Today on The Startup Chat, Steli and Hiten talk about we they recently learned as dads that helped them as founders.
For most people, our first teacher is usually our fathers. From riding a bicycle to playing football, fathers typically teach us many lessons when we were children. Our dads typically are there for us through our heartbreaks and failures, and heartily encourage and pat us on our back when we achieved something.
In today’s episode of the show, Steli and Hiten talk about what made this year's father’s day different, an example of a situation where a person never had a father, special moments and lessons they learned from their kids and much more.
Time Stamped Show Notes:
00:00 About today’s topic
00:33 Why this topic was chosen.
02:30 What made Steli appreciate being a dad.
03:00 What made this year's father’s day different.
04:18 An example of a situation where a person never had a father.
05:59 Steli shares a special moment he had with his kids.
09:03 How Steli can sometimes be part of the problem.
10:37 How empathy can help people do their best.
11:33 Hiten shares a special moment he had with his kids.
3 Key Points:
I just talk to my kids more.When things are difficult that a good thing.I am a big part of why he gets frustrated so much.
Steli Efti: Hey everybody, this is Steli Efti .
Hiten Shah: And this is Hiten Shah. We're actually recording after Father's Day. It's the day after Father's Day today. We wanted to do just a quick podcast on Father's Day. Don't know where it's going to go, but I think ultimately it's an important day for us fathers. We're both fathers. I think it's interesting. Steli mentioned that he wanted to do this, and it's interesting you mentioned that, because this was a very interesting Father's Day for me, and interesting in a great way where I actually felt the need, and I texted you too, actually felt the need to text as many fathers as I could remember yesterday, and just say Happy Father's Day. I don't think I've ever really done it. I've done it to a few people, but I'm talking, I probably hit 20 or 30 people. I don't know, it just meant something to me this year in a different way. Not sure why.
Steli Efti: Interesting, because first of all, I got a very sweet text from you. I was really happy about that, and I wrote you something back. You're the only person who texted me about Father's Day, by the way. You really stood out for me. But I saw so many messages on social media about it. Maybe last year I was not mentally there. I don't know what it was, but this year, more so than ever before, it was like, wow, everybody's sharing something related to Father's Day. What is going on? It was like my screen was flooded with content around this. For me, it made me do one thing that's maybe not really practical, really doesn't have anything to do with startups, but it did make me step back and re-remember to be grateful that I'm a dad.
Hiten Shah: Yeah.
Steli Efti: And that I'm having a chance, at least with my oldest ... My oldest is now ... This year was kind of interesting, because my father died when I was six. So last year when he turned six years, my oldest is going to turn seven in exactly 14 days, when he turned six, I was like, "Okay, I was this old when my dad died." It was so interesting to see. I was like, "I was so tiny. I thought I was a bit older." It was just a good, a funky thing to have my son as a way to relive that or go through that experience of what six even means, what that age even means. But also it's like for me, a little bit of a, wow, I'm grateful that I get to spend more time with him than my dad and I got to spend together. It's kind of a reminder for me to be a grateful and how much I actually enjoy and love having two little monsters as my sons.