regardless. Don't wait for them to change. Reach out to them right where they are.
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Feb 17, 2021
Using questions in communication
Not communicating with your spouse may be interpreted as you not caring about them. Asking questions about their day demonstrates that you truly care.
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Feb 16, 2021
Engaged, but fighting over money
Differing views on money issues is the biggest area of conflict in a marriage. The purpose of dating is to discover your differences. That's the time to decide if the two of you will ever be on the same page.
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Feb 15, 2021
The benefit of taking the Love Language profile test
You want to express your love for your husband but don't know how. Encourage him to take the Love Language profile test. You'll learn his love language and be able to engage him on that level.
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Feb 12, 2021
When "fine" isn't enough
Telling your wife that your trip went "fine" isn't enough. Husbands, give your wife all the details!
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Feb 11, 2021
Loving your wife first
There's a Biblical mandate that husbands should love their wife first. Don't wait for your spouse to change. Be the initiator of love in the same way that Christ loved the Church.
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Feb 10, 2021
Communication is an act of the will
A spouse may not want to express their deepest feelings to you. It's vital to understand that communication is an act of the will. Communicate, even if it doesn't come naturally to you.
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Feb 9, 2021
Repentance apology
Apologizing to your spouse may not seem like enough to them. You might consider adding an element of repentance to your apology as well.
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Feb 8, 2021
Not responding - even when you're speaking their love language
When your spouse isn't responding to your expressions of love in their own love language, understand that their love language may have a different dialect.
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Feb 5, 2021
The two shall become one
God's declaration that "the two shall become one" doesn't apply only to the physical.
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Feb 4, 2021
Who needs to love first?
Don't wait for your spouse to be the one to demonstrate love to you. Instead, follow Christ's example of loving the Church. HE is the one who demonstrated love to us first. So should we toward our spouse.
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Feb 3, 2021
Empty love tank
Deep inside many couples exists a love tank that's empty. Filling that tank with meaningful and genuine love for your spouse will be the key that opens the door to a satisfying marriage.
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Feb 2, 2021
Dealing with a spouse with ADD
What do you do with a spouse who has ADD? Never lash out in anger and frustration. That only leads to more conflict. Ask your spouse if there's a better way for you to approach them.
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Feb 1, 2021
A cold and distant marriage
When your marriage feels distant and cold, consider reading "The Four Seasons of Marriage. In it, you'll discover that empathetic listening will develop a marriage that looks like Spring.
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Jan 29, 2021
When a spouse doesn't respond to any of the 5 love languages
Ask your spouse if they feel loved. If not, ask "What can I do to make you feel loved?". In the process, you may discover their primary love language.
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Jan 28, 2021
Meeting each other's need for intimacy and love
Emotional love often seems elusive, but love can be learned and applied.
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Jan 27, 2021
Dealing with a spouse with mental disorders
A Christian counselor trained in the area of mental health may have a positive impact on your spouse with mental disorders.
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Jan 26, 2021
Feeling loved is at the heart of marital desires
All the material blessings in life can't replace the need for a spouse to be loved.
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Jan 25, 2021
The challenges of past physical abuse
Experiencing physical abuse in a past relationship often makes trusting the person in your current relationship.
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Jan 22, 2021
How to find your spouse's primary love language
Expressing your love to your spouse is crucial. Have them take the love language test, and discover the love language on which they score the highest.
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Jan 21, 2021
Fill the emotional tank
Your child's love tank is waiting to be filled. Problems with your child's behavior is symptomatic of their love tank being empty.
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Jan 20, 2021
Is gift-giving your love language?
If your spouse doesn't speak your love language of gift-giving, continue to speak theirlove language. A gentle reminder to them of what your love language is might be helpful.
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Jan 19, 2021
Love is a confusing word
We use the word "love" in so many different ways. Chose the love word that focuses on the kind of love that's essential to your emotional health.
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Jan 18, 2021
Speaking your spouse's love language without reciprocation
Speaking your spouse's love language without their reciprocation might indicate that a lingering hurt may be the cause.
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Jan 15, 2021
Love, but not “in love”?
Your spouse says they love you but are not “in love” with you. It means they don’t have those euphoric feelings they once had earlier in your relationship. But true love is best developed through acts of love, and the emotions will follow.
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Jan 14, 2021
What to do during a separation
Hold your spouse accountable for their transgressions, but examine your own failures and confess them as well. Mutual respect for each other during this period is vital.
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Jan 13, 2021
How to get your spouse to speak your love language
You can’t make someone speak your love language, but you can remind them of what yours is. This little nudge will help your spouse to learn and speak your love language.
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Jan 12, 2021
Your spouse has left you. Now what?
