How to Break the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
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The relationships we had with our parents as children continue to affect the current relationships in our life. There’s really no way around it. However, once you’re aware of the unhealthy patterns, you can begin to break down your past to improve your future relationships.

On a recent episode of The Darin Olien Show, I sat down with one of my best friends, seven-time New York Times best-selling author Neil Strauss. Neil is incredibly self-aware and has spent most of his adult life working through unhealthy patterns he picked up in his childhood. 

Neil and I have both belonged to the same men’s therapy group for years. Aside from that, he’s done many retreats and therapy programs in order to sort through the way he approaches relationships. “I spend a lot of income on improving myself,” he told me.

Acknowledging the Past

We spend a lot of energy running from our past. If we could somehow just put it behind us and stop thinking about it, we’ll be fine, right? Wrong. I…
The Optimal Body
The Optimal Body
Jen Esquer & Dom Fraboni
45 | Birth Control and Women's Health with Dr. Jolene Brighten
Feel like sex ed didn’t really teach you about your body? Need birth control for your irregular periods or chronic acne? Tune into this extremely informative interview with Dr. Jolene Brighten – Naturopathic physician, author, and leader in women’s health – as she reveals the truths behind women’s health and birth control.   Did you know that a woman has a fertility window of one day per month? Or what the difference is between an STI and an STD? Dr. Brighten dives into these topics head first in order to make sure you fully understand the concepts behind what birth control, contraceptives, and periods really mean to women and their health. What You Will Learn in This Interview with Dr. Jolene Brighten: @drjolenebrighten 01:48 – Dr. Jolene’s mission or purpose on this earth - Why purpose is important 05:05 – Dr. Jolene’s recommendations on where to start in finding accurate information about young women’s developing bodies 06:27 – The truth behind a woman’s fertile window 09:22 – The truth behind sex education - The lack of effectiveness due to scare tactics 14:50 – Fertility awareness methods from Dr. Jolene 17:42 – Contraceptive facts from Dr. Jolene - The difference between STIs and STDs 19:08 – The unethical historical truth behind the pill and the research behind it 22:03 – How hormonal birth control actually works - What makes the pill effective 24:54 – The lack of information of long term effects associated with birth control 26:16 – The importance of nutrition intake while taking birth control and why 28:48 – Risk factors with taking birth control - Politics behind birth control information 32:30 – The truth behind why birth control can help with acne - Advice on how to get off birth control 36:11 – Dr. Jolene’s alternatives to birth control for healthy skin 40:12 – Dr. Jolene’s advice for those who have irregular periods - Facts behind your period 45:57 – Differences in physician credentials and the understanding behind the medications being prescribed About Dr. Jolene Brighten: Dr. Jolene Brighten is a prominent leader in women’s medicine and the emerging science of Post-Birth Control Syndrome — studying the effects of hormonal birth control on female health. A fierce patient advocate and completely dedicated to uncovering the root cause of hormonal imbalances, Dr. Brighten empowers women worldwide to take control of their health and their hormones. She is an international speaker, clinical educator, medical advisor within the tech community, and considered a leading authority on women’s health. Items mentioned in this episode include: Dr. Brighten’s Free E-Book: https://drbrighten.com/pbcsdiet Dr. Brighten’s Book Bonuses: www.beyondthepillbook.com Dr. Brighten’s Website: www.drbrighten.com Dr. Brighten’s TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJmaGCoV/ To see Dr. Brighten's full bio and to check out the rest of Doc Jen’s website, click here: www.docjenfit.com/podcast/episode45 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/TOBpodcast/message
58 min
The Cabral Concept
The Cabral Concept
Dr. Stephen Cabral
1727: Virus End Game & Herd Immunity Updates (WW)
