How To Get Your Needs Met
17 min

You must learn to advocate for your needs. Because if you don't, who will?

This is your work and no one else's. You are 100% responsible for your happiness and fulfillment in life. 

No one. 

Part one of getting your needs met is to identify what they are. Then to find ways of getting them met, and finally to dare to ask for them to be met.

It's time to get to work. You can do it. 

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Love Sex & Magic
Love Sex & Magic
Melissa Wells
Relationship Q&A with Rick & Mel
Hello my loves, welcome to part two of my episode with Rick where we are diving deep into our relationship. Part one took you through our Relationship Journey together and we spoke about who we were as people before we met, how we came into one another’s lives and how we are evolving together in this exciting chapter. Today, we’re answering your questions on love, relationships and stepping into Queendom/Kingdom together. Time Stamps 00:50 Do you ever argue? 05:44 How do you keep turning each other on? 10:48 Should you get into a relationship whilst still healing and finding yourself? 15:15 How do you authentically communicate? (As covered in our Authentic Communication module inside The Goddess Collective) 20:45 What are your thoughts on leaving a perfect relationship because your intuition says so? 24:43 How do you navigate your menstrual cycle together? 29:03 Who does the cleaning? 32:12 How do you have freedom within a committed partnership? 38:30 Do you have a fight? What does it look like when you do? 44:00 How do you make friends once you move to a new location? Want behind-the-scenes audio and video footage? Then be sure to join my monthly membership for your soul, The Goddess Collective. Goddess Collective members unlock access to extra “after the cut” content from each and every interview I host. During this segment of the podcast (which is recorded only for Collective members, and hosted inside the Collective website), questions that are submitted by the Goddesses are answered by podcast guests. The Goddess Collective also includes: A monthly workshop and workbook Fortnightly moonology readings A monthly Aphrodite Circle group coaching call hosted by yours truly Bonus interviews Interviews with guest experts An invitation into a members-only exclusive Facebook community, and Instant access to all the content that came before, and so much more… …all for $67. Click here to join, and access all my guest’s behind-the-scenes footage: https://bit.ly/3gf5hii Mentioned in this episode: The Goddess Collective https://members.melwells.com/collective/ Flo app https://flo.health/
49 min
Memory: How to Develop, Train and Use It by ATKINS
Memory: How to Develop, Train and Use It by ATKINS
Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC
The Dark Tetrad: Possibly THE Scariest Boss
No matter what the profession, if a boss has this personality combination, they are terrifying. The Dark Tetrad is composed of four parts: narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and sadism. Sadism is the addition to the Dark Triad which has narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. For either condition, this means a person possesses the characteristics of all of these personalities. The Dark Tetrad shares two major characteristics: extreme selfishness and a lack of empathy for others. This combination affords the ability to cause harm and abuse others in a variety of ways without any regard for the feelings, safety, or morality of the victims. As bosses, they are focused on dominance and power often using aggression, manipulation, exploitation, and vindictiveness. All behavior is justified if it grants them what they want, including criminal acts. Narcissism. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a DSM-V diagnosis. Generally speaking, they are superior, grandiose, demanding, prideful, boastful, arrogant, and self-centered. They need and expect constant admiration, attention, and affection. They can be abusive when threatened or their needs aren’t being met. The disorder is both inherited and developed in childhood. Machiavellianism. Prince Machiavelli wrote the Italian book The Prince in the 1500s. It outlines a political philosophy on how rulers are to govern their subjects. Machiavellianism is the adaptation of this philosophy into a personality and as such is a personality construct not a disorder. Therefore, it is not inherited; rather it is a learned behavioral pattern. Machiavellians are manipulative, exploitative of others, cynical, deceptive and believe it is better to be feared than loved. Unlike Narcissists, they do not make exaggerated claims about their significance or accomplishments. Unlike Psychopaths and Sadists, they are too calculating to risk vengeful or cruel behavior unless there is a specific gain. Psychopathy. Psychopaths are under the Anti-Social Personality Disorder umbrella listed in the DSM-V along with Sociopaths and Sadists. A psychopath has the ability to create an entire persona in direct contrast to who they really are. They are very calculating, callous, without a conscience, pathological liars, remorse-free, and dangerous. Their personality is both inherited and developed through a traumatic and abusive childhood. Psychopaths, unlike Machiavellians and Narcissists, can instantly read the emotions of others and calculate how to use it to their advantage without any emotional response. They have no problem hurting others, but it is always for a purpose, unlike Sadists. Sadism. Sadists are a part of Anti-Social Personality Disorder now. In the past, they had a separate diagnosis under the old DSM formats. The name Sadism comes from Marquis de Sade (1740-1814) a French philosopher and writer. His works combined philosophy with sexual fantasies and violent behavior. Sadists are individuals who crave cruelty. It is not clear whether this behavior is inherited, developed or learned. Not all sadism is sexual or involves