The loneliness you feel after your spouse has left you is understandable; but beginning to date again immediately after the separation isn’t the answer. Your well-being is best served by seeking connections with long-time trusted friends.
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Jan 11, 2021
When your spouse doesn’t speak your love language
It’s quite possible that your spouse doesn’t know what your love language is. Reading The 5 Love Languagestogether might open your spouse’s eyes to what your love language is. This will help them express their love is a way that is better received.
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Jan 8, 2021
Can you change your love language?
We can’t choose or change our love language, but we change the way we express our love language in a manner that is better received.
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Jan 7, 2021
Leaving your spouse for someone else
Leaving your spouse for someone else often comes from losing the feelingof love. Yielding to your “in love” emotions will never sustain a sound relationship.
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Jan 6, 2021
Understanding separation
Most people feel their marital separation is their spouse’s fault. The Bible instructs us to remove the log from our own eye first. Focus on your own culpability as well.
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Jan 5, 2021
Seeking reconciliation
Seeking reconciliation doesn’t require that we hide our emotions. But instead of responding in anger, express how the transgression makes you feel.
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Jan 4, 2021
The challenges of child-rearing
Married couples come into parenting untrained. Reading The Five Love Languages of Childrenis a great place to start!
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Jan 1, 2021
Work is ordained by God
God ordained that man should work beforethe fall. Work is not a curse but a blessing. All our work should be for our satisfaction and to God’s glory.
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Dec 31, 2020
Financial concerns
Jesus said, “A man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions”. Our satisfaction doesn’t come in the form of financial success. Relationships are our real assets.
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Dec 30, 2020
Unreciprocated love
What might help your spouse to speak your love language? Make a request of your spouse that would require their response to be in your love language.
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Dec 29, 2020
Unconditional Love
Unconditional love is love that seeks the best for another person, regardless of their response.
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Dec 28, 2020
Addicted to pornography
Any addiction, especially pornography, is an addiction that’s built on the lie that you have the power to conquer it yourself. Overcoming the addiction requires Divine help.
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Dec 25, 2020
Putting the “merry” in Merry Christmas
The shepherds in the Christmas story can teach us how to be merry at Christmas time. They returned to their fields “glorifying and praising God”. Find time today to raise your spirit in praise to God!
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Dec 24, 2020
Being a spectacle
Scripture tells us that our lives are a spectacle to others – a visual manifestation of God’s work in us.
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Dec 23, 2020
Christmas brings us together
The Christmas story is the story of God reaching down to us to bring us together with Himself.
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Dec 22, 2020
Spiritual intimacy
Spiritual intimacy in a marriage is usually the most difficult practice, but also the most important. Walking with God and sharing that walk with your spouse leads to lasting intimacy.
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Dec 21, 2020
Away from family during the Holidays
If your loved one is away during the holidays, make sure to reach out and touch them through a call, text or email – letting them know you’re thinking of them.
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Dec 18, 2020
Dating someone with a different Love Language
Dating someone with a different love language is challenging. If they are speaking your love language, it’s important that you learn to speak their love language.
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Dec 17, 2020
Saving your marriage while separated
It’s important to reflect on what brought about the separation in the first place, and honestly deal with those failures.
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Dec 16, 2020
Two becoming One
When contemplating marriage, it’s important that you’re of the same mind and purpose so you can become one beyond just the physical.
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Dec 15, 2020
A friend struggling with pornography
Scripture instructs us to confront a brother or sister who persists in sinful behavior; but confront them with the purpose of restoration and holy living.
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Dec 14, 2020
Family away during the holidays
When family members are away during the holidays, talk about them and bring back memories that bind them to you.
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Dec 11, 2020
Husbands and wives as teammates
Approaching your marriage relationship as teammates provides the opportunity to compliment each other, strengthening the quality of your relationship.
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Dec 10, 2020
Challenges after a divorce
What do you do when your former spouse wants to work on your relationship after your divorce? Seek wise counsel as you navigate through this complicated challenge.
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Dec 9, 2020
Parent or Friend
As a parent, you can also be your child’s friend; but first and foremost, you’re their parent – not their peer. Your authority and responsibility as a parent should not be relinquished.
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Dec 8, 2020
Don’t be a dream-killer
Words of encouragement to your spouse will determine the success or failure of their goals and dreams.
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Dec 8, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 8, 2020
Don’t be a dream-killer
Words of encouragement to your spouse will determine the success or failure of their goals and dreams.
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Dec 8, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 8, 2020
Don’t be a dream-killer
Words of encouragement to your spouse will determine the success or failure of their goals and dreams.
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Dec 8, 2020
Don’t be a dream-killer
Words of encouragement to your spouse will determine the success or failure of their goals and dreams.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 7, 2020
Sharing your married children during the Holidays
Parents with married children need to learn to share them with the in-laws during the holiday season.