After a 2 month hiatus from talking about “the virus” we have brand new updates, and so I wanted to make sure you didn’t miss what the media refuses to share with you… My goal is to look at the data (globally), see what multiple experts are saying, and then share with you an unbiased viewpoint on who is most at risk still, and where we are in terms of the virus progression… So on today’s #CabralConcept 1727 I’m going to breakdown the virus end game plan, as well as the herd immunity updates that you won’t want to miss - Enjoy the show and let me know your thoughts and questions in the comments! - - - Show Notes & Resources: http://StephenCabral.com/1727 - - - Dr. Cabral's New Book, The Rain Barrel Effect https://amzn.to/2H0W7Ge - - - Join the Community & Get Your Questions Answered: http://CabralSupportGroup.com - - - Dr. Cabral’s Most Popular At-Home Lab Tests: > Complete Minerals & Metals Test (Test for mineral imbalances & heavy metal toxicity) - - - > Complete Candida, Metabolic & Vitamins Test (Test for 75 biomarkers including yeast & bacterial gut overgrowth, as well as vitamin levels) - - - > Complete Stress, Mood & Metabolism Test (Discover your complete thyroid, adrenal, hormone, vitamin D & insulin levels) - - - > Complete Stress, Sleep & Hormones Test (Run your adrenal & hormone levels) - - - > Complete Food Sensitivity Test (Find out your hidden food sensitivities) - - - > Complete Omega-3 & Inflammation Test (Discover your levels of inflammation related to your omega-6 to omega-3 levels)
29 min
All About Fitness
All About Fitness
Pete McCall
Dr. Sara Bird - All About Your Gut Microbiome
Do you ever make decisions based on your 'gut feeling?' Have you ever noticed how your stomach may react to different foods? Are you looking for that one special thing that can take your fitness to the next level? Well, it's time to understand more about your gut, specifically your gut microbiome. From your feelings to your physical performance, your gut has trillions of cells in the microbiome that can influence how your body functions. Dr. Sara Bird is a molecular microbiologist who studies the gut microbiome for Viome. On this episode of All About Fitness, Dr. Bird shares why we should pay attention to the microbiome in our gut and how learning more about it, like how to influence it through nutrition and exercise, can help to achieve optimal health and performance. This is a fascinating and insightful discussion that will help you to learn more about your microbiology and how that can help you to live your best life. WARNING: You may have flashbacks to high school biology! FOLLOW THIS LINK To understand more about how testing your microbiome can help you To learn more about Viome's testing products and which might be right for you, visit: https://www.viome.com/products Achieve optimal health! Use code AAF10 to save 10% on ANY testing kit so that you can learn more about your microbiome Follow Viome on Instagram: @Myviome Join Pete for 30 min. HIIT Workouts from the comfort of your own home! Wednesdays and Fridays at 12pm pacific / 3pm eastern, only $10 FOLLOW THIS LINK FOR DETAILS Dynamic Anatomy e-book understand how your body functions during exercise for only $11! Want to learn the best exercises for your glutes? FOLLOW THIS LINK for Glute Reboot, a recorded webinar with Pete McCall and Abbie Appel on everything you need to know about exercise for the most visible part of your body! Interested in the Smarter Workouts 6-week Virtual Group Training program? Go to www.petemccallfitness.com and sign up for the mailing list - you'll get a free chapter of the book and will be the first to know when the program is ready to launch! What's the best way to exercise your inner thigh muscles? Are crunches the best exercise for your abs? FOLLOW THIS LINK to the recorded webinar on Dynamic Anatomy, it includes a copy of the Dynamic Anatomy e-book that will help you understand how your muscles function during exercise. $27 Do you need new ideas for your workouts? Do you want an exercise program that can deliver results without putting you in pain? Each one of the All About Fitness 8-week exercise programs is designed for how your muscles actually function, helping you to gain strength, improve definition and burn calories while slowing down the effects of time on your body 8 week Dumbbell Strength Training - only $12 8 week Kettlebell Conditioning - only $12 8 week Functional Core Training - only $12 To learn how to design exercise programs using only 1 piece of equipment, pick up a copy of Smarter Workouts: The Science of Exercise Made Simple Free information and workouts on the All About Fitness podcast YouTube channel - including this recorded webinar on how high intensity exercise can slow down the aging process: https://youtu.be/F6rd-1SCjtc Go to www.petemccallfitness.com and sign up for the mailing list to receive a FREE CHAPTER and workout from my book Smarter Workouts @PeteMcCall_fitness on Instagram to learn great exercise tips and workout ideas