killing, rather it is about inflicting pain on others that Sadists find exciting or pleasurable. Unlike Psychopaths, they are not as calculating about the abusive behavior, instead, it is all self-pleasuring. Identifying. Jonason and Webster devised a quick scale called the Dirty Dozen which can help to spot a Triad boss. Each item is rated on a 7-point scale as it applies to the person. I tend to manipulate others to get my way. I tend to lack remorse. I tend to want others to admire me. I tend to be unconcerned with the morality of my actions. I have used deceit or lied to get my way. I tend to be callous or insensitive. I have used flattery to get my way. I tend to seek prestige or status. I tend to be cynical. I tend to exploit others toward my own end. I tend to expect special favors from others. I want others to pay attention to me. The higher the score, the more likely the person is a Triad. Unfortunately, there is no scale yet to measure the Tetrad, as Sadists can be difficult to spot. The bottom line is: a boss with these characteristics can and will make work hellish. It is better to work in a lesser occupation than to put up with the abuse on a daily basis.
16 min
Relationship Alive!
Relationship Alive!
Neil Sattin
242: Using Creativity for Emotional Alchemy - plus a song!
When emotions are stuck within you - how can you use your creativity to get things moving? Sometimes the muse within you is a quiet whisper - other times screaming for your attention. Today we'll talk about how to find the voice - and what to do once you have. And, towards the end, I'll share a song with you that arrived after recording my last episode, on the process of going through a breakup and grieving. (song is at 19:20) As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Sponsors: Find a quality therapist, online, to support you and work on the places where you’re stuck. For 10% off your first month, visit Betterhelp.com/ALIVE to fill out the quick questionnaire and get paired with a therapist who’s right for you. Resources: Check out my Secrets of Relationship Communication COURSE for a masterclass in how to improve the communication and connection in your relationship. I want to know you better! Take the quick, anonymous, Relationship Alive survey FREE Guide to Neil’s Top 3 Relationship Communication Secrets Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner’s Needs) in Relationship (ALSO FREE) Support the podcast (or text “SUPPORT” to 33444) Amazing intro and outro music provided courtesy of The Railsplitters Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello, and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. Today's episode is going to be a little bit different. I have a few things to share with you about how to use creativity as a way to help move through emotions, and it's something that's really served me well in the past and continues to serve me well, as you'll see momentarily, because after we talk about this topic I am going to share a song with you, a song that that just emerged this past week Neil Sattin: Okay, so let's dive into the topic at hand, which is creativity and giving yourself permission to have a voice and to use your voice in ways that can help mobilize especially challenging emotions and bring them to the surface, express them in ways that are productive and maybe even move on or transmute those emotions along the way. Neil Sattin: Now, the emotional content of our lives can sometimes be quite raw, and whether it's something that we ultimately want to address with another person or not, it can be helpful to spend some time with the content in order to get a different look at it, get a different perspective, allow it to move within you and also to give you more information. I believe that our emotions are there as signals to help us understand how we are processing the world around us, and so they live in us, but they're not meant to just be stuck there. Neil Sattin: And sometimes when an emotion is just there over and over and over and over again, it's there because it requires something of us, maybe it requires a change in our lives, or maybe it's just a voice in you that needs to be heard. Now, I'll tell you that over the years, creative expression for me has been a huge way to help me deal with the things that are going on my life, and sometimes those things are happy, joyous things, and I want to find ways to celebrate even more, and sometimes those things have been painful and hard to understand, and being creative has given me the opportunity to work with those feelings to understand some of the deeper things that are going on within me that are at play, some of the different thoughts, the different inner voices that are speaking. Neil Sattin: And giving yourself the opportunity to do that can be an immensely freeing and transformative thing. And there are any number of ways to do that, you can create something that's just for you, you can create something that you share with people who you trust and who care about you, you can create something and share it with the world, or you can create something and burn it, or forget about it, because the act of creation in and of itself is alchemy, it allows you to work with what you're experiencing and in a way to move it outside of you. Interested in reading the transcript for the rest of this episode? Click here to download the full transcript of this episode!
23 min
Over It And On With It
Over It And On With It
Christine Hassler
EP 273: Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin with Ron
