The Over-Sexualization of Women with Lili Boisvert
Play • 1 hr 9 min

From clothing to flirting, from our fascination with youth and innocence to the orgasm gap, every aspect of women's lives is dictated by their status as sex objects, and it's a problem. 

Journalist, columnist, actress, and now author Lili Boisvert wrote a book on how women are set up to fail at sex, the problem with over-sexualizing women and under-sexualizing men, and how we can start to reverse this dangerous dynamic.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The dangers of women having a passive role in courtship, sex, and life

• Why the patriarchy insists that we do not sexualize men like we do women

• How we can begin to change the dynamics at play for more bedroom and worldwide equality

Where to find Lili Boisvert:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lili.boisvert

Facebook page for Les Brutes https://www.facebook.com/lesbrutestelequebec

Mentioned on the podcast:

Lili's book, Screwed: How Women Are Set Up to Fail at Sex https://amzn.to/2F2ggfj

Dr. Ian Kener's book, She Comes First https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D

The movie, The Graduate https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0061722/

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Unapologetically Sensitive
Unapologetically Sensitive
Patricia Young
Bonus Episode 87 Ten Strategies for Managing When You’re Feeling Down
TITLE 10 Strategies for Managing When You’re Feeling Down GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW Many of us are struggling with mood and high levels of ongoing stress. I give 10 tangible strategies for coping when we’re struggling. I also share about the challenges I experienced over the holidays and wondering if maybe I have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), our high levels of emotional responsiveness and empathy can make it challenging to know if we’re depressed, having a trauma response, or just having big feels. 10 STRATEGIES FOR COPING * Talk to at least 1 other person about how you’re doing * Decide where your wiggle room is, and when you should be concerned * Showering, brushing teeth, flossing teeth, taking medication/supplements, getting dressed, not going out, shaving, * Basic self-care if possible * Keeping busy * Withdrawing * Withholding * Observing your patterns * Reading, watching a movie, a special meal, an activity, bath, baking, * What would bring you pleasure (guilt-free) * Something about keeping a little momentum * Responding to e-mail, texts, phone calls, appointments * Sometimes we get gifts and blessings when we stay open * Do one small thing * Kindness and self-compassion as you can manage * Try to get outside for at least 10 minutes (if possible) * Start tracking mood and noticing trends—this can be very reassuring * Feelings are energy and it gets trapped * Talk about your resistance, anger, frustration, sadness, disappointment * Acknowledge 3 things you did each day PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/ Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: * click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 * select “listen on Apple Podcasts” * chose “open in itunes” * choose “ratings and reviews” * click to rate the number of starts * click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Shelly Aaron Productions—ShellyAaron@me.com Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Relationship Alive!
Relationship Alive!
Neil Sattin
244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes
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Resources: Check out my Secrets of Relationship Communication COURSE for a masterclass in how to improve the communication and connection in your relationship. I want to know you better! Take the quick, anonymous, Relationship Alive survey FREE Guide to Neil’s Top 3 Relationship Communication Secrets Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner’s Needs) in Relationship (ALSO FREE) Support the podcast (or text “SUPPORT” to 33444) Amazing intro and outro music provided courtesy of The Railsplitters Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. Today's topic is going to be how we can create big changes in our lives, but in ways that are sustainable. Because if you do something big to change your life but then you just fall back into old patterns, well, you're going to get the same results you've always gotten. Do the same thing, get the same results. So how can you create a big change in a way that you're going to be able to keep going, that you're going to be able to follow through on, so that it doesn't become just some other big resolution or a promise that you make to yourself that you can't keep? That is what we are going to talk about in today's episode, and I'm going to use an example from my personal life that I've experienced over the past few months so that you can get a sense of what I'm talking about. Neil Sattin: First, I just want to say thank you for being here with me. This wouldn't be a show without you being here with me to talk about relationship issues, and all these different facets of how to show up more fully in our lives, in our relationship with ourselves and in our relationship with the people who are most important to us. So thank you for being here with me. Neil Sattin: Okay, I think that's it. Let's get on with the show, shall we? So when it comes to making big changes in your life, a lot of people talk about the need to take massive action. If you want radically different results, you have to do things radically differently. And on some level, that's true. And often, taking massive action can sometimes be necessary, because sometimes the changes that you want to make, if you want to, for instance, leave a relationship, those kinds of decisions and choices and actions can feel huge, and you have to do this big thing in order to create some momentum in a new direction. But it can be common for people to take a huge action, to feel all this energy and momentum, maybe you've even gone to some personal development seminar and you come back all pumped for the big things that are going to change in your life, and then day after day, week after week, you find that it's hard to maintain the big change. Neil Sattin: And this sometimes happens. I mentioned the ending of a relationship as an example. 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We're going to make sure that we take three vacations. We're going to show up every day in ways that are loving and caring." And on and on. "We're going to explore new realms of sexual ecstasy together." But then in the end comes... What is it? After the something, the laundry. Like, there's the day-to-day quality of life and how challenging it can be to sustain anything like that, even if you have the best intentions and the best desires and the most brilliant vision for how you want a thing to be. Neil Sattin: Because the big things are inherently not sustainable, they take lots of energy, they take lots of time, they can take lots of thought and planning. Even though initially they're somewhat abrupt, if you want to keep those things going, then it requires a lot from you, and that's why it's not sustainable. And then you have this other problem, which is... Interested in reading the transcript for the rest of this episode? Click here to download the full transcript of this episode!
43 min
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick | Dating & Relationship Podcast hosts
BONUS: Our 2021 Dating Predictions
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Relationship Advice
Relationship Advice
Chase & Sarah Kosterlitz
283: Are You In A One-Sided Relationship?
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