Exploring Sexual Intimacy with Sade Ferrier
Play • 1 hr 7 min

Sade Ferrier - an Associate marriage and family Therapist and Intimacy Coach - discusses sexual intimacy and how to feel safe in a relationship. Sexual intimacy is multidimensional, as she clarifies, it’s more than intercourse and more than sex. Sade shares the importance and challenges of accepting your lover and Shaun shares a practice called Desires, Fears, and Boundaries.

 

Shaun shares a useful practice for better communication about sex or intimacy practices based on understanding our desires, fears and boundaries.

 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

 

  • What it means to feel safe in a relationship and how to do the work to reach that feeling
  • The problems with racial discrimination in the world of therapy & the concept of swirling
  • How to work with a therapist and how to build a trust-based relationship with the therapist

 

Where to find Sade :

 

Sade Ferrier on Instagram 

Sade Ferrier’s website

Learn the foundations of intimacy in her course ‘Communication 101: Sexual Intimacy’ 

Get $25 off Sade’s new course, Radiant Intimacy, by using coupon code: thelovedrive

 

Resources:

 

Rachel Cargel Loveland foundation for supporting black women and girls' therapy access

Join The Lovebird Club

 

A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls.

 

For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub 

 

Learn more about The Love Drive

 

Website https://thelovedrive.com/ 

The Love Drive podcast is edited by Camilla Morandi.

 

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive 

 

Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Relationship Alive!
Relationship Alive!
Neil Sattin
244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes
When you want to shift something in your life, sometimes the scale of the change can seem daunting. So how do you get from point A to point B (or...point Z) in a way that's actually doable - and sustainable? It can be tempting to take drastic actions to make big changes - but you might sabotage your changes by falling into your old habits. Today we'll talk about how you can create positive changes in your relationship, or something else in your life, in a way that's practical, and relatively easy - no matter how big the change. As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Sponsors: Find a quality therapist, online, to support you and work on the places where you’re stuck. For 10% off your first month, visit Betterhelp.com/ALIVE to fill out the quick questionnaire and get paired with a therapist who’s right for you. Resources: Check out my Secrets of Relationship Communication COURSE for a masterclass in how to improve the communication and connection in your relationship. I want to know you better! Take the quick, anonymous, Relationship Alive survey FREE Guide to Neil’s Top 3 Relationship Communication Secrets Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner’s Needs) in Relationship (ALSO FREE) Support the podcast (or text “SUPPORT” to 33444) Amazing intro and outro music provided courtesy of The Railsplitters Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. Today's topic is going to be how we can create big changes in our lives, but in ways that are sustainable. Because if you do something big to change your life but then you just fall back into old patterns, well, you're going to get the same results you've always gotten. Do the same thing, get the same results. 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So when it comes to making big changes in your life, a lot of people talk about the need to take massive action. If you want radically different results, you have to do things radically differently. And on some level, that's true. And often, taking massive action can sometimes be necessary, because sometimes the changes that you want to make, if you want to, for instance, leave a relationship, those kinds of decisions and choices and actions can feel huge, and you have to do this big thing in order to create some momentum in a new direction. But it can be common for people to take a huge action, to feel all this energy and momentum, maybe you've even gone to some personal development seminar and you come back all pumped for the big things that are going to change in your life, and then day after day, week after week, you find that it's hard to maintain the big change. Neil Sattin: And this sometimes happens. I mentioned the ending of a relationship as an example. It's a good example because sometimes, I'm sure if you haven't experienced this, you've known people who have experienced it, where they take a big action, they decide they're going to leave their relationship, they even announce it to their partner, and then it never quite happens. Or it does happen, but then somehow they end up back together again, and back in the same old patterns that they were always in, and the same old misery, and the same old reasons for not being together in the first place. So it's not all doom and gloom, fortunately, but there has to be something else to back up whatever big changes you are trying to make in your life. Neil Sattin: And those could be big changes like ending a relationship, or it could be big changes like making your relationship better, because maybe you simply want to improve the way things are in your relationship. And this is another thing where it can be like, "Alright, we're going to have a date night every week. 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Click here to download the full transcript of this episode!
43 min
Unapologetically Sensitive
Unapologetically Sensitive
Patricia Young
Bonus Episode 87 Ten Strategies for Managing When You’re Feeling Down
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Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
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Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson, Dr. Rick Hanson
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52 min
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