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Dec 4, 2020
Sincere Apologies
How do you express a sincere apology to your spouse? Don't just say "I'm sorry". Be specific in telling them what you are sorry for, and don't ever add the words "but ...".
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Dec 3, 2020
The Power of a Compliment
There is power in giving a compliment. Words of affirmation will build a positive emotional climate in your relationship.
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Dec 2, 2020
Harsh Words
How do you deal with a husband who's harsh with his words to his wife and children? Have the courage to express the hurt that his words cause. Suggest he talk with a pastor.
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Dec 1, 2020
Struggling to Love
Some people struggle with loving and interacting with other people. It's important to understand that life's greatest meaning is not discovered in isolation. The greatest meaning is to reach out and serve other people.
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Nov 30, 2020
Where Should Married Couples Spend the Holidays
Where to spend the holidays with extended family must be worked out between the couple. Splitting time evenly between families will prevent hard feelings and conflict.
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Nov 27, 2020
The Marriage You've Always Wanted
Scripture exhorts us to serve one another in love. Harsh words destroy a marriage. Acts of service create a positive emotional climate where love can thrive.
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Nov 26, 2020
Reconciliation in a Climate of Love
Returning good for evil is a loving and powerful way to open the door for reconciliation in a marriage.
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Nov 25, 2020
How to Unlock a Healthy Marriage
An attitude of mutual service is the key that unlocks a happy marriage. Both husband and wife should be committed to serving each other.
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Nov 24, 2020
Divorce is Never God's Intention
Divorce is never God's intention for marriage. God's intention for marriage is for a lifetime. Separation may be necessary at times. Seek wise Biblical counseling.
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Nov 23, 2020
Struggling with Wife's Depression
A wife's depression is placing stress on the husband and children. Understand that depression won't go away simply with the passing of time. Good counseling and medication is the best approach.
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Nov 20, 2020
Modeling Christlikeness
To be a Christian means to be Christlike. The servanthood that Jesus modeled provides the model that we should follow.
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Nov 19, 2020
Reconciliation in a Relationship
You can't force someone to reconcile their relationship with you. But you can set the stage for reconciliation by loving them.
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Nov 18, 2020
Servanthood in Your Marriage
Don't lord your authority over your spouse. Rather, model the servanthood of Christ to them.
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Nov 17, 2020
Attraction to Other Women
How do you turn off your attraction to other women when you're married? This attraction might be tied to your sexual activity before marriage. Seek God's help in changing your thought patterns.
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Nov 16, 2020
Quality Time
How do you spend quality time with your spouse when they work so much? Be flexible and find creative ways to spend quality time together that are outside of the norm.
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Nov 13, 2020
Happy Marriages
What's the key to unlocking the door to a happy marriage? The key is learning to serve your spouse. Jesus said it is more important to serve than to be served.
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Nov 12, 2020
Pornography Addiction
As you're breaking the bondage of your addiction to pornography, pray and claim the covering and cleansing power of the blood of Christ. Over time, God will help erase the images from your mind.
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Nov 11, 2020
Wealth vs. Children
A common mistake many parents make is investing time in the accumulation of wealth at the expense of investing in their children. Model proper priorities to your children by putting them first.
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Nov 10, 2020
Social Versus Introverted
What if you're a social person but your spouse isn't? Find a balance between both personality types, but don't pressure each other beyond each other's comfort level.
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Nov 9, 2020
Why Does God Allow Cancer?
Following God and living by His principles does not exempt us from trouble and disease. God's promise is that He will walk with us through those difficult times.
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Nov 6, 2020
Stifling your Child's Creativity for Conformity
Your children are creative because they are made in God's image. Creativity is what allows them to develop the uniqueness that God has implanted in them. Be careful not to stifle their creativity in favor of conformity.
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Nov 5, 2020
Addiction to Pornography
Pornographic images are planted deep within the mind. With God's help, confession and repentance will begin the healing process of removing the memories of those images.
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Nov 4, 2020
Writing Letters to Your Children
Dr. Gary Chapman says that writing letters to your children is a powerful way to connect with them in a very personal and lasting way.
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Nov 3, 2020
Flirting Coworker
What do you do when a coworker flirts with you even though they know you're married? Dr. Gary Chapman encourages listeners to limit your interactions with them and verbally draw the line.
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Nov 2, 2020
Taking a Break from Your Spouse?
Personal refreshment alone can be a good thing, but refreshing your marriage together with your spouse is vital and much more important.
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Oct 30, 2020
Are You a Stranger to Your Children?
Parent/Child conflict is at an all-time high. Maybe it's because they don't really know one another. Parents are to teach God's instructions to their children at all times. This quality time of teaching will help build a bond between the child and the parent.
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