1 hr 12 min
Run, Selfie, Repeat
Run, Selfie, Repeat
Kelly Roberts
Week 1: Ditch the disguise (because diet culture is sneaky AF)
EVERY DAY, WE’RE SERVED UP THE POISON PUNCH THAT IS DIET CULTURE. WHAT TO EAT AND HOW TO EXERCISE TO LOSE WEIGHT. WHICH BODIES ARE ACCEPTABLE, AND WHICH BODIES AREN’T. THIS DIET. THAT DIET. BODY SHAME. FASTING. MACRO TRACKING. MORE BODY SHAME. And every holiday season, this poison punch gets spiked. New year, new you? More like new you, same BS. Spoiler alert: This poison punch isn’t going away any time soon. So, we’ve created the antidote for it. BADASS LADY GANG, MEET ‘TIS THE SEASON TO DITCH DIET CULTURE. It’s week one and today, Kayla and Kelly are talking about how to ditch the disguise (because diet culture is sneaky AF). THIS FREE 8-WEEK LONG COURSE WAS CREATED BY BADASS LADY GANG NYC CO-LEADER KAYLA REYNOLDS, MS TO EMPOWER YOU TO NAVIGATE THE HOLIDAY SEASON IN A WAY THAT'S TRULY HEALTHY -- MIND, BODY, SPIRIT -- NO PUNCH NECESSARY. Every week we’ll explore a specific theme and equip you with concrete tools that you can use to jingle all the way to a memorable holiday. Here’s how we’re going to break it down: * Week 1: Ditch the disguise (because diet culture is sneaky AF) * Week 2: Diet is a noun and food isn’t the enemy - let’s bust some myths * Week 3: Detox your judgments… your liver and kidneys will do the rest * Week 4: People suck!!! Dodge, duck, dip, dive, and dodge their projections * Week 5: Breakthrough the shit - if you want different, you need to do different * Week 6: Food isn’t medicine (and you consume way more than what you eat) * Week 7: No one knows you like you do! How to listen to your body in a noisy world * Week 8: What if self-love wasn’t the goal? Let’s start with self-care And here’s what’s in store: * A newsletter every MONDAY morning introducing the weekly theme, including journaling prompts and a challenge to put your knowledge into practice * A NEW podcast episode released every MONDAY morning (via the Run, Selfie, Repeat podcast. Available wherever you love to listen to your favorite podcasts!) * A Group Zoom call every WEDNESDAY 8:00 pm-9:00 pm ET (5:00 pm-6:00 pm PT) to discuss the weekly theme, and our experience with the journal prompt, challenge, and anything else that came up, in a safe space * Journal prompts available in our private, online community ‘Tis the Season To Ditch Diet Culture group (CLICK HERE to join) and on the Badass Lady Gang Instagram page. Whether this is the first time you’ve started to think about the ways in which diet culture has impacted you, whether you’re skeptical that ditching diet culture is possible, whether you’ve done every diet in the book and are ready to leave it all behind, or whether you’ve never fallen for the false promises of diet culture but are sick and tired of all the noise, this course is for you! This course is meant to meet you wherever you’re at in your journey towards ditching diet culture, reclaiming the word diet, and making peace with yourself and your body. We want to make sure that this course is as valuable as possible for you, so we want to dedicate one to two of our weekly podcast episodes to answering your burning questions about diet, diet culture, nutrition, body shame, dealing with people, making peace with food, being kind to yourself, and anything else, really! We’ll also try to bring some of these questions to our group calls to help us have more meaningful discussions. To submit your questions, CLICK HERE to submit your question. MEET KAYLA REYNOLDS, MS Kayla Reynolds is a late-twenty something New York City transplant, originally from Montreal, Canada, and the co-leader of Badass Lady Gang’s NYC chapter. When she’s not dancing with her BALG, she’s working on checking off walking every street of Manhattan by foot, exploring one neighborhood at a time, and determined to find NYC’s best cold brew and restaurants along the way. As a child and eventually teenager, Kayla joined every team sport imaginable, and cheerleading quickly became her passion. Growing up very active and also experiencing many digestive issues, she