How to Love Bravely with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
54 min

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a love nerd, there's no denying it. She's dedicated her life to the pursuit of learning about love and teaching those around her how to love. She's a clinical psychologist, a professor who teaches the Marriage 101 class at Northwestern University, the author of my new favorite book, Loving Bravely, and so much more.

This is a lovely and sincere conversation about vulnerability, boundaries, relational self-awareness, attachment theory, and so much more. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• Why relational self-awareness is key to a healthy relationship

• That reason that even therapists need therapists

• The importance of boundaries 

• Why we choose partners that trigger our old wounds

Where to find Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Dr. Alexandra Solomon on the Web | http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/

Dr. Alexandra Solomon's book, Loving Bravelyhttps://amzn.to/2XgVZdk

Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon

Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon

Mentioned on the podcast:

Ester Perel's book: Mating in Captivityhttps://amzn.to/2EeC99S

Sue Johnson on Emotional Focused Therapyhttp://drsuejohnson.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-2/what-is-eft/

Geneen Roth's book Women, Food, and Godhttps://amzn.to/2Ew4Bph

Marsha Linehan, Ph.D. and Dialectical Behavior Therapyhttps://behavioraltech.org/

Brene Brown on Shame and Vulnerabilityhttps://brenebrown.com/

Imago Therapy - Getting The Love You Wanthttp://imagorelationships.org/

Find out more about The Love Drive here: https://thelovedrive.com

Better Sex
Better Sex
Jessa Zimmerman
153: Love More, Fight Less – Dr. Gina Senarighi
From early on in her career, Dr. Gina knew she wanted to help people with sex and relationships. Her work delved into the more uncommon areas such as discernment counseling, conscious uncoupling, and consensual non-monogamy. Her work today revolves around a diverse group of clients, which she calls expansive relationships. Dr. Gina explains expansive relationships as relationships between partners that want to explore and encompass more of themselves, people who want to “color outside of the lines.” Looking Deeper into Our Stories Gina deals with many stories and talks about how we all have stories. She notes that we need to look at our own actions and history in a healthier way and finds that this can bring us to realizations in our lives that help us better understand ourselves. Exploring our norms does not mean we need to scrap them but rather encourages us to better tailor them to our current relationship needs. Intimacy Dr. Senarighi highlights that vulnerability and intimacy are not the same but that handling vulnerability with care can deepen intimacy in a relationship. She explains intimacy as a deep connection with people and explores the different kinds of intimacy around us. Communication She explains that trust and openness go hand in hand and shares how we can cultivate that openness for ourselves. Dr Gina discusses her book and how important communication is in relationships. It is filled with tools and actionable steps for couples to use to strengthen their communication and deal with obstacles. She uncovers a few examples to give us some insight into what she means. A few key elements she unpacks that help communication are clarity of boundaries, having a clear and compassionate accountability process and trust and stability in relationships Background Dr. Gina Senarighi, PhD, CPC is an author, teacher, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach based in the U.S. She’s been supporting clean fights and dirty sex in happy healthy relationships since 2009. Gina has written several books and currently leads couples retreats and coaches clients all over the world to have deeper intimacy and more meaningful connection. Call for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships. About Gina Dr. Gina Senarighi, PhD, CPC is a couples’ therapist turned relationship coach, retreat leader, and author specializing in intimacy, authenticity, shame-resilience, and connected communication for diverse relationships. For over twelve years she has supported hundreds of clients creating fulfilling integrity-based relationships according to their own rules. In that time she’s developed a solid framework based in neuroscience, nonviolent communication, and positive psychology research that has transformed diverse relationships around the world. In 2020, she published her first book, Love More Fight Less, A Communication Workbook for Every Couple with Penguin Random House. She earned her Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2010 from Saybrook University, her Bachelor’s degree in Education from the University of Wisconsin in 2002, and a Masters in Education with a minor in Human Sexuality from Indiana University in 2004. In 2019 she completed her PhD in Spiritual Studies and Pastoral Counseling. Gina was named Portland’s Best Life Coach in 2019 and has taught psychology courses, communication workshops, couples intimacy retreats, and guest lectured on alternative relationships and sex-positive therapy at universities across the US. Students love her no-nonsense “real talk” presentation style. Her podcast, Swoon has helped over 10,000 listeners build a more compassionate, creative, confident, and fulfilled society. Gina offers practical, proven skills to transform relationships in deeply meaningful ways. As a retreat coach, her background in psychology, mediation and communication training has enabled her to offer uniquely powerful tools to help clients overcome stuck patterns. Her uniquely non-judgmental, inclusive approach to couples work puts even the most concerned participants at ease. She is