This call is about overcoming apathy and releasing anger. Today’s caller, Ron, was constantly shamed by a volatile father. As an adult, he feels detached and numb. He uses apathy as a coping mechanism. We work through how he can release his feelings and do inner child work. I offer some techniques and strategies to help him regain a healthy masculine identity. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode273] When men have a volatile father, they become passive or hyper-aggressive. They go to extremes. They can become the alpha-dog and lash out or they become passive with emotional eating. It is a common father wound for men to have a degree of shame that goes in either direction. Shame is toxic and the way it impacts us all as humans is similar and different. How it impacts men is particularly detrimental, for women as well, but I've seen it impact men in a way where they lose touch with their masculine energy and become more passive in life. It is nearly impossible to come out of being raised in a fear-based home, having a volatile parent, and never feeling like you got the love, affection, and approval you needed and grow up having no issues with it. As you might intellectually want yourself to be different, until you go back and do the healing work and dive deep, you are going to find yourself in the pantry sneak eating or whatever your version of that is. If you are not living the life you want to be living, it is just feedback that there is more work to do. Inner child wounding is sometimes tough to get at because we bury it so deep. There is no shame and being willing to forgive the person is the first step. If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020. Consider/Ask Yourself: * Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your own skin? * Are you chronologically an adult and keep up with your grown-up responsibilities, but inside you don’t feel like one? * Are you mostly passive except for those occasional moments you lose your temper? * Did you get the love, attention, and affection you truly need and deserve from your parents, especially your father? Ron’s Question: Ron does not feel comfortable in his skin and he feels he does not belong. He would like guidance on how to break through the patterns. Ron’s Key Insights and Ahas: * He practices negative self-talk. * He doesn’t feel like an adult, even though he is responsible. * He is afraid he will get in trouble for what he does. * He hides his eating habits. * His father was quick to anger and volatile. * He feels detached from his family. * He has numbed himself and feels apathy toward his parents. * He craves feeling and pleasure. * He does try to get his anger out. How to Get Over It and On With It: * Connect to his aggression, rage, and anger to get to the hurt. * Do the Temper Tantrum Technique from Expectation Hangover. * Write an ‘F-U’ letter to his parents he doesn’t send. * Tap into his masculine energy to find his fire, his warrior to allow him to feel again. * Find his inner coach voice, not his inner critic. Takeaways: * If you aren't feeling like an adult, think about where you got frozen in childhood. Many people freeze at a certain age even though we can do adult things. * Do emotional processing. Use this free anger release download, ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. * If you find yourself sneak eating or the kind of behavior you do in the shadows to soothe yourself or give you momentary pleasure and escapism when you feel the urge to do it, put your hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and ask your little one what they need. * If eating is a coping mechanism for you, listen to my “Coaches Corner with Samantha Skelly, Hungry for Happiness” * Reconnect to your little one and give them a chance to express their feelings. Be the parent to yourself you never had. Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.
46 min
Highest Self Podcast
Highest Self Podcast
Sahara Rose
334: Instagram Growth Strategies with Bossbabe’s Natalie Ellis + Danielle Canty
Social media is still the best way to get your voice out there and share your dharma with the world, whether you’re a Visionary, Teacher, Artist, Entertainer, Entrepreneur or any other Dharma Archetype. In this episode I sit down with BossBabe co-founders Natalie Ellis + Danielle Canty to talk ALL things Instagram growth, from algorithm news to Reels to engagement to turning audience members into clients and customers. This is a super valuable and jam-packed conversation for both social media mavens and newbies so take some notes! We’ve teamed up to offer $100 off IGA (Instagram Growth Accelerator) to Highest Self Podcast listeners, which you can get exclusively at bossbabe.com/sahara with coupon code SAHARA100. Pre-Order my new book Discover Your Dharma: A Vedic Guide to Discovering Your Purpose and receive exclusive free bonuses, meditations, courses + gifts: www.iamsahararose.com/dharma Take my Dharma Archetype Quiz at www.dharmaarchetypequiz.com Join Rose Gold Goddesses, the sacred sisterhood collective all about embodying the Goddess within at www.RoseGoldGoddesses.com Get 20% off your Organifi Green Juice + Adaptogenic Superfood blends at organifi.com with coupon code "sahara" Intro + Outro Music: Silent Ganges by Maneesh de Moor Discover your Dosha and receive custom results for your mind and body with my free quiz at eatfeelfresh.com/new-quiz Connect with me for daily Ayurvedic and modern spiritual wisdom at: Instagram.com/iamsahararose Facebook.com/iamsahararose Twitter.com/iamsahararose Order My Books Eat Feel Fresh + Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda: www.iamsahararose.com/books By accessing this Podcast, I acknowledge that the entire contents are the property of Sahara Rose, or used by Sahara Rose with permission, and are protected under U.S. and international copyright and trademark laws. Except as otherwise provided herein, users of this Podcast may save and use information contained in the Podcast only for personal or other non-commercial, educational purposes. No other use, including, without limitation, reproduction, retransmission or editing, of this Podcast may be made without the prior written permission of the Sahara Rose, which may be requested by contacting pr@iamsahararose.com. This podcast is for educational purposes only. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein.
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