became interested in nutrition and the impact that food had on the way she felt and performed. Paired with her love of all things science, she eventually chose to move to NYC to pursue her Master of Science in Human Nutrition at Columbia University. It was there, alongside her own life experiences where she realized that the food that made it to our plates is only a sliver of the health equation. Over time, her passion for mental health and wellbeing grew, and she began to see our “diet” as more than just food, but everything that we consume -- social media, advertisement, relationships, self-talk, … and so much more. Now, when it comes to nutrition, she believes that our thoughts about food, our bodies, and ourselves impact us more than any one food we eat (or don’t), and that having a healthy, balanced, low-stress relationship with food is most important. Food doesn’t need to be so complicated. So, she’s dedicated to helping people ditch diet culture and lead full, fulfilling lives, which can’t happen on an empty stomach. Click here to find the journal prompts on the Badass Lady Gang's Instagram Click here to join our private group in our online community and find an invite to our weekly event
1 hr 7 min
Ben Greenfield Fitness: Diet, Fat Loss and Performance
Ben Greenfield Fitness: Diet, Fat Loss and Performance
PodcastOne
The Croissant Diet, Wine Fasting, Oodles Of Pork Lard, Keto Bricks & Much More With Brad Marshall.
bengreenfieldfitness.com/croissantdiet       My friend Ron Penna recently emailed me about a guy named Brad Marshall who...         "...has a fascinating take on why we get fat called the ROS (Reactive Oxygen Species) Theory of Obesity and how ROS signaling as a result of eating saturated fats is critical for satiety. Provocative stuff and the more I read the more I'm pretty sure he is onto something. Joel Greene thinks Brad is crazy on this point but I have a feeling he will end up being right on most if not all of it. You can read more here: "         Essentially, our entire meat supply (pork and chicken especially) is much higher in polyunsaturated fats than they should be and the only real way to change it is to change what we feed them. .  He also has been working on . It has to be wrong but he makes VERY interesting arguments about it."         Naturally, I just had to get this guy on the show. Brad Marshall is the author of the Blog and the creator of .  Mildly obsessed with food and its history, his work focuses on trying to place current ideas about diet, including keto and carnivore diets into the framework of traditional Dietary patterns.  For instance, the French diet before 1970 combined flour, sugar, butter and wine and the population was lean.         Brad wrote which posits that ROS generation in the mitochondria of fat cells could provide the mechanism that explains why a traditional chinese peasant diet - low fat with 85% of calories from starch; a French diet combining butter, wine and flour and a modern keto diet could all be expected to produce leanness but combining flour with polyunsaturated fats is a recipe for obesity.  The core idea comes from the Protons thread of Peter Dobromylskyj's blog .  Brad tested this hypothesis with his dietary experiment The Croissant Diet.         Brad is also the founder of , which is dedicated to producing pork and poultry products that are low in Linoleic acid, the n6 polyunsaturated fat (PUFA) whose intake has seen a dramatic worldwide increase in the last century.  Animals cannot make PUFA and so we can create pork and chicken that is nearly free of them.  You are what your animals eat.       Brad has a genetics degree from Cornell, a certificate from The French Culinary Institute, has studied cancer at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer center and worked as a programmer for the Berkeley Drosophila Genome Project.  He spent the last 15 years raising rotationally grazed pastured pork on his farm in upstate New York while running a butcher shop, local food restaurant and USDA inspected meat processing facility. During our discussion, you'll discover: - Brad's background in molecular biology and cooking...8:00           - The production Reactive Oxygen Species (ROS) - and the ROS theory of obesity...18:43           - Unsaturated fats vs saturated fats in connection to ROS production and satiety...34:25         -What does all of this have to do with croissants?...44:45           -The Croissant Diet - getting specific...58:25           - Should we worry about endotoxemia with a diet high in saturated fats?...1:03:45           -The Wine Diet...1:09:30   bengreenfieldfitness.com/croissantdiet