not your average sit-and-nod supporter- she’ll call you out, and always help you grow. Gina has created thousands of tools, worksheets, guides and authored a few books to support relationships. Get on her email list if you’d like access to her tool library. When she’s not working you can find her in her gorgeous urban garden, cooking dinners for friends, playing with her two adorable kids, or traveling the world with her partner, Rae. Links and Resources: Website – http://heygina.com Book – Love More Fight Less, A Communication Workbook for Every Couple – https://www.amazon.com/Love-More-Fight-Less-Communication/dp/0593196651/ Website – http://Nonmonogomous.com More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ Webinar: How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/training Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/153-love-more-fight-less-dr-gina-senarighi
36 min
The Couples Therapist Couch
The Couples Therapist Couch
Shane Birkel
148: Start Using EFT in Your Practice with Debi Scimeca-Diaz
I recently attended the Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship which was taught by Debi Scimeca-Diaz. She was an amazing trainer and I learned a ton about the model. In this episode, she comes on the podcast and talks about how to use EFT in your practice and why EFT is such a great way of working with couples. Debi Scimeca-Diaz, LMFT is one of a small group of trainers in the world for Emotionally Focused Therapy. Dr. Sue Johnson, director and founder of International Center for Excellence in EFT (www.iceeft.com), has put her heart and soul into creating, researching and spreading EFT worldwide. Find more about Debi at couplestherapynj.com The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. This episode is sponsored by Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed. Clearly Clinical is the nation's premier podcast Continuing Ed provider, and features industry experts from across the world. Clearly Clinical is an approved CE provider with the APA, ASWB, NBCC, NAADAC, CCAPP, and CAMFT, and is women-owned, founded by Elizabeth Irias, LMFT. Clearly Clinical supports minority and women presenters, and donates to Feeding America. And the best part? Clearly Clinical is literally the most affordable continuing ed provider in the country, bringing you unlimited CE courses for just $60 a year. As a promo for my listeners, you can use the code COUCH to get an additional 10% off. They have a number of free podcast CE courses, too, including a CE interview with Dr. Julie Gottman. Check those out at their website, ClearlyClinical.com. Click here for more information on the Couples Therapist Inner Circle. Get your free course called Working with Couples 101 Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group
43 min
Unapologetically Sensitive
Unapologetically Sensitive
Patricia Young
095 A Highly Sensitive Therapist Talks About Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She Was An HSP with Kitty McCormick, LCSW
TITLE A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She Was An HSP GUEST Kitty McCormick, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW Kitty is a childhood friend who is now a therapist. We talk about the anxieties we both felt as children, but never discussed. Kitty’s father was a prominent public figure, and she was pushed into acting/auditioning as a child to help with her shyness. She also talks about some of the barriers she experienced with non-Highly Sensitive Therapists, and her desire to please. Kitty also talks about the challenges she experienced in groups (including therapy groups) being an introvert until she took the Online HSP Course. BIO Kitty McCormick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, who has avidly worked with children and families for over 20 years. She received her Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California, with a concentration in mental health practice with individuals, families, and groups. She has extensive experience in the Los Angeles Unified School District where she worked with at-risk children, adolescents, and young adults. In that setting, she also regularly collaborated with Child Protective Services, the County of Los Angeles Probation Department (Juvenile Services), and numerous community service agencies throughout L.A. County to assist and support clients as needed. In 2017, Kitty shifted from doing social work in public school settings to doing psychotherapy in therapeutic schools with children who have greater emotional needs. It was at that point in her career where she began private practice in the community mental health arena, which offers affordable counseling services. This year she began her own private practice. Some of Kitty’s hobbies include yoga, weekend getaways, walking in nature, being around animals, and spending quality time with her husband. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Kitty’s Links Website-- kittymccormicktherapy.com e-mail-- kmccormick@kittymccormicktherapy.com. Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ December 2020 Holiday/End of Year Groups--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/holiday-groups/ Podcast Survey-- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-fAYIyFgVb0VHlDorfm8ZdXClCcYDlv0cSP2RXZSZY16SIQ/viewform Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: * click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 * select “listen on Apple Podcasts” * chose “open in itunes” * choose “ratings and reviews” * click to rate the number of starts * click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Shelly Aaron Productions—https://www.shellyaaron.com/ Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
1 hr 6 min
Over It And On With It
Over It And On With It
Christine Hassler
EP 273: Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin with Ron
