Apr 9, 2021
How To Be Confidently You
Gary Doherty is an expert in self image and self confidence and speaks about his personal journey and how you can confidently you.
For more information on Gary and his courses, head to https://thinknetwork.co/
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Phone: 07928 154054
welcome to the waves of clarity episode 21. My name is Tracy Kimberg. I'm a teenage transformation therapist and a relationship coach. My passion is to really help teenagers love themselves for who they are without having to try and be a part of a crowd or be like anybody else and be true to themselves and know their self-worth.
I also love helping people within their relationships find out what makes each other tick, how we can better communicate and practice emotional intelligence within our own relationships. But this week, I invited Gary Doherty as a guest on my podcast. Gary is doing amazing things and he's spreading the word about being your true self and doing the best you can in your life, living your life to its fullest and making a difference in the world is so important to all of us.
We can all start with tiny little things, tiny gestures of kindness, and just being positive and helpful to people that we notice ne our help and support can already make a difference in the world. So Gary, welcome to the waves of clarity and I am so excited to have you here today. You, um, have such amazing energy and I'm sure everybody, after listening to you is going to feel very uplifted and energized by your incredible.
Attitude and energy welcome Gary. Well, firstly, thank you so much. Um, it's, it's a pleasure to be here and a pleasure to talk to yourself and to connect with your audience and your, your, your following and be as some old rest, all of them. Hi to everybody. Um, we met in club posts. If you're not on club posts, you must note if you don't have an iPhone.
Yeah, well, no, if you don't have one and you have an Android, you will be able to in five weeks anyway, so relaxed. Okay. Either way you'll be on it. Um, I'm, I'm guarded already on the finder of think network, which is, uh, Europe's fastest growing independent empowerment platform bar numb anywhere. And the P as in Europe, I'm being humble saying that because I believe it's the word.
Um, and I will check that all out sun and the bio will change, um, as my mission and vision to help make the world a better place. One event at a time, one podcast at a time, one club poster and that one webinar, one subscription, one grip, one conversation, one connection, one follow we'll make one chair will everything.
That's my mission. That's my mantra. And, um, I don't want to do it. I am doing it. And, um, I'm also a TEDx creator license holder and speaker. Fantastic. Gary, it's quite a mouthful. Um, so in your life, when did you, um, start finding yourself interested in the concept of showing up as your true self. I have always my whole life wanted to show up as my true self.
And have you ever listened to my Ted talk? Whatever you give up three feet from gold, check it out. The TEDx YouTube channel, um, shameless plug. I always felt that I was loving on a present of a mind. That I didn't have the courage to be my authentic self because I didn't have my cell phone, which was super, my confidence was so low and I felt like an impostor in life.
I didn't have the courage to be my authentic self Tracy and I always wanted to be, and I always knew I wanted to be. So I went through life, not be in my authentic self for. My whole life. I'm going to say up until I started to be on the journey to be calming. I'm having the courage to be who I am now.
I'm probably in my mid twenties. I'm going to say. Um, so when, when you were a teenager, how did you feel about yourself? I only, I would say I was popular. Um, I had boyfriends, I had girlfriends, I was popular at school. I was in the football teams. I was one of the X, Y and Zed awards. I was at a big social group.
I, from a work in the middle-class family on the fear side of it, I would have had, you know, Yeah, a good life. And I, I suppose I did, but how I felt about myself was inside. I would have been very self-conscious. I would have been very unsecure. I would have been quite fragile on the inside, which Sean times would have manifested on the outside, but not, you know what I mean?
I was quite good at hiding that, but that's quite exhausting. Hayden that have a not and word and security and lack of confidence and being nervous and, and overthinking and all those things that you would associate with that that's exhaust on level, not life, but awkward, play, being happy, you know, confidence or, or, uh, um, or perceived confidence.
Um, And that was quite exhausting of my almost. And I do, I did, I love my life like that. I have to be honest. So, um, tell me, Gary, um, Is this a Catholic, um, description of all happy on the outside, but not so happy on the inside. That's probably, that's probably a rough description of a day of happiness. I had happy times I had happy moments.
I did happy. I did things that made me happy, but I think I always, I never liked my own company, Tracy. Which is a good indicator of not like in your own self, which is an indicator of per cell phone, but, you know, which is, uh, on the kid or that you've can hang ups or issues that you need to eat. You're, you're carrying a whip on your shoulders.
Like, like you're kind of not, we had advanced early, it was the on life from you're only your clothes. It's like, so I never liked my own company. Never, ever. Um, I like it a lot more. I, but I, I didn't want to, at that age, And tell me, um, as a, as a, as a child, um, you know, how, how did your parents manage that?
Did they, were they aware of it? Did they not know it. No idea. My parents, um, are good people, working, people work their whole life, um, brought me up the best they could. Um, what's the emotional intelligence that they had and they're, they're, they're, they're well-respected people. And I would never, you know, on Julie critique them.
Um, what I would say, and just for the context of this talk, it's important to say it. Is that maybe, maybe that's say affection or emotional intelligence or Prius or all those, all those things that we, that are people like you and I are champion them today. Maybe that sort of thing. Wasn't plentiful. And that wouldn't really have helped my, um, my, my persona or how I was.
So, um, no, they didn't know, but no, I couldn't have talked to him anyway, you know? Okay. So, um, then let's move on with your journey. Now, here you are sitting, talking to me and you are empowering other people to show up as their authentic self. And you've obviously made it your mission to make a difference in the world in that way.
Um, what. Um, what made you make that switch? What was that? Was that all home moment? What was the thing that happened? Because there's always a thing that happens isn't there. Yeah. Johnny knows something to end my Ted talk. I talk about this. This is a, this is a very profound conversation, you know? Um, I, I have always had an inquisitive mindset, always even when I was so inside anxious and nervous.
And self-conscious, I always knew that I always, actually always felt a wee bit different, even though nobody else would have looked at me and said I was any different. I always felt different than not. I knew I had so much together. And it wasn't governor. I knew that I used to look at things that people thought were satisfactory and thank God I could doing much better, but I don't have the courage to say it, then the courage to go into it.
And that I didn't do it. You know, ultimately kept my hand in and understood the back of the grip. And when I knew that I knew the answ…