1 hr 23 min
Align Podcast
Align Podcast
Aaron Alexander
Whitney Miller: Having Great Sex & How to Map Your Vulva
Do you wonder how your sex life can improve our relationships– with others and with yourself–either in a monogamous, a polyamory, or an open relationship? In this conversation with Whitney Miller, we talk about the dynamics of monogamous vs. polyamory relationship, we go deep into details of sexuality within relationships and we discuss a very interesting pleasure exploration technique of the vulva: the vulva mapping. In her past polyamory experience, she shares what she learned about herself to be able to thrive in it, namely understand why she got jealous, why she got sad, and how she was able to cultivate meaningful relationships with women by having to constantly have vulnerable conversations which allowed her to truly love the other women. Often, relationships help us to open up a part of ourselves that needs to be exposed in order to heal and to know ourselves better: our thought processes, our patterns, and how we respond to challenges. Whitney tells us how deeply transformative this process was in her open relationship with Audrey Marcus and how that forced her to profoundly dive into herself. She shares with us intimate details of her preferences with candid honesty, so if you are dating or looking to date women this could be a key to understanding what might arouse and please a woman before and during sex. And it’s not at all just about sex: asking the other person meaningful questions is likely to be a skill that enables them to open up. Whitney also tells us what are her own favourites questions, what she finds attractive in a man, and how playfulness is so important. Whitney is a love, sex, and relationship coach: an expert in the realm of union between partners and sexuality. Former Miss United States and sports anchor Whitney Miller has found her true calling helping individuals and couples. Her experiential journey to self-mastery started 5 years ago with her well-publicized open relationship with her fiancé, Aubrey Marcus. Whitney has since joined forces with some of the leading scientists and researchers in the field, and now hosts talks and workshops around the world. What we discuss: [00:04:47] Letting go of how Whitney thought life should be has been making her more open to change. [00:05:50] Where Whitney's need for protecting herself comes from. [00:07:09] What permitted the sensation of safety to let people in Whitney's life. [00:08:34] Why the relationship with Aubrey was fundamental to Whitney's self-discovery. [00:09:09] How we receive superpowers and faults from our parents and our relationships. [00:10:42] Why Whitney thinks there is usefulness in suppressing emotions. [00:11:48] Whitney's latest Ayuashca experience showed her to go over one fear in particular. [00:14:39] Making it through life instead of living life: "If you let out what is within you, it will heal you. If you hold it in, it will destroy you". [00:15:57] Qualities in a man that are attractive to Whitney. [00:17:18] What was attractive in Aubry from Whitney's perspective. [00:19:06] Why Whitney and Aubrey were sincere about the constraints of their polyamorous relationship. [00:20:31] What Whitney feel she learned from her experience in a polyamorous relationship [00:21:39] Is polyamory sustainable and does it have longevity? [00:24:27] Whitney's present terms of relationship preferences. [00:29:38] How does a man show he holds the qualities of stability and safety? [00:32:11] Is it possible to hold a certainty about the relationship course? [00:33:21] What is the process of stepping back and re-access in a relationship? [00:35:59] Whitney's experience in relationships in which one partner goes through change and the other isn't [00:38:07] What good sex means for Whitney. [00:46:14] How does a woman want a vulva massage? [00:46:55] What is vulva mapping and how to do it. [00:48:25] Butt play and anal sex. [00:51:45] What is the perfect set up for sex? [00:54:12] How does Aaron creates contact? [00:56:01] How to ask meaningful questions about the other person. Find more from Whitney: Instagram: @whitnlove Website: https://whitnlove.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-sex-wild-love/id1472061802
1 hr 2 min
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