This call is about overcoming apathy and releasing anger. Today’s caller, Ron, was constantly shamed by a volatile father. As an adult, he feels detached and numb. He uses apathy as a coping mechanism. We work through how he can release his feelings and do inner child work. I offer some techniques and strategies to help him regain a healthy masculine identity. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode273] When men have a volatile father, they become passive or hyper-aggressive. They go to extremes. They can become the alpha-dog and lash out or they become passive with emotional eating. It is a common father wound for men to have a degree of shame that goes in either direction. Shame is toxic and the way it impacts us all as humans is similar and different. How it impacts men is particularly detrimental, for women as well, but I've seen it impact men in a way where they lose touch with their masculine energy and become more passive in life. It is nearly impossible to come out of being raised in a fear-based home, having a volatile parent, and never feeling like you got the love, affection, and approval you needed and grow up having no issues with it. As you might intellectually want yourself to be different, until you go back and do the healing work and dive deep, you are going to find yourself in the pantry sneak eating or whatever your version of that is. If you are not living the life you want to be living, it is just feedback that there is more work to do. Inner child wounding is sometimes tough to get at because we bury it so deep. There is no shame and being willing to forgive the person is the first step. If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: * Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your own skin? * Are you chronologically an adult and keep up with your grown-up responsibilities, but inside you don’t feel like one? * Are you mostly passive except for those occasional moments you lose your temper? * Did you get the love, attention, and affection you truly need and deserve from your parents, especially your father? Ron’s Question: Ron does not feel comfortable in his skin and he feels he does not belong. He would like guidance on how to break through the patterns. Ron’s Key Insights and Ahas: * He practices negative self-talk. * He doesn’t feel like an adult, even though he is responsible. * He is afraid he will get in trouble for what he does. * He hides his eating habits. * His father was quick to anger and volatile. * He feels detached from his family. * He has numbed himself and feels apathy toward his parents. * He craves feeling and pleasure. * He does try to get his anger out. How to Get Over It and On With It: * Connect to his aggression, rage, and anger to get to the hurt. * Do the Temper Tantrum Technique from Expectation Hangover. * Write an ‘F-U’ letter to his parents he doesn’t send. * Tap into his masculine energy to find his fire, his warrior to allow him to feel again. * Find his inner coach voice, not his inner critic. Takeaways: * If you aren't feeling like an adult, think about where you got frozen in childhood. Many people freeze at a certain age even though we can do adult things. * Do emotional processing. Use this free anger release download, ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. * If you find yourself sneak eating or the kind of behavior you do in the shadows to soothe yourself or give you momentary pleasure and escapism when you feel the urge to do it, put your hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and ask your little one what they need. * If eating is a coping mechanism for you, listen to my “Coaches Corner with Samantha Skelly, Hungry for Happiness” * Reconnect to your little one and give them a chance to express their feelings. Be the parent to yourself you never had. Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.
46 min
Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | Life Coach | Living Sober | 12 Steps
Addiction Unlimited Podcast | Alcoholism | Life Coach | Living Sober | 12 Steps
Angela Pugh
Protect Your Sobriety Through Holiday Stress
Holiday season comes the same time every year, there is no excuse for not being prepared. This season will probably be a little different because of corona virus but don't sit back and do nothing, and wait for the overwhelm to crush you when you know it’s coming! Holiday stress isn’t only about the parties and drinking. There is added stress of preparation for travel or people staying in your home, any cooking or baking you are doing, the grocery shopping for all the cooking and baking, and of course the holiday gift shopping! Being surrounded by family members we don’t know all that well, being in crowds, social anxiety- all of it is exaggerated and at a higher level than normal. Did I even mention the financial stress of all of that??? Money, money, money going out every direction. What I want you to focus on the next couple of weeks is getting a plan together for yourself. Not just thinking about it haphazardly, but really mapping out a plan to protect yourself, your sobriety, and keep your stress manageable so you don’t end up vulnerable to the drink. When we are rundown, physically tired, emotionally exhausted, stressed out, spread thin- this is when we are most vulnerable to drinking. When you are compromised and exhausted, this is when the committee has it’s best opportunity to break you down and talk you into a drink. I’m going to give you an action list- don’t F around and put it off and never do it. If you want to protect your sobriety and stay sober then you’ll take the action necessary to do so. Sober People Gift List:  https://www.myrecoverytoolbox.com/blog/giftlist Join the Facebook group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited Powerless and Powerful Guided Recovery Journal: https://www.myrecoverytoolbox.com/powerless-and-powerful-recovery-journal
36 min
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